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Well I can help out anyone who plays or wants to play sports. I have been on softball, basketball, volleyball, soccer teams throughout gradeschool, highschool and college. So if you need help with anything regarding sports, let me know. And if I havent done that sport I might know something you could need help with! Also, my friends always come to me with their relationship problems, so if that's something you need help with as well, I'd be glad to help!
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My hair is really long. it goes to about mid-back and it's a darkish brown. frizzy, but i'm working on it, lol. I'm going to a really formal event (dress, make-up, the whole 9 yards) and i'm clueless on what i should do w/ my hair. It needs to stay together and pretty for a long time. Any ideas? If you know any sites that would give me a step-by-step guide to an awesome hair style, that'd be fantastic! Thanks!!!
i have hair that is a little shorter than yours and a little lighter in color. i think you should do a half ponytail (straighten your hair as well) with tendrils on the side of your face. and the ponytail as one tendril. when i was in highschool i went to prom and the whole 'hair all up' in like a bun or french twist, just never looked good. i think that with a little hair down with some 'spunk' to it, will look great!
~4evaurs_21~
im a blond guy and i once learned that girls dont like blonds what should i do with my hair? my hair is short and i am male i rate high
hey there! just because you 'heard' girls don't like guys with blond hair, doesnt mean you need to change your appearance. personally, i go for guys with the dark hair BUT i am dating a guy who has the blond hair and the blue eyes... it doesnt matter about what hair color you have. just don't change your appearance because you heard something. im sure you will find a girl that will fall in love with you and to her, hair color won't matter!
stay who you are, don't change...
~4evaurs_21~
Okay, so I'm 15 and for all my life I've been really really thin. I'm also short so that's why I don;t weigh too much. Well over the summer, I was weighed and measured and I was 4'11" and 93 pounds. Well I also have a REALLY fast metabolism and I don't exactly eat too healthy. I've noticed lately that my thighs and stomach are starting to get bigger than I want them to be. Can someone tell me some good excercise techniques and good diets to keep me skinny? I could really use the help!
ok, so i'm 21 now and i still have the same problem with the fast metabolism. i still play sports so in order to play sports and stay fit, i exercise. since you are already skinny you don't need to diet. but you do have to eat healthier. drink a lot of water and no soft drinks. so just exercise regularly. do certain exercises that deal with your thighs and stomach. if you need more info, let me know!
~4evaurs_21~
Okay. To make a long story short, I've liked this guy andrew for about 6 months now. But for a while I had this boyfriend Ian...we broke up a while ago. Well Andrew has liked me A LOT for 6 months too and now my soposive best friend is trying to steal him from me. I don't want this. I really like...even love this guy and he's just...the most sweetest guy ever. I've had a really tough year this year and he just makes me feel so much better...he means the world to me and we wanna date eachother but my "best friend" likes him. he thinks shes annoying. but id feel bad datng him. WHAT DO I DO!?!?!
if this andrew guy really likes you then you have nothing to worry about with your best friend trying to steal him. now with the situation with you and your best friend - i think you need to talk with your friend by yourself and tell her about all the feelings you have for andrew. and have everything cleared up between you and her. then eventually the three of you talk about everything. this has happened to me before - i've been in your shoes. so that is what i did- i sat down with my best friend, told her about the guy i liked (that she obviously liked too) and i told her he likes me and we want to date. of course she got upset but we were still best friends and she moved on. Then she found someone to date and we double dated so nothing was bad or weird between any of us! I hope this helps you out!
~4evaurs_21~
The show fiddler on the roof: i am the fiddler. opening night is tomorrow and i am terrified of getting off the roof in the blackout. i am on top of the roof, playing my violin... thats scary enough! i dont think im going to be able to do this all week, i get panic attacks and im scared i will get one while im on the roof! what should i do? ill rate high!!!
To start off, so you know where I am coming from, I used to be in the plays and now at my gradeschool I help out with the scenery. It's a family thing. We're all alumni from my gradeschool so my family does the scenery. But anyways, two years ago we did fiddler on the roof and I was in charge of getting the fiddler on and off the roof... but anyways...when you are on the roof the lights will be on you and it is hard to see anyone out in the audience. So when you look out at the audience, smile and look above the audience. They will never know you are looking above them. Just don't look up at the ceiling or anything. Since I was in charge of getting the fiddler on and off the roof, I was there by her side the entire time. There was a ladder there and I held onto her while she was up there. So she knew nothing would happen. I'm sure someone will be 'in charge' of making sure you are safe and no one will get hurt. Just make sure you smile because they can see you and if you aren't smiling when you are 'playing' your violin, they will not enjoy it that much, if you know what I'm saying.
I hope I helped, anything else you need to know, let me know! I'll be happy to help you out! Let me know how opening night goes!!
~4evaurs_21~
I'm 13 and I'm trying out for my school's volleyball team in 2 weeks. I've never played on a team before; but I've been to 6 camps, several private training classes with the coach, and practice with my dad alot [ he and the coach play on the same adult leauge team * they're best friends but she already told me I wasn't garenteed a spot on the team]
However I'm really nervous, I'm not that tall. And the Coach practicly immeaditley takes tall girls even if they have no idea what sport they're trying out for leaving only a few extra spots for girls who know what there doing. I'm a pretty good player; I've taken 1st 2nd and 3rd in my camps final tournements. But I'm really nervous; I'm so nervous I can't even serve anymore. My serves haven't made it over the net consistenly in 2 weeks. How can I calm down; and better prepare myself for try outs? Thanks guys =]
Ok. First of all, when you serve: RELAX. I used to do the same thing with my serves. I couldn't get them over the net consistently either. This is what I did. I made goals and consequences for myself. (consequences: for example: if i missed a serve I would have to run from one side of the gym to the other and get right back in there and serve. Just make up something small and then eventually when you get your serves over consistently make them a little harder). Also, right before I served (overhand), I took a deep breath then took two short bounces on the gym floor-to get me focused. Then I extend my arms (in the postion right before you toss the ball in the air) and take another deep breath and then serve it. Make sure the toss is high enough and hit it on the base of you palm (if thats what its called). Then eventually when you get it over consistantly, aim. You know what the positions are right? 1-6? Aim for the number 5 or 3 or something just for a little challenge. I was an assistant volleyball coach my junior year of highschool and we won first place in our division that year. If you need anymore help, let me know and I will be glad to help you out.
Also, do exercises to strengthen your arm. That will also help you out.
Well I hope I helped! And let me know if you need anymore advice!! :-)
~4evaurs_21~
I was talking to this guys today and he used to play football and he shaves his legs. He said that the reason he started was becuase they had to tape their legs in football and it hurt when he took the tape off. But anyway, what do they tape their legs for?
They could tape for a lot of different reasons. Injury, support and sometimes just knowing that something is there it won't worry them on getting hurt.
so i have been with this team for about 6 years and i work hard each summer and i'm still benched a lot throughout the whole season. I'm not very good friends with the people on the team and sometimes i think that i'm not that good. i'm torn between quitting when the season ends or sticking witht the team. it would only be one more year of it and then i'd be done. should i go through being benched a whole year again, and keep trying to improve, or should i just quit and let the stress and other drama be gone? help!
ok... well i dont know what your strengths or weaknesses are, so i cant really help you out that way, but if you could tell me what they are I can help you out better.
My junior year I played volleyball and I was benched because the seniors that year were good and my position was taken: setter. And I was like third-string. lol But anyways, I hated sitting on the bench BUT I learned alot. My senior year, we got new coaches and now I was the setter for our team. I think sitting on the bench helped out, as much as I didn't like it, but it did help me and I learned alot. Now with your situation you said you have one more year ? well if thats the case you need to ask yourself these questions:
How determined am I to improve?
If I quit, will I be happy with my decision?
See what your answers are and then make your decision... And let me know what you choose! :-)
I hope I helped!
~4evaurs_21~
hey! okay, i'm 15/f and i'm allowed to get my belly button pierced after our last cheerleading competition, which is around march 13. but, we are going to mexico for spring break on march 24, and i don't know if i should get it done before spring break or not. i want it when i'm laying on the beach and stuff but will the water in mexico and all the chlorine be bad for it? i don't know if i should get it done before or after mexico. any ideas? any info on belly button piercing would be great too!
hey, the chlorine and salt water will help the healing process but you need to keep in mind (if you get it pierced before you leave) that if it gets infected it'll be uncomfortable and maybe even ruin your trip. i would say wait on the piercing until you get back, just in case something like infection occurs... my belly piercing got infected and it felt really uncomfortable but i took car of it, i used the stuff/cleaning product and used it everyday and since then, its been fine. so make sure you clean it everyday for awhile until you think it doesnt need it anymore.
also, on belly button piercings, it doesnt hurt at all, i got my tongue pierced as well and that hurt more than the belly button and my tongue piercing only hurt when the guy screwed the top ball on the bar. so you have nothing to worry about for pain...
i hope i helped!
~4evaurs21~
Next week I turn 21. No big deal really, I was legal at 19 were I live.
A while ago me and my boyfriend agreed for a whole bunch of reasons to not focus on our birthdays too much this year, just do something nice for valintines day. Which was totally cool with me. But now my girlfriends want to take me out for my birthday.
The thing is everybody, even myself, wants this to be a girls night thing. I don't even think my boyfriend would want to come to the place they have in mind, but I'm not sure how to tell him that I want to spend my birthday with just my close group of girls. What should I do?
first off, happy birthday, i turned 21 a little over a month ago... but anyways, you two talked about just doing something for valentines day so you can stick to that... but i think you should go out with your girlfriends and have a girls night out, because every girl needs a night like that!! well invite him first and see what he says... if he doesnt want to join then you can tell your boyfriend that you can see him the next day or even see him that night as well or - either before or after your 'girls night out' Talk it over with him and explain exactly what you would like to do on YOUR birthday, and if our boyfriend really loves you, he'll understand...
hope i helped!
~4evaurs_21~
How do slow down fast metabolism? Any tips or something?
i have a fast metabolism as well, i am very active with sports and all that... at first i didnt like the fast metabolism, but i just kept up with it. just eat right and exercise regularly to keep your muscles fit. don't stop your daily activities. STAY ACTIVE!! getting older does slow down your metabolism, and yours will eventually. i never turned to the doctor to help slow it down, i just found out how to keep up with it. if you have any more questions, just let me know!
~4evaurs_21~
There is this guy (let's call him Bob) and he's really really cute. I just met Bob a few months ago but he's very sweet and whenever I'm with him I get goosebumps and butterflies in my stomach (majorly) I don't know if I should go up to him and tell Bob I really like him or not. And he also dated one of my friends but they broke up, and I don't want her to be mad at me if I date him. What should I do?
well, if you and Bob are good friends and you think there is some really good chemistry, then the least you can do is tell him that you are into him. i understand that your friend dated him, but you are not acting on your feelings. even if it would make you feel a little better talk to your friend that dated Bob and tell her your feelings towards Bob so she won't hear it from someone else. And if you tell her make sure it's only you and her together. if this helps, let me know... i know where you are coming from...
Alright well I'm rather skinny..I'm 5'1" and and I weigh about 90 lbs...I'm 14 years old. Well I have like really skinny thighs and I wish they were bigger. It's so hard finding pants that are tight around the leg and it makes me so mad. I always find pants that are tight on my butt because my butt is kinda big and it doesn't fit well with my skinny legs. Does anyone know what I should do to make my legs bigger or what pants I should buy. Most likely I'd like to know about making my thighs bigger. Thanks.
I was the same way. I still am skinny but now I have an athletic build kinda look goin' on. lol But what you can do is do leg exercises to build up muscle. Also, I went to Kohl's department store and found pants that fit my butt and thighs and looked great! It just took awhile to find them, so be patient. hope i helped! ~4evaurs~
My friends is 13 and she is like suicidal.. she used to be so quiet in school and get straight A's, but now she's failing. Her grades dropped, and she started to cut herself. Her info on AOL is like "I Just Wanna Die", Her icon Is a Picture of a bloody knife.. It's really starting to scare me.. But everytime i ask her about it she says "No, why does everyone keep asking me that!"
When we all know that it's true.. what can i do to help her.. it's not like she'd want to talk to anybody about it :/
My cousin's friends were 13-16 and she asked me for advice. My frshman year in highschool I was best friends with this guy that had it rough, imean really rough. It was horrible. He ended up in the hospital many times over the school year for overdosing, etc. It scared me. I told him I needed to talk to him whether or not he wanted to listen. So I poured my heart out to him on how me and his other friends would feel if he committed suicide, how much I cared for him, etc. The next day I found a pic of me and him and brought it to school, showed him and said "this would be the last one of these that we would have if you committed suicide". Also, I went with him to go get help and over the course of the year he got better. We becamse closer after that!
Anyways, my cousin asked me to help her friends out and of course I did. All you need to do is sit down with your friend and tell her she is only 13 and there is so much more life to live. Tell her you care deeply about her and tell her how much it would hurt if she was gone. And if she doesnt listen, there is nothing you can do about it. Tell her those icons and her profile bother you. If you think that this is too much to handle and may be more severe, you might need to tell someone, like a teacher or guidance counselor, if you go to the same school. Make sure you help her out as much as you can. Hope I helped out! ~4evaurs~
my dad was recently laid off from work (he was the manager for the propane department of a co-op). he decided he wants to go back to the job he had before that, which was an EMT(emergency medical technician). the problem is that he left that job because he had a lot of depression problems when he couldn't save someone. should i still encourage him to go back to that job?
I think you should encourage him! Things will not go right all the time, but when they do, he will feel great! That is a great field, especially if his heart is all in it!
lastnight 8 of us went to my friend stephen's house and then chili's and a movie and this guy robbie that likes me invited me and so at the movie he sat next to me and put his arm around me and he told my friend that he was sure he liked me last night but then today his AIM didnt work and so he had to put up away messages for me to read bc i was like hey and i didnt know his AIM wasnt working. so then his away message was like im sorry then another was like i just feel like we have nothing in common. then he signed off. and then i was talking to my friend and she said that robbie is not good at talking with girls and now he is thinking about if he likes me or not. and then i was talking to my friend eric and i was like i dont think robbie likes me anymore. hes like he likes u. and then he was like he just isnt good at talking with girls but i talked to him about it dont worry. so now i dont know what to do like if he likes me or not/ if he doesnt he shouldnt lead me on and like put his arm around me?
I definitely think this Robbie guy likes you. He could be shy to talk to you so maybe you have to start it all of with him. He could also not know what to say around you and might be scared to say something stupid and you might react differently. I think you should try talking to him, get to know him a little better and then make your decision on whether or not you wanna try anything with him. Then once you get to know him a little more, you will see if he does like you for sure. Just try and make the "first move". - hope I helped ~4evaurs~
for dark/ medium dark brown hair owuld leik a blonde and cinnamon color highlights look good?
I have medium dark brown hair and I just put blonde highlights with some red and I think it looks really cute. My friend did my hair so I can see what other colors would look good for highlights for dark/medium brown hair. I think that blonde and a cinnamon color would be cool. hope i helped ~4evaurs~
Ok. My recent exboyfriend & I both work at the same place. That is how we met but now still have to work together despite us breaking up. It has only been about 2 weeks since we broke up and he's been telling everyone at work that it was mostly him who wanted to break up. I know this is kind of dumb but this bothers me because I was the one who had to bring it up(us breaking up). He never said anything to me about wanting to break up. And so he knows that it was mutual yet he's telling everyone that it was mostly him. He's the type of person to be boastful about things so this is just another added bonus. Should I confront him about it and how this bothers me and risk our friendship or just let it go and let him have his fame & glory?
I did the same thing. I worked for about 3 months and finally started dating the guy from work. After we broke up for good, he would bring up a girl he was dating and she would sit there while our shift was going on. I worked in a fast food restaurant that was in a food court. So she would sit where I could see her and she would try to make me jealous. They would make out in front of me and everything. I was so upset with him, that I confronted him. His parents loved me and so did his sister(his sister worked with us as well). Even his parents told him to not do that to me. I never wanted his 'rents to get involved, but they did. All I'm saying is that I made a bad decision on dating a co-worker. I found that out the hard way. I didnt like working there anymore because I felt uncomfortable around him and we never worked together on the same shift.
Anyways, I confronted him about it and told him it didnt bother me and that if he wanted to try and make me jealous or whatnot, he needed to grow up.
I think you should confront him and tell him he needs to get his story straight. If you need any more advice on this, let me know, - Im here!
~4evaurs~
ok heres my deal, i will be moving to fl from ca and i am shy and i want to know what is the best way to present myself in a friendly manner so that will able me to make friends...??
thank you so much!
Are you in highschool? But anyways be yourself. Be open and try to go out and go to social events. That is a good way to get noticed and start making friends... well let me know if you are in highschool or not, cuz i can give you better advice once I know. Hope I helped u out! ~4evaurs~
Does anyone know any downloading things that you can download music on, I've downloaded everything and I always get mp3's and i hate em. I want something that doesn't download mp3's.
There is a great site that you can download music and have options for downloading for free or if you want to pay, which downloading free is better :-) www.bearshare.com is a good site!! Have fun downloading!