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how much does sleeping on a satin pillow help your hair? (link)
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I think it varies a little depending on the type of hair but generally it helps prevent knots quite a bit.
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What are long term goals?
Short term goals?
about low long by years or months are they?
And what are educational or career goals?
Can you give me some examples? And aren't those three goals can be like the same thing cuz an educational goal could be being a doctor and that can be long term?? (link)
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Short-term goals are goals a person has for a upcoming time in the future - usually within a week or two.
Long-term goals are longer obviously and their dates may be years in the future.
Educational goals are things like keeping on track to graduate within a certain number of years or maintaining a certain GPA.
Career goals are pretty much what they sound like - goals for a job like getting all work done so you don't have to work overtime.
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Is there any way to change your name on facebook? How do i do that? (link)
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Yup, go to 'my account' and it's the first thing that shows up under the 'settings' tab.
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what would be some things you would do to make america better? like give homeless people food and shelter,teaching about God should be aloud in public schools, etc. list as many as you can please! i will rate you. thank you soooo much! (link)
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Better public transportation, more awareness about mental health, more work toward environmentally friendly cars, work into alternative energy, affordable housing for the poor, more social workers to help the poor/homeless get back on their feet (find a job, home etc), optional religions of the world class in schools, teaching cultures/more geography in social studies classes.
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if you could build yourself the perfect place to live.. the perfect house or mansion. what would you put in it? what kinds of things would you do to make it different from other houses..if you had all the money in the world. ex: one floor is made out of trampoline canvas. things like that. be creative! im trying to get ideas for a college project im working on. thannkks! :] (link)
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I'd totally have rooms that were themed based on favorite books - some like a fantasy world, others like another time before the present, one would probably be made like a Hogwarts common room, one would be part of England in the tales of King Arthur...etc. (If I had the science or magic ability, I'd have the rooms take you to places).
I'd also have dance studio with curtains that could cover the mirrors to turn it into a small theatre.
The house would have, instead of stone or brick, mosaic tiles in iridescent colors so that they'd reflect the color of whatever was in front of them.
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my computer crashed so i needed to wipe it out and my itunes got deleted....once i download itunes back on it...how can i get all my songs from my ipod back on the itunes.
thanks in advance (link)
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I got this from the technology center at my high school (which is a laptop based school) so I'd hope they know what they're talking about!
This is a link to an application that copies music from your iPod to your computer. Please read the READ ME file as it has good directions on how to do this.
http://www.versiontracker.com/dyn/moreinfo/macosx/28437
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Alright, I DON'T want to know how to hack. I just want to know how it is possible. Like, this guy hacked into my myspace but he wouldn't tell me how. Is it just guessing? Or is there some website? [DO NOT GIVE ME THE WEBSITE] Just tell me if he's a freak or really smart or what. (link)
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No, it's not "just guessing." I'm with you, I don't want to know how to hack, but I've got a pretty good idea of how it's possible.
The hacker has to be really familiar with your computer's system and have SOME knowledge of you (enough to be able to figure out what you might use as a password). A lot of information can be found online - way scarier than we think the internet is. Once the hacker can breach the firewalls and other security systems that protect your computer, then it's up to some guesswork about passwords or where you may have saved things...whatever they want.
Myspace hacking is a little different though. It's called phishing and that's (from what I can tell) more about password guessing. Obviously you know that all the log-in is is your email address and password. So, if someone has your email and knows you well enough to take a stab at a password...then you get phished. (hm...having written that, I bet you knew the myspace phish bit. Sorry about that...)
Anyway, no, he's not a freak - I have friends who CAN hack, but don't. It just means he's really good with technology and knows various computer systems and securities well.
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im going to be a freshman next year. actually school starts in about two weeks but whatever. and im going to a new school and theres a ton of people at my school.
and in middle school i had 2 boyfriends and a lot of friends.
and next year im going to the high school my middle school feeds into so its not like im moving anywhere.
but im worried since im going to a huge school with so many people that im not gonna get a boyfriend or i might loose my friends right now.
am i worrying too much? (link)
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High school is a roller coaster. Been there, done that and graduated.
I wouldn't worry about getting a boyfriend right off - it'll happen in time. Plus, high school has a good deal more homework and expectations than middle school (though I'm sure you've heard that a million times by now) and romance right off isn't necessarily the best thing. If it happens and you want it, take it, but don't worry about looking too hard. There are guys all over in high school and you've got four years.
As for your friends - maybe you're right to be worried, maybe you're wrong. Unfortunately, only time will really tell you. BUT, here's my advice: if they want to go, let them. If you all stay together as a group, be open to others joining you. Even if you're at a big school, exclusive groups are pretty annoying. Reach out to people who AREN'T coming from your middle school - imagine how they'll feel coming in not knowing ANYONE.
Even if you do lose some of your friends, high school has a lot of people that you can be friends with instead. Sounds painful, but it's true.
Good luck!
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how do you hide the times on your mini feed? (link)
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Go to 'privacy' at the top of the page and click on the 'news feed and mini feed' link. There's a check box at the bottom that you can check or uncheck to hide/show the times.
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Ever since my computer was fixed, on some websites, some text would be too small to read and I'd have to copy it and paste it somewhere else to read it! Is there any way I can fix this? (I have AOL 9.0 optimized SE ((security edition)) + dialup....) (link)
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I'm not sure what web browser you're using, but I think they're all pretty similar. My guess is that you don't have a preference set for the size and type of font that is displayed on webpages. Find the 'preferences' option (usually by clicking the name of the application or right clicking on it) and then find the 'fonts and colors' options and pick a font, size and color. Most web pages will be in the font, color and size you pick - some won't. Hopefully that will make life a little easier, but I'm not 100% sure if that's the problem or solution to what's happening.
If that doesn't work or you can find the options to do it, I'd try asking a friend who works with the web a lot doing graphics and website design - they usually have a good idea of what's wrong.
If neither of those two options work, then I'm at a loss for what to do! Apologies if neither option works, but hopefully one will!
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Omg..I cannot stand it when people use your instead or you're or their instead of there or they're.
OH MY GOSH. Example : Your so stupid. & Their retartarded. & Their you are! & You're shirt. And...would you look at that...another error! : Are princess. -_- (meant to be "OUR princess")
GRR. This happens a lot to me. Like I see people doing it over and over and over again. It annoys the hell out of me! Would it be too rude to correct them? They should know by now, right!?
Ugh.
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It's probably not the nicest thing to do...but someone's got to correct them before they try to turn in academic papers with basic verb tense errors all over!
It drives me nuts too and I correct people - writing, speaking, doesn't matter, I'll correct them.
If they get mad at you, tell them, "sorry, but if you don't use the right tense in your writing, you'll look like an idiot who never learned basic grammar." Or something like that.
As long as you're fairly polite about your corrections, DO IT!
^.^
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in lyrical we did a turn/jump that i lovee, i just don't know what it's called. i'll try to explain it:
well you like do a chine(sp?) turn then do a leap and turn at the same time when your front leg is extended and your back leg is in an attitude.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=bClGjtq7P-Y
travis does it in the video at 21 seconds if that helps.
soo what's it called? (link)
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I've been taught those are coupé-jeté turns. I wish I could spell dance terms..."coo-pey"
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sorry if this gets long, but i appreciate anyone who anwsers.
in the last two days i've lost over like seriously 5 friends. one of which imed me and told me about 5 people who think im a slut! one of which i like. but just met that day. because i typed that i cut myself.
im crying nonstop all the time, i hate who i am. ive been having suicide thoughts nonstop. im emotionally dead basically, and im hurting myself physically. i cant ask anyone for help, ill just scare them away /=
i used to be like this on and off, usually on, since 5th grade, i dont want pain anymore. i told everyone not to talk to me, im going to delete my myspace account.
one girl imed me telling me i have to give up a friendship for a while because of this kids girlfriend needing help, when i need it just as much. i feel like im a sob story. but im dead serious. i need help from anyone! (link)
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Oye, I've been where you are and I know it sucks. Hopefully what I say won't sound mean or offensive and I'm sorry if it does. I do know that telling you to "get over it" isn't what you need to hear. Anyway, here goes.
I'm betting you know this, but it's hard for people to help when you push them away by telling them not to talk to you. However, it should also be a clue that something is wrong and maybe they should be concerned. Sadly, there's not much you or I can do about them.
I can tell you that physical injury is addictive and it's a nasty habit to break (been there, done that) but I also know that it's a way to feel SOMETHING. Try this: write. Don't try to write a story or poem, just write whatever comes to mind. Don't edit it, don't worry about grammar, punctuation or anything like that. Just write whatever comes, regardless of how dark or hateful or pathetic it sounds. Rant about your "friends" or parents if you want. No one ever has to read it.
The best thing you can do about the low self-esteem is find something that will make you feel good about yourself. I found that physical activity is a great way to deal with the "fat and ugly" feeling because you're working. Getting the motivation takes work, but trust me, you can do it. All you have to do is go for a 10 minute bike ride, or a walk around the block and get into a habit of it. It's not easy (so maybe "all you have to do" is the wrong phrase), but I've been where you are and it does help.
When you start to feel like this, willpower is hard to have and you do tend to spend money the second you get it, and you start isolating yourself and having no motivation.
I don't know if you have the chance or ability, go speak with a counselor and just tell then you feel miserable and talk. If you can't do that, try the writing thing.
If you really need someone to talk to, you can certainly send me a message in my inbox.
:-) Try your best to find one reason (at least) to smile each day. Everyone has something to give the world (even if it feels like you don't) so don't let it go.
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is it normal to gain up to 5 lbs. the week before your period starts? 14/f (link)
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Yeah, unfortunately it is. It's really just bloating which can be reduced pretty easily by avoiding certain foods, mostly anything with large quantities of salt and even sugar can cause problems. Your body will use the salt especially to retain fluids and cause you to gain weight and bloat. Drinking lots of water will help flush the salts/other things through your system and reduce the bloating somewhat.
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I need help. I am 16 year old, 5'8 female who weighs in at 365 pounds. That's right. THREE HUNDRED And Sixty-Five Pounds. Now please, this is serious so don't comment about how fat I am and all that other bull because believe me, I know already. So I need to lose weight (obviously) not only because it is extremely unhealthy but also because I let my weight run my life. I am sick of worrying about wether or not my gut is hanging out or if my shirt will cover it. I am sick of worrying about wether or not I will fit into a desk at school. This is not a joke people. READ WHAT I'M WRITING I SOUND LIKE A FREAK!!!! :( I need motivation. I am completely unmotivated. I hate being what I am but that isn't enough to make me want to change. I don't know what to do anymore. It's gotten to the point where I think I look gross all the time. And I do!
I look so disgusting I could vomit. And it's all because I am FAT. Personally I think I have a gorgeous face but you can't see it or who I really am because I'm in this fat suit. :( I've been big all my life but I can't go on like this or I'll be in my 30's and weigh 600 pounds. That isn't even a human being anymore...It's an animal. :( Any thoughts or advice to get me motivated or, anything. Please, I am desperate. (link)
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Ok, I wasn't motivated to deal with weight either, but what I did was my parents and I got a membership with the YMCA and did a personal training session, got charts to fill out and keep track of what we were doing and when. I go way more than my parents do, but it took me a while to get into it. Generally the rule is that you have to repeat it a certain number of times to make it habit (it's either 14 or 21, I don't remember).
There are two things that go hand-in-hand in terms of weight loss and shaping up and those (as you probably know) are physical activity and eating right.
I haven't got a clue about what you eat, but the general idea is this: minimal junk and fast food, fruit and veggies, snacks are okay as long as they're apples or dried fruit instead of chips and candy. 5 small meals a day are ideal and a work-out plan is probably a necessity.
Any gym will work, obviously, so I'd talk to your parents about at least getting you a membership so you can work with different weights as well as do stationary bike, treadmill and other cardio machines. Another good thing that will help burn calories and is good for working out is swimming, if you're comfortable with that. Laps are excellent.
Also talk to your doctor and a nutritionist about eating, what's good and not, how much to start with for activity, what you can do on days that you can't get to the gym and even what family and friends can do to gently help you if you start to slip backwards.
Best of luck!
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hey, i just read a question that asked how many calories are in a pound, and the answer was 3500.
if i ate a fruit that has 30 calories & worked out and burned 3530 calories, does that mean i'll have lost one pound? that's so cool!
also, i have an elliptical. what is the most calorie-burning thing i can do in a short amount of time? it doesn't have into involve the elliptical, & i can't go running right now.
thanks in advance! (link)
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Put your elliptical at a moderate resistance and a moderate incline and aim for about 200 steps/minute. Try that for 10-15 minutes and build up the time.
I use ellipticals a lot and I'm at the point where I can burn 100 calories in about 8 minutes without a problem. All you have to do is work up to it!
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i know what believe in but i dont know if there is a religion for that.
i believe in a higher being of some sort, but i dont exactly know what it is.
i do and always have believed in reincarnation, that when you die, your soul lives on until it has reached peace with the earth.
i believe the body should remain clean and nothing unnatural should go in it. like that's why i dont believe in taking most medicines.
i believe that everything happens for a rason, whether it be good or bad.
i pray sometimes, i just dont know exactly what i pray to.
does this sound like a religion you practice or know of?
what do you believe in? (link)
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You're actually drawing a fair bit from Buddhism and a some from Sikhism which is a branch of Buddhism. Predestination is common in various religions, so that's drawn from any of them.
I noticed the other answer you had mentioned Unitarian Universalism, and said that it's similar beliefs. Which...well, they're similar, but certainly not what you're saying you believe in. We (and I say that because I'm UU) believe in:
* The inherent worth and dignity of every person;
* Justice, equity and compassion in human relations;
* Acceptance of one another and encouragement to spiritual growth in our congregations;
* A free and responsible search for truth and meaning;
* The right of conscience and the use of the democratic process within our congregations and in society at large;
* The goal of world community with peace, liberty, and justice for all;
* Respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.
We don't, as a community, have a stance on taking medication, a higher power, predestination, reincarnation or an afterlife. As the individuals that make up the community, some do believe in an afterlife, a higher power or being, reincarnation etc.
Having read what you believe, I'd encourage you to check out Buddhism, Jainism, Sikhism and even Hinduism. It sounds like you've got a blend of them and a few other things you've picked up throughout life.
Here're some links to various religions:
http://www.uua.org/index.shtml - UU
http://www.mnsu.edu/emuseum/cultural/religion/buddhism/beliefs.html - Buddhism
http://www.religionfacts.com/jainism/beliefs.htm - Jainism
http://contenderministries.org/hinduism/hindubeliefs.php - Hinduism
http://www.religioustolerance.org/sikhism2.htm - Sikhism
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Okay, these girls that stabbed me in the back, started rumors, & talked about me behind my back & I don`t want to have anything to do with them. Plus, my mom wants me to not even be in the same room with them cause I was crying for basically a week cause of them.
One of them told one of my actual friends that they were going to throw me a surpise birthday party since I couldn`t have one. I`m having one ... I`m just not inviting them, so I told them I wasn`t even having one. I blocked their screen name, phone number, e-mail ... everything. The thing is, they live in my neighborhood. So if they come to my house, how do I get out of going to this thing? (link)
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Be really blunt. You know how you felt after you found out what they said and did. Tell them that you don't appreciate what they said and did and that you'd like them to stop being two-faced about their friendship with you. If you don't want anything to do with them, then tell them that they hurt you, and you no longer want to be part of their group.
As for actually getting out of the party, if they told your real friend about the party, I bet he/she could get the date and time as well and tell you. Then, make plans to be busy that night - and if you can't actually be out of the house, see if you can't get your parents to tell the kids that you're not available. Since your mom doesn't seem to like them much, I'm betting she'd be okay with helping you get out of a party where you'd be spending time with them.
Good luck.
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i dont really pay attention to ratings because i just started but i gave someone a detailed answer and he gave me a 3. its not so much his rating its his comment:
Thank you for your answer. I would give you a 4 but you didn't capitalize. Otherwise it was a good answer.
what does capitalizing have to do with anything? (link)
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Some people are really picky about spelling, grammar and punctuation. My guess is that he's one of those people and answers that don't follow proper rules don't get as high of a rating from him. It sounds stupid and unfair, but some people are just like that.
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okay, so i had this one boyfriend and i really really liked him. i've never felt that way for anybody before. when he broke up with me, i was absolutely heartbroken. that was about 9 months ago.
so my boyfriend that i have now that tells me that i have this wall built up around me and i wont let anyone in. im so scared to let anyone in because of what happened last time. i dont like my boyfriend like i liked my ex-boyfriend. i dont know what to do...do i let my guard down or break up with him? im so scared of getting hurt like i did last time (link)
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Sometimes having your bf break up with you takes more time than you think it should to get over. I know friends and ex's of mine that it took over a year to deal with the fact that their gf/bf left them.
Your boyfriend may be right. I actually did the same thing, but more for the opposite reason as you're doing. I didn't want to keep hurting people, so I just built a wall and wouldn't let anyone in. A friend (and now ex but still friend) told me that I wasn't going to get anywhere with a wall like that up and that I didn't have to just drop it, but at least try to give people a chance. Basically you have to let the wall thin down a little, but you can sure keep it in place. If you've got the wall up like you do, you won't be able to really get to know the guy and even if you don't like him the same way you liked your ex, you'll never know him well enough to really be able to judge if you keep the wall up and him on the outside. Maybe what you could do would be to keep seeing him, but make it way more casual and just get to know each other better (assume you're not close friends already).
However, if you're really questioning if you should be with him, then I'd say just end it. If you lead him on and don't open up at all, he'll just be hurt and you'll possibly end up feeling bad for hurting him when the break-up does happen.
One last thing to consider: are you dating him because you like him or because you're trying to get over you ex? If it's because you're trying to move on...then that's unfair to him.
It might hurt to be single, but if you still have feelings for your ex, there's no sense in trying to make yourself have feelings for someone else. (Sorry if that sounded harsh, it wasn't meant to be).
Good luck - dating can be SUCH a mess.
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