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Um, I like having sex, I'm not going to lie. But the last time I did, the guy I did it with kind of... made me have anal sex with him. And I tried to say it hurt but he didn't stop. I said it loud but when I told him afterwards, he said he didn't hear me. I cried afterwards b/c it hurt so bad. Is it my fault? I didn't want to do it... I feel gross. What do you think?

xoxo Alyssa*

it isn't ur fault at all hun, you just need to shifted around or something and say that you were hurting, or did something to get his attention

My friend, lets call her Sarah, is completely obsessed with her ex boyfriend. Ive been trying to tell her forever to try and get over him! Hes been such a jerk to her, and he broke up with her to immpress one of his friends. How low is that? How can i get it through her head that she can do better, and stop wasting her time dwelling on the past?

you have to sit her down and have a little chat with her or you can find another guy how she might like and have her talk with him and she will get over him, or just let there be more time for her to think things through, it will take awhile for her to get over him

people have been saying me and two bestfriends look so much alike as though we're triplets. lol but we're not the only ones, i was wondering why do bestfriends always look like one another? dressing-wise too. its natural they wanna look like each other rite?

yes it is, b/c i have a bestfriend that we've known so much of each other we even finish eachother sentences and its kinda kreppy but in the end we laugh about it, and we even waer the same cloths on the same day and havw the same hair do, its really funny, but its perfectly normal for that to happen

i have a classmate who has terrible body odour and we duno how to tell her that she really needs a deodrant or perfume! how can i tell her that shes BO, without hurting her feelings?

well you could just just say hey_____ could you come here for a minet and bring her some where were u can talk privatly and then tell her nicely and tell her ur not trying to hurt her feelings and then she won't be hurt

my form teacher is utterly shameful, she doesnt even know our names by heart after 8months being our form teacher. she calls us "eh, girl. eh you. eh come here." grr how do u deal with teachers like this?? to me its rather disrespectful on her part not even knowing her own class students' names. -rei

well there are alot of teachers like that but try not to let it get on ur nevers or just try and help remind her or set up a seating chair w/ all of your clases names on it

hey, i have this friend who really likes me but i don't want to tell him that i don't like him and hurt his feelings b/c i don't like hurting someones feelings, how can i break it to him???

this is what you should do, you should tell him that you don't like him in a note or something, or you can ask one of your friends to but if he askes y just tell him y you don't like him, thats if you have a reason

I am havin soo sooo many problems! I need so much help!

1. My dad is sexually horassin me and Im affraid to tell my mom bc she will get a divorce and well have no money!!

2. I am havin so many problems with movin I dont want to and we relocate like 5 times a year and none or our family is in the military!!

3. My mom is a major bitch!!!!

4. My hole family and supposed to be friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wanna kill my self but Im afraid Ill go to heell stupid huh

Plz plz plz help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

okay, this is how most familys are well not there father sexualy abusing you, you have to go talk to a counciler or something about this, they are the only people you can trust right about now, you need to go to someone to get help, you need to get out of your house and live with one of your relivies or something, the reason i know this is b/c i was in the same situation as you were and now i have a better life and i live with my grandma, trust me go talk to someone, oh and don't kill yourself its not worth it

Do women find a guy with a hairy chest attractive? I'm 24, hairy, but not out of control hairy. I'm not overtly self-conscious, but I get the feeling that body hair is considered unattractive. ???
Don't hold back. I want real answers. Hopefully, from real women. Thanks.

well there are some women that really love it (a.k.a. austin powers poeple......haha) then there are other women who love no hair at all but if your hair is not out of control, i'd think it'll look sexy ;)

Sorry I am thinknig about my life a lot today .. and well my bestest friend i love her to death but i see on like peoples profiles that omg teresa your my bestest friend and i feel like that i'm off duty of being her friend and i always tell her that and she assures me that no youre my bestest bestest bestest friend ever but then i feel like she is repalcing me with everyone else and she is always talknig about her other friends and stuff but sometimes she is prefectly fine like dana omg your like my bestest bestest friend ever but ever since she broke up with her boyfriend now like every guy is her friend and i feel like I'm the old friend getting thrown out .. somehow i don't believe her when she says i'm the most important person in her life ... like we never gety in fights so i dunno if she would cry over me i fel like testing her .. helpppp

this feeling is perfectly normal, alot of times people feel like this b/c ur so use to be around those people all the time, you just have to get use to it , it will feel better after awhile but like if there doing things w/ other friends you should ask them if you can join in w/ them and have fun

I gave up on love awhile ago..even though I don't want to, it just happened. Most of the guys I've dated were jerks. I don't trust guys and I resent all of my ex's and I can't help it. I haven't met a single guy in my school or area that was decent and I'm really starting to hate men. I'm not going to like females but I don't understand why men are such jerks. Someone help?

okay thats how men are, they will always be jerks, so for now i think you should lay low for awhile and stay single as long as you can and then when you find Mr. right you can go out with him and then if it dosn't work out just dump him first b4 he can hurt you

My friend has been married for 3 years. She and her husband are expecting their first child in December. (It's a boy.) They are trying to pick a name. Her husband really likes the name Jonathan, but he doesn't know that she has an ex-boyfriend named Jonathan. Do you think she should tell him about her ex or just go ahead and name the baby Jonathan anyway?

i think she should do as they please and she can tell him if she feels the need to but if she dosen't she dosen't have to and she can have her son named johnathan

okie so heres my question
my brothers girlfriend allie
is gonna be 18 on sept 30
and me and her are like bestfriends
and in our school like everyone decorates
lockers when u turn 16 and 18 and i want
to do hers as a surprise but im not sure
how to decorate it and i need some ideas
on what to do so if yas could help id really
like it

heres a thought, if you have any pictures of you two together you could put them on a big pecie of paper and make a colage of you guys haveing fun but if you don't have any pics of u to find out what she likes and then put everything she likes on it and write alittle sometihng on it

the matter of why i can't ask any of them out is really private, and would probably get my s/o in trouble, and i would never want to do anything to hurt him in a million years. its really embarassing, no he never did anything to hurt me, i just would prefer if my whole highschool didn't know about this past love. so now what? if i can't tell them why, are they just gonna think i'm being bogas?

no they won't, just say something like, hey i really aprecheated you have some consern about me but i just don't want to get involed with a relationship right about now, and its not you who is makeing me make this desison, i just need so time to settle things out, or something like that, i hope it helps and i'm srry i'm reponding this late

I really like this guy,

but he likes my friend... i told him like 100 times i liked him but he dont care.. he just keeps on focusing on my friend you see..

he wont even spend time with me like hang out and get 2 know each other more.. than how he started liking my friend in the first place.. what do i do! i like him so much! i cant stop liking him or thinking about him

why don't you try talking to ur friend and tell her that u like him and you could say if your really my friend you will say something for him to be off of her

I'm going to be a freshman this year, and last year i fell in love with a guy who isn't going to my highschool, but i won't go into details about that. anyway, i don't want a bf this year at all like ever ever ever, but like i don't want guys to think i'm mean or anything, and i don't want to hurt anyones feelings. can i just say no with out guys getting all pi$$ed off?

just tell then your situation and why you don't want to date anyone or you can tell them maybe if you wait i will give you a desision later

ok, well i just told this guy that i don't want to date him for a while cuz i want to be alone, and he kinda took it the wrong way and i don't know what to do about it, cuz he acts like he doesn't even want to be my friend anymore, and then the guy who i really want to be with, well i dunno if he likes me or not, it really sucks how i feel!! what should i do? please help me!

OKay this is what you should do, you should confront the guy you said you wanted to be alone foe awhile and try to explain what you ment by what you said, now you should just go up to the other guy and strike up a conversation and then when you really know get to know him you could ask him or the way alot of people would do it is by a note those usaly always work, and don't beat your self up about it, b/c in the long run it will hurt you

hey um, ok well i need some help on what to ask you in this question cuz i dunno what to ask?

ummmm.lets see you could have been OMG i need a guy or something like that....lol

Ok i dont no what to do i have this guy friend that has been my friend for over 2 years and i really like him alot more then just a friend but i no if i ever told him i like dhim then just a friend he would freak out and i dunno what he would do but i still want our friendship to be there and i feel if i tell him that i like him he wont talk to me or something

if he truley ur friend you can tell him anything and maybe he would say that he likes u more than a friend all you have to do is talk to him about it

okay well i really like this guy lets call him joe, well everytime i look at joe i catch him looking at me and he blushes and his whole face turns red it is really cute anyway well my friend said she would ask him if he was going to the dance and if he would go with me [we are having a dance] i also found out he likes me too. so she asked him and he said no to both questions. what does that mean??

maybe you should ask him urself, maybe he dosen't want anyones eles to know

Ok.. I'm 18/f and my b/f of 2 and a half years moved to Georgia 5 weeks ago. He said he was doing it to ''grow up'' and to make sure his feelings for me were real. Well, he tells me he still loves me and wants to be with me, but when I try to get him to come back home..he won't. Do you think it's cause he is testing me, or because he wants me to leave him alone? Thanks!!

i think he's trying to see if he can with stand being with out you for awhile but once he returns he will never leave your side and always be there for you and that my friend is what he is trying to do

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