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Age old confusion.
I'm going to try and make this brief.
There's this guy that I've been talking with a lot lately, but our friendship is still new. And I think he's known a little bit as a flirt, but I feel like he's different around me, and he said he was "nicer to me" because he "kind of likes me" and when I told him i kind of like him, too he said "yeah right" because it "didn't seem like it" and all this and we flirt some in school and a lot in texts, and he talks a lot about hanging out and hooking up but I'm really shy in person and he kind of seems like he is, too. However, he's been paying a lot of attention to me lately, and hanging around me and just being a lot more present and talkative since I started really showing interest back in him. I like him a lot, like a whole lot, and I know he at least likes me a little, but I don't know if he likes me in a way that would make our friendship more than that, or just in a way where he wants to hook up, or if he's just a big flirt. He's a real big joker and kidder and everything he does in person is kind of exaggerated but through texts he's sweet and compliments me and acts more personally.
But here's the kicker, he's got a girlfriend. He doesn't know that I know for sure that he does, and he hasn't said a thing about her, and he acts like he's available and like he's interested in me.
I don't want to pursue him if he isn't interested in me the way that I am in him, and I don't want to be just another hook up for this guy, I'm not that type of girl.
So I'm just wondering what every girl wants to know-does he like me or is he just a big flirt? Any thoughts are appreciated.
We're both 18, if that matters.
Thanks in advance, :].
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Hi there,
Since nobody else pointed this out yet, I should add that you probably aren't the only one.
Guys who pick up other girls while they are in a relationship have only one of two things in mind:
Having sex with as many people as possible.
Upgrading to a prettier model/one who can/will do something he needs/wants, etc.
Please keep this in mind. Even if he leaves her for you, you are just a stepping stone to the next girl. There is nothing you can do to change that, and there is no way to "fix" him. He has to want to change, and obviously he doesn't want anything but to use YOU as his next uncared for toy.
I don't know if you can hear this or not, but I hope so. This is a mistake that is as dangerous as a deer standing in the middle of the highway wondering if that big rig truck approaching at 70MPH cares about her or not. The truck doesn't love the deer, and this guy does NOT care for you.
Please listen before you get hurt.
Emotionally, you would be in about the same shape as that deer would be physically. In fact, you might never recover enough to fully trust someone again.
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I really don't think you should be considering this at all, knowing that he has a partner. You need to back off unless they break up. Imagine how you would feel in his girlfriends situation- finding out that your boyfriend is hitting on this girl, and pretending he isn't with someone, and this girl is trying to start a relationship with him. You're not being very empathetic at all. I think that as long as he's with someone, the rest of the questions are pretty much void. Because regardless of whether he likes you or not, he already has a girlfriend, and they both obviously care enough about eachother to be in a relationship. If he preferred you to her, he wouldn't be with her and would be pursuing you. Like the person before me said - do you really want to be 'that girl'?
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well if he has a girlfriend but he doesn't talk about her, you should sort of talk to him about that because that is one of your issues if you want to be together.
you and him seem to be a like but i would really think about being with him, like i said he doesn't talk about the girl he already has, do you want to be like that girl?
from what i get from your story is that he might just be a flirt.
hoped i helped
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