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Q: hey im 14/m and im stumped. i cant thing of sweet things to say to my gf i love her to death and she thinks im the sweetest thing in the world but i like went stupid and cant think of anything else and its really bugging me can someone tell me some things so say i really need it to help me get going again. ill really appreciate it thx everyone.

so im in an amazing relationship, and something that my boyfriend does, is even if i've been with him at his house all day, right when i go to get into bed and no matter how late it is he'll call my cell phone, just to say i love you. thats it. and when we lay in his bed, he'll just stare at me and just tell me he loves looking at me, and say beautiful, never HOTT...girls hate it..i agree with the last person. not that gifts are all that important, but every now and then to be spontaneous get her a rose or some cute little card or something as simple as a letter. girls love it when your real and straight forward all the time. something really cute would be to take her outside and just lay on a blanket and look at the stars. any girl would like that. i hope i gave u some good advice. good luck!!
**kt.

Q: alright heres the deal.. i like my best friend.. and he still likes me even though he has a girlfriend.. he cheated on her 3 time and he always says "i love you and if we were going out i woudln't cheat on you" and stuff and i don't know if i shoudl still like him or if i shoudl move on.. he's also always rubbing it in that he's going out with this chick to make me jealous.. and i don't get jealous..

additionally, when i like someone other than him.. he gets completly jealous and starts flipping on me and telling me that i'm an idiot because the guy is gay.. when first off he doesn't even know him.. i told him plently of times that if he woudln't be with his girlfriend i woudl be with him.. but he continues to go out with her.. and i feel really bad

should i get over him or whatnot? i will rate a 5 for any thought

alright....so here we go girl.
this is what i think, you like this guy, but he obviously is with this other chick...and if he really likes you then he wouldnt be with her. he would be with you, i had this almost identical problem a few weeks back so i can totally relate to you!! i know its probably not what you would want to hear, but i think you should try to move on, and if you find any other guy who you are attracted to and is sweet to you then go for it!! dont let him...who is already in another relationship stop you! it seems to me that this guy is kinda using you for a little fun. i wish you the best of luck with this and i hope you take my advice, cuz the last thing this world needs is another broken heart girl, because of some useless guy!

Q: I was thinking about getting an iPOD nano. But, I have one question. If I do get one, do I have to use iTunes? Can I use Windows Media Player, or Limewire?

hey! ok...so i have an ipod shuffle and i use limewire to get all my music. it works great! u just need to download the itunes onto your computer and then transfer all your songs into the playlists on your itunes its real easy! just read the directions that come with it. u dont need to buy the music everytime! have fun with that! : )

Q: me and this guy went out for like 2 weeks, right. so anyways we did a lot of bad stuff but of course hes in 11th grade and im in 7th. i cry ever morning because i think of what we did. he dumped me the next day after we did it. and told me that he was using me to get down my pants. please help me on what i should do! you are like the only girl i can trust, and plus you are so pretty. i love you and thanks! please!

well hunny, don't worry it'll all be ok! some people make decsions in their lives that they are going to regret, and this is one of yours. Now when you date a guy i think you should try to look for someone who is more of your age and try to get to know them and be with them for more then 2 weeks, because then you will really know the person well if you want to become more serious and intimate with them. well goodluck sweetie, and keep your head up high! everything will be alright!

Q: um what was w. the yelling at my question...? i didn't mean to offend u or nething but all i did was ask for help about this friend who i've known sence 7th grade and just changed when she met this boyfriend like 2 weeks ago and totally changed because of him. all i wanted was some advice but uh....you kind of freaked out.....so uh......yeah.....maybe you got the wrong message. so what should i do about it?

im sry, well just talk to her about it, sry for going off on you, i thought you were someone else.....um yeah well good luck! just tell her how you feel and what is going on

Q: well i am 8 years old and i have like huge tits like huge and i hate them wht can i do about them

sorry to hear that....

Q: Hey KT, I have the friend and she rocks and is the best ever and is totally the koolest person on the face of this earth and she gives the best advice ever!!!!!!! ooh wait.....I think it's you!!!!!!!!!!! luv ya Katie!!!!

omg! you know what i think you should do!?! you should buy her something really really kool and expensive! then give it to her! and freak out and stuff, lol haha love you too brittany!

Q: Hey KT, ok there's this guy we had a little thing going on we were taking things slow and it was all going great, then everything just fell apart and it was like crap!!! and he's perfect and he's everything I've ever wanted and everything that I ever could want, but you see my main problem is that I can tell you and other peeps that but I can't tell him that so he will know how I really feel and hopfully if he knows that then everything will be ok again, what should I do? how can I get the balls to tell him how I feel lol? he really is a great guy and I know that if I tell him he'll def. understand, alot of peeps have been saying just talk to him just talk to him but you see that's my prob I can't talk to him!!! what do i do!!! please help
thanks!!!

well ok, i know that you "can't" talk to him, but w/e the hell you can't! YES YOU CAN! just be like, ok w/e the situation can't get any worse then it already is, cuz i feel like crap now too! so just stand up and be like ok listen dude, i like you alot, and i don't know what happened all of a sudden one you day you just totally dropped me like a rock! believe me! I KNOW HOW IT FEELS! IT HAPPENED TO ME TOO! i just talked to him, and now we're friends, i still love him to death, and everything, but just talk to him, i guarantee that everthing will work out after you talk to him, oh ill call ya later hun! byebyez!

Q: hi kt, i have a prob. i am friends with this girl and have been for a looooong time, but she has recently become friends with this other group of people who are complete assholes. She is totally changing on me over the summer and is acting like a asswhole too! ive talked to her about it and she said that if i didn't like the new "her" then we should stop being friends. now i am not friends with her nemore thank god, but what do you do if one of your friends change for the worst? how do you prevent this?

well hum.....i don't know how to help you on this one, maybe YOU are the one who changed, and you cant go blaming your "friend" for things that YOU probably did! so next time think before you ask a dumbass question again!! your the one who changed, i know who you are now, thanks for the hints!

Q: hey kt i was just wondering how you are friends with britany? i mean no effence to her or nething but she really needs to act her age, how do u put up with that? i once had a friend like her but she pissed me off too much and now we aren't friends, and i hate people like that they really need to get a life. so how do you put up with immature people?

ok well actually i don't know how you have any friends at all, because if you have the balls to ask me this question then you must not act your age either, here take some of my advice and get a freakin life, and stay out of mine and brittanys cuz we, unlike you, are good people who have fun, and don't waste all of our time making other peoples lives crappy! hope i helped asshole!

Q: yeah im friends with this person, but my parents will NOT EVER let me friends with them because they consider them a bad influence on me and are rude. what should i do about this?

well ok, you should talk to your parents and ask them if they can just have a chance to prove to your parents that they are a good person, and talk to your friend about it too, and try to set something up, good luck!!

Q: i dont kno what to wear on the 1st day of school
i am a very sporty gurl and i dont like to wear that much gurly gurly stuff but i wanna like a sport sexy look for the 1st day and i dont kno what to do with my hair either . i have madd curly hair but i can strightin it but it might be frizzy
i am have with brown hair with blonde hightlights . . ((i have a nice ass ppl say))
what should i wear and what to do with my hair helppp me please !!!

ok well this is what i would do! wear a cute pair of like jeans that are low....and then wear like some kinda of a sport shirt that like shows your stomach a little bit, so you still show your sporty without being like all baggy and stuff, and wear your hair up in like a messy bun, you can straighten it and i have mad curly hair too, and i use the conair straightiner thing, it works real good! and the frizz serim stuff, yea that too! well good luck!! your gonna look hott!! (with your nice ass too): )
~kt~

Q: hey kt i have this friend yeah she is kind of a reall good friend to me like a sis but she does some reall stuped stuff like try to help people with there probles when she cant even help her self with her own kt will u help me i need to know what to do

thankx
jkjk love u sis

i think you should fuck off you gay mofo!!! haha and yes i still like him ok!!!! jesusness!! and no i can't help you cuz according to you i have my own problems to deal with......!!!!so just get a freakin life and suck some black cock!!!
~kt~
ps.....JK!!

Q: hi kt, im having some trouble, my friend is a little bit of a...how to say it...slut, and she has the reputation for it too. No effence to her or anything, but she is kind of blonde, and some people have been bothering her and making fun of her. I feel bad for her, but she keeps doing stupid stuff and acting like a slut which makes her get harassed. Im getting annoyed at her myself, but i dont want to leave her. What should i do about this?

well um....i think you should talk to her about it, just tell her how you feel about the way she is acting,(and i think this year you might be surprised) but she might just change because of what you said about it, and to be honest there is probably something that bothers the hell out of her about you too! so maybe you can both open up a little bit!
~kt~

Q: is it ok to be friends with somebody if none of your other friends agree with it? and what if your friends were right about this person being a bitch, but you haven't figured that out yet, is it still ok to be friends with that person?

of course it is, i mean if you are friends with her, than thats fine! i have some friends who don't like each other too, but i don't let that get in the way of the friendship that i have with them, you shouldn't let other people stand in the way of the relationship that you want to have!! because if it is your friend then your frineds should respect that, and keep what they think about the other person to themselves, around you! hope i helped!!!
~kt~

Q: can i fuck you up the butt?

well actually i don't think thats such a good idea...um....but maybe some other time! good luck!

Q: I have this friend that i really can't trust, she does things that are completely terrible and she's changed so much since i first met her, and it hasn't been a good change. She's a bitch to all my friends b/c she doesn't like them, and it doesn't matter that they are my friends. I don't know what to do. Can you give me any advice?

Well what i think you should do is talk to your friend, face to face, not online or on the phone or w/e just meet her somewhere and talk to her, tell her how you feel about it, and how much you would like her to just be the way she used to be, if you keep your feelings hid...then how will she ever know how you truly feel? she won't so just make a date to talk to her about this and then just....tell her everything, what more is there to lose? hope i helped good luck hun!

Q: My friends tell me I am really flirtacious and I guess its not bad thing, is it? I feel like i focus on them a lot, but definetly i have always put chicks before di-- ha ha inapropiate ill just say guys. Well the thing is I realised I need to forget Alex because it can't happen. I just wanna have a really good relationship with a guy. For once I want something that can last, and whenever we see each other we wave or give a hug and I can put notes in his locker. I jsut want something like that but since I am flirty I don't wanna seem desperate.. what do i do? (I hope this makes sense)

well i think that what you should do is be real flirty still, its who you are! and then when you like a guy go out with him, experiment a lil bit, and see who you can and cannot be with in a relationship and get what you want out of it,....good luck hun!

Q: There is this guy that i had met and the next day he took my virginity and then 2 days later he came back for more. I didnt really know him and we starting freaking out hat i might've been preg.But i am not and like ever since he has been scared to talk to me. I dont care that he doesnt talk to me but like doing what i did with him ruined my life. I got kicked out of my moms house and like alot of stuff happened. I dont talk to him because i am not important to him or whatever. I feel so used and gross. I wish this feeling can leave me but it wont. I need to feel clean ,any advice?

well i think you need to try and get ahold of this guy, and knock some sense into his head, and yeah you shouldn't have just had sex with him the day after you met him...but if it is ruining your life kinda, then you learned a very valuble lesson, and you can share your mistake with your friends and ppl you know so then maybe you will save them from doing the same thing....but so times people make mistakes, its ok!

Q: okay i have 3 anyoing little cuzes who are always on my neves and they won't go away what can i do to prevent them form going wild while they are around me??

well lets see hit them! and then throw them down your stairs and then um......hit them some more! lol luv ya mona!

bio

so im katie, my friends call me kate or kt uhm i dance alot, im loud and outgoing always on the go. im 5'3" and i have black hair underneath and red hair on top....its fun to be different and i hate being with the "in" crowd...they make me mad. im always drivin around in my ford aspire. which is real fun!! ask me whatever u'd like...i'd love to help u all!