I fear the summer. I have a tendency to become depressed during this time. I sit at home, with nothing to work on accept my music, my low-budget movie, and my artwork, and that only takes up so much time. I live in a small town with nothing for entertainment, so I just sit at home thinking, and when I think to much, I'll probably get sad over my loneliness, bordem, mother's financial situation, health issues, etc, leading to depression. I hang out with friends, but not as much as I would like. Some of my friends lead more depressing lives than mine. Please don't advise me to make new ones, remember I live in a small town. My car is constantly dying, so I can't safely go outside of town. There's no job that I know of that's not depressing near here. What should I do?
Hey hunny. I know how it feels to feel lonely and depressed over the summer when you live in a small town. It sucks. You should probably talk to your friends, let them know you want to hang out more during the summer. Also, ya'll should go out of town together, I'm sure someone in ur group of friends has a dependable car. Ya'll should just try and find different ways to amuse yourselves all together. Play music with each other, play ultimate frisbee, play a basketball game, anything. I hope it all works out for you. If you need anymore help, I'm here. You can either ask me on this or email me at InDreams87@hotmail.com. Good luck! hope it all works out hun!
*FallenAngel*
P.S. - if your friends can't hang out on some days, you should try something new. For example, if you don't draw, maybe try to one day. Find a "learn how to draw book" and work on that. Just every time you find yourself alone, try something new. Hopefully that works! Good luck!!!
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Hi, I'm a 14 year old with some hair touble. Before I was in sixth grade, in had gorgeous, naturally straight, smooth hair. When I got to sixth grade, I found that I had to get up a lot earlier for school, so stupidly I took showers and washed my hair at night, and went to sleep with it still wet. Doing this for an entire year really did a number on my hair, and now it isn't smooth or straight at all, and when I let it dry now without sleeping on it or anything (like I did before sixth grade), it still comes out wiry and frizzy! I've been using a straightener for the past year, but I have to do it every day, and I know that the heat damages my hair (same with blow-drying). I need a solution so that my hair will dry smoothly (without heating) when drying naturally. Please help.
You should try frizz-eez hair shampoo, condition, and their other products. To get the full effect you should use all their steps in the system. It really helps. :) Hope my advice works!!! :)
*Jamie*
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OK, I'm 13 and I havent started my period yet. Is that normal?? All of my friends have started but me. I dont want to get my period but I was just wondering if something's wrong with me.
Everyone starts at different times. I actually know some people that didnt start until they were 16. So don't worry.
*FallenAngel*
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Hey Spacefem, I got a problem. Im in jr high, 7th grade, and one of my friends is really weird. Shes always gossiping and such, and at my school, teachers crack down HARD on stopping it. Im 100% against gossip, 1 because it hurts people, and 2 because its not minding your own business. Im always telling her to stop it, or shell get in big trouble, and she listens slightly, but 10 minutes later she is doing it again, and naturally, gets in trouble. the other day I reminded her of what would happen, and out of nowhere she bursts out "Just stop telling me what to do!" Which I find odd. Even though I constantly remind her to stop gossiping, she tells me to do way more things than I tell her. Im her note-passer, bookkeeper, saxophone-carrier, and a bunch of other random things. Im wondering, what should I do? Am I really being -that- bossy about her getting in trouble?
You are not being bossy, don't worry. You are just watching out for her. Maybe instead of telling her every single time, just try and sit down with her and let her know why you keep telling her she needs to stop and tell her how you feel. If she keeps gossiping anyways...just try to ignore it. I know it'll be hard not to say anything to her about it because youre worried about her getting into trouble, but just try. Good luck!
*FallenAngel*
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the poem bout the friends wasnt from me it a person i like the poems from tho sherman !
Well...In any event, I think your friends will love getting that poem from you. It'd be really sweet! :)
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I am almost 19, female, and a freshman in college. The semester will be over in two weeks, but until then I have to continue to suffer, as I have done all semester, because my 17 year old roommate is arrogant, lying, rude, and has no regard for personal space and my own feelings. All semester, she has smoked in our dorm room, which is against the rules, and has left the room in shambles. The rare times that she does clean, she has the gall to blame me for sitting there doing my own thing and not helping her. I keep my own areas clean, and do not feel like I should be held responsible for her messes. I am allergic to the cigarette smoke, and have told her on numerous occasions that if she does not care about my health, perhaps she should care about the school policies. I do not like being a tattle-tale, but I did inform the Security personnel about her misadventures on numerous occasions, but nothing has been done about it. She has been rude to me, and to my fiancé, even going so far as to tell him to, "...get the hell out of my house..." It is not her house, it is our dorm room, and I was told by college personnel that I am entitled to have him visit as long as it is during scheduled visiting hours. He has done nothing to her, and has been nothing short of cordial after said occasion. Her latest thing is to accuse me of having stolen her lighter. I do not have it, nor do I have the other ones that she claims have come up missing. She said she left it in the bathroom, where she usually smokes, although she claims that she came in from outside and put it there. At any rate, I cannot stay another minute with the childe. She also stated that she would start stealing my stuff, just so that I would, "...see what it feels like..." The thing is, I believe she already has stolen some of my belongings, as I am missing various items of jewelry that are not expensive, but were mine nonetheless. I need to know how to deal with this situation.
Hey hunny,
well you are definetely in a tough situation. I can't even imagine being stuck with a roommate that horrible. What I would do is try and sit her down to talk. Tell her that you are tired of fighting and you want to try and work it all out. Tell her that you'd rather get along for the rest of the semester than fight, because that is not fair to either of you. Ask her to try and make a few deals...for example you can ask her to please stop smoking in the dorm since you are allergic if you do...whatever she would like you to do for that deal. Keep making deals like this back in forth. But if she refuses tell her that instead of bugging each other...tell her you'd rather just ignore each other the rest of the time so you don't make each other miserable. Well, I hope it all goes well hun. If you need anymore advice with this, like if my ideas don't work...I would be more than happy to come up with more ideas and try to help you out as much as I can. Good luck sweetie! and don't let that roommate drag you down!!!! :)
*FallenAngel*
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Oh my god i cannot believe you completely said the same things i said when you gave JAyJAy Advice your a mean ol advice jocker, well See ya laters
I'm sorry but I didn't jock you're answer. I don't even look at what other people say before I give advice. I just tell what I feel. I'm sorry if you feel as if I "stole" your advice, but I didn't. Doing that is just dumb. I don't even know what question youre talking about. SO...instead of being mean about thinking I stole youre advice...how about you just think..."hey, someone has the same opinion as I do, that's kind of cool"....cuz what I say is what I believe...stop jumping to conclusion. Thanx. And, if you ever need advice you can ask me. That's what I'm here for, not for fighting or jocking people's advice, cuz that's dumb. Buh Bye
*FallenAngel*
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It is my joy in life to find
At every turning of the road,
The strong arm of a comrade kind,
To help me onward with my load.
And since I have no gold to give,
And love alone must make amends,
My only prayer is while I live,
God make me worthy of my friends.
Wow...that is a beautiful poem. I love it personally. Hope your friends like it as much as I do!!! I'm sure they'll love it and you'll get a bucha hugs from them!!! :) Just remember to write who it's by...make sure they know you didn't write it.
*fallenangel*
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I really like this guy, and he likes me , but I might be moving to another school next year, and I want our realationship to go to the next level.If you can give me some advice, I would be greatful!
You should go for it. If the relationship works out...you could stay together even IF you do move. And plus, what if you don't move...you would miss out on a great chance just because you were worried about the possibility of going to a different school. And if you do go to a diff. school next year and you are with him then you can hang out with him outside of school anyways. So, take the chance. I'm sure it'll turn out great! Good luck hunny!!!
*fallenAngel*
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my mother died a couple years ago and i feel like it's my fualt. as a child i didn't get a lot of attention from my friends so i kept wishing that someone in my family would die! and it happened and i regret everything i wished! is it my fualt my mom died?
I know that sometimes when someone you love dies you may feel guilty. But it's not your fault that she died. You wanted more attention, which is understandable, but you weren't the one that killed your mother. Don't worry hunny, it's not your fault. A wish isn't going to kill anyone. I hope you feel better soon. If you need someone to talk to about all of this you can email me at InDreams87@hotmail.com. I know how death can affect your emotions so talking really can help. Hope I can help you! Good luck hun! Just remember...your mother's death is not your fault!!! Feel better sweetie!
*fallenAngel*
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i dont know what to do!!!!!!! im so scared everynight that im going to get kidnapped or something!!!! how do i get over that fear so i can sleep at night??
I used to feel the same way when I was younger. Even though nothing had ever happened to me like that before...I would still freak out at night that someone was going to break in. I would suggest talking to your parents about it. They may have some good ideas to help you feel better. But, I kind of just had to grow out of that fear. Just remember...you are safe and there's most likely not a big chance of you getting kidnapped from your home. Good luck! Hope all goes well!!!!
*fallenAngel*
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Hi my name is Bailey, i am 13 yrs. old and in the 7th grade. I would like to be either a dancer, singer,poem writter, or a film maker. I like doing all of theese things what should i do to figure out which path i should take to find my career
You're young...you have a lot of time to figure what you want to do in the future. During the time you have to figure out what you want to do...just try each career in different kinds of way. Go to a karokee night, perform, write poems, make scripts. Even if you can't figure out what you would like to do...you can do all of these in the future too. You don't have to set a permanent career choice, especially when youre only 13. You have a lot of time to figure out what your true passion is. Good luck!
*FallenAngel*
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why do people want to have sex so badly?????????
I think people are in a rush to have sex because they think it's "bigger" than it actually is. The truth is...if you are just having sex and not making love, then it's not all that it is put out to be. Everyone thinks it's this HUGE fantasy when actually...it won't be like that unless you are in love with the person. I guess some people are just in a rush to grow up.
*FallenAngel*
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not meaning to blow my own trumpet or anything, but i usually do well in school. recently, though, as we're working towards our GCSEs we've had a load of coursework dealines for like NEXT WEEK and i've hardly done any of them. I know i should sit down and work on the coursework but i can't - i have a kind of brain freeze. im scared that mum'll get dead narked at me if i get bad grades, but i know i can do it. can anyone help??
As a writer myself, I know how it feels to get those brain freezes. They are horrible. When I had to write a paper for school and I had one, I found what helped would be to write down a bunch of B.S. to start with. Don't worry about how it sounds or anything, just getting some ideas down may help kick your brainfreeze. If this doesnt work, you can ask me about what to do and I'm sure i'll be able to figure out some way to help you! Good luck hun!!!
*FallenAngel*
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hey,for april fools these guys in my grade got a really popular guy to ask a girl that is really nerdy out! and she was so excited and said yes right away and sfter she said yes he told it was an april fools joke. everyone in my grade thatought it was really funny and everybody still laughs at her!!! i feel sorry for her and i want to stick up for her but i dont want to lose my reputation!!! what should i do???
CONFUSED
What these guys did was VERY mean. It's great that you want to stick up for her, she deserves a lot better than to be treated like that. You may be worried about losing your reputation by sticking up for her, but I bet there are a ton of other kids in your grade that want to stick up for her too but don't have the guts to do it. So be the brave one and help this girl out. Just think of how lonely, depressed, and scared she must feel. I'm sure she feels absolutely horrible and if someone doesnt help her soon something bad may happen to her. The least you can do is be there for her as a friend and fellow student. Good luck!
*FallenAngel*
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There is this boy that I known for about 2to4 and a 1/2 years I like him I love him but there's a problem though because he's in the 9th grade and im in the 7th he likes me and I like him.But I just didn't tell him how I felt. But he's going to leave junior high soon and I keep showing signs that I like him but he just doesn't get it. "i just love him thats why i dont know what to do with out him". someone please help me.
age 13 signed lovable typical confused girl
You should talk to him. Tell him how you feel, but honestly...don't tell him your in love with him or anything like that because that may scare him off. Just let him know that you really like him and care about him and you wish you two could be more than friends. See how he responds. Hopefully you'll get the response that you want from him, which i think you will. but, if you don't...forget him and find someone better. Good luck!
*FallenAngel*
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well,my boyfriend is not a virgin and I am. He is kinda pressuring me into having sex. I don't want to. What should I do??
If you have a really good relationship with him then you need to sit down and talk with him. If you are not ready and you want to wait, let him know that. If he really cares about you then he will understand and respect your feelings. But..if he keeps pressuring you then he is not right for you. Any boyfriend that doesnt respect you isn't good enough for you. So, if he doesnt respect your decision...then you should break up with him and find someone who will respect you. Good luck! if you need anymore help, I'm here.
*FallenAngel*
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some people say flirt or ask him out but its more than that im afraid of rejection and i cant get over it what if my friends or his make fun of me?
i need advice fast !!!
Hey,
I know how scary the thought of rejection is, but you need to concentrate on what you want. If you don't take a chance, then you'll never know what could have been. Don't worry about what everyone else thinks...if you like him, go for it. You can do this. And instead of worrying he is going to reject you, think about him saying yes. It'll give you more confidence and he'll see that confidence and be even more attracted to you. Good luck!
*FallenAngel*
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okay listen my boyfriend id an asshole he treats me like shit and i don't know why he does i treat him with love and respect well i said i would give him one more chance i told him if he pissed me off or he broke a promise it would be done for good well he broke a promise he said he would call and he didn't so i'm really upset and i did break it off! he said it's not his fault that it's his staff's fault but that's a lie! he says he should have just one more chance so should i put up with his shit or just stay away?!?
Hunny...You have given him sooo many chances. Don't let this guy walk all over you. I know you like him a lot and you care for him, but you deserve better than that. You deserve someone that is going to treat you with the same love and respect that you treat then with. So find another guy, his loss, not yours. Good luck!
*FallenAngel*
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i need alot of advise from a lot of peoples b/c there is a boy and if you remember me his name is cody i dont know if he likes me or not b/c he broke his arm over the weekend and when we got to school he didnt let anyone sign it until i did exept his mom now im only in middle so try to give the best advice and thanx for gitten my head straight bout the joke~
I definetely think this guy likes you. You should ask him out. see what happens. Trying won't hurt. And honestly...I think it'll turn out for the best. If you are still not sure he likes you and you want more proof before you ask him out...flirt with him, talk to him...see his reaction. Good luck hun!!!! :)
*FallenAngel*
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