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Hi, I am in an interratial relationship and it's proven more that once to be a hard one. Not becuase of the race difference as such but the challenge is in the type. He is Indian and they are known for their jealousy and infidility. The one I am dating, well, I am not sure if he is just being that,a hypocrite, narsisitic, selfish or a womanizer or all in one. He pretends to be something he is not with other women, yet back home he will be abusive, mentally and thank goodness for long now not physically. He drinks only over weekends and then all is said, he admits he makes me feel small, provokes me, say things to hurt me but it is to keep me on my toes. He has met 3 women,he chats on a social site with another 20, he sent nude pics, they sms and call. He accuses me of doing the same. He is allowed to make assumptions but not me. I am not allowed to chat on social sites with other men. When we go out he watches me like a hawk and will say men talk to me to get to me. I am not cheap or easy. I told him I am stronger than him because I allow him to control me while I pretend not to know all his scemes, vain excuses and pretentious ways. I know this is one of those pack your bag and dump the duchebag situations. I do love him though. He knows and admits that he uses me at times and preys on my kindness. He is manipulating and controlling but I know and see all this. When I tell him who and what he is he gets angry. When he picks a fight like now I know it's because he did something wrong and wants to fight and put the attention and blame on me for what he did. I know he won't change, I give him the benefit of the doubt and he knows that. He demands trust and honesty but he lies about things, hide them and acts dumb when confronted when I do find out. How do I handle this man? How do I make him see that I am not the enemy but he is. All I do is be good, be quiet, be faithful and loyal...he does not say thanks you or please. Today he told me to take my words, make them into a stick and go f... myself. He does not even bother to buy chips or juice or do anything I want to do, yet he will offer ,then the offer turns into options, then the options turn into he's preference and then we do what he wants to do. He wants me to tone my legs and get my body into shape but he never give me any support or comfort in any situation, like the two miscarriages I had. He was having a phone fling during the first one by the way. I am just so confused, I read up as much as I can about his personality but it seems he has too many. He does whatever he wants too but I am not allowed to do what he does yet he accuses me of it...thank you for reading me out.
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You know his not right for you so don't waste your own time an amazing man is out there just waiting to meet you and you stuck with a complete moron BUT, if he means that much to you should you decide to stay go to couples therapy and if won't go then you know his not worth it hope that helps:). Jesse XOXOXXX
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heya, well im female im 18 and im currently studying ... basically im so tired of being single i wanna be in love , want someone to love me truly..
im sick of waiting :/
maybe i sound too desperate but its how i feel , feel as if i aint happy that someone is mossing in my life.
dunna what to do :/ (link)
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Well you sound very much like me I'm a hopeless romantic yet I'm always dating the wrong men and I'm not a patient person but I've learned the hard way that the best things in life take the longest to have to as flare said have a little fun meet some people and if you still don't meet the one at least you will know a lot of people so try and look on the bright side when you least expect it the right person will find you and you will just know :) good luck!!!! Jesse XOXOXXX
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Im in sophmore at this high school and I really wanted to get into the arts this year...aka filming. I met this guy, we will call him Steve, and he is a photogpraher. We started texting and instastanly became good friends.
I wasn't sure if I like liked Steve, or just liked him as a friend. Idk, he was the first REAL guy friend I had in a while. we hung out everyday after school, during lunch, and sometimes even before school. I couldn't tell if he like liked me, but Im pretty sure it was just a friends thing.
Anyway, than he met my sister. My TWIN sister.
SO to fill you in, me and my twin look NOTHING alike. she is a bit skinnier than I am, and we r also COMPLETLY different. I have never had a boyfriend and she also is with a guy.
So Steve and my twin meet. and they start flirting. a lot. It made me really upset because I had told my twin that i may have feelings for him, but she literally keep flirting.
than they started texting.
and texting
and than everything got fucked up.
I can't tell if I'm jealous of this because I like him, or WHAT. but its fucking up me and STeves relationship because every time I talk to him, I feel like I'm being played because he likes my sister.
no, they haven't actually been like romantically doing anything. but they text a lot. and me and steve and becoming not even friends at this point.
Well. ok
so what do i do?
For more information on this story... BECAUSE THERE IS A LOT... right me back
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I don't fully agree with the advice you clearly like him and that's wonderful but I also have a sister so I know what its like when you like a man and your sister flirts with him you feel hurt and like you can't trust her at this point I think you should have a talk with her and explain you like him and she needs to but out before you and her grow apart and try talking to him and if that doesn't work maybe talk to your mom if she's the understanding type ? Well I good luck hope you get him. Jesse XOXOXXX
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Hey everyone!
So I'm talking to this guy I met through an app called kik messenger. I'm really starting to like him, and he likes me ever since he met me, says he. We were talking about what we would do when we meet, and I told him Id like to cuddle with him on the couch while we watch a Kevin Hart movie or one of his stand-ups (really anything that involves Kevin Hart lol) and he said "yeah I'd love to do that!" and I said "really?" and he said "I love you..." then 2 seconds later, before I could even respond, he said "OH MY GOD IM SO SORRY THAT SLIPPED OUT! OH MY GOD!" and I wasn't sure how to respond. Then 2 days ago he said it again when I told him I could video chat with him. This time I said "?" after he said "I love you" and he said, more calmly this time, "oh I'm sorry I didn't mean to say that..." or something of that nature and again I had no idea how to respond.
I'm afraid that when we actually get to talk on oovoo that he'll say it again, and I really don't want to have an awkward silence. Does anyone know what I can say to him that won't make him uncomfortable? If you do that would be amazing.
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Well you don't have to respond because its to soon and his creeping you out he hardly knows you and know his saying he loves you its should put you off tell him you want to take things slow and please remember people you meet online can be very different in person so if u decide to meet him do it in a very public place otherwise I think you'll be fine enjoy the attention too have fun Jesse XOXOXXX
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im 16/f, ive noticed i have always have a overly high blood pressure... what could be the cause of this? and what are the effects? do i need to see a doctor? (link)
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Hi yes you are very young you should see a doctor just to check out your health. here are some tips to help you. *. Lose any excess weight (change your eating habits, increase exercise)
*. Restrict alcohol consumption (not more than 1-2glasses wine or beer a day)
*. Stop smoking
*. Avoid stress
*. Take more physical exercise. Please avoid SALT!! Here's a link to really help you www.healthieryou.com/lowbp.html and I hope you feel better :). Jesse XOXOXXX
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I am about to buy a car and I am FINALLY going to get what I've always wanted, a Jeep Wrangler. I really want it to be black and no newer than a 2006 model because I prefer the older looking ones to the newer ones. Last night, I went around looking at cars and found the perfect one except for one detail, it is manual and I've only ever driven automatic. Both of my parents know how to drive manuals and they would teach me if I needed them to, but is it hard to learn? Once you do learn, is it still much harder to drive than an automatic? (link)
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Well here's the thing if you love the car that much learn how to drive Manual but if it bothers you just get a other car it won't be the end of the world you will still be driving around :). Jesse XOXOXXX
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Hey everyone!
I have been noticing something here on this website, and it's annoying me at an excessive level. How can people be like this?
I just saw a question about how there's a 24 year old woman who wanted to be with a 21 year old man, and the answers are all like "oh your age gap is not a problem"
But when there's a question about a 14 year old girl wanting to be with a 17 year old, the answers say "he's too old for you." -.- Really? It's the same thing! The age gap is the same size, yet people make such a big deal of it when the people are younger. >:(
Why does it have to be this way? Is there a specific reason why people don't think that an age difference matters at an older age, but when it happens with teenagers, people disapprove right away?
Can anyone PLEASE explain to me why? It just doesn't make sense to me. This angers me in ways I can't even understand.
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Mostly it can be for safety because young girls sometimes can think with there hormones instead of their heads and you don't want a baby having a baby so its safer if she waits until she's ready to date without needing kissing advice?and also girls tend to trust any guy they like and sometimes that can land them in a lot of trouble hopefully your question is now answered:) otherwise send me a inbox. Jessica XOXOXXX
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I was wondering where I could find cheap music downloads? Even somewhere you can buy a membership and get free and or cheap music. I tried Rhapsody but I cancelled my membership because I didn't like it. If any of you have anywhere you could get free music without the viruses that would be great too!:) thanks! (link)
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www.hpwap.com or Mp3skull or toxicwap that's they only free places I know:) enjoy.......rate my answer and I'll give you the movie link next if you inbox me personally. Jesse XOXOXXX
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He likes to tease me over little things (my dumb jokes, gullibility (cause sarcasm sometimes flies over my head, and innocence), even if they happened over a week ago. But I don't know if it's in good nature or not cause he told me that he sees me as innocent and as a good girl and everything. but it's not like he knows what's at the depths of my mind.. I just somehow give off that innocent vibe in public. I'm sure he'd be surprised to know that I can have really perverted thoughts, especially when I'm around him. but other than that I suppose I'm pretty innocent.
he's really confusing me cause while he teases me (he's been doing it more and more) he also seems to treat me with respect and what not, other times. and with the jealousy thing, I'm referring to how he said yesterday that he was looking forward to going to his home town (we're college freshmen) this weekend to go to a family function and check out this one girl who's related to his family (but not by blood) and I was like.. what? I was in a car with a couple other people and he was talking to someone else in the front seat and he turned around and looked at me after he said it. what the hell? which made me start thinking he may not like me after all, and he was trying to give me a sign that he knew I liked him but he didn't return the favor? I didn't respond, and then for the rest of the night he just continued with his weird mix of teasing and respecting me? what is this?? I'm too shy to ask him anything direct about this whole mess, but it just makes me feel like giving up. Like when I talk to him, like anyone else, I'm totally genuine, but he likes to be sarcastic and what not, and take advantage of this trust I have in what people say. I like sarcasm though, when I get it at least, and he's a little bit of a bad boy (which I don't typically like. I started liking him before I knew of this cause we he's cute and we have similar weird interests), but embarrassingly enough, that makes me more attracted to him. he's just so confusing. i hang out with mainly guys and 2 other girls an he doesn't treat the 2 other girls like this. well, one of them he sees as innocent too, even though she has more romantic experience than me, but i've never heard him tease her or anything. sometimes I'm afraid he might like her, cause she has that conventional blonde prettiness, though. in all honesty, i'm pretty too, but in a different way. but my other friend said she saw him checking me out yesterday and I swear I noticed it a few times, too. And I was dressing nice, not even wearing anything revealing. i'm not sure what he's talked about with other guys, too, cause I feel like he's discussed SOMETHING with them cause of how they sometimes act strange when the guy makes some kind of signal with them or something
I just don't know what is going on and I don't like it. But it's not like I can control who I like. just a sexually frustrated and confused capricorn girl (he's a scorpio, if it affects anything). and btw, i'm not desperate or naive. I'm really afraid of falling in love and getting my heart broken, so I don't show my deep feelings unless I really trust someone. I have another scorpio friend in my group who acts normal with me which is refreshing, but he also has a girlfriend, so that's probably why. I mean, this guy I'm crushing on... I'm really not sure what he'd do. There's a part of me that thinks I should just forget about him, and then another part that lusts pretty hard over him, but yeah, I try to keep that hidden (link)
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Hi nice to read your story here's the thing you wanted to know if a male like you will he tease you or make you jealous, the truthful answer to that is it varies from man to man some men think you will like them more if they make you jealous and others think if they tease you they will get your attention, so maybe its time you play his game tease him make him a lil jealous and if none of that works he could not be into you maybe his looking for some fun but try and show him your full personality and just be straight forward with him and for the rest love is about taking the risk if you can't risk getting hurt then you won't be able to fall in love with him fully so if you feel you can trust him try to lose the fear hopefully all will go well good luck. Jesse XOXOXXX
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i dnt want to live .... i wanna die.. as i always wanted to be what i thought and as per that i put more effort bt still i can't achive d opportunity 4 wat i've been waiting along...... i thnk god has
forgotten to write happiness n success ,in my life.
i was in a chronic depression from couple of weeks.. bt i thnk now its d end.. i wanna die.. i jus wanna leave this place, universe.... i jus wana die.. may b u all think that its a selfish or a coward.... bt i thnk its d best way .... to say gud bye to all ur problems!!!!
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The thing that makes life unpredictable is that we as people don't choose to be in this world we are put here for a specific important reason and in your case you feeling like there's nothing to live for anymore and its a sad time for you but everything does happen for a reason when one door closes another opens so try and have some faith and be positive. Jesse XOXOXXX
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17/f. I've always been attracted to girls, for as long as I can remember... But I never realized it was sexual until I became a teenager. I have never acted on these feelings. I think I'm finally ready now... But how do I find other girls like me?
How will I know what to do once I do? (link)
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This is a very good topic seeing one of my best friends is gay she's only attracted to women the hardest thing she went through was making her parents understand, after a while her parents got use to it and they are okay now quiet honestly. I'm not sure how she picks up women but she sure does so you will defiantly find someone that will make you happy you can try online dating (badoo)is a good app ....you need to just have a bit of fun with your feelings and see which one your attracted to more if you want more advice you can post in another story or inbox me personally. Best of luck. Jesse XOXOXXX
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Ok I'm 17 f and I was hanging with my two friends that are girls. My boyfriend was also there but he said I was weird because I act different with my friends and that he felt left out. My boyfriend wanted to give me a hug and kiss but I didn't let him get to lovey dovey because my friends would of felt left out. I was to bussy trying to make my two friends feel less weird by totally not being lovey dovey with my boyfriend and I guess I ignored him in a way, even though I didn't want to. Should I invite my friends when I hang with my boyfriend? Or keep inviting my friends but this time not ignore him and kiss and hug in front of my friends? I'm very akward person so sometimes I don't know what to do..
Thanks for reading!!(:
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Was very interesting reading about your situation I don't know what to call you cause you forgot to leave your name but I can tell you this you have to find the balance between the two make your man feel loved unconditionally but love your friends too find something you can all do together and the best person you can be in this world is yourself so be more confident and just have fun while you with the people you love. With love. Jesse XOXOXXX
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