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Q: I am a female and in the seventh grade....I have a problem in school and i'm hoping you can help me....there's a 8th grade boy in school who always flirts with me dirty and really freaks me out...he writes to me in notes that he likes the way I change in the dressing room: he sliped a note in my locker like this "Do you like maths, if so add a bed, subtract ur clothes, divide your legs and we can multiply!" ....another one like this ......."what did your left leg say to your right leg? don't know they never met! because my tounge is always down there" ....and he told me this in person ...."Do you know that you would look great with two pounds less ... in my opinion the clothes you're wearing weigh exactly two pounds!....it grosses me out and the worst part is My boyfriend says i'm acting weird so he thinks i'm cheating with him....i sure hope you can tell me the easiest thing to do.

sounds like he is sexually harassing you,
easiest thing to do if you want it to stop tell a teacher or principle, tell your boyfriend hell probably stand up for you and tell the kid to cut the shit.

Q: Ok so I recently discovered thumb piercings, but i only seem to be able to find one photo of it. i think they're lovely, but i need some information on the aftercare and whatnot, because google is not coming up with much besides handweb piercings. i found a little on finger piercings, so would the risks/aftercare procedures be the same or is it different since you use your thumb more?

.. who would want to get there thumb pierced?
stupid.

Q: i'm not looking for songs about love...just sex..they can be about sex or just have a good beat i don't really care but i don't like r&b very much...rock and alternative rock and punk and stuff are good...i like things with a fast pace and dirty lyrics

k thanks

lets talk about sex - salt n pepa
boom boom boom boom - vengaboys
candyshop- 50 cent

Q: Let's say hypothetically that a girl masturbates. She's done it with a couple of 'things' but she doesn't do it a lot.

My question is what really happens when you masturbate with things? With regular household items like water bottles or the ends of hair brushed or w/e?

Does your vagina get infected? How do you know if it is infected?

its not bad unless its something dirty and gross..
it would get probably infected if dirt gets in you.. put a condom on w/e your using to avoid that

Q: okayy, welll.
for some reason i can't keep a boyfriend.
& they always end up leavin.
it may be because im really controlling.
but like, i really wanna know how to get a guys whipped.

well you answered your own question
dont be so controlling?
guys hate that.

Q: your advice doesnt seem very serious.
is this thing a joke to you? your supposed to try when you give people advice, its not all fun and jokes.
get real please

because i really care
what someone probably on the other side of
the world/country cares about me??
hahaha nahson.

Q: I really like a dress at Pink Ice;
https://www.pinkicestore.com/product/Read_Product.asp?BrandCode=&CodeSexNo=&SectionNo=&GroupNo=13&ProductNo=3529
But I can't buy it unless it's cheaper. Websites would help a lot.

THANKS[:

it says its only 24.99, your not going to find a dress cheaper then that..

Q: Who were some of the greatest insane writers.
Like Poe, or Stephen King?
I need one more example for a paper but I can't seem to find anything.

david pezler.

Q: this is really gross and i dont want to have to go to a doctor unless i absolutely have to. i have a small bump on the outside of my butthole. its soft.. it feels like theres stuff in it. every once in a while, when i go to the bathroom, it bleeds somewhat. its not a lot, because it doesnt rub off on my underwear, but it comes off on the toilet paper when i wipe. what could this be and is it harmful?
THANK YOU!

that is a symptom of hemorrhoids, its embarrassing but you should go to a doctor and have it check out.

Q: 15/f
So basically I have this wonderfully amazing boyfriend! I love everything about him, he's just so perfect. But last night I had a dream about another guy. I hate this guy but in the dream I was in love with him. Does this mean I'm cheating? Or that I don't really love my boyfriend as much as I thought???
I'm so confused.

you wernt cheating its just a dream and probably means nothing, dont stress or worry about it just forget it if you love your boyfriend and you no you hate this guy then it means nothing

Q: alot of my friends are dropping out and getting their diplomas. one of my friends is going to go to a community college for 2 years and then go to a university..and she dropped out last year. and one of my friends who worked her butt off in high school for 4 years didnt is going to go to a community college for 2 years and then a university. it seems like my friend who dropped out didnt have to finish school but my other friend does and is still doing the thing drop outs are doing. so im not seeing any consquences of dropping out of highschool. it looks like if i work hard in school im still going to be equal to the people who havent. also my dad complains how i wont be able to afford anything in this economy in america even if i go to college. so whats the point of finishing school? im just going to be poor anyways.

if you drop out, you will regret it
you cant even get a crappy job anymore without a high school diploma. Its not worth it just finish high school at least. change schools if you have to just tell your parents you dont have any friends really anymore and you want to switch schools.. just do not drop out theres already enough stupid drop outs in this country we dont need anymore.

Q: i thought that i was good friends with dani but she urged her best friend to sleep with my boyfriend. then lied to me about it and hangs out with my boyfriend and lies to me about that too. now, i find out that she talks bad about me behind my back to anyone that will listen. i dont even know what to say to these people. how should i handle this? i need to stick up for myself, i have spent WAY to many years being walked on.

um get better friends?
obviously she doesnt like you if shes talking shit about you and if shes hanging out with your boyfriend? hes probably cheating on you.

Q: my boyfriend has had 3 other girlfriends besides me and has slept with 6 other girls. this boy is my first serious boyfriend and the first and only person i have ever slept with. now, i know i cant do anything about all the people he has been with but the other day i was in his room looking through some pictures that he had in a basket and i found many many pictures of all his old girlfriends. there were ones from his prom and when he was very young and even sexual pictures with his first girlfriend. it really hurt me that he still had these and i that i saw them. i dont like thinking that he has been with other people the same way he has been with me. it hurts a lot.

he also slept with another girl while we were dating and it just really hurts whenever i have to be reminded of things like that. i just wanted to know how to get passed all these other girls.

he slept with another girl while you were going out? why would you stay with him? and if you continue to thats your own fault and you set yourself up for finding those picture by snooping threw your cheating boyfriends stuff.

Q: my boyfriend cheated on me. its been years and we have worked past it but there is still a problem. he slept with his best friend's best friend so of course i am still forced to see her all the time. this girl thinks that she did nothing wrong and wants to be friends. when i told her know they all got pissy. now i thought that i was good friends with my boyfriends best friend but now i hear that they dont like me and think that i overreacted with the whole situation. when i found out that he slept with that whore i didnt even break up with him, so i dont know how i could have overreacted.

i just want to know how to deal with being around these horrible people who talked crap about me behind my back, sleep with girls boyfriends, and still think that they are good people?

if your boyfriend thinks you overacted kick him in the nuts and move on, you should have broke up with him when he cheated on you.

Q: What is the name of the little girl who plays "Charlotte York Goldenblatt's" daughter in the upcoming "Sex and the City Movie"??

Thanks so much!!

this site is for 'advice'
look it up on google.

Q: how do you make a video on youtube?
of just pictures & music?

um you tape something with a video camera and upload it on to youtube.

Q: okays so i really like this guy and he likes me. well everyone has told me to make the first move and ask him out. i think im gonna do it. and get over my fears and see what he has to say. the only problem is i dont know how to. should i do it over the phone, over a text, in person, or what??? i really want to go out with him and i think we would make a great couple. please help me and give me some advice on how to ask him out.
thanks :]

if you really like him just come out and ask him probably in person.

Q: i have a lexmark 4200series printer i have bought new ink and paper but it prints very wrong the letters are all on top of each other and all over the place what can i do to fix it????

buy a new one?

Q: I recently gave a ride home to my ex-boyfriend and he invited me into his house to show me something. While we were joking around, he started hitting on me. I didn't think anything of it until he pinned me down on his bed and tried to hook up with me. I told him no because I love my current boyfriend and I can't cheat on him. He then told me it wasn't cheating because we were just having fun and we're teens. It doesn't mean anything and he really misses kissing me and feels empty inside. I left his house and i left him really upset but i couldnt stay there anymore.

What scares me more is that part of me really did want to hook up with me and I feel in a way I cheated/was disloyal to my current boyfriend. MY friend told me its just a thing with ex's and sometimes she feels that way around hers even tho she wouldn't do anything.

I don't know if I should tell my boyfriend about it and how much I should tell him. I'm losing sleep over it because its bothering me so much but I don't want to ruin what I have with him now.

Please help

17/female.

ok well i was in a similar situation only instead of it being my ex it was my boyfriends friend.. and i felt i was doing the right thing by telling him and i didnt think anything of it but my boyfriend freaked out and accused me of cheating and stuff even though i never did nor would, so if you tell your boyfriend there is always a possibility of him thinking the worse, but i still think you should tell him i see it as if nothing happened then you have nothing to hide(even though i did that and my boyfriend still accused me) but maybe and hopefully yours wouldnt. but its all up to you, do what you think is right in your situation.

hope everything works out.

Q: 15/f

Things are just spriling out of control right now. I had a group of friends but two of them got into a fight, therefore one of them left to go to another group and the other one is now hanging out with just her boyfriend. The others are just there, but i dont feel as comfortable to hang out with them anymore. They are mostly with themselves now. That just leaves me! I don't have a lot of other friends, other then them. I just came to this High School hardly knowing anyone. What i need advice on is how can i make new friends to hang out at lunchtime and stuff? I am not popular at all..and frankly thats what its all about in high school unfortuntely. I feel so lonely and "lower on the social ladder". Its hard and i really need some advice. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you