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best friends ex boyfriend
this may be a little long, but i really need someone elses inout. thanks in advance! ok, so my best friend went out with this kid that i used to like, but havent talked to in a couple years. they broke up in like january of this year, and me and him started talking again. and one thing led to another, and we both found ourselves liking eachother again. i felt terrible, because hes my bestfriends ex, so i talked to her about it, and she said shes totally fine and that she wants me to go out with him. she also told me to feel free to talk about him to her, because we are best friends. but whenever i talk about him to her, she seems wicked uncomfortable. so i said somehting to her about it last night, and she swore up and down that she was fine with it. for some reason, i think she still likes him, but she swears she doesnt, and she told him she doesnt. she tells me all the time that she wants me to go out with him becuase she thinks it will make things better becuase they fight all the time. me and him flirt all the time and talk online 24/7 and on the phone all the time, and we've made it very clear that we like eachother. even though shes fine with me going out with him, i still feel that she wouldnt be, even though i know in my head she is. and whenever we talk about going out, she always comes to my mind. i've decided im not going to talk about him to her anymore, but i dont know if i should go out with him if he asks me out. i know me and her will always be friends even if i go out with him, but i still dont know if i should. any input will help a lot. thanks!
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i think if she is really your bestfriend, she wouldn`t lie to you &tell you she doesn`t like him if she does. i think you should take her word for it &still talk to her about him. but if it makes you uncomfortable, you don`t have to. but i really think she`s over him. plus, she`s your bestfriend, it`ll be hard to keep from telling her stuff, right?
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I'd have to agree with Bestfriendswithimforever for the most part. As for not talking about him to your friend completely that might be a mistake as it might come across as you not wanting her to know about it all (that your hiding it from her). Talk to her (especially when/if he does ask you out) but be subtle and not overdo it. She may not have much feelings left for him but I can understand in her place how awkward it can be when your best friend and your ex start seeing each other. It makes it feel a little awkward or at least with some it does anyway. She may say as well that she's fine with it but truth is she may not be deep down but is saying she is because she wants you to be happy which is probably what you would do in her place as well no doubt. Let him make the first move and when he does talk to your friend about it a final time and as long as she's ok with it then by all means go for it and see what happens. Just don't flood your friend with details of you and her ex because things like that are sometimes just things an ex might not want to hear. :] Good luck.
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First off , I want to tell you congratualtions to finding a guy that likes you the same way, and who calls you and shows you attention. FInding that mutual 'like' for each other is believe it or not...rare. Your friend went out with him, when you liked him. And Im not saying to do her the same thing, Its just that its what makes you happy (however within the confines of girl sisterhood) but if she says its ok, and you still feel uneasy,than I say that you wait until he asks you out, than have a final talk with her. Honestly if she is a good friend, she would see the chemistry you guys have, and how happy you are with him. Another thing, my final advice to you is that you probaly should not talk excessively about him, it might bring up feelings for her that she had for him in the past....believe me..it is really bad, and a bad friendship ruiner is when two female friends like the same guy. I hope I helped.
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