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My boyfriend of 3 months and i broke up a week ago today. I have had the worst week and the stupid thing is, its all over the reasoning as to why we broke up. You see, things had been weird with him the week leading up to the breakup and i asked him what was wrong and he told me the news... hes moving at the end of the year. ten hours away to be exact.
I messaged him telling him that I didnt want to wait around to have my heart broken at the end of the year and he agreed that it would be 'smart' of us to break it off sooner rather than later. He said letting me go was going to be hard but it was better this way.
The thing is... i know i love him. And that I really just want to be with him. We are still friends but have stopped the whole couples thing (no touching...no kissing etc) but everytime i see him i just want to fall back into his arms and be how we used to be.
He told me the only thing that would change would be that we wouldnt do couple things but we could still go over to each others houses and be good friends and that he would always love me.
I really dont know what i should do, do i gradually de-attach myself?
Is it wrong to feel like this, and should i try and mask my feelings of love from him?
Was it smart to break up now and save the heartbreak later? Should I tell him how i feel or would that just make him feel worse for moving when i know he doesnt want to?
Is it wrong to feel jealous when i see him talking and mucking around with other girls and is it wrong to still message him and talk to him at school AND have him over at my house like old times?
HELP!!!!
NO, your feelings are just fine, and they make sense. Look, dont take the safe way out, especially in love. The fact that he is moving is just reason to spend alot more time with him, and bond more. If you have to break up when he moves then fine. But for now, what you need to do is be completely honest with him. if he loves you back then he will understand and most likely will feel the same way. Get back with him, and Cherish the time you have with each other. Never minimize ure happiness, because of uncertainty and fear...work through it gurl. PLEASE. and no, i am kinda in the same situation, and talking to him the same amount of time, and having him over ure house, and keeping things the same except for the physical isnt wrong, it just is more reason to continue being with him. but i understand why you broke it off, because I probably would have done the same thing..But that is just fear, and when you have a good guy that you know should be with, and love, then gurl, by all means....GET URE MAN BACK!! I hope you end up with him, and that everything works out!
My man hood bends to the left when fully erect. It takes the shape of a banana.
I am 24 and never had intercourse before.
I would like to know what kind of disease could that be.
And would it affect me should I engage in intercourse
Its not a disease, and its ok that you havent had intercourse. Alot of men, or some men, having curving penis', like the letter J. This is called (unofficially keep in mind) a G-Spot Penis. Girls love it, because it usually hits thier G-Spot really well (hence the name). Its actually a good thing for you. Its in fact so fortunate, that they have vibrators that are in a shape of a banana or a J (like yours), and it usually called a G-spot vibrator. So dont wrry, be happy. I really hope I relieved your worries, and that helped!
I'm 15.
and boyfriendless.
and it sucks.
so i was talking to my friend Amelia, and she says i don't flirt with guys enough. all of my friends are guys, I'm really feminine, but i have a lot of guy friends, and i tend to act... not flirty? i guess.
ugh, idk. i guess i'm asking, if theres anything i can do to to flirt more/ be more confident?
don't laugh, this is my first post.
I would never laugh, my advice for you is to find maybe two guys that catch ure attention (u can start out with one if you like)....but these guy(s) have to be accessible, like ones you see on a consistent regular basis. If you dont flirt alot, then it might not come as easily, (im like this), so imagine ureself looking at them sheepishly (u know shy, with a hint of a smile) until they notice and then look away. The catch is that if you want to be in control, when they catch you looking, then you have to look away slowly, maybe even smile first. U have an advantage having alot of guy friends, because that means that you shouldnt have trouble going up to a guy and talkin to them. Smile alot, and when you are talking to them, stare at them straight in the eyes, and giggle. If youare doing it right (which im sure u will be) then the boys will be receptive, and react to you. When you notice that they are reacting in a good way to ure gestures, then believe me, you will feel in control and more confident. If you dont like them like that, then thats cool, at least you will have the confidence to go for someone you really like. I really hope i helped
ok so almost 2 years ago i started talking to this boy was friends he dated my best friend at the time a little while after they broke up we started "talking" then he asked me out one night like 2 days later he broke up with me he told me at the time it was cause he needed time to talk to me more and stuff turns out he was drunk well we "talked" for about a month dont see how he could be drunk that whole time well after we stoped talking he dated a few of my friend for some months then the summer came we got friends like good friend he was gonna ask me out then asked someone else out then they broke up he was gonna ask me out asked one else out then they broke up and i was so close then he thought i liked his friend asked someone else out and he hated me for a while then we got back friends when they broke up and we was kewl for a while but only friends then out of no where he would be mean and that went on for a while then not to long ago we got back friends and things were going great and then he found another girl and now he says mean things about me i told him to leave me alone so i can get over him but hes the only one i think ill ever want and idk what to do i know this is long but please someone give me advice.
I know how you feel, and at least you are aware of the fact that if you keep on being around him, then you will continue to want him and think about him and ultimately like him still. If you really, truly want to get over him, then I think you should space yourself from him, and figure out and tell yourself why it wont work out, because it sounds like he is not only a bad friend, but wouldnt be a very good boyfriend. Even if he talks to you, stand strong, and distance yourself away from him. When you think you dont like him anymore, then try talking to him for a little while and see if the feelings come back. If they do repeat the process. I am kinda sorta in this situation too, and the best way to get over him is officially tell yourself that you are going to try to better your friendship with him...and dont forget to look for someone who is better than him, that would be a good person to start a relationship with.
I really Hope I helped
Alesia
hey if you can tell me where you got yours mabe that will help , someone else told me i should use it but i cant find it anywhere?
x'kaylaaaaaaa
The first time I used it, I got it at CVS ( or Rite Aid). The second time I got it, it was at Target. Any beauty supply store should have it; for example: Sally's Beauty supply store.
hi guy's , ok so i want to die my hair blonde , but the problem is i don't want it to be permenant. So, yesterday i went and bought whatever i could find , i've never dyed my hair before so i don't know what the "good" products are. I decided to by Clairol Nice' n easy Color Blend Technology. On the front it says PREMANENT COLOR , at the bottom of the box , but on the back it says something like this:
Q: How long will it last ?
A:Nice' n Easy lasts for up to 6 weeks. and for your illuminating blonde shade, you'll find 6 weekly treatments of out exclusive Colorseal Conditioning gloss to seal in the healthy looking color and add intense shine.
So my question is , Is it permenant or not ? are they saying the color will TOTALLY go away or it will just fade and ill have to touch it up.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAALLLLLSSSSSOOOOOOOOOOOO!
on the front it says Expert blend of 3 tones for natural color with highlights brown to blonde in just one step.
Is it just highlights or will it dye my whole head , cause i seen a picture of how to put it in your hair and they say part your hair with the tip of the bottle! and go downwards. pleeaasseee help:]
If you want something that is not permanent, my advice is to get L'oreal Color Pulse Mousse. It is kind of like a dye, only it washes out after like two weeks to a month (depending on how often you wash your hair). You just wash your hair, put the colored mousse in your hair, and let it sit on your hair for about half an hour, you rinse it out, and your hair will be the other color. However, keep in mind that because it is just a RINSE unless your hair is a little close to blonde...it wont be completely blonde. This mousse even contains a picture idea of how your hair will look with the blonde according to your natural hair shade. Please take my advice. I have used this, and it was great!
The website is:
http://www.lorealparis.ca/en/haircolor/index_color_pulse.asp
(just click on: "Its time to pulse...come on in")
Really hope I helped
Good luck
14/f
this is long, sorry.
i know this guy named Corbin, & he goes to my church. he'll be in 10th grade, but i'll be in 9th. he's good friends with my brother, because they both like the same music and they were in the church worship band together.
i went down to this church camp for a cookout and concert w/ my church, and he was there. when we were waiting for the concert to start, me and him and like 5 other people from my church were out there. there was this piano, and i started to mess around and play this really pretty song, Clair DeLune. well he's like really good i guess, and he came over to the piano and showed me how i did it wrong, then played the first minute or so perfectly. and i kindof have a weakness for guys who are good on the piano/guitar/ect... and then when he was done, he played "The Luckiest" by Ben Folds, which is my favorite song and it's amazing. that song always makes me cry, so of course i teared up a little, and he gave me a big hug and such.
this concert was three christian rock bands, and the third one is called Our Hearts Hero. they're really good friends with our church and such. when they got on stage, i was in the front row, standing. and corbin came adn stood right behind me. there was other places to go, but idk. so when they started to play a slow and sad song, i looked in this mirror that was on the wall behind the stage, and i saw that corbin was looking at me. i was too scared to turn around, so i just payed attention to the band.
after the concert, corbin came over to me, and we started talking about showchoir and how i was thinkign about quitting, for next year. he's in the band that plays with them, and he was like begging me to do it, and he said "please? do it for me, we'll see eachother every day!"
soo the basic question i have here is that how can i know he likes me? i mean he goes to my church and i see him a lot so i don't want it to be awkward if i ask him and he says no.
i really want himt o like me because he's everything i want in a guy...
thanks in advance.
I am really happy for you, because it sounds like this Corbin is very interested in you. You dont have to ask him, because it sounds to me like he will act like that all on his own. If he is everything you want in a guy, def. talk to him more, get to know him really well, and make sure you stay on his mind. I personally am tryin to work with a church relationship, and you know what the best part about that is? You can easily invite him over for a church dinner, or even better: invite him, with like two other mutual fun chruch friends and go to dinner and a movie (thats what I do with my church friends). It seems like you are gettin your wish, i think he def. has feelings for you. Good luck
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So today we had this presentation today and I ended up sitting infront of this boy that I've liked for the longest time now. Randomly out of the middle of nowhere, his friend and him decided it'd be fun to bug me by nudging be in the back with their foot, pretending to step on my fingers etc. They didn't hurt me in anyway but when I'd turn around to tell them to stop this boy I liked had the biggest smirk on his face. It was cute.
Him and I have never really talked but if I am not wrong we have exchanged glances, awkward moments ect..
Would this just sound like a completely random act or an act of affection?
Ok, next time, you get a chance to communicate with him is too ask him for it himself. meaning, if you want his email address, ask him for, same thing with his number. Guys are weird like that...maybe he was just suprised, or had to get off. But the things he was doing to you, sounds like he wants your attention, and that could be looked at potentially as flirting. I say next time, start up a conversation/flirting thing with him. Be consitent, but not clingy...he obviously wants your attention, make sure you have his
Good luck with this boy
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Ok so i'm going out with this amazing boy, but there's something missing we just don't talk alot or sometimes we can't hold a conversation. Then I have this bestfriend who also happens to be one of his bestfriends, but with me and him we just click. Everything seems to be right, we can talk on the phone for hours and there's never silence. I just don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend but my bestfriend is also the person who hooked us up, but I can tell he likes me too. Ughh. I know this is confusing, but it there anyone who can help?
Let your resort be working out things with your boyfriend. See the thing is, with your bestfriend of the opposite sex, you guys are supposed to click, thats why it is so east to talk to him. That is how my bestfriend is with me too. In all honesty, we would make almost the perfect couple....except, I go to my bestfriend with all my boy troubles and happiness. If you were to get with your best friend...who would you go to. And this sounds cliche, but its true. Friends last longer than boyfriends. Just think..making that transition might weirden up, or weaken your already perfect relationship with him. my suggestion would be to ask your bestfriend advice on how to make it work with your current boyfriend. Hearing his advice will make it clear on whether, you want to take his advice or be with him.
Good luck
And I really hope i helped
F/14
My boyfriends birthday is Friday. He is going to be 14. We are pretty serious.We've been dating about 8 1/2 monthz. (9 monthz on the 6/21.)
I will have 100-120$ on his birthday should i just give him that, a card, and write him something or what?
I need advice asap!PLEASE!!! He already thinks i have something planned but i have nothing!
Any advice right now is helpful. Thank you in advance.
And i thought you ppl should know what I've already given him: a movie,poems,pj pants. my virginity, made him dinner, a 120$ watch, and thats all i can think of right now.
Well thanx!
The idea of the girl before me answerin your question is a very good one. Another idea, is to burn him a CD, with all of his fav. songs on it (and include love songs that will def. make him think of you). But DONT give him all that money in cash!! If he likes video games, get him a gift card to EB games. IF he likes to look dressy, get him cute ties. you could also (with your parents permission) take him out for a date, or something to that effect. Make it romantic, but not too romantic (thats for your birthday). Or you can invite some of his friends over, and just chill.
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i say making-out is kisssing for moree than maby 10 seconds but my boyfriend said that making-out is kissing and touching each other while your kissing.he'se convinced of his side but im very sure im right i just wanna make sure.
You see, you are right by definition. MAking out is kissing for a longer period of time than a regular kiss. However,these days he is also very correct, making out eventually leads to kissing, and getting very touchy-feely. But technically...making out is simply kissing for a long period of time, what your boyfriend is talking about is what making out usually leads into.
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I'm going with this guy (who i like) to this dance this Saturday. And he asked me what do you wanna do there?
And I dont know but he finds after awhile dancing gets really boring. I agree too. So what is there to do at a dance besides dancing?? Something fun, I would like to make this the best dance of my life!!
Thank you:)
p.s. I really really really like him!!!!
well first, let your first resort be dancing. When it does get boring, the easist thing to do is to sit down at a table with punch and refreshments and flirt your tail off. You can talk to him, and/or flirt. Then, you can ask him to show you around his school (like casually ask, what is his fav. class, and ask him to show it to him...or his locker) Or, you can take a walk with him outside of the school, and just chill (romantically of course ;)) and to really make it a memorable night, kiss him, or put him in a posistion that he wants to kiss you. Maybe you will leave the dance with a boyfriend! Good luck
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i like 2 guys. ill start with the first one. L is a great guy. we've been "together" except NOT for about a year. he doesn't have the balls to ask me out, but tells everyone we're talking. so i just go along with it. obviously i like him alot bc he's been around for so long.. and now ive been thinking i might love him. theres been other guys this year- but for some reason it always comes back to me coming back to L. we're great together.. but i'm sick of being "in between" with him with feelings and such. i'm currently mad at him for ditching me to go to the lake- we were going good until that little stunt a couple of days ago. hes really sweet its just i dont know anymore- i'm not going to ask him out either just because i want to KNOW he likes me. not just hear him say it. and have his friends tell me.
guy#2- P is also a great guy. he was my 3rd grade boyfran :) he moved away in 4th and we didn't talk until this year bc he moved back to alabama. i know it sounds crazy us being sophmores now, but i could feel the feelings i did from 3rd grade. he makes me laugh and mad in the right ways. the only problem is that when he moved back, he moved about 30 min away from me. we both now thats too far for 15 year olds to have a real relationship but i know if he lived closer we would be perfect together. he comes down here every once in awhile to visit and he is this week. we go out and we're the ideal couple, but its just distance. i dont know what to do.
PLEASE HELP IM SO CONFUSED ABOUT WHAT TO DO! i'm 15.f so these arent little middle school crushes.
OK, I know how you feel dont panic. In fact my last boy freind was 15, and we lived 45 ( or a little bit more) minutes from each other, and we only saw each other every weekend ( our commonplace was church). It was hard, more for him, because i was his first girlfriend, and he wanted someone he could see on a regular basis. But here is the deal, if you really like the P guy (which is sounds like you do) then go for him. Because to have a relationship where you guys arent seeing each other on a regular basis, it needs to have a strong foundation to withstand the distance. I understand it is not a little middle school crush, cuz honestly i am in your situation rite now. So,first you have to honestly figure out if its worth it, then go for it. Then, find ways that you can see each other more often. Is there public transportation you guys can take to a common place to meet up? Is there a volunteer opportunity, you guys can do together (so ure parents think its a good idea to go there everyday...just think, you could see him so often), or you can invite other friends along, and host movie nights, or just go out to a mall in between you and his locations. It sounds to me like this P guy has a lot of potential and you are getting tired of waiting around for this L guy. If you dont want to give up on the L guy, give him an ultimatum....either get serious, or your gonna move on (i think he'll get the picture). It also sounds to me like the problem isnt picking the guy, but knowing how to make it work with him (the P guy).
I really hope i helped...
ok i have really really hairy legs and like my mom won't let me shave them! I hate it I get made fun of by my older bro all the time, he calls me a monkey! i HATE it! he goes the whole nine yards too one time i walked into the room and he was watching king kong and he said ooo king kong can i have an autograph! it's sooooo annyoing.
My first piece of advice is to sit down with your mother and explain to her, that the appearance of your legs is or will effect how you view yourself, and that you would feel alot more comfortable if you shave. This the key to that though: offer to let her help you pick out shaving products, and then ask her if she could teach you. That way, your mom will not only feel involved in your life, but needed and helpful. My second piece of advice is that you call also look at products that remove leg hair but doesnt require razors.
this may be a little long, but i really need someone elses inout. thanks in advance! ok, so my best friend went out with this kid that i used to like, but havent talked to in a couple years. they broke up in like january of this year, and me and him started talking again. and one thing led to another, and we both found ourselves liking eachother again. i felt terrible, because hes my bestfriends ex, so i talked to her about it, and she said shes totally fine and that she wants me to go out with him. she also told me to feel free to talk about him to her, because we are best friends. but whenever i talk about him to her, she seems wicked uncomfortable. so i said somehting to her about it last night, and she swore up and down that she was fine with it. for some reason, i think she still likes him, but she swears she doesnt, and she told him she doesnt. she tells me all the time that she wants me to go out with him becuase she thinks it will make things better becuase they fight all the time. me and him flirt all the time and talk online 24/7 and on the phone all the time, and we've made it very clear that we like eachother. even though shes fine with me going out with him, i still feel that she wouldnt be, even though i know in my head she is. and whenever we talk about going out, she always comes to my mind. i've decided im not going to talk about him to her anymore, but i dont know if i should go out with him if he asks me out. i know me and her will always be friends even if i go out with him, but i still dont know if i should. any input will help a lot. thanks!
First off , I want to tell you congratualtions to finding a guy that likes you the same way, and who calls you and shows you attention. FInding that mutual 'like' for each other is believe it or not...rare. Your friend went out with him, when you liked him. And Im not saying to do her the same thing, Its just that its what makes you happy (however within the confines of girl sisterhood) but if she says its ok, and you still feel uneasy,than I say that you wait until he asks you out, than have a final talk with her. Honestly if she is a good friend, she would see the chemistry you guys have, and how happy you are with him. Another thing, my final advice to you is that you probaly should not talk excessively about him, it might bring up feelings for her that she had for him in the past....believe me..it is really bad, and a bad friendship ruiner is when two female friends like the same guy. I hope I helped.
I have been screwed over in a lot of relationships thus far in my life. I'm 18 years old. I have recently been hanging out with this guy who just got out of a 5 year relationship. I stayed over at his house alone last night, he has his own place. I slept on the couch and he slept in his bed. We didnt fall asleep until 8 AM and we slept until like 2 PM. We were up all night talking and playing video games and watching videos on youtube. One minute I will just be thinking hes so sweet and perfect and nice and funny and cute. The next minute I will think "do i really like him? do i really feel anything for him?" am i just scared to fall in love again or do i just want to fall in love so im telling myself theres something there. im so confused.
tHIS guy sounds like a nice guy with mounds of potential. Dont block yourself from love because of past bad relationships. Instead think that because of all of the bad relationships, you owe it to yourself even more to have someone love you like yous should. And the main fact you guys slept in separate places, and that you spent the nite talkin and just having fun means that he is worth it to explore. You dont have to make your choice on whether or not you feel anything for him, just take it slow, slowly but gradually progressing. You are your own timer, if you think its too much then you can make the decision to stop or pause it. you deserve love, let it come to you.
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I have a big problem wit my best friend and my mom. My mom hates her. Shes a good person she just does bad stuff like smoke drink fight ect.But also we have kind of split apart a little because she gets so jealous of everyone im with.. my mom doesn want me hanging out with her neither does my boyfriend. but i dunno what to do. i feel bad. should i just lie to my mom and tell her im going out somewhere else when im hanging out with her. what should i do? Also its getting really she gets so mad at me when i hang out with my bf she is like u never have time for me is always him. it annoying me now. I love my boyfriend and i want to spend time with him. pleasee helppp me.
Well, right now, it seems like she is not the best person to be friends with, and it seems like she is bringing you down mentally and literally. But she is still your friend. Now, your mother and your boyfriend is against it, but since she is yur friend maybe you shud try to make it work first. Talk to her, it might be hard, but if her friendship is really worth it, then its worth sitting her down and talking to her about her actions towrd you, and her actions that affect her as a person as well. Make sure she understands that her actions are jeapordizing your friendship with her. If she values you enough as a friend she shud make sum changes. Also, for her, u, and ure boyfriends sake, let her express to you clearly why it is that she doesnt really like when u spend time with ure boyfriend. Then maybe a compromise could be formed, or you guys can double date. I hope I helped. If she cant understand, that you are trying to make it work, then she is not worth ure prcious time or friendship, and slowly draw yourlself away from her.
Good luck
So I kind of secretly like this one boy.
He has a girlfriend, but we had a past.
Not neccasarrily a relationship past,more of like a friendship and sex past,[yeah i know,dumb idea]
Well we both kinda act like we dont like eachother, he's kinda mean to me but not as much as he used to.
Im not really mean to him , i just act like I dont care about him,when i do.
His best best friend told me that he DOES like me and wants me to think he hates me.
I cant really talk to him because he still has a girlfriend but how can I tell if he likes me or not??!
Just by seeing him around, i see him alot.
Sometimes I see him staring and If we have to be together for school reasons, he usually messes around with me and stuff.
I need help!
Well this is what you do. Well first, maybe you should try to break his idea that you have to think he hates you. Because even tho he has a girlfriend, he wants a friend, and definitley you in general. Gradually become a little nicer more and more each day (but still not making it seem like you like him). The fact that you see each other often is A BIG ADVANTAGE. one day find a reason to have a deep conversation (like maybe you neen advice, or homework help, or something clever like that) but the conversation shud be one that, he feels like he can open up to you, and trust you, so you are on his min even more than you already are. Then slowly become better and better freinds with him, so that you are close enough to invite him over, or ineractive things like that. Eventually he shud realize that he likes you to much to stay with his girlfriend, then after tht it shud go really smooth and in your favor.
I really hope i helped
There is this girl I know and I really really really like her, and i know she kind of likes me back, but im not sure of it. Since I've asked her to the movies like 4 or 5 times and she said she had to do something like all of the times, so this is why I don't think she likes me. How do I make her like me more, and what can I ask her to do that she might possibly do with me?
Well get to know her first. Have conversations with her, give her sweet compliments, and then get her number, invite her over for homework or something like that. Be clear in her feelings, than ask her out again. Make sure you make her laugh. To get the key to her heart, you must give her reason to give it to you.
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my stomach can be contained when i suck it in, but my butt is pretty big! maybe its just because im african.. but its kinda annoying since it sorta sticks out, XD;. Im not that fat, but im not skinny either, so it kinda looks a little out of proportion when my stomach isnt that fat. how can i get everything like.. in shape, basically? should I just run everyday (I already need to do that for stamina)? i dunno if it will affect these 'areas' lol. also, what foods make you get a bigger butt? i'll eat less of them, too.
Ok, here is the deal, have a big butt, is a good thing. In fact it is a coveted asset. but to lose some pounds, dont eat after 8 or nine, and drink 10-12 glasses of water a day. Eat lots of cereal, and make sure to eat your veggies and fruit. It is also important to check your Nutrition fcts, make sure the foods dont have more than 5 grams or less of SAturated fat , and total fat. And try to exercise, just dont go to heavy. Also to make sure that every asset of yours is proportioned. Tone up everything. You can get books that give you healthy rules and tips (not diet books, but toning books) at the library. Give yourself a reasonable goal, and ahealthy plan. And you should be good.
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