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Hi, I am Alison. Well I live in New York. I love helping people out and giving advice out to people. Fashion is my thing, so if you need any advice on that don't be afraid to ask = ]. I love getting messages for advice so feel free to ask me anything. I'm up to great oppurtunities in life. Ummm there isn't that much more to know about me!
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Hello everyone i am kinda young im Ten years old and i need your help. I am getting white discharge,tummy cramps,moody,sleepy,and my brest are kinda tender. Are these simtoms of getting my period i need to know so i can be prepaired.
Thank you For Your Help Love,Gam906e
These are many of the symptoms to getting your period. Most of the time, this will happen a little under 2 years until your period actually starts. It depends on how long this has been happening. Your hormones are deffinetly starting to develop which can lead you to your period in the near future. Be prepared by always keeping extra clothes and few pads always with you! Also, have you heard of pantiliners? They are really good for the discharge, and also can give you a little time to find a pad whenever you do in fact get your period. Don't worry girl, whenever you get it im sure you'll be prepared(:
me and my friend both like the same guy.... she dosnt know i like him but i know she i like him. she always talks about how much she think she loves him. me and him have been going out secretly. she just thinks we're friends. she told me scince we're such good friends if i could ask him out for her. i dont want to hurt her feeling, i feel guilty i'm dating her crush. she's been my bffl ever scince i knew her,and he said he likes both of us..... what should i do?
There's a lot of lies in this whole web between you, the guy, and your best friend. Your going to have to tell her soon, or she might find out from another person! Sit her down, and explain EVERYTHING, in the nicest way you can. She will be hurt, but who wouldn't. If you found out your best friend was dating your crush, you'd be pretty hurt to. She may feel betrayed or lied to, so be ready, don't get angry with her for getting mad at you. It's just a complicated situation, but everything needs to come out. And for this guy, he needs to make up his mind. If he is "secretly" dating you, he shouldn't be having his eyes on anyone else. Hope i helped(:
Alright, so last summer I went out with this guy, and hes like a druggie, well i liked him. and he said he'd stop smoking for me. Well then he shows up to hang out with me high. This made me mad, sort of like telling me i'm worthless to him. Well, I wouldn't have been mad if he hadn't had said he wouldn't smoke for me. Well, we broke up like a week later over this and a bunch of other stuff. Well my friend hangs out with his friends and oneday he was there. She asked about me, and she asked him if he liked me, and he smiled and looked away, and later talked about getting back together with me. Well I reallyyy don't like the fact that he smokes. and I do like him, because hes really hot and funny and sweet. Well he started talking to me agian. And I know that if I want to go back out with him then we will. Its pretty much up to me. But I don't know what to do. I think I like him. But he smokes, and he clearly won't be able to stop. what should i do?!
I've heard many similar stories like this a million times. The guy does something the girl hates, girl trys to change him. But in the end the guy doesn't stop and girl gets heartbroken. Honestly, I believe you deserve better. There are tons of guys out there that are hot, funny, and sweet! (plus they don't smoke:) You might have just not found him. By maybe going out with this guy, you might miss out on another guy that could be 10 million times more amazing! I think you should dump this guy or give him the alternative for either you or smoking, then you'll see where his priorities really are(:
i want to have sex and i'm not old enough.... why do i want to... whats wrong with me??
Sex is meant for two people who are in love. It is different ages for everyone. Many teenagers do in fact think of sex and want to give in early. Some are either curious or just starting to develop real relationships. In my exsperiences, all of the teenagers that did give in regret it a lot. Most of them either feel like they are in love or they are pressured into it. It's your decision on whether you have it or not, no one can tell you that you can or cannot do it. There's nothing wrong with you. But there are lots of diseases out there plus pregnancy. If you do decide, be safe. I hope i helped!
There is this guy at school that I sort of like. I'm not sure whether I really like him or not. I hope you guys can help me know if I truly like him.
Thanks, with love
~!MysteriousGirl!~
It's no one elses place to tell someone if they like someone or not. You have to decide. Think of all the reasons why you "sort" of like him. If they are good reaons, then go foward with it and start to talk to him more! You don't know, maybe he likes you too(:
Ok so my best friend and I hang out all the time and we tell eachother everything. Lately a lot of my stuff has been missing, some of my favorite shirts and a special necklace that I got from my great grandma. I honestly know that I had my shirts in my closet and my necklace on my dresser. I know that they are not lost, i looked everywhere. I have a feeling that my best friend stole them. a few months ago she stole my other friends shirt and my friend found out and took it back. But my best friend swears she didn't steal it and it is hers. I really think she stole them and I really want them back. How do I find out if she stole them? And if i ask her how do I get her to tell the truth? Please help!
Do you have any proof to actually say it was her except that she did that to one of your other friends a few months ago? Don't play the blame game, but ask her nicely. You'll find out either way or another if she did take your stuff or not. Someone will find out and tell you. Say to her "Listen I dont want to blame you but some of my shirts have been missing, do you have them. I don't care if you do, i just really need them because my mom needs it" Or something, try to stay calm and act like it doesn't really matter. If you know for a face she did it say "Please just give it to me now, I don't care if you have it but if you deny it and I find out that'll make me mad" I hope this helps! I've been in your position and I ended up getting my stuff back. Some people are easier than others(:
so i have this friend. we have been friends since like 6th grade, were in 11th. anyway..she honestly treats me like shit. i dont know why i am still friends with her. well no.. i take that back. i do know why. because if i ignore and just dont want to deal with her anymore she will seriously make my life a living hell. she has done it before. she acts like im not even a human. ive been the one that has been there for her since i dont even know. she is crying, im there triyng to help her. but when I am crying or something is wrong with ME, god forbid she takes 5 seconds out of her life to help someone with a problem and that its not all about HER all the damn time. i dont know what to do. im sick of it. when i get mad, i just ignore her. im not the confrontational type, i dont like bitching at people. i usually keep the peace. but she on the otherhand will rip you apart and make you hate yourself. its happened. today in lunch i was telling her something, because i mean her being one of my best friends..itd b nice if i was allowed to talk to her rtight? apparently wrong. i tell her something, she goes "ok, i dont care" and gave me attitude. so i just got up and went with my friend and i started crying so hard. then these other two gierls that i used to be reallly good friends with, not so much anymore, came up and talked to me., they care more than my so called best friend. she knows im mad but she will turn it around on me and be a bitch. i dont know what to do anymore. please help me!
I've deffinetly been in your position many times with many useless people that I do not talk to anymore. If your only staying in this friendship because she will make your life a living hell, thats not a very good answer.
As you played out, this girls seems some what manipulative and controlling. You shouldn't have to take her crap anymore. No matter what you guys have been through, think fully and think is this really worth it? Feeling worhless just to be friends with her.
If you truely do not want to be friends with her, confronting her may start even more drama. Start to slowly drift apart from her. This way if she really wants you, she'll come to you. Don't "ignore" her or anything because she'll just think your trying to start drama to get attention. Slowly try to talk to new people and find some new peole. You only have 2 years left, and then your off to college (:
Everything will work out, all of the people in your high school now will be gone in a few years and u probably won't even talk to this girl anymore after high school. I hope everything works out!
okay october 31 was my friend's birthday, and i told her im gonna send a myspace comment saying happy birthday so i did and it was long message and a birthday funny picture and i send it at 12AM sharp but the thing is she didnt even apporve my comment and didnt even say thank you until now yet she approved her other friends birthday wishes and said thank you to them is this messed up or what?
Myspace can sometimes be messed up. Yeah it can hurt that you took your time to send your friend a cute happy birthday thing and she didn't reply. Ask her about it. It can hurt to do something special and not get anything in return. You don't know exactly what shes thinking right now. Just ask, it can't hurt(:
Maybe shes thinking about something else right now.
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me and my best friend have been friends for about 3 years. We pretty much do everything together and we normally always have a good time. we never even really fight. lately though she has been getting on my last nerve. she just does stupid annoying things all the time like we were at a sleepover with some people and we were all talking and she just started playing music on her phone and singing and it was really annoying. and she always tries to do things for attention and she is a downer. everytime we hang out with a group of people something is wrong with her, i can't stand it anymore. she like changed over the summer, and is more immature and gosh i don't know what to do. i mean if i lose her as a friend, i really wouldn't have anyone else besides my boyfriend because i don't have any other really close friends. i'm not the best at like getting close with people it takes me awhile [there really is no reason behind that its just the way i am]. i don't want to lose her as friend either though ahh. any advice at all on anything in this really long thing [sorry about that btw] would be great. thank s a ton!
First off, you need to talk to her, face-to-face. Tell her you need to talk to her and make sure its in a quiet place. Just tell her exactly how you feel. Don't expect her to go all omg im sorry, because in many cases people will get very defensive. Put yourself in her position and see how you would feel if your best friend was telling you this.
Think of the reasons why you really want to be her best friend. If its just because you don't have any other friends then that can be considered "using" her in ways. If she continues to annoy you with things maybe you should rethink the friendship.
It might just be that you guys have spent a lot of time together and you might need a little space from each other. Find some new friends that both of you can hang out with. Don't ditch her though. Just rethink of everything and tell her it. Hope everything goes good(:
okay so i no that sounds worng but here is my story. Okay so i do have friends but a friend it supossed to be someone you trust. well i cant trust anyone. one if my good friends talks stuff behind my back and i no that but she like "controls" one of my other good friends, Sally. Sally is so fun around me but when she gets with the other girl she changes. and it sucks cuase she talks about me to. and i hate it godd. my life sucks right now i cant trust anyone! i need help
Wow im sorry. I've been through this too. I felt like everyone was turning againest me and I had no true friends. I'm sorry but friends who talk behind your back are not good friends. Confront them! If they still do it, I would start to back away from them and find some good friends. Its hard to find "true" friends but you will, i promise. Start to be very social and you will deffinetly meet some great people. Try not to tell enyone your secrets right now in till you find a good friend you could trust with your life.
Hope I helped!
ok so my exboyfriend (we're still friends) and my bff wont stop fighting. they just dont like each other. my bff always hits him and makes rude remarks on how dark he is...so of course being a normal guy he has to defend his ego...so he says something rude back...and it never stops ! i've already talked to both of them and my bff wont agree to stop and my ex said that he has to say something back. i cant go anywhere with both of them at the same time. i want to be able to go out somewhere with both of them acting like civilized people.
Do you know why your bff keeps saying rude remarks. Ask her. There mite be a reason and then when you figure that out, you figure out what to do next. Tell them if they don't get along when your around, then your not going to hang out with both of them if it gets that. If you don't want to do this than seperate them. Go to the mall with your bff on friday and then saturday go to the mall with your ex. You mite just have to do something like this if it gets bad. Some people just do not get along. Tell your bff that its really hurting you that shes doing this to you and making you so stressed over crap like this. Maybe she'll listen and stop. If you need anymore advice email me!
Hope I helped!
So I'm going into High School next year
All my friends are going to a Technical High school
They all left me behind
So now I'm going into High School with only a few other people I know from grade school who arent really my 'friends'
Chances are I wont even see them
How can I make new friends?
I'm really shy if I don't know someone
So I don't have the guts to just go up to someone and say hi
But when you get to know me I'm outgoing and just a bubble of energy
But I'm fat...do people like ebing friends with fat girls?
Yes of course, and no don't exclude yourself by calling yourself fat and saying fat girls don't have friends. Thats outcasting urself. First build your self confidence and remember your pretty, and whatever people say there just trying to ruin your self esteem to make them feel better about themself and feel "higher" than you. I use to feel the same way and I discovered I like myself the way i am. And then try to be friendly. Give people compliments and try to pick out people who look nice. A lot of nice poeple will actually come up to u. There's always nice people and don't listen to what people say, its not worth it! Everyone can always make friends, and i'm sure you will too!
Hope i helped!
so, around ppl my age i'm totally myself and comfortable doing so. but when i meet new, older ppl i always try to make a great impression, and i usually do, but i'm not completely myself. what should i do?
Yea everyone is like that. People your age isn't as important, but you want to make a good impression on adults and people older than you. Probably because you feel they judge you more and will like u more. A lot of people feel this way. Try to just pertend the older person is actually the same age as you on some things you talk about. I'm not saying go talk about everything you talk about with your friends, but act as though they are not judging you. Just put it in your mind, be yourself! People will be sure to liek you than!
Hope i helped!
Me and my friend got into a huge fight 2 days ago.And everytime on the bus she is always giving me dirty looks but i give her one back.How can i tell if she is talking behind my back?
First off think about the fight? Was it actually huge or just seemed it than? You have to first look back at it and see if it really was as major as you thought or something dumb. Than when you figure that out figure out if you really want to be friends with this girl or ifi you dont. If you do than make up something to talk to this girl. Try to talk face to face. Not over the phone or in a note. Confront her and ask her why she's acting the way she is and that you really don't want to lose her because she is worth something to u. After you talk you can hit her with the question. A lot of people talk behind peoples back when their mad. Sorry but its the truth, you mite but most of your school probably does. A lot of people just need to let their anger out and talk about it. If this girl apologizes than see how it goes from then. If you need any more adivce email me! Hope i helped!
ok, well i'm REALLY bad at showing my personality at first,i'm mostly shy until you gett to know me. soo, my semi-friend is asking me to hangout with her on saturday(sleepover) but idon't know,because i'm scared its not going to be fun and i'll bore her! i'm not good with just hanging out with one other person, how do i get out of my shell? should i go? any tips on this?
ps-i've known her for awhile only from school. i don't know if i should go for it? thanks!
OF COURSE YOU SHOULD GO!!! You shouldn't miss out on a new friendship chance! Coming out of your shell can be hard, but accomplished. First off bring a couple of things to the sleepover. For example some cool teen magazines, a movie, maybe makeup. What kind of stuff do you like? I once did a makeover with my friend and we did before and after photos. The makeover probably took over the whole night. This girl invited you to her sleepover for an instance, she likes you and wants to hang out with you to become closer. Talk about school, places you like to go, family, friends, and all kinds of stuff. Go to google and put in sleepover tips. I hope i helped! = ]
i wish i could just not worry about what people think.
be normal,be myself, and nothing more.
i wish i could accept myself, prove that who i am, is enough.
and nothing really matters but my happiness.
not worry about the trends,clothes,popularity.
why can't i let that go? and be real? how do i find myself? is it even possible? or will
i always be the scared,shy,little person? i've come accustomed
to me tht way,as much as i hate it.
please help.
thanks
Well the problem is, everyone cares what people think about them whether they admit it or not. It's just in our blood to want to fell reallly liked and hate being rejected by people. But you can accept yourself. The thing is that you should do what you like to do. Just try tuning people out when they give you rude compliments. Also being scared of the world makes it harder to get a good self esteem and care what people think. Try being outgoing. This is really hard to overcome. First start out with doing what you want to do. Then be outgoing. And third tune out people with rude comments. Try turning the rude comments into nice comments. For example if someone calls u a nerd; You can turn it into I'm smart and there jealous. If you need more help, feel free to email me back.
I recently just moved to Moore,Oklahoma from Henderson,Kentucky. Everything is different since I moved like on the line of a huge city. I'm so used to living in a small town. Now school is coming up,and Im going to a new school with new people. I want advice because last time I moved it was a disaster. The school I went to was horrible, it was so bad that I wanted to kill myself(no one say I'm emo, i didnt cut myself). No one talked to me and I had no friends, i didnt talk to anyone and no one talked to me. Unless they were going to pick on me. I talked to my mom's friend, who is really friendly and has a bunch of friends. But I'm just so scared of another school that was so horrible that I want to kill myself. What should I do?
P.S. srry if it was a bit long.
Yeah I know that moving to a new school isn't that great. Everything chages, it feels like life is moving to fast and you have nothing to do in it but be sad and not want to face anything. In your next school, try talking to people who seem nice. For example compliment someone to get a conversation going. Not every school is the same. People make fun of people even if they aren't new. You just have to learn to not care what people say. Yes a lot of a people are cruel, but there are always nice people. Don't worry. Try catching onto a friendly personality. I'm sure everything will turn out the way it is supposed to be. I hope i helped = ]
btw she left already = / i havent talk to her since last day of school which is last month and all i did was avoided her and the last she said to me in myspace was "life's unfair, it's complicated, it works in was we wish it didnt. but don't be sad, i can feel you trying to drift away....makes parting away easier, but then could u really stand the fact of separating knowing htat you guys are distant or parting knowin u guys had last good memories together? but makes going away harder.... " that was it we stoppped talking after this and she asked me why i was avoiding her and stuff she knew i was avoiding her because she was moving and i think she did the same thing...= / what do you think about this? sorry if i annoy you with my questions = /
Well since she moved, I don't see why she stopped talking to you. She might feel like you don't like her anymore for trying to ignore her. Like I said before, right her a heartful email or letter or maybe even a webcam video explaining why you did it. Things didn't seem to leave on good terms with you guys and if you want to make it a lot better than you should send her a letter. You guys can still have a close friendship even though you can't see each that much. And your not annoying me with your questions = ]
i am moving in like 5 days...and idk how i am going to fit in. how will i make friends? like is it hard? am i going to be able to make friends? like what should i do? should i just go up to random ppl and start talking to them? or should i wait for them to come to me? i am very confused on how to make friends. please help!
First off you should remember your first day at a school you didn't know and the people you didn't know. This may have been kindegarten, but you still made friends. Making friends is easy. Yes it is hard and feels sometimes a little neracking and embarrassing, but I'm sure you will meet nice people. Also the people who will invite you into their group are usually the nice people who you can become good friends with for a long time. Moving is tough, I know how you feel. Go up to a group of kids that look nice if you want to start a conversation. Start a conversation like I luv your outfit or something like that. Everyone loves compliments = ] Hope I helped!
my friend is moving soon and i avoided her for a while because i was really sad that shes moving but when we talk a little and when i say bye i hug her so tight like shes leaving tommrow and she says"dont worry im not going anywhere yet...." and next day i talked to her a lil bit and i was gonna hug her like as we always do but she just turned around and refused to hug me and slowly stopped talking to me after this what do you guys think about this situation?
thank you for answering my question but before i IMed her but she didnt respond me or anything so i gave up try talking to her and usually we always talk on AIM when im online but since i avoided her and everything we dont anymore and i havent talk to her for a month now...it hurts = / what do you think about this? = /
Did you do anything wrong to offend her? If not try writing an email to her explaining that your really sad shes moving and you don't wanna miss out on still talkin when she moves and everything you want to tell her. She may be going through a patch right now. I can't read minds are anything to know exactly why she isn't responding, but she might just not want to get to close. Did you try calling her? Maybe try that. There is a lot of ways to contact a person. I hope it all works out = ]