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A man who was married lie to me that he is single and said he will marry me and plan to marry me, therefore one night we have intercourse.
Then, due to his personal matters done before, he was jailed for two weeks.
He did lie to me in the very beginning that the case was not a criminal case. In fact it was a criminal case and he was the offender of the case.
When i visit him during his imprisonment, i found that he was married and i met his wife and talk to her for 10 hours, in fact it was his wife helping him to find the victims like me, to "feed" her husband, she provide the account for him to lie that it was his bank account etc..
i loved him so much and he wrote a letter to me that he will marry me immediately if he can be discharged (since the 2 weeks' jail was not a defined time, it depends whether i can get letter of pleading from the person with good social status ). He and his wife both promise me so.
Unexpectedly, after i got five letters of pleading and this guy then discharged from the imprisonment, everything changed , all the promises from the man and his wife gone.
What should i do ? Please help me.... (link)
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First off... rofl... and if you not laughing with me then I'm laughing with you. A lot of good people like yourself get taken for a ride everyday. I'm laughing because you became part of a threesome in which you didn't even question the loyalties and trustworthyness of any of your cohorts. As for what should you do? Make a report with the police, give them the descriptions and leave them rest up to them if you truly wanna do something. If you don't wanna do that, simply... just let it go.. they used you to their advantage and dipped. What are you going to do? Chase them down yourself? Besides, it seems to me that are pros and have in power couple in understanding each other. And they have no concern for you. Look at it this way... they could of been a murderous crazzi married couple with no regards to your life. Chalk it up to life and experience and leave it be. They played on your emotions... and left you right? I wouldn't suggest doing anything drastic.. its really not neccessary.. they damage has been done. Hope this helps.
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so many people has told me i love you and i want to be with you forever your the one my only one well 5 guys already said that to me a promised and i got hurt everytime and today my boyfriend has told me that im his true love he never felt this way before about anybody else and he said true love never dies and he wrote me a poem how he feels about me and he said he wants to be with me forever and he promised and he said he never breaks promises and he wrote me letters like 10 of them i kept them and he asked me to marry him and i said yes and i just dont want to get hurt again im sooo scared and do you think we will be together forever because he said that and he knows it and his feelings will never change but i know that we wont there is like a 1 percent chance because not everybody stays together forever (link)
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It doesn't mean anything if someone tells you if they're in love with you... It only means something if you tell them if you're in love with them... "To love" is to genuinely care for you but to be "in love" with someone is to offer alot more. It can be possible to scare someone off or keep them at a distance from you because of these differences though. You said 5 guys have told you the same thing? Did they knowingly let you down? Did you hold them to higher expectations that was within their reach "yet" exceeded their grasp without your true consistant support? Did you continuously expect them to give you more with less? If that is the case, maybe it could be that you never really wanna settle down or that you realy are chasing "perfection". We know there is no such thing as perfect but you can attempt to create it. Just know you can be unfair to your mate. Or it may be that your incapable of changing your ways for another so that other mates must conform to you. In a relationship, there is compromise. If your unwilling to commit on some "reasonable" standard..... which there are different packages... ALL "should" of be equal give and take situations.... for example.. real love, friendship, compatibility, true companionship, money, beauty, happiness, comfort, relaxation, freedom, respect, loyalty, endurance, passion, balance, etc.. I'm presuming you ended all your past relationships.... ultimately. The best can only happen if you stop trying to control it. They say it better to have love and and lost than to not have loved at all because then you without losing it you would have never known love.. (unless you kept it..) In addition... if you don't let things takes the course it gonna take.. how will you ever know where it gonna go? I say be smart and cautious cuz it is your heart but at the same time... make sure your getting what you've invested or your current situation "may" just be an illusion "just like your previous relationships". Hope this helps a lil.
P.S. True Love doesn't die... If you let it... it gets buried. And there is no real percentages with relationships... it depends on if there's one person working on it alone or two people working on it together...
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I would like to plan a romantic get-a-way for my boyfriend and I, could you guys please enhance me with some nice ideas. Thank you in advance. (link)
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Well... for starters.. do ask yourself if ya'll would enjoy a colder or warmer climate setting. If its colder yall cud snuggle more, if its hot, yall need the AC... now decide if you wanna drive or fly and then if you wanna explore your scenery together or be alone together. Hope my suggestions helps and Best Wishes.
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okay so im a male and im 14 and i asked this girl out and she said yes but then shes like gotten all mad and i dont know if shes mad at me she wont talk to me when i try to talk to her. so i guess its my fault. any advice on how to fix this problem. (link)
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wtf??? That has nothing to do with you... and if it does then tell her "you're not a mind reader either!". Don't stress her at all, and dont press to find out what's wrong, if she really wants you to know then she tell you but other than that gives her space to sort out whatever she's going through. Hope this helps
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is there a song out there that has lyrics along the line of:
I still like you so much,
its just so sad that we cant be together,
i hope you still like me as much as i like you.
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It may be exact and I'm not sure what the situation is but you could try these
Bobby Valentino- If I Had My Way
Beyonce - Be With You
Bow Wow/ Ciara- Like You
Ne-Yo- Can We Chill
P. Diddy/ Christina Agulera- Tell Me
Fabolous- Baby Don't Go
Jim Jones- Don't Push Me Away
*shrugs* Hope this helps or have some songs come to mind by these artists...
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okay. i'll make this as short as i can. 16/f. i want to break up with my boyfriend of 3 months. he has no respect for me, he cheated on me and all he ever wants to do is makeout. he's also really pushy on sex. the only inhibition that is keeping me away from breaking up with him..is the fact that i'll feel really crappy after i do so. i've broken up with him before and i've taken him back. i can't take the crappy feeling of jealousy and heartache after breaking up with him..i don't think i can. what can i do? he's my agee (link)
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Well, with the way that you started off... If your objective is to "really" breakup with him anyways... Personally, I dont think you "want" to breakup with your b/f at all, but it rather seems like you "know" that you "need" to. Its not a thing of you "can't" its more of a feeling that you "won't". You are prolonging the compromise of yourself by the inactivity of not making a definite decision. You are holding on to him internally for some reason. Sometimes people hold on to really crappy relationships to fill a void somewhere. Only you would know what void he's currently filling for you..... Once you realize exactly "why" you're holding on, maybe it be a lil easier to let him go. Like you said... "he has no respect for you, he cheated (cheats), wants to consistantly makeout and have sex" with you when there are bigger problems at hand. All of which makes you feel crappy, jealous, and heartbroken. Being human and all... you may not "feel" like you can breakup with him, but please don't tell yourself that you don't "think" you can either. You'll realize that your relinquishing your personal power and self esteem for something that's not beneficial to you at all. Hope this helps.
P.S. Age has nothing to do with bitchassness and assholes. Its just a terrible epidemic of the mind. lol
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I met this guy 4 years ago. I am in my late 20's and he is in his early 30's. We hit it off. He was everything I was looking for; attractive, charming, sweet, succesful, and loving. 3 months into it he changes into a cocky, disrespectful person. Apparently he had another girlfriend. I suffered as the other woman for almost 3 years. I knew what I needed was to leave, but I didn't. Actually throughout those 3 years, we were on and off. It is now into the 4th year and he has made some changes. I think and feel like he is only seeing me. When we're together, we are deeply in love. We laugh, we enjoy each others company, We are so happy together. And I mean literally "together". He is a very busy guy, so when we're apart...we do not get along. Because I already have trust issues considering he disrespected and cheated in the part, I would think that he would try his hardest to communicate. Of course, he doesnt. Some nights he simply doesnt return my calls. His excuse the next morning is he had a long day and he was tired. I really think that he is not cheating, but I feel like I deserve to be communicated with. Would counseling be worth our time? Is our relationship savageable? I am deeply in love with him. Please help. (link)
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smh, lmao, rofl, I'm sorry... believe me but please understand Im not laughing at you.. I'm actually laughing with you... I'm gonna presume the following are true...You are not a priority on his list. He probably does loves you or loves the time you spend together. He's not only seeing you. His outward disrespect came after he had his fill of you in the bedroom. When you're are together, of course you're gonna have a good time, cuz you not gonna see him until he wants to see you and because you're more emotionally invested into yall "friendship" than he is. You say he's a busy guy? No, he just doesn't wanna or need to see you, his priorities takes precedent and he figures... you gonna always be there for him.. as more than a casual friend
I would continue on.. but I'm not because theres are so many alternative responses that you have here.. and besides to be attracted and to deal with an ' attractive, charming, sweet, succesful and loving" guy, I natuarally assume you possess those qualities within yourself. So more likely than not.. you already thought about theseresponses to yourself, it just so happen to be the other side of the love coin that no one really wants to see, hear, address or deal with in your case. But in regards to your questions at hand... "Would conseling be worth our time? Is our relationship savageable?"... C'mon now be serious. If he can't even return your calls or see you on a regular basis... what makes you think he has "time" to
go to counseling with you? As for it being salvageable.. its possible but unlikely without you expressing how you feel about the situation and him telling you where he stands with you. I believe you are deeply in love with him because only love can make you think twice or hard about accepting a no good asshole. Don't contact him at all and if he doesnt contact you neither then you know how much he loves or "cares" for you afterall...... It will hurt and it'll be hard, but you'll grow to be smarter and make wiser decisions when it comes to "future men" in your life. It also prepare you to accept nothing equally bad or less and began nuilding your resistance to the soft spot that you have for him. Besides, if its all about sex for him, then offer him what he's offering you without the emotions. You'll eventually grow apart gradually and it may not be no where close to what you want... but it can be what you need if he's not willing to be there for you when you want ~OR~ need him. Sometimes, it will be better to follow your thoughts over your heart. Hope this helps.
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so ive been with my bf for about two months now.. and its gotten to a point where like i say love you and he says luv ya and he never calls or anything and idk.. i do really like him though and i want to make it work. i pretty much know what i want to say.. but i dont know how to start it..should i jump in for it or what? please and thank you!! (link)
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First off.. you been with him for 2 months... before its gets you into trouble, become a bad habit and until you understand its true meaning.. Stop saying it! You say its gotten to a point where yall say it.. understand saying I love you is not like saying hello... if you say it like that believe me.. when it really counts.. it gonna seem like it doesnt. Moreso especially, when the affections you expect and should be returned aren't being returned to you. There are couple of questions I want you to ask yourself though... A) Were you the one to say I love you first and if yes.. was the situation you said it under really necessary for those words? More than likely probably not and he's knows that already and may be the reason he's not recipricating what your looking for outta him. B) How can you make something that that takes an equal amount of energy from you and your b/f, i.e. your "relationship" and make it work by "yourself"? You can "wanna" make anything work, but everything doesn't always pull together as you would like it to. You need to say whats on your mind and find out where he stands with you before you get more emotionally attached and start to want more than your reality is offering. I hope this helps.
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Let's say that my credit score is 10 points below what I would like it to be, and I get a credit card and charge like $20 a month to it and I always pay the bill on time...how long will it take for my credit score to gain those 10 points? (link)
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Depending on the company, how often you use it, how on time you pay it and how long you have your card are all factors to keep in mind when determing a credit score. Some card companies can take up to (min) 6 months (max) to a year to change credit scores. When you apply and call to activate your card(s) ask them these questions. They should be able to further assist you. Hope this helps.
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K, I'm 19m,
I can't really remember what I was doing at the time, however, i became extremely curious and a question popped into my head. "what if a person could control their blood flow?" This question has been eating at my brain for the last 4 hours.
If anyone can answer this I'd be very greatful. (link)
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Control you blood flow? hmmm. I'm not sure whether you're talking about the amount of blood flow or how many times blood flow occurs? But if you mean "the amount" then that's depends on your body and how much of the lining your bosy has built up preparing for a possible pregnacy each month. As for " how many times" then you can't really control when it comes unless you're on birth control. Some of the birth controls products regulate how many times you may see your period a year. Foe example, I think with "Seasonal" you get your periond 4x a year. I'm not sure but rather than continue to think about it for hours on end.. ask your doctor or simply... google it.. I hope this helps.
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hi, ok well i was just wondering... i was just talking to my bf and im 14 and hes 16 and we have been best friends for like 2 years and everything and he and i makeout a lot whenever we see each other (like once a week) and i was asking him how far we would go right now in our relationship (3 months) he said 2nd (touching a girl's breast) and we have gotten close he has touched me through my bra once and my shirt one other time but im very protective of that one of the two times he did without asking and he said he was very sorry and promised not to again. anyway im moving in June so i asked what about when i leave how far? our relationship would be about 5 months. he said a hj. i was very surprised because ya hes horny like very other guy but he tries really hard to be good. he has set limits and wont put himself in a position like being home alone with me because he doesnt trust himself. hes very responcible. but hes also a 16 yr old guy. well he would be-hes turning 16 in May. yay he turns 16 and gets a hj lol
so first off if i wanted to give him a hj is that normal (i kno everyone says do what your comfortable with but would u say most 16 yr old guys have gotten a hj) the thing is im only 14 tho. a freshman. hes also a freshman but hes much older im younger and hes older. he and i are deeply in love tho so it wont be like i do that with every guy or w/e.
it would both of our firsts. he said yes because it would be somthing to remember each other by.
also dont worry cause i know i wont because im not comfortable with that. my bf doesnt know that i wont but i do. i just had some questions about if i did want to.
and i know i dont have to i mean he didnt even ask i said how far would you let us go.
thanks :) (link)
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First off.... I'm rofl... Not at you or your situation but the memories of my own. Secondly, in my opinion... if he's has the ability to tell you with confidence what each base is, I would naturally think he done more than he's letting you know... and yall may be "really really feeling each other" but yall are "not" deeply in love either.. not to say its impossible either or because ya'll to young, thats up in the air. However, as you get older, you'll realized that being in love, brings great happiness and joys, but it'll only come thru after you overcome great pain... together ok? I will say just make sure you getting the whole story about your b/f cuz it sounds like later down the line you'll find out hes "ommitting" some of dhis experience from you to make you feel comfortable with him.. (Not saying its guaranteed to be the case, I just want you to be aware before you make any defintie decisions that's all. He's probably a good guy, but like you even said... he a 16 year old boy) We all wanna believe everything our mates tell us, but this is not always reality. I agree with doing what you feel comfortable with, without him pressuring you and making you feel obligated to anything. In regards to your question.. about it being normal and all?... Who is anyone to tell you what is normal or not? Do what you feel and move at your own pace. You live and you learn. Good Luck and Best Wishes
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alright this may be a little confusing...
female, 14, 5 foot 7 inches, 130 lbs.
i am alwaays eating when im at home, i kind of have a fast metabolism, i eat because i get bored and i have a gym membership [dont really go that often, i do track in school. but we dont do much] i was just wondering if there were any like natural ways to get me to control my habits, i want to loose just a few pounds around the part where my butt and legs connect also around my inner thighs, i also want to make my calves look bigger [ i know the machine for it at the gym, i do it whenever i go]
i was just wondering if there were like "home remedies" Alsooo, i loooovee junk food, but i also try to eat healthy foods whenever i get the chance.
hope i gave you enough info to help me (link)
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Actually, its seems to me that you're in great shape for your age and height. Well maybe a lil tall for a 14 year old, but hey we are who we get it from right? Anyways, stay on your routines and if you gotta eat, eat in smaller increments all day. Dont eat until you are full though, you'll end up gaining weight and you'll be confused more than ever. Your metabolism is gonna burn naturally but as you get older it will slow down. So adjustments will have to be made later on to your diet and excercise routines.. As for now, as long as you don't "overdo" the food, enjoy being young.
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My girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship. Our conversations are largely internet messaging and phone convos. However she seems to be very closed off. It's almost difficult for me to get a word about herself out and she hates answering questions. I try to strike up conversation, but she seems to shy away from anything related to her life. It takes a lot of manipulation just to learn her favorite food/color/tv show/etc.
I'm not sure what to do. I really love her, but it's like she's barely there. Any ideas guys? (breaking up is not an option I want to consider, thanks) (link)
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I am so glad to hear this from a guy because I'm in a similar situation in the least.... but advice wise... she may have trust issues because she's been hurt in the past. It wouldn't matter if it was previous relationship or my someone close. To close yourself off, is just a way she decides to protect or prevent herself from more emotional and psychological pain and suffering that's all. I commend you for not giving up on her and wanting to help her, and not leaving her alone when technically she probably needs you around her the more than ever since you sincerly love her. She just needs to feel secure with you, if you've done something in the past that created great pain within yall relationship, I will say its gonna take a lil more effort on your part to recover lost ground with her. But if you are a real man who can stand next to your woman on her darkest dreary days and is there for her best intentions without expecting something in return other than her opening up to you... she"ll trust you and start opening up. Its just human nature to react at distance with the people you really care about when they let you fall and is not there to offer a hand to pick you up or tend to your wounds...especially when you're in a relationship. Flaky people tends to mess it up for the good guys like yourself. Commit to seeing a bright day "WITH HER".... whole heartedly, and you'll both get what you want and need... together... I hope this helps.
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okay. so for about 9 months or so i've stop eating all red meat regularly.
i mean every three weeks or so maybe a little bit of beef but i dont like eating anything but chicken, turkey, and fish. and i dont think im getting everything i need. like iron.
but i was wondering if there maybe be any way to tell what i need to take instead of eating red meat.
i dont eat regulary but i still eat fruits and veggies and drink plunty of milk.
anything helps. =)) (link)
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Well to start off... I hope that you stop eating meats in general for a good reason... because we both know that "Meat is dope!" and you're missing alot more than nutrients when you don't eat them. But to stay on topic, you can go to your doctor and have all your levels of bodily needs observed through blood tests. They'll tell you about iron, protein, glucose, cholesterol and etc. But you gotta ask them because they can't read your mind. If you choose to stay on the "no-meat" course after you get your results then let them tell you what you're lacking in and usually you can go into a pharmacy and take the proper nutrients you need in pills or liquids. For example, they have iron and vitamin a-e pills. If you wants more info ask your doctor or simply.. google it lol. Hope this helps.
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Sooo im going into my freshman year and i was wondering if there is a prom for every year or if its just seniors, and if theres like a homecoming every year.
im really confused can someone explain this to me?!?
:]] thankss. (link)
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I congratulate you for making it to the 8th grade. Everybody knows being in school and staying in school is something worthwhile doing yet many dont do it. Its hard work to stay on the path. They underestimate the travel... me? I don't know you but I say Thank You, Congratulations and keep up the good work!
Now in regards to you question... I gonna assume you mean a freshman in high school ok? Short answer. No there's no "prom" every year. "Prom" itself is literally for the graduating class of seniors. However, they will or should have a dances or parties throughout the year. Enjoy them. Go hard when you do go. Cuz by the time you get to your actual prom... you'll be the one everyone will be waiting to show up cuz of your reputation from prior years. And if they waiting for you... on your prom day... you'll be one of the happiest people there! As for homecoming.. yes there is a homecoming every year. Usually it happens between the months of september and november, depending on the team sports in your school. Usually they'll be centered around the "Varsity" basketball or football teams. If your school doesnt have those sports, then wateva is the top or most representative team of your school that'll be who its centered around. To explain homecoming... it the first "home court advantage" game of the year. Hope this helps
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Female//16
So, I like this guy who we will call...Bob. And Bob just got out of a relationship about 2 weeks ago, but he seems to like me and alot of my friends say that when he's around me it seems like he does too.
How do I show that I'm interested without actually going out and saying that I like him? (link)
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Well I say use what you got. Your friends already know the deal. Send him the regular I like you signals like the flirty looks, hair flips, batting lashes, and stare-smile then look-away and things along those lines. Make sure you in the center of your friends and they have your back. After a while (within your own timeframe) when your comfortable enough, casually stroll away from your friends to see if he indulges you and follow. Maybe he will maybe he won't.. it depends on how much you've used your feminine wilds on him and his actual attraction to you. If he doens't comply, then the next day, casually stroll up to him and ask him to walk you to the store or something. If he accepts, talk about casual things. I feel thats the perfect opportunity to tell him your feeling him but thats on you and (if you do) don't say it expecting to let him respond. Change your mind about the walk and tell him to just think about it. Say thanks and walk back to your girls.. You'll be feeling yourself whether he willing to get with u or not. Good luck.
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is there any like cute teasing things to do to your boyfriend along the lines of kissing? (link)
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Ahh.. I love the art of kissing. Not all people deserve to be seduce but we women are the best at it. There are different types of kisses and pressurs to kissing. Don't apply these techniques to all guys, just the ones you truly wanna seduce lol. Well let's see...
1.) Stand above him while he's sitting down. Look passionately into his eyes and lower yourself to gently kiss his forehead with purely puckered lips. Then straddle him and sit on his lap. (He'll love this) Then closes his eyes with your fingertips (softly). Kiss right in between his eyes and then follow up by tracing his lips with the tip of your tongue. (No spit and make sure your breath is right too lol) Tilt his head back slightly and suck gently on his chin. (If your doing it right his eyes will stay closed the entire time or roll to the back of his head)... trace the contours of his neck with your tongue and make a path right back to his lips.. but stop short.. right in front of his lips and look him into his eyes.. See if he takes the intiative to kiss you. If he doesn't, kiss him deeply with puckered lips with no tongue and then get up sensually. If your heated as he's gonna be.... use your imagination from there on... I know this will help..
I would suggest more techniques, but they belong to me. lmao
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can a fat girl wear skinny jeans? (link)
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Short answer? Hell Yes! Just make sure that you dont try to squeeze into something that doesn't fit your body type or into something you don't feel comfortable in. Skinny jeans is to make women look skinnier... if they got your size, don't you think you should have that advantage too if thats the look you're going for? I do. Rock em and rock em well! Besides... from the catastrophies I see walking on the streets daily... thats is the least of appearance problems... Do YOU!
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ok so i had sex for the first time and bled i no thats normal now how long before it stops hurting ? like will it hurt if i have sex a second time?
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Well I'd like to say "Congratulations" first off. You sound a lil skeptical about the situation altogether. But that's rather normal. Secondly, there is no definite timeframe for the pain. It actually depends on the type of sex you've indulged in and whether the penis was much bigger (length and width) than your vagina. As for will it hurt the second time you have sex? Probably yes, but it should be a comfort you by knowing, that it should less the more you do it. However, don't rush into anything either. Your vagina will only relax as much as you are. You'll learn "pain can be pleasure" on some days soon enough though lol. But you have to enjoy the act first rather than constantly thinking about it. You'll learn and it'll be great. Move at your OWN pace and Best Wishes.
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My sister is an athlete, shes usually the lowest person on her team, as in not so good. She does track and cross country. The problem is after she smells so bad, and she will smell up the house. My mom is a single parent and cant smell for a dollar. I told my sister she smelled and I got yelled at. When I have to take showers after her Im afraid I smell terrible and I drown my self in perfume. I live with the grossest people around. Help, what can I do. Im a clean person and I dont want to smell (link)
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First of all.. Let me tell you that I can relate. Being around people who improperly take care of themselves can be a real headache...in the least. As for you smelling, unless you pick up her habits or indulge in her odor-full practices without the proper cleansing techniques yourself... you have nothing to worry about. As for trying to control the smell at hand... have you considered buying a perfume she likes "FOR" her? Or bathing materials that can make her feel like being more femininely clean? As a better introduction than "coming at her style" persay? Usually, females like to smell good and are a reflection of their environment. Introduce her to some of your ways without making it seem like you are dissing her or enforcing your ways onto her. It might kill two birds with one stone... her smell and a possible strengthening of your sisterly bond in the process. Hope this helps.
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