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ive never felt like this
ok so almost 2 years ago i started talking to this boy was friends he dated my best friend at the time a little while after they broke up we started "talking" then he asked me out one night like 2 days later he broke up with me he told me at the time it was cause he needed time to talk to me more and stuff turns out he was drunk well we "talked" for about a month dont see how he could be drunk that whole time well after we stoped talking he dated a few of my friend for some months then the summer came we got friends like good friend he was gonna ask me out then asked someone else out then they broke up he was gonna ask me out asked one else out then they broke up and i was so close then he thought i liked his friend asked someone else out and he hated me for a while then we got back friends when they broke up and we was kewl for a while but only friends then out of no where he would be mean and that went on for a while then not to long ago we got back friends and things were going great and then he found another girl and now he says mean things about me i told him to leave me alone so i can get over him but hes the only one i think ill ever want and idk what to do i know this is long but please someone give me advice.
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I know how you feel, and at least you are aware of the fact that if you keep on being around him, then you will continue to want him and think about him and ultimately like him still. If you really, truly want to get over him, then I think you should space yourself from him, and figure out and tell yourself why it wont work out, because it sounds like he is not only a bad friend, but wouldnt be a very good boyfriend. Even if he talks to you, stand strong, and distance yourself away from him. When you think you dont like him anymore, then try talking to him for a little while and see if the feelings come back. If they do repeat the process. I am kinda sorta in this situation too, and the best way to get over him is officially tell yourself that you are going to try to better your friendship with him...and dont forget to look for someone who is better than him, that would be a good person to start a relationship with.
I really Hope I helped
Alesia
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We women, we are soooo stupid. We always think we can change someone. Our hearts always go out to he guy who acts pitiful and wants us to feel sorry for him. And we do, and we believe that our love can save him, that we love him unconditionally and if he would only love us back. I am sorry to tell you honey that it doesn't work that way. There are so many of us who wish that it did. We girls have to learn to read a guys "actions" and forget what he says. He'll say things that will gain him the attention he wants, but his actions prove exactly how he feels about you. YOu are the rebound girl. And when he has burned all his bridges, when the girls he prefers are turned off by his bad behavior, his drinking and his selfishness....then he'll turn to you. And you'll be there, because you have been waiting for him to committ to you all these years.
You'll be so happy. And I guarantee, that the years you spend with this man/boy will end up being the worst years of your life.
It is SO wonderful to be in love with someone who loves you back, just as much. Who treats you like you are special. Who cherishes you and would never do anything to hurt you. It is hard to find that kind of relationship when you are very young. BOys just don't think that way. They think with their pants (you know what I mean) But when they get older, luckily, most of them mature and are ready for a long term relationship. You are a good person who shows compassion for other people. You are not selfish. But you will spend the rest of your life and have many broken hearts of you continue to care about boys/men who do not put you first. You deserve better than that. Learn to recognize the signs of selfish behavior in men and avoid them. Learn to appreciate the boys who think you are special. When you grow up get married and start a family, you need a man who will stay by your side, not leave you to do all the work, while he continues to play the field.
And here's a clue to you. Boys who play the field, have no self-confidence. Even if they act loud and confident. Each new girls makes them feel important, but it doesn't last. Because it is not the person you are with that makes you important. It is what is inside of you. I know this sounds corny, but the fact is that this hasn't changed for 1,000 years or more.
GOod luck to you honey.
Michele
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