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My boyfriend and I are going to San Antonio in a few weeks for his 21st birthday and im looking for some ideas on what to do. We are staying at Hotel Valencia on the riverwalk and are going to six flags down there as well. Has anybody else been there and recommend us going to see/do anything special? I just need some more ideas on fun things to do!
Thanks! (link)
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seaworld as well, or the towers of america, ask for the paper if one of you guys are into sports or plays. maybe cowboys dance hall if you like country music.
i hope i helped you, these are all the things i could think of.
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this is probably going to be super long.thanks SO much if you actually read the whole thing.
ok. so, a little background.
I am 19, my boyfriend is also 19. we have been dating for 3 years and want to be with each other..well, forever. we are very committed to each other. I am personally against underage drinking. i have never had a drop of alcohol in my life. i am scared of what i might do while under the influence.. i really don't want to embarrass myself.
My boyfriend has drank with his friends/groups of people before. i dont approve and i've told him that. the way things are..its like, .. him drinking is only something to do behind my back and he has a ton of fun and he likes to do it without me around because he doesnt want me to see what he's like around other people.
He never takes me places, like out with his friends or anything. i am slightly overweight and kinda shy but i always try my hardest to be outgoing and not clinging to him when we go places. i'm getting better, i think.
ok. last year we both went to different schools after graduating high school. he promised over and over and over, i will not drink, i did not drink, i swear, i love you and i'm not lying. i believed him.
today he confessed that he drank every single weekend and alot of the weekdays, for 6 months straight. he also drank 17-18 cans of beer, puked, blacked out, and was driven home by guys who had the same amount of alcohol. and he went to strip clubs but..supposedly just stood in the corner. he swears he didn't cheat....but now i'm not sure what to believe.
i am SO SO relieved that he told me that. he says he's sorry for lying and that he is very glad he got this off of his chest and he feels like we're closer now. which is amazing because we never really have "intimate" talks about really personal stuff.
he wants me to drink with him. (every once in awhile). he wants me to go to parties with him also only every once in awhile. i am afraid to drink. i'm afraid to see how he'll act towards me while he's drunk because i've never been in his presence while he was intoxicated.
my questions are:
*i'm a little ticked off about him lying to me. is that wrong??
*is it THAT bad to encourage you to wait until you're 21 to drink??
*should i consider drinking with him(not getting wasted,only like 1-2 beers)?? i would like to do it but i don't know.
any thoughts or advice about my situation?
THANKS!! (link)
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First off no way is being ticked off at him wrong, he lied to you and did everything he said/
"promised" not to do behind your back so the ticked off thing is good.
21 is the legal age for people to drink texas and most of the united states, people believe that teenagers are more of a ruckuse when under the influence but no it isn't bad to try a sip but not to over do it because it will kill you.
drinking with him might bring you closer together, one to two beers is probably a good start, if he gets out of hand or something smake him unless he is a mean drunk then call someone who works there to help you.
i hoped i helped you.
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16/f
So, me and my ex boyfriend broke up after a 3 month relationship. I know thats not a very long time but we ended up loving eachother. The reason why we broke up was because of some of the things he did. He kept stuff from me and lied a bit. He was a lot of drama. So, we have been broken up for alomost 2 months now. During this time, i havent found anybody i like. I have been on one date since then and i dont like the guy. A lot of guys have told me they like me but i still liked my ex.
We didnt talk or text for quite a while. Then one night he texted me and said he missed me and was depressed because we havent talked in a long time and he really still loved me. I told him we should just be friends and then see what happens. Well, i heard that he hung out with some girl, and i dont know why, but it made me really jealous. I was crushed. So i knew i still liked him.
I told him i still liked him. Now, he is getting all these ideas about dating again and all this other stuff. He said he has changed and matured and realized how much he lost since the break up. He still loves me.
So, now that we are texting again, im not sure what to do. He said he dosent like anyone else. I dont like anyone else. The thing is, my parents hate him. They wouldnt like it much if we dated again. I dont even know how i would tell them.
Now that i have him and we know that we like eachother again, i dont feel the spark i once felt. Yeah, i would get jealous again if hing out with another girl. I still do like him. There is just something different about "us" this time. Im not really sure on what to do. Please Help. Thanks. (link)
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if you don't feel the spark that you once had then maybe you like him but in a completely different way, you were right about the being friends because no spark no relationship.
the jealous thing is gonna happen and i'm sure if you asked him about the other guys you dated he felt jealous as well, i think it is just i don't want him to get hurt so i will keep a close eye on her.
your parents don't like him because of the break up i'm sure and that he hurt you and they just don't want you to go through that all over again, if it was me i would talk to him and tell him that being friends is gonna be the option for right now and that you no longer feel the spark.
maybe just maybe he would try to get it back for you, it's a test for him and if he tries to get the spark back he means what he say's if he doesn't he is just that he can't stand being alone and he doesn't want you back.
hoped i helped.
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ok so me and my boyfriend, "O" were dating for like almost 2 years. we broke up, and i partied with some friends. one of them, "G" is ridiculoussss mad hot =D but one of my really good girl friends, "CC" used to date him. for almost 2 years too, but theyve been broken up for a year. CC has since dated several other guys, but has remained friends with G. G used to ride my bus a few years ago, so ive known him for almost 3 years. now i usually really dont like younger guys, and hes 16 and im 17. were almost exactly a year apart. but he is so different. everything about him invites me in and attracts me. strongly, haha. but i dont know exactly how to get him into me. i mean were friends, but have never really talked that much or hung out. hes really like, deep and quiet. with that dark charisma. were both way into HIM, if that gives you a better perspective lol. but how do i go about attracting him to me? and will i make CC mad? i honestly dont really think she should be, since she dates alot. help?! with G?! ha (link)
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if cc isn't dating him anymore that really shouldn't be a problem there friends and your friend with her, i would ask her what she thought about you dating her ex, it doesn't matter if she likes the idea or not because she isn't with him.
to get him to go to you, may be easier said than done. since you know him for almost three years you should know his likes and dislikes, use things he likes and allure him to you, it is a lot harder for guys since you can't just buy them flowers and chocolate, but try and get something that he likes and hang out with him more ask to the movies or something.
hoped i helped you good luck
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I'm going to try and make this brief.
There's this guy that I've been talking with a lot lately, but our friendship is still new. And I think he's known a little bit as a flirt, but I feel like he's different around me, and he said he was "nicer to me" because he "kind of likes me" and when I told him i kind of like him, too he said "yeah right" because it "didn't seem like it" and all this and we flirt some in school and a lot in texts, and he talks a lot about hanging out and hooking up but I'm really shy in person and he kind of seems like he is, too. However, he's been paying a lot of attention to me lately, and hanging around me and just being a lot more present and talkative since I started really showing interest back in him. I like him a lot, like a whole lot, and I know he at least likes me a little, but I don't know if he likes me in a way that would make our friendship more than that, or just in a way where he wants to hook up, or if he's just a big flirt. He's a real big joker and kidder and everything he does in person is kind of exaggerated but through texts he's sweet and compliments me and acts more personally.
But here's the kicker, he's got a girlfriend. He doesn't know that I know for sure that he does, and he hasn't said a thing about her, and he acts like he's available and like he's interested in me.
I don't want to pursue him if he isn't interested in me the way that I am in him, and I don't want to be just another hook up for this guy, I'm not that type of girl.
So I'm just wondering what every girl wants to know-does he like me or is he just a big flirt? Any thoughts are appreciated.
We're both 18, if that matters.
Thanks in advance, :]. (link)
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well if he has a girlfriend but he doesn't talk about her, you should sort of talk to him about that because that is one of your issues if you want to be together.
you and him seem to be a like but i would really think about being with him, like i said he doesn't talk about the girl he already has, do you want to be like that girl?
from what i get from your story is that he might just be a flirt.
hoped i helped
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19.f
My boyfriend is going travelling around the states with his family for a 6montsh to a year and i promised him i wouldnt leave him when he goes. What can i do or give him to prove to him i wont leave? (link)
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what i would do, to prove that would to give him something of mine for him to keep in order for him to know that this is our love and even though he is leaving there is nothing that can break our bond, or you can make a contract of the terms that you and he can't do when he is gone.
hoped i helped
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I always wanted a little tattoo, something pretty and feminine or something like my horoscope (saggitarius) I dont want it too big. My thing is 1. I am a p*ssy! I am soo afriad of needles!
2. Where should I put it.
I dont want it on my lower back (tramp Stamp)
I want something that will still be ok to have when im 40!
I dont want it on my bicep I want it to remain feminine.
I was thinking my foot, ankle wrist. But isnt it going to be sooo painful. Im afraid when I get it I will get up off the chair and never go back to finish it and get stuck with half a star or something. So pls help me.
tell me the truth. Does it Hurt? Where should I get it? What should I get? How BIG?????
Thanks.... (link)
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don't do it on your bone because it hurts a lot more. i would go for the ankle or the wrist if you want it on your back it might hurt a little more. what should you get really depends on what you like. most people get roses or mom. get what you like maybe a dragon or bird maybe something that is symbolic to you.
how big depends on where you put it. if it is on your wrist/ankle it's gonna be small arm a little bigger, shoulder medium, and back large.
hoped i helped a little more.
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Theres this song I hear once and awhile that I really like..I always seem to hear it while I'm in a store.. the lyrics are something like I'm going to california.. or something like that.. Its kinda like James blunt style..but i already checked on him.. If anyone knows please please let me know.. thanks =] (link)
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it might be a pink song gone to california. that is how it starts. or if it is a not a girl singer the red hot chili peppers.
hoped i helped
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19 female
so on saturday i'm going to hang out with this guy, joe. we're very complicated you could say. were just "friends" but we both know the chemistry's there but nothing ever happens. anyways i dont know what to do! i know we're going out to dinner but then i dont know what! i still live with my parents and there so annoying about boys so i would NOT want to go back to my house. i kind of want to go somewhere but i dont know where! we both dont really have money, he has like none (long story) but yeah so something without money!? i was thinking about going to a lake and like walking on the beach or whatever but i dont know if he would go for that and i wouldnt want to see like i was trying to be too "romantic" agh i just dont know! and going to his house isnt an option either. i'd rather stay out and do something! but then i'd also like to try and be really flirty and all.. any suggestions? thank you! (link)
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is he paying for dinner because you said he doesn't have money how are you going out to dinner? anyway. if you want to do something that doesn't envolve money you could do the lake thing and if he feels like your trying to put the moves on him slow him down by telling him that isn't what your trying to do.
you could go to library
play a game doesn't have to be a board game if you have any sport balls you can play a game like that
bring a camera and take random pictures of people together
talk about stuff that you are both interested in
beach sand castles
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It was in the movie "Aquamarine" when the one preppy girl walks onto the ocean in the first like 5 minutes of the movie.
Some of the lyrics are:
"I know that you want it babe, and its here, i got the fresh baked cookies coming straight from the oven"
Any help?
Thanks a bunch :) (link)
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are you sure it was in aquamarine i looked up the sound track on google and none of the lyrics for the songs that were on the cd weren't even remotely close to what you put. it might be in the movie just not on the soundtrack. if you have the movie i would watch it and maybe look at the special features or bonus features whatever they are called on that particular dvd if not ask a friend or someone if you can borrow it just to find out what the song is called.
hoped i helped you.
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ok I am 17 and i have been with my boyfriend for about 2 and a half years and we just had a baby together and no it wasn't planned but we decided to keep her now she is about 2 months and my boyfriend he is there for me and her but the thing is he would rather spend time with his friends i know he loves me but ok the real question is what can i do to make are relationship better is there anything that i can say that will touch his heart deeply? (link)
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i would bring the baby into the conversation, that would touch his heart very deeply. i don't know what to tell you just to put the baby in the conversation.
hoped i helped.
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ok so i wrote this poem and i want some feedback on it. If u dont like it, please be nice about it. lol. Thanks. Also tips and suggestions are welcomed. :) and also, it has no name so....here it is;
The overwelming feeling you get in your chest.
The tear jeaking moments of joy.
Unforgetable Happiness,
The long, endless nights together.
Little trivial things in life
Butterflys fluttering around in your tummy, the feeling of being able to fly light as air.
The never ending feeling of pure joy.
Knock Knock Knock.
The stomach droping moment they leave forever.
The tears and heartache day after day never ending pain.
The endless nights crying and wishing they'd come back.
Empty, Empty, Empty is all you feel.
The hollowed out place youe heart once was.
Until finialy, You feeling nothing ar all except pain. Then you relize what really happened...and its to late to change it back.
Until...It starts all over again.
-Callie (link)
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i think it is good,i actually like it a lot. just one thing though if your typing it or have already typed it you have some words that need to be fixed.
ar = at
realy = really
finialy = finally
relize = realize
youe = your
other than that it is really good
good luck
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-Sorry if its kinda long..:)
ok so i like this guy for bout 3 months. and never told him or anything. well then about a week ago he asked me to our school dance and asked me out. Well i better tell you that im a loud, happy, outgoing, kinda popular, crazy, fun person who has lots of guy friends because girls just cause to much drama. Iv been in both the school plays and iv had lead roles. Im a select soccer player and i play the whole game, lead goal scorer. Im a computer geek lol and i guess people consider me realy pretty(dont like to say im pretty cause that just seems "bigheaded") i laugh alot and i like to tell perverted jokes cause i think they are super funny. Well my boyfriend is tall, not exactly the cutest, shy, quiet, realy deep, he goes to church all the time, and idk hes kinda serious. and he wont hug me or anything. so the way he talks to me is just like, super serious alot of the time and im a silly girl. I mean i liked him alot but the more im getting to know the real him the less im likeing him. But i feel bad because im not shure how i feel towards him. I dont want to seem like a mean person or anything because im really not. But im not shure what to do. We are so different but kind of the same. Im so Confuseeed right now >. (link)
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opposites attracks but you got the one that is just like you. it may sound mean but if it isn't working why keep going? i know you'll try to keep it going by making up excuses for him that he doesn't mean it and blah blah. but really why your a smart girl as i can tell of your discription about yourself.
just tell him that things aren't going the way you thought and you two need to break up because it just isn't working for me. or just tell him the truth the more you hang with him the more you don't like him.
i hoped i helped good luck
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This is a bit of an awkward question for me, but what are you supposed to do when you walk through a hall full of men unabashedly goggling at you? I just look straight ahead and ignore them, but that just feels really stiff and awkward because I usually let my eyes wander everywhere, yet looking into the guys faces is even worse because they never look away. I just feel really self conscience when this happens even though I know I look good. It is literally 40 to 60 men, so I don't want to cause a scene by telling them to stop, and there is no way I can avoid them. I do not dress revealingly, but I do wear clothes that flatter me. I am 18 and this is happening in college. Oh and they never talk to me either, but they are definitely checking me out. How should I react to them? What would you do in my situation?
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if i was in this situation i would stare back and make a smart ass comment on how good i look. like i know i look good no need to stare boys.
if you don't want to make a scene then try making them feel awkward like shaking your hips a little more when you walk or if your really self conscience about this and don't want to talk to them grab a guy friend and ask him to pretend to be your boyfriend or a girl and pretend that your a lesbian some guys might like it some are turned off by the fact of it. or grab a teacher or coach whoever it is, that makes people really feel awkward if you walk with a teacher or coach no one will be looking at you.
i hoped i helped you good luck
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I have been living with my boyfriend for 5 years now. He is 41 and I am 24; we have overcome a lot of obstacles and personality conflicts, but most of all was his alcoholism. His drinking has been a problem in the past; he used to humiliate me in front of his kids and call me names and kick me out of 'his' house; but the last couple of years it has mellowed out to just an annoyance. He no longer triesd to kick me out of the house; and he doesnt talk shit about me to his kids nearly as much when hesdrunk - but, i confess, it still does happen occassionaly. Despite all of that, I am still here, in a house with BOTH of our names on the lease; and we are now engaged and we would have celebrated our 5th anniversary together 2 days ago. Trouble is, he never came home on our anniversary. He knew I had plans for us to go out to dinner and that I was home waiting for him with a gift. After worrying all evening, night, and the next morning; I finally got a hold of him. His excuse was that he got drunk, swore to me there was NO other woman around, and that he crashed at his daughters house. The next day he went away for the weekend on a job 300 miles away. He apologized profusly over the phone and told me he feels horrible for putting me through that heartache and that I deserve so much better than him; but that he wants to make it up to me. He promised to talk to me the next day in more detail; but failed to call me. When I finally got a hold of him, he was telling me he is 'done' and I need to move on because he will never change. After a couple minutes of hearing this, he switched to saying he wanted to talk to me when he got home about it and that he did love me; and that he would call me later that night before he went to bed. Now he is out with his work buddies at a bar (he left his cell phone with his son who told me) after telling me he would call before bed. It is 1AM and he still hasnt called. His actions and his words arent matching and I am so confused. I love this man with all my heart,I have made him my whole world, but I dont think I deserve all these lies and deceptions. Especially since everything seemed normal up until our anniversary. I dont know if I have the strength to leave him; but I dont think I can accept this behavior any longer. I haven't even had time to react properly. Ive just been crying wondering what I did wrong or what I could do to get things back to normal. I think after 5 years, this relationship is worth saving; but why would he get so destructive and then constantly start lying to me and breaking my heart? I really dont think he was cheating, I believe he would just tell me he was so the breakup would me easier. But I cant be positive. But I jsut dont understand or even know what to do! I dont want to become the psycho girlfriend who keeps calling every 5 minutes; but waiting for him to come home to finally discuss this is killing me, and I feel like Im going crazy in the meantime. Does anyone have ANY advice on how to handle a self-destructive man??? What can I do to make everything go back to normal?? How do I find the strength to move on and start a whole new life after 5 years? (link)
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age difference is hard to get used to especially when he is in his fourties. it might just be a phase that he is going through i am not sure if it is in their fourties or older if men have midlife crisises.
the fact that he keeps you on the edge is never good, he should at least do what he say's he is going to do. i think he is right, he isn't worth it because no man is worth crying over unless he is about to die or is dead.
don't be the psycho girlfriend just do something different. like when he is out and say's he'll be home don't be home because it might mess with his mind a little saying what did i do to make her like this.
this is not your fault don't ever think that it is. it is his fault because he is doing this. if it really bothers you use force on him tell him something that would scare him enough to stay and listen to you.
the sad thing is you might have leave him, it is going to be tough but at least he isn't getting drunk and insulting you. moving on isn't easy either just stay with friends or parents or family. people that you know will help you cope with this heart break. then try getting back out there.
i hoped i helped you, good luck.
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Can anyone give me any speech topics that I could write about??
It's just for this "writer's craft" class where we have to present an original speech, but I can't think of any topics.
It can be about anything we want, but I'd like it to be kinda like motivational/inspirational...well those kind of speeches would be better for the class anyways...
So if anyone has any ideas at all...that would be greatly appreciated!!
Thanx in advance! :) (link)
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motivational, inspirational. well pretend your trying to get people into a charity and no one feels like going so you motivate them by telling them why they should go to whatever charity that you wish to write down and you inspire them on why this charity is important, make sure to write down the causes and stuff
like rely for life or march of dimes and things of that nature.
hoped i helped you good luck.
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15/f
so next month im having my sweet 16 party!
i didn't really have any good ideas so i decided to take my (girl) friends to a nice dinner. Now that i've told a few, they dont really sound excited( some do some dont). When i mentioned it to one of my closest friends, she said "well, why not a limo? ive always wanted to go in one, there so nice!".
Anyways what im trying to ask is, is it a waste spending my money on them when there not really appreciating the fact that it's my own birthday, cause it feels like a waste. Like now i only feel like bringing the friends that actually sound excited(becuase it is a lot of money to spend).
Anyway, another problem is i get to invite about 15 girls, some girls on my list i obviously want to invite, but some of them i really dont feel like inviting because im drifted apart from them(even thought we were close before); but i kind of have to invite them cuase otherwise they'll be left out. So i dont know what to do about that
And sorry this is kinda long, but the last thing is, if i wanna go for a nice dinner i obviously wanna dress up, but i dont want anyone to over dress me, and im SURE someone will. How do i prevent it? (link)
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to solve your first problem with the money issue. invite the people who sound excited to go, it is your birthday and it is up to you to decide what you want to do. no one should tell you what to do.
for your second problem most of those fifteen girls are no longer your friends so why would they feel left out if you aren't their friends it shouldn't matter, friends drift i should know i've seen a lot of them go to different people some have different groups and others drifted off to another part of the country, but if their really your friends they wouldn't of drifted especially the ones who want you to spend money on them and not on you it should be get me this and get me that not i want you to get this and i want you to get that get it?
for you last problem of no one outshining you on your dinner. i may sound mean but why should that matter, it seems to me that your overthinking something that really shouldn't be over thought about, remember it is your birthday and their just dresses, so it shouldn't really matter if someone else has a nicer dress than you, because if they do you should ask where they got so this way no one can out shine on your seventeenth birthday because you shop where one of your friends shops.
do you get the whole your friends thing, it takes a friend to be friend.
hoped i helped you happy birthday.
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I was late for about 14 days being two weeks , then started my period . Now I have been bleeding but it's off and on for about 3 days now. Is that normal ? I am just wondering because I had a friend who had her periods an was pregnant ? (link)
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well periods are hard to put on when asking for it, but it does have it's moments when it may not work because of stress, or just about anything that is hard on you.
so it is normal it may be not be a problem if it is just three days, i have those sometimes and it stops it is just because of the stress or whatever it is that is bothering you.
hoped i helped.
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I've met this guy and when we are together we communicate, have fun, things are great! But when we aren't together (he lives 4 states away) and we have to talk on the phone, he does 99.9% of the talking.. and it's usually him just being silly, and I'm just sitting there laughing or saying "yeah", "ok" etc. He tells me he gets frustrated that I never talk to him. The problem is, I don't even know what to talk about! Maybe my question isn't so much how, but what to talk about.. (link)
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if he does most of the talking how are you suppose to get the conversation started? if you don't know what to talk about with him that really is just one of the things that makes our lives suckish, by not being able to form sentences to the person we like, but talk about what he likes or what you want to do when he get back things of that nature. the only problem that you have is that you can't get your thoughts voiced since he does 99.9% of the talking. if it makes you mad that he is mad because you aren't talking to him, then tell him to let you talk and not take over the conversation.
i hoped i helped you
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i like this guy and we have had eye contact on and off.. i use to see him regularly then stopped then again then stopped... i could however just be there randomly to conduct my "devious" plan :p
mind you we've talked once before and it was very formal and work related nothing personal or casual and then we haven't talked for a while. long story short he works for my college library and i asked him once for a paper clip and there was a little flirting going on... needles to say that was the last time we interacted.. i was thinking when the semester ends i'll pass by and give him a box of paperclips and say thank you to kind of initiate something but my mind is telling me not to.
i am kind of shy and i think he is too.. i don't want to be awkward or cause awkwardness especially when the guy he works with is a loud jerk who might make a scene or something... and i can't get him on his own! what should i do? abort this stupid idea right? (link)
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i don't think that it is stupid, i think that it is a nice idea one the school probably needs paperclips, and two if he wishes to think that your trying to get with him then let him and have you two talk later, you know when he isn't working. all your doing is saying thank you to the guy, and the school since paperclips cost money.
really it is all up to you, if you wish to bring him a box of paperclips and tell him thank you, do it nothing is stopping you except the jerk he works with, do you really care what he the jerk thinks?
i hoped i helped you good luck
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