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HS Drama
15/f
Things are just spriling out of control right now. I had a group of friends but two of them got into a fight, therefore one of them left to go to another group and the other one is now hanging out with just her boyfriend. The others are just there, but i dont feel as comfortable to hang out with them anymore. They are mostly with themselves now. That just leaves me! I don't have a lot of other friends, other then them. I just came to this High School hardly knowing anyone. What i need advice on is how can i make new friends to hang out at lunchtime and stuff? I am not popular at all..and frankly thats what its all about in high school unfortuntely. I feel so lonely and "lower on the social ladder". Its hard and i really need some advice. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you
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I'm a loner in High School too..
Ugh get rid of the idea of a "social ladder".. There's really no ladder; just people who think they're better than others..
Anyway, it is awkward to go up to a group of strangers and just become friends. It doesn't work that way.. I think that friends happen over time. So, just continue what you're doing; be aware of the people in your classes, join in conversations.. Join clubs, do things you're interested in.. Do new things.
Also, you can focus on the people you see everyday but don't really know..
Everyone says this, but "being yourself" is very beneficial- so continue doing it!!
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Ok, if those girls are gonna "huff-n-puff" over something stupid that's probably not even worth it, then that's not cool. If the situation's between those two only, then it should affect you or your other friends. High school isn't about staying with only one group of friends. It about meeting new people and having new experiences. Maybe you like sports? Try out for a team or train with someone for the next season. Do you like writing? Join the school newspaper or drama club. Art's your thing? Design posters for the school. Like helping people out? Do volunteer work. High school's what YOU make it, not what you let other people make it. Put yourself out there and meet new people. You'll never know. Maybe you'll meet someone who'll end up being one of your best friends...
Hope this helps! Good luck...
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hey,
meet knew people, join a sport or some type of club thats how a lot of people become friends take up something new
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Either I'm ignorant or I don't give sh.t about the "social ladder" that may exist in my high school. Sure, some people want to be that popular kid that everyone wants to hang out with. But me, I really couldn't care less about it.
It doesn't matter where you are on the "social ladder" as long as you enjoy high school with the friends you have.
One thing you can do is try and have things work out between the two friends. Or find people in your class. Start up a conversation with them, and in no time, you'll get a good start on making new friends. Find someone you know from elementary or middle school. Say, "Hey! Long time no see!" Blah blah blah. Talk about the past. Talk about what's new, etc, etc, etc. Go to plays, concerts, parties, clubs, etc, and find people you sort of know and strike up a conversation.
At lunch, just find someone you know (doesn't matter if you just met them) and sit next to him/her.
There is no magical way of making friends. It's all different for every person. The only thing is to get a conversation going and be friendly. Don't mind much about where you are or where the person you're targeting is on the "social ladder." Just have fun making friends.
Friends come and go, but that doesn't mean that you can't make new friends and enjoy school =)
Good luck!
15/f
Emily
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