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My mission on Advicenators is to be honest. People lie when they answer because they want to be rated high, but I think people ask strangers on Advicenators things because they want an honest answer.
My alias is Farren, and I'm in 9th grade. I think I'm mature for my age, but that could just be self-dilusion. I believe that everyone is in some way self-dilusional. So yeah, ask me a question if you want.

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Ok everyone, I am a 16/f. I just found out Saturday that a friend of mine that I have known since middle school died. Then Sunday I found out my boyfriend is cheating on me and he is now denying it. Let alone Wednesday being the anniversary of my grampas death.
And I don't know what to do. Its so hard to hold on. I need some advice on what to do.
And on top ok everything my cousin who says shes my bestfriend is trashing my life. What do I do??
Please someone help me!

Break up with your boyfriend, he isn't worth it. Talk to your cousin about what she's doing to you, and get that straightened out. Focus on the good things in life, or trying to make the bad things alright again. Things will get easier, just all this happening at once can seem like your entire world is falling apart, but there are still things to hold on to. Find something to do to get your mind off of the tragedies, like a job or a hobby. Consume your time with productive activities. It's just a matter of time. I'll pray for you hun.
-Farren

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Okay my friend is driving me crazy because she likes someone in her class.She is way to shy to tell him that she likes him before she knows if he likes her back.I have told her to just go for it but she is like really really shy.So my question is how can she find out if he likes her without him finding out she likes him before he says he likes her?I will rate anyone who helps a perfect five for effort whether or not I liked their answer!!!

She can't. She should just go for it. Or you or another one of your friends can ask him, but that would make it obvious that she likes him. All she can do is observe his actions and what he says to her. Good luck with that!
-Farren

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Some people say that if you put toothpaste on a pimple overnight than it will go away. Does anyone know if this is true? Has anyone tried it?

No, toothpaste isn't an overnight treatment. If that were true then no one would have acne. It does help, but not that much. Get ProActive or some other special treatment made for acne.
Good luck.
-Farren

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Take this in mind before you help me!
-I HAVE TOLD HIM MY FEELINGS
-We have went out before
-WE are bestfriends now

Okay?!

I used to go out with my now bestfriend.. But I broke up with him after about 2 months into it.. But now its like.. 9 or 10 months later and i still like him.. alot.. cant stop thinking about him always wondering wahts on his mind kinda bull crap and he is off liking other girls.. and i tell him everything.. and thats why im here.. i cant tell him this one thing.. and thats.. Im thiknig about telling him i think we shouldnt be friends naymore.. cuz im sick and tierd of being hurt.. him always talking about another girl and crap.. knowing i cant have him.. its hard to explain but thats what i want to do.. but then theres this thing about how if i did tell him to just leave me alone , that i would miss him even more and prolly end up going crazy.. So what would u do? Tell him to leave me alone.. or just deal with the hurting ..

I would stay friends with him. I would look for someone else though, you may think there's no way you'll ever find someone else, but trust me, that will change when you meet the right person. As long as he hasn't been leading you on and staying a good friend I think you shouldn't abandon him. I'll pray for you hun.
-Farren

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I seriously love my boyfriend alot ive been with him for a long time and he doesnt feel like im atracted to him but i am i think hes the hottest thing in my eyes but he says i dont show him that he is very well but when i try to he always is like "yea right" and i know hes not the best looking in the world but i still think hes really hott and we fight alot (which i dont care bout ) when im mad i dont feel like touching him and stuff can anyone tell me what to do to make him feel better and something that he wont be like "yea right" to and just for reference i have done "stuff" with him....

He's just being insecure, you can't really change that. There isn't a problem how you feel about him, it's about how he feels about himself. Just keep acting as you have. Good luck hun.
-Farren

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Hey!! I have a question, my friend was smoking weed tonight and she has to get her wisdom teeth out tomorrow, and she is freaking out that they will be able to tell if she has?! She also thinks that when they give her laughin gas she will tell everyonethat she did? Can you help me out so i can give her some advice so she will quit freaking out?! Thanks!!

She should've thought before smoking weed the day before her doctor's appointment, seriously. Laughing gas doesn't make people tell the people things though, and I don't think her dentist will be able to tell if she cleans out her mouth and brushes really well.
-Farren

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There is a dance next weekend and the guy i like is going with my "friend" cause my "friend" is a skanky hoe bag slut and asked him even though they dont like achother. So they are going together. Anyways...I want to find some way to make him really attracted to me while at the dance and for him to notice me the most. What can i do to accomplish this?

~Jealousy

I hate people who dislike other people because they're jealous of them. Your "friend" isn't a skanky hoe bag slut, you're just jealous of her you skanky hoe bag slut.
-Farren

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Okay, I know this guy that I think I like but I'm not sure if he likes me. He's always flirting with me one day, and then the next day he's just ignoring me and talking to somebody else (or sleeping in class). Should I say something to him about what I think is going on, or should i just forget about him,hes just another guy.

Stay friends and don't worry too much about what will happen, if something does happen then it will happen on its own. I would stay open-minded on other guys though. Good luck hun!
-Farren

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I'm a 16 year old female in high school who likes a guy whos's also in high school. We've talked on the phone and spent a little time together. I thought things were going really well. He never really called me, I mostly called him. For the past 3 days I tried to call and he wouldn't pick up so I left a message telling him to call me back. He never called back and wouldn't pick up when I called from my phone but when I called from a different number he picked up. I asked him if he wanted me to leave me alone and he said no. What do I do? I really like him and I thought he liked me, but now I'm not so sure. What do I do? Do I leave him alone and try to forget about him or do I confront him? If so then what do I say? I'm desperate. please help me!

Get over him, he's making you feel bad. Good luck hun.
-Farren

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My moms bff called me up the other day and said her nephew was moving in with her and she wants to hook us up! I mean I'm really excited because I havent had a boyfriend in over a year. But my ex and I are in love but he is with someone right now...ok I mean im really scared because you know im scared by dating him i might mess things up with my ex and what not...just i really dont know what to do?? what should i do? go for it and date her nephew or stay single and wait for my ex?

Your ex is dating someone else, so don't wait for him. Get with the nephew, it will be better.
Good luck hun.
-Farren

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HELP! Please! I have a problem...see, I don't get out of the house much. Well let's just say AT ALL! Ever! I have dropped out of school awhile ago, and no job but my mother supports me. I have no friends at all. I try to communicate with them but nobody ever seems to want to hang out with me. And I don't think it's because I've dropped out...I did it a LONG time ago and this is just starting to happen. I never get asked out on a date, and my friends never talk to me. I've basically just become a bum and all I do all day is sit around home on the computer watching tv. I hate it. I know it wont be like this for the rest of my life but can somebody please tell me if this is semi-normal?! I want to know that I'm not a freak of nature.

Our town is really small, and I don't get along with too many of them so socializing is really hard for me. What can I do to make myself feel better about this? Any tips on not being so shy also? Thanks so much!

Get a job, that should help your social life. Anything that makes you see people on a regular basis is good, and making money's nice too, you don't want to be supported by your mom forever. And yeah, you're not a freak, sometimes I get like that over the summer, but yeah, procrastination isn't good.
-Farren

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I'm a chick.. I always stay with my best friend when she is home alone.. latly she has been asking me to experiment with her.. we have made out/french kissed.. you know, nothing "down there".. but she asked me if I ever wanted to experiment "dowthere" so we did.. just fingering.. but now she wants to emo.. what the fuck do I do?!?!

If you don't feel comfortable doing things with her, then tell her. You aren't obligated to just because you're at her house. She should understand.
-Farren

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Okay, I'm 16 and I've been a size 13 in jeans, ever since last year (and awhile before that...). And everytime I put them on they're fine, but then like an hour later, they're really big on me--in the butt and the thigh area, and sometimes the waist. So recently I've switched to an 11 (I've lost 3-5 lbs, but is that enough to drop a pant size?)...they were fine at first, but lately I've been having the same problem--they get baggy...but the waist is fine. I don't like how my pants get all baggy on me, whats going on??

Get pants that are stretch and fitted, they should stay tight. The pants you're wearing get stretched out because of movement. Good luck finding the right pairs.
-Farren

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ok its a long one. i just moved to this state 2 months ago and everyone is contry as hell i mean gold teeth, 10,000$ rims on a 1976 impala contry i had trouble meeting pepoel that i could relate to. (im from the east coast)Now i have found three man they each have what i am looking for one is a firefighter ,the other works at the radio station but is in school for broadcasting(his dad is a broadcaster at the local station) and the last has a great job he graduated and is making serious money. they all want me. i dont know who to choose the one who graduated takes me to fine restarants and we drink wine and go to the do theater which has always been my dream but he cant kiss to save his life. the firefighter is older has his own home and well older man know how to make a woman feel right opens doors,pays the check, ect. Now the youngest is very outspoken and tells in how it is which is good for me he keeps me grounded and in the real world they all have what im looking for. if i knew who loved me more thats the i would choose so does anyone know away i can test their feelings please let me know. all confused

You should include ages, that would help in answering the question. If it were me, I'd go with the firefighter, unless he's too much older (older can be 3 years older, or 20...not very specific). Good luck on making the right choice hun, I'll pray for you.
-Farren

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Is it wrong to cry if your dog died and you've known her since you were a toddler? My friends would think it's silly, and when you think about it, it kind of is. Does anybody else think it's silly?

That's not silly at all. It's okay to cry hun.
-Farren

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I'm 16 and in high school. Me and my ex-boyfriend broke up at the beginning of September. I had broken up with him because I wanted to be with someone else. It didn't work between us and I have been single for quite awhile. I really like this guy that I know, but recently me and my ex have been spending alot of time on the phone. I don't like him as a boyfriend anymore cause I like someone else. My ex flirts with me and calls me all the time. I try not to be mean or anything but I don't like him like that anymore. I have a feeling that he might ask me out again. I don't know how to tell him that I like someone else. What should I do? Please help me.
~Confused Chica~

"I really appreciate your feelings for me, but I like someone else, I'm sorry."
-Farren

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It seems that I am somewhat different. By this I mean that I am quite mature for my age, and am very outgoing spontaneous person. I am somehow taken granted for by the people around me who I give advice to and listen to their problems. Who am I to turn to when my whole life is falling apart? Basically, what I am trying to say is; How come no one notices I am dying on the inside? Also, why do people blow me off when I am trying to help? Just please come up with something to somehow help...

(I am 14 and Female)

You don't sound mature for your age, you sound conceited. "How come no one notices I am dying on the inside?" everyone our age feels that way. This isn't an isolated situation. You probably think it's cool to be a loner, and that because of it you're somehow deeper than your peers. Depression isn't a good thing. Stop focusing on yourself, and look at the vast world around you. Get outside of your little environment.
-Farren

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hello. i apologize if the english that i speak isnt as good. i have moved to USA from brazil one month ago.since i speak portuguese(the language used in brazil), german, spanish, italian, french, and english, sometimes i do not remember to speak in english. at my school it is hard to join with friends. if a person has knowledge on joining with groups of people it would be helping.

Music is a great way to get to know someone. You can tell a lot about a person by the type of music they like. Look for someone or a group of people who like the same music as you and start talking to them about it. That really helps.
After some time you're bound to start talking to someone and make friends, it just might take a while to get close friends.
Good luck!
-Farren

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dear everybody,
I'm sort of stuck. I go to this church that the rest of my family likes a lot, but i don't. I really like my old church and I really want to go back, but the rest of my family doesn't like it. i don't know what to do! I told my mom about it and asked if i could go to church with one of my friends, but she got REALLY mad and made me feel really guilty. Does anybody know what to do? Thanks!

Make a compromise with your mom. Ask her if you can "visit" the other church with one of your friends every now and then. Like an every other weekend type thing.
-Farren

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I am 14 and a female. There is a guy at school that I think is really cute. We both have history together and I will sometimes see him looking at me. I want to talk to him so bad, but I have never said anything to him before. What should I do?

Make the first things you say to him be, "Hello, I love you, won't you tell me your name?"
-Farren

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