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Depression, not sure if it counts. 19 male
I fear the summer. I have a tendency to become depressed during this time. I sit at home, with nothing to work on accept my music, my low-budget movie, and my artwork, and that only takes up so much time. I live in a small town with nothing for entertainment, so I just sit at home thinking, and when I think to much, I'll probably get sad over my loneliness, bordem, mother's financial situation, health issues, etc, leading to depression. I hang out with friends, but not as much as I would like. Some of my friends lead more depressing lives than mine. Please don't advise me to make new ones, remember I live in a small town. My car is constantly dying, so I can't safely go outside of town. There's no job that I know of that's not depressing near here. What should I do?
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you may have depression...probally not thought...you should prolly get checked thought.. i though i hade depression once.. then i was diagnosed with depression
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I know how you feel.
Jade Greene had good advice about self employment, if you are not too deep into depression. I would also consider a part time job, even a depressing one. You don't have to stay if it is really bad, but it might be better than nothing.
Exercise is the best thing I can think of, and if it includes other people at regular times to get you motivated, that is even better. Look around at recreation centers, the Y, or if you can get them interested start a team for some kind of sport with your friends. It can be low key like frisbee or hiking.
A little bit of exercise is better than nothing at all.
If it get really bad (sleeping too much, eating to much or too little, feeling self destructive) talk to your family doctor.
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..you sound exactly like me.
Except there's no movie-making in my life, it's more the admin-ing of a few oekakis and such.
What to do? Last summer, I was afraid of the same thing, that I'd start cutting myself to escape the boredom...
But I ended up making some goals for myself to accomplish by the end of the summer..
like, running for a full hour without stopping, beating the hardest level on tetris, perfecting the most perfect swan-dive, drawing, compsing, writing, and playing random video games.
Or you could just crack a book and learn how to cook or paint in acrylics :P
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Maybe you're depressed because you're bored -- the same thing happens to me. Read a lot, find a new hobby like cooking, and really, really try to make an effort to talk to your friends who don't depress you.
If this doesn't work, you should see a therapist and find out if you have depression
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If you believe you may be clinically depressed, the best thing to do would be to talk to a psychologist or counselor. If you believe your depression is due to your circumstances such as loneliness and boredom, then the only way to get rid of the bad feelings is to change your circumstances.
I recommend starting a small business. Get a lawnmower and weed eater and hire yourself out as a landscaping contractor. Or get yourself a good Squeegee and hire yourself out as an outdoor window cleaner. Small towns have plenty of elderly people who can't keep their homes looking as nice as they'd like because they just aren't physically up to it any more. Summertime is the #1 time for home and yard cleanup, and if you're a young guy in reasonable health you could do this kind of work and really make a difference in these people's lives. They don't have access to as many services as are available in a big city so you could probably find a nice niche market.
Other small business activities include dog walking, doggie cleanup (messy but profitable), and exterior house painting. This would also give you a bit of money; after you pay taxes you could get enough to fix up your car and possibly even help your mom out financially. I know one young man who started a landscape business at age 18, used it to put himself through college, and later sold it for a sizable profit. He really worked hard advertising and getting flyers out to drum up new business. Before he did this, he hired my kid brother and a couple other people because he had more work than he could do himself.
See an accountant first to figure out what your tax and paperwork responsibilities would be. Then go take charge of your life.
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Hey hunny. I know how it feels to feel lonely and depressed over the summer when you live in a small town. It sucks. You should probably talk to your friends, let them know you want to hang out more during the summer. Also, ya'll should go out of town together, I'm sure someone in ur group of friends has a dependable car. Ya'll should just try and find different ways to amuse yourselves all together. Play music with each other, play ultimate frisbee, play a basketball game, anything. I hope it all works out for you. If you need anymore help, I'm here. You can either ask me on this or email me at InDreams87@hotmail.com. Good luck! hope it all works out hun!
*FallenAngel*
P.S. - if your friends can't hang out on some days, you should try something new. For example, if you don't draw, maybe try to one day. Find a "learn how to draw book" and work on that. Just every time you find yourself alone, try something new. Hopefully that works! Good luck!!!
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