I have a B.A. with a double major in Sociology and Psychology. I have a B.ED in education. I have a diploma for a two year university Freelance Writer course. I have 5 grown children (4 boys, 1 girl) and 5 grandchildren (4 boys, 1 girl). I love to paint, read and write.
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this is my situation,
im 16 years old, 4 weeks pregnant i know i have options and i have been thinking about them a lot.
adoption is just out of the question if i did that then one of my family members would adopt my child and i wouldn't be able to deal with that. So im not putting my child up for adoption.
i have always told myself that i was against abortion not just because i think of it as killing a baby but because it can cause physical and emotional harm to you also.
if i kept the baby i know i would have sooo many people behind me my mom has 4 sisters and all of them including her had there first baby at 17 so i know they would understand i know they would all help me, but im sooo scared. Im a Jr this year and the baby wouldnt be born till late july early augest so thats summer i mean .. i want to go back to school after i have the baby i would do that.. but i dont know.. i mean im not sure the father will stick around my best friend is his sister i know she would help me but i dont know what to do... i really dont want to be someones mother right now and i know its my boyfriends and mine fault that this happened but .. HELP!
what would you do in my situation, tell me why and what you think I should do!... please help any advice will help me (link)
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O.K. so you decided to keep your baby. Did you know there are many websites you can visit to get free baby stuff like diapers, wipes, formula etc.? I just keyed in free baby stuff and it brought me to a webpage full of options. I was surprised at how many sites there are to get free stuff. So go ahead and register with as many as you can and start accumulating your diapers and wipes and other stuff before the birth. There are also websites to go to once you have your baby. Also, try visiting the pampers webpage. I know they also have free stuff. If you can think of any other brand names of baby stuff, visit their websites also. Good Hunting. Also if you type in free baby advice you will get many webpages that offer advice to new parents like you. Try it out.
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hi i'm 16 years old and i am done with my life i see no hope i have gone through lots of pain in my short life my dad puts me down and is constently critisizing me and i fell in love very young when i was 12 in seventh grade i found my first love he ended up failing and having to move and because we wear young and it was a secret we lost eachother that emotionally hurt me a lot i became very alone and in high school i started to loose my friends and now have very few and i am very alone also i ended up falling for another guy he turned out to be a jerk took my virginity and called me and said horrible things about me and moked me about when we had sex it has made me very self causious i don't have any pride in myself i hate myself everything i do isnt good enouh i think i'm ugly i just need something nuthing i try every makes me happy please someone help me what can i do to get my confidence and self worth back so i will stop doing horrible things lieing and having sex with random guys because of my sadnees (link)
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I won't give you this big chapter about life. I'll tell you short and sweet how to get your confidence back. You have to look at yourself in the mirror and truly see yourself. I want you to find at least 3 things about yourself that you like. I know you can find at least 3. Now, I want you to stare at yourself and tell yourself you are a wonderful person because you know what, you are and you know you are.
I want you to get mad at those who harrass you. You don't have to speak to them but in your head, tell them off. It will make you feel so much better. Now, get mad at yourself. You heard me, get mad at yourself for letting other people get to you this way. I want you to do this; the more people put you down, turn this negative vib into positive energy. So, the more they bug you the more I want you to set out to prove those idiots wrong. You can do this girl! You are better than that, I know you are. So come on, stop whinning and start fighting for your self esteem. Try this, punch a pillow and visualize someone who is putting you down. Tell them exactly how you feel as you are punching them(the pillow). When you are done you will feel so much better. Then, make sure you keep getting mad at yourself for falling into their trap. Don't you dare let them get the best of you. You are a beautiful,strong young woman who will not be brought down by idiots. You're not an idiot are you? Of course you're not. So, don't go down to their level girl. If you let them upset you, they won, and your're at their level. Rise above them and prove to them you're so much better than they are. You go girl!!!Write to me anytime and I'll pump you up every time until you can do it on your own.
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ok so me and my boyfriend broke up and im over him in a romantic way but i still wanna be friends he hasnt talked to me sine we broke up but i wanna talk and i wanna be friends
how do i do that without seeming needy and desprate like i want him back because i dnt
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The best thing to do for now is give him some space. The break up is still fresh and if he's not talking to you right now it's probably because he feels uncomfortable about it. Give him a few weeks then slowly introduce yourself back into your circle of friends that you both have. This way, there will be other friends around and it won't be so uncomfortable for him. Hang out with your friends and him and let him know you just want to remain friends.
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i been on the pill for a couple months now.. i miss my pill on saturday its now sunday i took saturdays pill and sundays pill today (sunday) tomorrow im going to have sex (unprotected) what are the chances of me getting pregnant (link)
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If you miss a pill, don't take 2 pills the following day. You are not double protecting yourself against pregnancy. If you miss a pill, take ONE the following day. Because you missed a pill, I suggest you wait at least one week before having unprotected sex to make sure your body has had time to secrete the proper amount of medication in the pill to protect you against pregnancy. What is waiting one week when you consider the alternative right? Make sure you don't miss anymore pills. Also, on the market, there is a pill called the day after pill. It's a pill you take the day after you had unprotected sex and think you might have become pregnant from the intercourse the night before. Ask any pharmacist about it.
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Ok i know this question is kind of stupid but i had sex with a real jerk and a guy who took advantage of me who is no longer my friend and i was wondering if it was possible for me to become a virgin again it would help me feel much better so leave me some advice please (link)
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Unfortunately, no you cannot become a virgin again. When you loose your virginity, the very thin membrane, the hymen in your vagina has been ruptured and this will not grow back,or come back. Once it's puncture, it's gone for good.
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Hello! 13/f here
well, i sometimes bottle up my emotions (i know, i know, its bad) because i dont really have anyone to talk to,because my mom is usually really busy with school work (shes getting a teaching degree) and my dad is usually tired from work. So, I am thinking of getting a Diary, but... where? I want one that has a lock, so nobody can read it obviously :P. I live in Elbow Valley just outside of Calgary, so any help? Chinook mall? Westhills? I need a place to get a diary with a lock,
Thanks for your help!!!!!! I need it to vent without hurting someone (which usually happens because of hormones and all, being a teen and all)
THANKSS!!!
~ scruffsc ~ (link)
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Getting a diary is a very mature way of dealing with your frustrations and I congratulate you on your wise decision. If you have a Walmart, Zellers, Business Depot, Staples, or Chapters in your area, any of these stores carry diaries with locks. Good Luck.
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I have a 17-year old daughter who is currently a senior in high school. All her life, she has never had a boyfriend or even a friend that is a boy. This specifically is not why I am writing, because she is free to be friends with whom she wants. However, she has confided in me that she is afraid of men and boys and has been her whole life. I am not sure if it is getting worse as she gets older or is just manifesting itself in different ways. I was never like this so I am not sure what would be considered 'normal' feelings for her to have. I have talked to a few close friends about this and they say that I should look into her past to see if anyone could have hurt her in any way. I can think of nothing, except for things that I don't think would still have much of an effect on her now, although maybe you think different (if so, please tell me). What I am thinking of happened during preschool. There was a group of boys that used to chase her and scare her all the time at recess. She was very afraid and for this reason she spent time hiding from boys and staying physically very close to her female friends. When she got older she always feared them. Although she is a shy person, it isn't a fear of rejection. She is afraid that they will do something to her to harm her. She can't even watch the news because of all the rapes and things of that nature.
I just don't know what to do or how to make it better. I would just like to find out what happened to make her this way and how to help her get past her fears. I appreciate any input you can provide. (link)
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I seriously believe you should seek counselling for your daughter. Maybe something happened in her past you don't know about and she can't speak to you about it. If it is those incidents when she was in pre-school, then she was never given the necessary tools to deal with it and needs a bit of help overcoming it. There is absolutely nothing wrong or shameful about seeking advice from a professional source. She is 17 and should be out having fun with both boys and girls. This fright she has about boys and men has become an obssession to her. Please for her sake, get professional help for your daughter.
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So this is kind of a long story, but I'll try to sum it up.
Yesterday morning (Saturday), I woke up to my dog whining and barking constantly outside. I was really sick with a fever/cold and I was really tired, and she was bothering me, so I began pounding on my window to shut her up. I guess I pounded really hard, though, because my hand smashed right through the glass. My hand started bleeding like crazy, but nothing hurt.
So what happened was I got 4 little cuts which don't bother me much, but then I have this really big one on the side of my wrist. It's about an inch long and maybe a centimeter & 1/2 deep and wide. I didn't have to go to the emergency room, but I had to put butterfly bandages over it with a big bandage over that. My dad said that I'll probably have a scar for a long time because of it.
So its Sunday now, and I was just wondering, how long do you think it will take to heal up? Will I have to wear a bandage over it on Monday when I go back to school? Thanks! (link)
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Has anyone properly disinfected your hand? If not, you really need to get it disinfected immediately because infection can set in very easily. Signs to watch for are:1- redness occuring around the cut; 2-swelling occuring around the cut; 3-blisters forming around the cut; 4-increase pain around the cut; 5- feeling heat around the cut.
You should disinfect with Peroxide, dry well and use an antibiotic cream such as Polysporin or another reputable antibiotic cream.Then cover it with a band aid. Once your cut is starting to heal, I suggest you apply Aloe Vera gel to help to healing process. By applying the Aloe Vera gel you are minimizing your chances at having a serious scar.Keep your cut clean, disinfected and covered for a few days until you are starting to heal. Make sure to keep an eye on it and if there is a red circle around it or a red line running away from it you have an infection and see your doctor.
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Pregnancy Questions.
Do you get your period when your pregnant?
When do you start gaining weight?
What are and where at can you get prenatal vitamins?
When can you take your pregnancy test? Can you take it 10 days before your missed period, or would that be too inaccurate?
Thank you for your help! (link)
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I am a 49 year old mother of five grown children and a grandmother of 5 children. I believe I can help you with these questions.
1. Do you get your period when you are pregnant?
Well, some women do continue to have some bleeding throughout their pregnancy but if you do, it's best to see your physician about it just to make sure nothing is wrong.
2. When do you start gaining weight?
I started gaining weight in my fifth month. I put on serious weight in my 7th month.
3.What are and where can you get prenatal vitamins?
Your best bet is to either ask your physician about prenatal vitamins or ask your pharmacist. They are equipped with the proper knowledge to guide you in the right direction. Folic acid is important to take when you are pregnant to make sure the baby's brain develops correctly. There are many different prenatal vitamins to help you and the baby that's why it's best to ask your pharmacist.
4.When can you take your pregnancy test?
I always took my tests about one week to two weeks after my period was late.
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