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What can I say
ok I am 17 and i have been with my boyfriend for about 2 and a half years and we just had a baby together and no it wasn't planned but we decided to keep her now she is about 2 months and my boyfriend he is there for me and her but the thing is he would rather spend time with his friends i know he loves me but ok the real question is what can i do to make are relationship better is there anything that i can say that will touch his heart deeply?
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You have to remember that no matter how much he may love you and your' baby he is still only 17 and was not counting on being a father so early in life I'm sure so it is perfectly natural of him to still want to spend time with his friends. I would say that what it comes down to is how serious is he about being a father? i would sit him down and remind him that you decided together to keep this child and to be parents so that is what he needs to be right now. Let him know that it won't be long before the baby is a toddler and then a child and doesn't require as much attention and care and that then you both will be able to get out a little more and have some of your' social life back. In the end though you are both parents now and have someone else to worry about and it will never be the same as it was before. Parenting means giving up a lot in order to best meet the needs of your' children. You may also have to face the fact that no matter what he may have thought or said before the baby came along it just may be that he really wasn't as prepared to be a father as he thought and that he isn't as willing to give up his friends and his time and that's just the way it is.
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i would bring the baby into the conversation, that would touch his heart very deeply. i don't know what to tell you just to put the baby in the conversation.
hoped i helped.
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