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i can't stand my best friend.
15/f
me and my best friend have been friends for about 3 years. We pretty much do everything together and we normally always have a good time. we never even really fight. lately though she has been getting on my last nerve. she just does stupid annoying things all the time like we were at a sleepover with some people and we were all talking and she just started playing music on her phone and singing and it was really annoying. and she always tries to do things for attention and she is a downer. everytime we hang out with a group of people something is wrong with her, i can't stand it anymore. she like changed over the summer, and is more immature and gosh i don't know what to do. i mean if i lose her as a friend, i really wouldn't have anyone else besides my boyfriend because i don't have any other really close friends. i'm not the best at like getting close with people it takes me awhile [there really is no reason behind that its just the way i am]. i don't want to lose her as friend either though ahh. any advice at all on anything in this really long thing [sorry about that btw] would be great. thank s a ton!
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First off, you need to talk to her, face-to-face. Tell her you need to talk to her and make sure its in a quiet place. Just tell her exactly how you feel. Don't expect her to go all omg im sorry, because in many cases people will get very defensive. Put yourself in her position and see how you would feel if your best friend was telling you this.
Think of the reasons why you really want to be her best friend. If its just because you don't have any other friends then that can be considered "using" her in ways. If she continues to annoy you with things maybe you should rethink the friendship.
It might just be that you guys have spent a lot of time together and you might need a little space from each other. Find some new friends that both of you can hang out with. Don't ditch her though. Just rethink of everything and tell her it. Hope everything goes good(:
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You know what you need to do, you need to talk to her. Do not do this via e-mail, text message, phone, or any sorts of technological fashion. Confront her face to face and sit down with her where you two can be comfortable and have a nice long talk with her about how your feeling of how she's changed. I mean she is your best friend and all right? So there should be no problem of you holding anything back from her that your feeling. Simply ask her and explain to her how it's making you feel and how it's not only affecting her but also your social life.
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Hi,
Ok...first off do remember you are not that much older either. Why dont you try and be honest with her. Honesty is key. And maybe your friend is acting the way she is acting because when you are with a group she feels left out, invisible,not wanted???
So if you talk to her about your feelings and have a responsible,MATURE conversation. Then resolve things.
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Hey, Im 16f and I have been in exactly the same situation. My best friend and I did everything together. She dumped me and now I am left with nothing, I don't even have a boyfriend. The only difference is she dumped me for my BROTHER and now I have to see her with him everyday. I think your friend is just trying to gain attention to herself because maybe she feels neglected or out of place when around a group of people. You should tell her how you feel about your relationship as friends and about how you feel shes changed and not herself anymore. Sometimes you just have to wait it out and let her come to you and tell you how she feels. Communication will help you realize if it is really worth it or not. There is more to life than this one girl, you have to be open to meeting anyone. Being too close to a person may grow on you as if you can't let go. And sometimes, moving on is the only answer. True friends come with a small price.
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