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i like 2 guys. ill start with the first one. L is a great guy. we've been "together" except NOT for about a year. he doesn't have the balls to ask me out, but tells everyone we're talking. so i just go along with it. obviously i like him alot bc he's been around for so long.. and now ive been thinking i might love him. theres been other guys this year- but for some reason it always comes back to me coming back to L. we're great together.. but i'm sick of being "in between" with him with feelings and such. i'm currently mad at him for ditching me to go to the lake- we were going good until that little stunt a couple of days ago. hes really sweet its just i dont know anymore- i'm not going to ask him out either just because i want to KNOW he likes me. not just hear him say it. and have his friends tell me.
guy#2- P is also a great guy. he was my 3rd grade boyfran :) he moved away in 4th and we didn't talk until this year bc he moved back to alabama. i know it sounds crazy us being sophmores now, but i could feel the feelings i did from 3rd grade. he makes me laugh and mad in the right ways. the only problem is that when he moved back, he moved about 30 min away from me. we both now thats too far for 15 year olds to have a real relationship but i know if he lived closer we would be perfect together. he comes down here every once in awhile to visit and he is this week. we go out and we're the ideal couple, but its just distance. i dont know what to do.
PLEASE HELP IM SO CONFUSED ABOUT WHAT TO DO! i'm 15.f so these arent little middle school crushes.
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OK, I know how you feel dont panic. In fact my last boy freind was 15, and we lived 45 ( or a little bit more) minutes from each other, and we only saw each other every weekend ( our commonplace was church). It was hard, more for him, because i was his first girlfriend, and he wanted someone he could see on a regular basis. But here is the deal, if you really like the P guy (which is sounds like you do) then go for him. Because to have a relationship where you guys arent seeing each other on a regular basis, it needs to have a strong foundation to withstand the distance. I understand it is not a little middle school crush, cuz honestly i am in your situation rite now. So,first you have to honestly figure out if its worth it, then go for it. Then, find ways that you can see each other more often. Is there public transportation you guys can take to a common place to meet up? Is there a volunteer opportunity, you guys can do together (so ure parents think its a good idea to go there everyday...just think, you could see him so often), or you can invite other friends along, and host movie nights, or just go out to a mall in between you and his locations. It sounds to me like this P guy has a lot of potential and you are getting tired of waiting around for this L guy. If you dont want to give up on the L guy, give him an ultimatum....either get serious, or your gonna move on (i think he'll get the picture). It also sounds to me like the problem isnt picking the guy, but knowing how to make it work with him (the P guy).
I really hope i helped...
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I know what it's like being stuck between two guys that you like. It's hard but you can't have both. You and L seem to have just a "thing". Is it ever going to be more than that? You need to talk to him and see where things are going to lead to. You can't just be stuck on him if he doesn't want to ask you out or want a relationship. It's not fair for you to wait around until he's ready for it. So like I said, talk to him about this and be completley honest with him. He needs to open up and tell you how he feels and if there's going to be anything between you guys. Now, guy # 2. Since P is back, start talking to him as friends. You can't just say you guys are perfect for each other and pick up where you left off. It would be hard seeing each other because he lives 30 minutes away, but if you both like each other THAT much, it'll work out. Talk to him as friends and hang out. See if you still like spending time with him and enjoy being with him. Good luck with everything.
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Does seem like you're stuck between a rock and a hard ship... but.... here is what I suggest.... You are 15... not in middle school... but still tryin to enjoy life as a young adolescent (adult).... so lets keep that in mind... about guy #1... if he were to tell you how much he likes you and asked you out... would you except? if your answer was/is no, for whatever reason, then why are you so upset about you all just being "friends" and "dating"? If you answered yes, well.... then you already have your solution about guy #2... the distance right now will be added stress to your life... I suggest you continue to be friends with guy #2, you all go out when you can/see eachother and maybe when some licenses are obtained, your relationship with him will be strong enough to pursue. With this guy #1, you should just ask him right out how he feels about you and what he wants right now. (something u both should discuss together; what you want) Better to know then to keep guessing and have your life "on hold" for him.....
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