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Sorry if it's a stupid question.Ok,school barly started this week and I keep staring at my last year crush all the time.Sometimes he'll catch me looking at him or at least I think he see's me.Anyway would he get very suspious if I keeep doing that?

He might.. It matters. Are you drooling on your desk or..? ahha. Just when you are starring at him , try to not make it obvious. Dont look straight at him to look like a stalker..just stare from the corner of your eye. It wont look obvious. Just dont get caught!


I hope I helped!

-Speakfreely

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I heard that putting toothpaste on a pimple could help get rid of it sooner... is that true? If not, what else could be used? Thanks. :]

yupp! try it ! it works, even tyra banks does it! Thats how i got started doing it and now i never stop when i get a pimple.

I hope I helped!


-Speakfreely

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Hi i saw some pictures of girls rubbing "theirselves" together.(like the below the waste area) why do they do that? does it feel good or something?

ahha. I aggree with hollister...

either their whores or they just like..rubbing eachother.. ahha.

idk? "it turns guys on" . maybe i dont know? ahha. theyre sluts though, i can tell you that now. ahhah

I hope I heleped!


-Speakfreely

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My best friend, lets call her... Emily is going out with one of my good guy friends.. lets call him Nigel. Well they have been going out for a few motnhs now and they are really cute. But Nigels best friend is telling him to break up with her because they live 20minutes away so they dont go to the same school. She is really upset and doesnt want him to. He says he isnt but we know that he has been thinking ab0out it. She really wants to stay with him but now hes trying to make her break up with him as well. He says shes just going to regret going out with him because of the distance. She doesnt know what to do. Any ideas? Shes sitting here beside me...

Well you guys, love can get through any distance. If you really love him "emily" then dont have the distance rip your relationship up. Hang out with him every weekend or something. Call him every night or something. Keep in touch that way, but if you feel that the distance will effect and have tons of doubts about it, then yeah, have the relationship go off. Talk to him about it. Things will get better that way. TRUST ME.

I hope I helped! (:

-Speakfreely

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Ok so i met a guy about a week ago and we tottaly hit it of. (were both 15 by the way) And we hung out then started talking on msn. He said he really liked me and wanted to get to know me a bit better, then would ask me out in person rather than on msn. That was last weekend. I tried to get a hold of him a few times. But he hasn't been talking much and has been acting kinda weird. Whats going on? Does he still like me?

See, thats always hard. because guys tend to say their feelings on the computer and not in person and then when there done typing what they had to say, they get self-concience. They're not lieing but maybe hes shy. Maybe shy to face you knowing that you know the truth. Just keep on trying to talk to him.


I hope I helped!


-Speakfreely

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ok so i live in connceticut which is like this little kinda rich place in the us and i go to a really preppy school wereanytrhing that doesn't fit into the hollister look is emo. now im a guy so ofcourse im gonna get alot more crap about the whole emo look or whatevr but i dont think i shou8ld change for people i mean theres only like five kids out of the whole school that would fit into the punk skater look counting me and i hate being called gay or fag because i wear like skinny jeans and died my hair burguny. What do you think i should do about it. any advice helps =)

Oh jeez, i personally think that your style is hot.Aha. I mean who cares if your one of them or not. They can go .. im not even going to start. But yeah, have your own style. Dont try to be like anyone else, personally i think thats boring. If everyone wore hollister , dude, this would be one boring world. I wear hollister and all different kinds of clothing. And, yeah the thing at my school is all about hollister and a&f.Do your own thing. Its your clothes. Its your style. Not theirs. (:

I hope I helped!

-Speakfreely

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My eyes have twitched before randomly, but never for a long period of time. For three days now, my eyes have been twitching sporadically. Is this something to be concerned about or will it eventually just go away?

I have been stressed by school lately, and just began wearing contacts. But I don't think contacts have anything to do with it.

It always happens to me, and yeah now that i aspecially started school, non stop man... non stop. Its the muscle in the eye, and i guess when you get stressed it does that. Just relax, or should i say "chilax". Maybe its a sign that you need to take a break and rest.

I hope I helped!

-Speakfreely

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okay!! well right now im at home its 8:24 at night
IM SO HUNGRy!!! well i exersice alot and im trying to lose wieght but i get so hungry i dont wanna go eat anything right now im so in the mood for chocalate but iduno somone help me quick im starving
what do i do?/
what should i eat?
thannks
btw
i heard its bad to eat at night
thats why i told u the time!!

I KNOW HOW BAD YOU MIGHT WANT CHOCOLATE BUT REMEMBER, ITS FOR YOUR OWN GOOD. DONT EAT IT! Im probably late, but, just for future refrence. Just eat an apple, yes it is bad to eat at night, BUT eat something healthy and small. When i mean small, dont get something that your going to get stuffed by and go to sleep with a full stomach. nope, wont help with losing weight.

i hope i helped!

-Speakfreely

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okay me and my friends were playing truth or dare i dare my friend to kiss my guy friend and they did but everything was going good but i had to kiss this guy named james, he always flirt with me and stuff and my friends thinks he likes me and we were good friends too and we kissed and after that dont talk to eachother anymore after the kiss what do you think whats happening? we just look at eachother when we see eachother

Hes probably taking all this seriously, since he likes you. Just go and talk to him and dont even mention it or it might make him uncomfortable. Just play everything cool like nothing happened. But then again, nothing did.. it was only a game. he'll soon find that out after you guys talk for a while and put everything back to normal.


I hope I helped!

-Speakfreely

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Well i have a problem im to nice i guess like when someone calls me a slut i get upset easily if someones says im ugly or calls me a bitch or anything i get upset and i cant have a fight with someone cause im too scared im 15/f by the way and when i see someone upset i get upset when i see someone ina fight i cry when someone tells me off i cant stand up to myself and i just start crying i need help :( please any advice that i can become a little bit tougher =[
Anything will do ?

xoxo
Thanks

heres the best advice wel,, maybe not the best but it will work; just dont care about what other people say about you. If you show that you dont care, they'll see that it has no affect on you. Just be confident . And dont believe anything bad that people say about you. Just be confident and ignore. (:

i hope i helped!

-speakfreely

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Okay,


Im a girl & i am 13 years old. I really really like this guy. Im head over heals for him, and i feel so good when im around him. heres the problem: he's taken. I know i need to just wait my time, but I feel that if i wait any longer i will BURST! School starts in one week...and him & his gf both go to my school. I would just avoid him, but i go to a private school with only 10 kids in my class. I like him so much, but i know better than to tell him i like him when he is dating a differnt girl....but when hes with her & im there i pretty much dont exsist. please help me. :(

-heartbroken

All i can say is that you have to let go of him. Move on. Its hard to hear, i know but he has a gf. Just wait until they brake up or somehting. Just dont wait there and dream about it, hes taken. It happened to me before too. I know exactly how you feel ):

I hope I helped!

-Speakfreely

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i have this huge pimple right in the middle of my forehead and i've been trying everything to make it go away and nothing seems to be working. so my question is How can i get rid of this pimple quick. and not only that, i made the mistake of picking at it and now its even bigger. i need adivce quick

thank you

Aha it so funny because I JUUSSTT HAD THAT PROBLEM. aha. well first thing is ; DONT PICK IT. It gets worse, like you said. i learned taht the hard way too.. But Just use some acne cream like; ProActive. Or just wash your face every morning and night, and with that use a face wash. DO NOT TOUCH YOUR FACE. That would be baddd. Never touch your face. Also, make sure you have your bangs out from your face too. Thats how most acne is caused. Tie your hair up. :)

I hope I helped!

-speakfreely

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okay so my dad is like in looove with his new wife. we just bought a boat and he told me that it was for him and his wife to spend time together. i mean all they do is spend time together. never with me and my brother.and she doesn't really stay home when it is time to like clean or work. and then again today we saw a little tiny boat and he said that, that was what we were going to get then i was like then we all couldn't go on and he was like it would only be me and my wife. i am just sick of it and it bothers me because before her i was daddys little girl. i miss that. what should i do.

sorry its soo long and weird.

aw. just tell him. i know it might be hard too, but if you want something to change, tell him. He'll so how you fell, and he'll put it in concideration.

Just take time and be patient beofre anything else happens.

I hope I helped!

-Speakfreely

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I'm a 13 year old female. There's this guy I like A LOT, it's different from the other guys too. I was planning on kissing him tomorrow night at the movies, but now I'm having second thoughts, because I was on the phone today earlier and we were talking but his friends were at his house, which whom I can't stand, and vice versa. So they kept grabbing the phone and hanging up. I quit trying to call back but then I tried one last time, and then he answer, not his friends. And we talked for like 30 minutes, because he told me he was supposed to be meeting a girl B which I have no problem with but more girls too. And I was like oh, then he was like who are you going with and I said my friend A which he can't stand, and he said not A.C right. I was like nope wrong it's her. And he was like then don't bother trying to find me, and I'm not calling you when I get there. I was like you are so inconsiderate and mean. And he said how, I said because your inviting all your little girlfriends, and I can't bring my one best friend? You don't even care about anyone else's feelings! And I don't know but he went to go do something, and I heard one of his friends say I don't want you to talk to her. So I decided I wouldn't call back. But tomorrow night what should I do? Should I act like none of it happened and kiss him, or just not watch the movie with him at all and keep ignoring him? Please help, sorry if it was long.

If he cant except your friends then hes not even worth it. He sounds like a Big jerk to me. I think you should ignore him. But did he stick up for you when his friends kept hanging up?

Dont kiss him becuase he'll think that what he said was ohkay and you didnt mean what you said. You got to show that that had an effect on you.

I hope I helped!

-Speakfreely

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can you wear pads while you go swimming

you ccannn but it wouldnt be such a bright idea. The pad will get start to rip off in the water and it would be noticable. Trust me, DONT.

Use a tampon.
Now thats a good idea.

I hope I helped!

-Speakfreely

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ok well i have these strech mark looking thinkgs on my breasts and i am imbarressed about them. i am imbarressed that when a guy see's them he would think that there weird or gross. what should i do?

I am pretty sure that there is cream at your local store for that. I heard of a cream called "TriLASTIN-SR cream" and i've heard alot about it. It's known to be a fast clearing stretch cream.

If you cant find that cream just use a cream for pregnancy, its the same thing and im pretty sure it will work.


I hope I helped!
(:

-Speakfreely

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how can i lose my last five pounds??? any ideas??? ive already lost 10

easy. just go on with the diet you had.


or try a more strict diet

i Hope I helped!(:

-Speakfreely

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Okay.I'm really stuck guys.I'm so mad and sad and frustrated with everything.There's this guy that I like.Let's call him Clayton.And Clayton is such a sweetheart and I can tell him anything and I know he'll listen.But me and him like..I don't know..he just doesn't like to make conversation at all.Unless I bring something up.And it usually goes like this:
Me: ...
Clayton: ?
Me: Oh nothing
Clayton: say it
Me: no
Clayton: why
Me: because
Clayton: just say ittt
And it goes on and on.And usually I only do that so he talks.Lol.Because otherwise, I really don't know what to talk about myself.And he doesn't like to open up to me..and it makes me mad.What do I do?

Say "hey whats up" or whatever and then he'll answer and probably ask you and then it goes on fromt there. Talk about your day. What usually works for me is that i be just plain random, and it works!! Hey, at least it starts a conversation!

I Hope I helped!(;

-Speakfreely

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there are two songs that i cant think of the name of

1. it goes like "i like girls that wear abercrombie and fitch..."

2. the other one goes like "they paved paradise put up a parking lot"

names && artists please

THANX =)

ahh i love the first song! Its my favorite BUt i don tknow the 2nd one.

The first on eis "Summer Girls" By LFO.

I Hope I helped!(:

-Speakfreely

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i have pretty clear skin but what can i do about scars? i sort of have a lot of acne scars on my forehead and i was wondering if theyre going to fade or if there is anything i can do about them. i am 14/f if that helps.

I had the same problem. Except on the chin area.

I used ProActive and let me tell you, IT WORKED! Its very affordable and not too expensive. It will start showing differences in about 2 weeks! Just get the acne scar cream.

IT WORKS! You'll be happy with the results!

I Hope I helped!
(;

-Speakfreely

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