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My name is Meghan. I am a junior and I like to hear people's problems and try to help them. I'm going to college to be a pyschologist so i'm thinking this will be good practice. You can ask anything.

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Hi. Let me first start off by saying that i am what i would say is a fairly attractive irish gentlemen. I have several girls i've had my eye on for a while but whenever i try to talk to them i get nervous and the only things that end up coming out of my mouth are the study of anesthetics and parchments. This has made a few of the girls not want to talk to me let alone be seen with me, and i am quite frankly, i am knee deep in this situation.

Just try and keep the conversation natural. Leave your studies out if the conversation. Just act natural.

So like, im totally gay like ill be honest about it. Im one of those guys who came flying out of the closet and yells "IM GAY!!!" But anyhow, recently iv'e taken a liking for bestiality and im not sure why. I sometimes feel like im so in the mood that i black out and become a savage beast! When im normal i see the thought of sex with an animal as gross and perverse, yet i snap whenever im on angel dust. What do you think I can do to stop this sexliaticrumatorypununcatitous or whatever the heck you smartians call it? I need help angel! p.s. do you think i might be a werewolf or something? thanks again

Okay either this is a joke or you are just a freak

I feel like such an idiot asking this, but how do you make out? I need help!! I'll rate you no matter what. PLEASE HELP ME!!

Well, you find a cozy spot, and depending on who moves in first, you kiss a few times and then open your mouth and stick your tongue in and then move it around......it is a lot better than it sounds....trust me...lol...hope that gives you an idea.

i have this guy friend that i like but he likes someone else and he says hes about to ask her out soon but i wanna go out with him, what do u think i should do?

I think you should tell him that you like him. Even if he's not sure about you, him knowing would probably change his mind. but you should talk to him. hope this helps you out.

i like this guy and its hard for me to get boyfriends what do u think i should do?

Well, you shoudl talk to him. Hang out with him a lot. But don't be too obvious. Don't get to become too hader for you to get together with him. Just be yourself and act natural. ODn;t try too hard. Talk to him as often as you get. If he likes you too then you should be good. Also maybe you should think of why you can't get a boyfriend. Maybe you do something that you don't realize that turns guys off.

Im 17 and alot of the times i think i might own my own corprate company and use that to pick up girls. Ive even made business cards for myself. And well, i think girls sleep with me just because they think im rich but what im looking for is passionate relationships where i can do the things real couples do. Like brush my teeth with her toothbrush without her caring, or even swap shoe laces when we get bored with our own shoe laces. How do you think I can find a relationship this meaningful? p.s. im not gay

Well, i don't think i've ever heard of a guy wanting to swap shoe laces but hey there's a first for everything.I think you shoudl stop sayin you think you own a company. And maybe you shouldn't make business cards. It seems to me that you are putting yourself in this position. maybe you should just stop it all together and look for really nice girls who want you for you and not for your money. Try hanging out with girls who shop in really cute stores, like A&E or abercrombie. I guess it would depned on the type of girl you are looking for but you should stop with the company thing. That's a bit weird. Take a girl out to a fancy dinner since you have money, but don't lead her on to thinking you will buy her what she wants cause then she may only want you for your money. Hope this helped.

I was talkin to my boyfriend last night, and out of no where he said that he needed to tell me somthin in a real serious voice. I got kinda nervous since we've never realy been serious before, we're alwayse lauphing and having a good time. So he said- (remember when we first started talking and you asked me if i'm a virgin and i said yes.... well i'm not. I just said that because i didnt want it to be akward if i told you that soon. Then he said that everything else he has said to me has been true, and he felt bad that he hadnt told me before.) When he told me this i didnt know what to say.I feel really uncomfortable with it. I'm not going to do it with him, since i'm only 15 and i dont believe in that, but i dont want him to go off to some other girl when i say no. What should i do, because i really like this guy. He is one of the nicest people i have every met and i still really like him?!?!?!?!?! Please help

Have you talked to him about it? Since he feels bad for lying to you about it, he may be okay with not wanting to have sex yet with you until you are ready. If he hasn't asked you yet or hasn't made any moves letting you know he wants to, then maybe he just wanted to tell you so that he wouldn't feel guilty with it anymore. i really think you should tell him how you feel. And maybe he won't leave you for another girl. Try talkin to him though. it may help greatly.

i like this guy at my church i'm 15 and he is 16 but i dont talk to him. i am to scared to and i don't know whats to say to him plus i only get to see him twice a week, what shoud i do?

Well, maybe you should get his phone number and hang out with him on the weekends if either of you aren't busy. You could also invite him over after school if you guys have time. you should talk to him though. You could become friends first and then date if you are still interested in him. Hope i helped you out.

Every body at my school has a boyfriend ir girlfriend.. I act myself and every thing.. What I am getting to is What do Guys look for in a girl!! and plz nothing Gross

Well...from what i've heard...most guys are looking for sex, BUT, my ex liked me for who i was and mostly the personality is what they look for.

i feel like i have some frineds that i alk to but i always feel like if i dont belong it frustrates me because i try to be better friends with them but nothing is working what should i do?

Maybe you should invite them over or say hey you wanna go hang out somewhere. You could always talk to them about how you feel. That may help you out. Just say, you really like hanging out with them but sometimes you feel like you don't belong. You could also see what they are interested in and maybe you guys would have some things in common. I don't know what else to say. But hopefully i helped you in someway.

ok, i'm about to make some prayer bracelets for myself, but i have no clue what to pray on. any ideas???

Friends, family, the war in iraq.....anything that you see around you needing to be prayed upon. hope it helps you out.

Okay, does anyone know if when you just wear studs when you get your ears peirced, will the holes still sag? or is there any kind of dangly earrings that don't pull on your ears? I'm clueless and not sure if I want my ears peirced or not :/(sorry if I spelt peirced wrong...) I rate high ^_^

They shouldn't sag. Mine didn't. I don;t know if taht helps you any. But studs work well and that is what you have to get when you get your ears pierced the first time anyway, so they shouldn't sag.

is it just plain wrong for a 15 year old straight male to babysit?

No. If you want to babysit then go for it. As long as the parents are okay with it. i don;t see a problem in it. guys can do lots of things that girls can do. For intance being a nurse. You don't have to be gay to babysit. I'd say go for it. Don't worry about what people will say. If you are making money and like doing it then go for it.

i have this friend named ashley. she used to be my best friend we would tell each other everything but now she is like trying to be popular and stuff but by doing that she is losing me as a friend and i am already missing her...what should i say to her?

Tell her exactly how you feel about it. Make sure you are alone with her though so she ins't distracted and can actually hear what you have to say.

I just moved to a new state and i do not know a lot of people and i want to babysit in my spare time. but i do not know how to get the word out that i will be able to babysit?help me please!

Put up ads in the grocery store. Or you could ask if you could put up signs in school. Becareful not to give out too much information if you do this.

I have an older sister who's absolutely gorgeous . and even though she's quite horrible to me , she always acts nice in front of everyone else . especially guys . recently , i realised that i liked this guy friend of mine , A LOT . more than friends . even though i'm quite cute and stuff , my sister always gets WAY more attention than me . especially with this guy . it hurts me when i see them sitting together , talking , my sister in her seductive voice , and him smiling .it hurts a LOT . WHAT SHOULD I DO ?

Hav eyou talked to you siuster about this? If not, you should. She should understand how you feel even if it hurts you and her both. Your sistwer shouldn't be treating you that way. If she is as gorgeous as you say she is, then she shouldnt be tryin to seduce your friends. especially if she is older than you, whether she likes the attention or not. Talk to her. It should work. BUt talk to her mor ethan once about it until she sees what she realy is doing. Another good idea is to video tape her without her knowing it and then show her the tape. Maybe then it will show her how she really is. Sometimes people don't know they are doing it cause they do it so much. Hope that helps.

my room is so plain i got white boring walls..and everything in there is boring..wut can i do to make it pretty?..any ideaz!

Well, at my dad's house, the rooms are white too, so my dad said that i could just paint anything on them i wanted. So when i go see him, my ex-boyfriend and i are going to just have fun and splash paint all over the walls. you could invite friends over to do that too. It could be a fun project.

alrigty...i have a bad habit with cutting my self..and i need to stop...the only problem is...i dont kno how...my life is kinda shakey now b/c my mom is makin me go live with my aunt 4 good b/c of my "problem" and im doin pretty bad in skool with all the stress thats going on...and that makes more stress and just blah...i mean my friends and my boyfriend HATE the fact that i do it and they give me ideas to stop like squeezing an ice-cube until it melts...but that dont help... and i am in cheerleading an i always have to wear my long sleeve shirt so ppl wont see my arms and be like "shes physco" er suttin...but ne ways..i also have a prob with eating...i mean im not fat and i love food...but it just makes me wanna puke...so idk what to do about that either...so if ne one has ne ideas with how to help me with this stuff...please let me kno!

Wow. I don't think I've ever had to deal with a rpoblem liek this at all. It's sounds scary. Cutting yourself is a big problem. Obviously you know that since you are being forced to move in with your aunt. Have you ever tried doing something different when you get urges to cut yourself? Like for an example, people who smoke a lot and want to quit chew gum or they get the patch. Mayeb you should do something that you like. Another thing you could do to try and stop this is to talk to a friend about it. A true and honest friend. One that will actually help you insetad of hating that you wear long sleeves all the time. Freinds help a lot. It may seem that they will look at you differently, but if they are truly your friend, then they will help. I don't know what to tell you about the eating. maybe you eat too fast or too much and that is why you feel like you should throw up. I feel sad knowing that people actually do cut themselves. I don't know what else to do to try and help. But maybe some of the things i have said will help. Good luck.

I'm afraid 2 ask this guy out because he is one of my good friends! He is giving me mixed signals! What should i do? I am to scared 2 ask him out!

If you haven't talked to him yet about wanting to date him, maybe you should. If he doesn't feel the same about you then I wouldn't try anything. Losing a really good friend could be a hard thing for you. Give him clues letting him know that you are interested in him. But don't have you friends talk to him for you. That could result in problems. Just be yourself if you do date. Don't let him know taht you've changed if you do. Dating a friend can be weird especially if you are best friends. Just take things slow. You don't have to ask him out. But maybe you should give him hints that you are interested.

i need someone with expirence! what do you do when u get to second base and how do u do it, same with third! when they like "finger" you (ive never masturbated) what do you do? do you just lay down and they stick their hand down there? isnt that gross and do they expect all the hair to be shaved off?? is it sposta be dry or wet or what, please inform me of the process. =) i really need help and advice and how you do it nd stuff, thanks!

Well, when you are fingered, you can do lots of things. be laying there the first time and just feeling it would be the best way since you haven't been fingered before i take it. It's not gross, it might feel wierd the first timebut it's not gross. And being wet is better because if you are dry it may hurt a little.

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