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"Awe is not a very comfortable standpoint for many people... Hence, all about us today, we see avoidance of awe by burying ourselves in materialist science, for example or in absolutist religious positions; or by locking ourselves into systems, whether corporate, familial, or consumerist; or by stupefying ourselves with drugs."
-Kirk Schneider, 2004, Rediscovery of Awe, p. xiii

I have light brown hair and blue eyes. My favourite colours are white and light blue. I like to eat Italian food: olives, vinegar, pasta, garlic and tomatoes. I love Italy and travelling. I listen to the radio.

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if your a vegetarian or vegan can you eat eggs? my personal opinion is that you shouldnt because it was once living (sorta). but is it REALLY considered living. i dont know. please help. im confused lol

It can all depend (if you are vegetarian or vegan) on your own views of the situation.

The reason many vegetarians or vegans won't eat eggs is because of the conditions the hens are living in. They live their whole lives in small, boring cages, and are often beaten. As you may know, most vegetarians/vegans are against animal cruelty, and this is included. Vegans include this as well as milk and others for similar reasons.

So, whatever your reasons are for going veg, if you are at all, do all of your research. Figure out what is going on behind the scenes. (Try the PETA website?:D )

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I'm a teenage girl who is about 20 pounds overweight (5'2 1/4" and 154 lbs) and I always wear one pieces but I'm going to a resort in a few days and I would really like to try wearing a bikini because I feel liek I actually look better in one because it shows off these feminine curves that I have better.

Do you think people would stare at me because I'm not thin? (i do have the hourglass body type) When I sit down my stomach sort of has these rolls and it hangs over my waist... So that makes me uncomfortable...

I just don't know what to do. I don't want to be gawked at...

Also- what kind/color of a bikini should I get that will make me look thinner?

thanks

I wouldn't think this will be a problem!
For bigger bodies, the key is balance. Comfortable coverage. Go for wide straps and a wider bottom.
Definitely choose a color that compliments your skin tone. There are a few guides on the internet that help you with this. If you choose the wrong color, it will only draw attention to the things you don't to draw attention to. :) If you're bigger on the bottom, go for plain bottoms and a patterned or detailed top, and vice versa. Try to add volume to your suit, maybe with some ruffles or a big funky print!
No one will notice that you are a little uncomfortable, if you can just enjoy yourself and show off who you are. With a smile, too. :)

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I have the website http://theymos.com , which offers free web design. I get a decent amount of hits, but very few requests for web design. If you were looking for free web design, is there anything on my site that would turn you away from it? Of particular interest is my request form, http://theymos.com/recieve.php , which seems to be a popular exit point; is there anything unappealing with the form? Thanks much,

Theymos

I would love to help you out. This is NOT to criticize your website, but I feel you givin' you a hand. I'm giving you a few notes here on how to make your website more appealing. You really want to keep the visitor's attention= if they get bored, they will leave. Here goes=

-You have this futuristic layout and logo, but then this old fashioned font. Appears to be Times New Roman. (Try Arial? Anything more modern and simple.)
-Everything is pushed up towards the top of the screen, so I have to actually bother to really look up to see everything. Perhaps move everything down into the middle of the screen.
-Nothing to look at, to direct your eyes to. You have a pretty cool logo, so why not add a picture to your webpage!? The visitor doesn't like to be bored.
-Keep your menu bar simpler= simpler titles, I wasn't exactly sure what I was reading and directing myself to. (Also, include that funky logo on the home page on every page, for a nice sense of repetition.)
-Examples of your web design work. Show off your design skills, so clients know what they're getting!
-Finally, speak (type, I guess) on your website with more... flair. Use colorful exciting, important vocab. like you're trying to entertain the reader!

I hope this has helped you point out some things to improve on. Good luck with your website! :D

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What traits do girls look for in guys? What would your ideal guy be like?

Just as everyone says, we all have different opinions.
But, the initial attraction has to start with something. That something is called confidence.
You can be outgoing, weird, nerdy, shy, or insane, whatever, but it's the confidence and the ability to be yourself that puts it all together.
Although all girls have their "type", it doesn't mean that they hate preppy guys when they're more punk. As funny as this sounds= I like ALL guys.
Accept yourself, stay true to your personality, and be a great person! :)

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http://img244.imageshack.us/img244/3810/crystal2ye0.jpg
that's me. all right, so if i wanted to dye my hair, which color do u think would look best on me? i'm also looking to change my hair style. which kind of hair style do you think would look good on me? [that picture is kind of old, i have a sidebang now.] all right, i've been contemplating all different kinds of colors and i'm not sure which would look best on me. so, any hair/face experts out there, give me your advice, please!

To be honest, I wouldn't change the colour at all really. Lighter would look a little weird. If your're looking for a change I'd suggest lowlights, but highlights might look fake.

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Ok well i wore a t shirt today. I looked in the mirror when on side slipped and oh my god that area was so light compared to the skin colour of my neck! How can i make my neck the same original colour as my body? it got tanned so bad..and i have to wear a dress soon so it'll show really bad.

You are going to want to make sure the tan doesn't get any darker. Get a super strong sun block that won't even let you tan and wear it every day.
If you haven't gotten your dress yet, try to get a halter to break up this line on your neck, hiding it a little. If not, wear a necklace to help with that. A chunkier one would work the best.

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Hi I have a very petite body and I just bought these beautiful really wide legged pants that fit nice and snug on my bum. Now my dilemma is what shirt should I pair with it, I dont think I should pair it with a wide top because of the pants, and alot of the the less wide topes arent dressy enough. Do you have any opinions?

Yay! I love wide pants! Hehe. :)
Definitely a tighter top. The wide leg pants have a bit of a mod look, so a top with a high neckline (a round neck like a T-shirt), would look great. Try to go for a simple top. Not too many frills, buttons a distractions. A clean, smooth cut, curve-hugging top is adorable.

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my body is so... different. I have a very hard time finding jeans and shirts that fit or look good. i have a very small waist, and long skinny legs. all the jeans i find are too big and if i get them a size smaller they're too small and i get holes in the pockets in the back. and for shirts i'm not TOO big in the chest but i can't find shirts that look good and aren't too short or too long. =/ anyoneknow where to find good clothes? thanks

Smart Set is great. I'm not sure if this store is only Canadian, though. They have adorable plain T-shirts in so many different colors, that are not too long and not too short. The jeans are for women and are quite long, but yet fashionable and chic. :o) Oh, and the prices are great.
http://www.smartset.ca/index_flash.cfm

Also, you might like American Apparel. They don't carry jeans but they have a HUGE variety of top styles in any color you can imagine.
http://store.americanapparel.net/

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i have sweaty hands all the time! It's not at any one point, or when I feel any one specific emotion. It just randomly occurs, occuring often that is :(

I have been able to cope with it for awhile, but i feel extremly awkward when even holding hands with my partner. During a long kiss she will caress my face or play with my hair. It is somthing I am afraid to do back to her because my hands. I don't want to mess the moment up or make her feel uncomfortable or awkward. If we both are sweaty things are a bit easier, I can rub my hands on my jeans or shirt fast to dry them and then proceed to feel her, but I hesitate from touching her face or any part of her for that matter when we are just kissing.

Is there a good way to solve this problem. I want to be able to caress her and make her feel loved while we kiss, not just when we're both already hot :-(

advicenator girls: would'nt you feel awkward if your lover was touching you excessivly with sweaty hands

thanks in advance
-Corey

Drysol.
You probably have over-productive sweat glands. Don't worry this is NOT serious and is fairly common. Just ask me. :) Take a visit to your doctor to ask about Drysol. (There are other brands availble, like Certain Dri but Drysol is popular.)

http://www.drugstore.com/qxa1067_333181_sespider-what_is_drysol.htm
http://www.feelbest.com/pages/hyperhydrosis.aspx

This is a chemical you apply to your palms, armpits or feet overnight. You apply it about every night until your sweating goes down, then gradually work your way to every two weeks.
It will stop your palms from sweating. Trust me, this is a great solution.

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what are some good bikinis for the summer..
i have speed bumps but i got my period recently so by the time i have to start going swimming i'll have something,
im blue eyed
blonde

any advice?

im thinking maybe black or blue or blue and white stripes.. just ideas!

For colors I would say: pastels to mediums. Sky blue looks great on blonds with blue eyes. Try to avoid a lot of contrast, which is too dramatic for your skin and hair color. Go for light blue and white stripes rather than dark blue and white stripes.
Patterned halter tops are cute to bring attention to your chest.
I wouldn't go for black. The color is too harsh for your skin and hair! It might make your hair look a little yellow.

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im getting my hair styled and cut.

this is what i look like...
http://i86.photobucket.com/albums/k98/smichele427/l_d5367eec1ed8639ded5a74c405d7b9a7.jpg

i dont plan on dying it... just getting it restyled.
so what should i do?

i was thinking side bangs and layers?

Considering your face shape I'd get it cut a few inches off. The length weighs it down a bit because there aren't a whole lot of layers. Layers to get more volume, side bangs that come down to around your nose.

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So I'm looking for a deoderant that doesn't leave white marks and really controls sweating because I sweat constantly! Even when I'm just sitting down! And I live in a cold/rainy environment! Any names?

You might have over productive sweat glands. Ask your doctor about Drysol. You put this on at night 1-2 times a week and you will stop sweating comepletely.

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hey
(sorry if this is in the wrong cat.) i write poems all the time and i also write other things, does anyboday know any sites where you can go and enter your poem or story thing for like a competion or anything..
but also something that is free and i dont have to download anything
thanks in advance

http://www.poems-and-quotes.com/

My favourite! I'm a member here. It's a great community, with small contests (although the only prize is being featured in the e-mail newsletter), and members can host their own as well.
This is my favaourite poetry site if you really want to improve.

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15/f

Hi, I have the Biore Nose and Face strips to remove blackheads. Is it okay if I cut one of the face ones in half and use it on two separate areas? They are a little big for the areas I need help with.

Thanks! =)

I have to tell everyone with blackheads about this. The Biore strips are not your friend. Did you know that they pull off lots of skin? This does horrible damage to your nose, and can even help cause a little shine. Sometimes the Biore strips only remove a few blackheads, too.
If you want to get rid of those blackheads, visit a dermatologist for a facial once a month. She can give the most relaxing experience and get rid of practically all of your blackheads. Ask for a good cleanser to keep your nose clean and be sure to moisturize daily.

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15/f

I have bright red lips but I would like to have paler pink ones. Is there any product/technique I can use to do this?

I'm also aware that your lips fade over time, is there anyway to speed this up?

Thanks! =)

Here's my opinion: everyone is born with the colours that suit them the best.
If you don't like your red lips, trying to cover them up probably won't work too well, because it will start to rub off and look very awkward. Pale lips might not even look right with your skin tone and hair.
I would say try to to use a clear gloss or clear sparkly gloss. If you want a colour, try your natural lip colour but a shade or a few shades lighter. You could ask someone at your local drugstore to help you out with colours.

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is ther anything i can do to make my hair grow faster and healthier?

You can brush your hair upside down everyday, making to rub the scalp to stimulate it to grow faster. You can also massage your scalp while watching T.V. and while shampooing in the shower!

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im redoing my room when winters over, and my mom said that i should start thinking about what i want to do. i already have a comforter picked out( http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/sr=1-2/qid=1169422185/ref=sr_1_2/601-5733897-5964138?ie=UTF8&asin=B000E1B2ZM ) and im covering one wall with the shiny side of cds. i cant decide on paint colors, furniture, any wall decor, or anything like that. i want something very outrageous and fun, that play off the comforter and cd wall. so this is where your opinions come in=p websites and that would really help.

thanks!!

I would suggest for the wall with the CDs that you paint behind it the lime green, blue, orange or red in the comforter. Don't make the mistake of making all the walls bright colors because it will make your room very dark. It would be safe to have dark red or black one one wall as long as you use plenty of lighting and great decorations.
I would suggest that you get yourself a big awesome poster. Like a real 'wow' picture.
Here are some examples:

http://www.ikea.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?topcategoryId=15573&catalogId=10103&storeId=3&productId=79669&langId=-15&categoryId=15900&chosenPartNumber=80115672
http://www.allposters.com/gallery.asp?aid=1027743993&startat=%2Fse1a&GCID=s15100x001&KEYWORD=poster
http://www.allposters.com/gallery.asp?aid=1027743993&startat=%2Fse1a&GCID=s15100x001&KEYWORD=poster
http://www.allposters.com/gallery.asp?aid=1027743993&startat=%2Fse1a&GCID=s15100x001&KEYWORD=poster
http://www.allposters.com/gallery.asp?aid=1027743993&startat=%2Fse1a&GCID=s15100x001&KEYWORD=poster
http://www.allposters.com/gallery.asp?aid=1027743993&startat=%2Fse1a&GCID=s15100x001&KEYWORD=poster
http://www.allposters.com/gallery.asp?aid=1027743993&startat=%2Fse1a&GCID=s15100x001&KEYWORD=poster

Be sure to choose a poster that represents you. A poster with your favourite band is definitely a good idea, but remember to keep it the right colors and style. I would suggest getting ir framed for a proffessional look.


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i have medium/dark brown hair and greenish bluish eyes and was thinking about getting caramel highlights and like black underneath my hair or whatver. what do you think? oh and it would be all layered.

For highlights it can be very unnatractive to have the darker underneath as well as light on top. Go to a stylist and ask what she would suggest and what colors she would suggest: such as cool tones or warm tones.
You could get all over highlights using the cap, which is very popular because it's proportioned perfectly with less highlights underneath to make it look darker.

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i have really oily skin and i use proactiv twice a day. i also use the jergens tanning for your face once a day after i clense my skin with proactiv. what could i do to make my skin less oily and does the jergens tanning cause oily skin? if it does, does anyone know of a face tanner that doesn't make your skin oily? thanks alot!

Please don't use the oil blotting papers! You see, the reason your nose is oily is because it's lacking oil so it's over producing. So if you take of the oil with blotting papers, it will make it worse.
Make sure you put oil free moisturizer on your oily areas often. Cleansing your skin with proactiv might even be causing this. The products are very drying.
I recommend a gently oil free cleanser, alcohol free toner, and a oil free moisturizer.

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I have pale skin, usually. It isn't scary pale, its more like ivory, but when I'm in fluerescent (spelling?) lighting, I look really...sickly? It just doesn't look good. I look like a vampire, and I obviously don't like it. Plus, the entire school has fluerescent lighting, and I definitely don't want to look bad at school. My question is, is there anything I can do (makeup trick, etc) that won't make me look washed out? Thanks =]

I loved opinionated06's answer. Nothing washes you out more than wearing colors that don't suit your skin tone! I have very pale skin too, and hear is what I know: (you don't have to do any of these but if you want these are the right colors)
Make-up- brown mascara, very light brown eye-shadow, peach blush (if you have warm skin) or sugar/baby pink (if you have cool skin), same colors for lip gloss as blush
Clothes: If you have darker hair, wear medium tones, lighter hair, wear medium to light tones.
Warm skin: warmer tones, reds, yellows, oranges etc. cool skin: cooler tones- blues, purples, grays, greens, pinks

Do not wear black. It is one color that does NOT suit light skin.

P.S. If you want to know if you have warm or cool skin:
Cool: Do you blush easily? Does your skin have pinkish tones?
Warm: Is your skin a sort of yellow tone?
Ask a friend or parent what they think.

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