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One of my friends steals. Not from stores, but from us! (her friends) she wont admit it. She just recently stole my mac shadestick, and those arent that cheap. She will not confess to it and i KNOW she has it. She stole my friends iPod, and steals my other friends clothes a lot. I really want my shadestick back because its my fav one and i had it the morning before she came over then after she left it was gone. I dont know what to do to get her to confess? She also makes up a lot of lies and stuff .. what should i do?

Wow..stealing from friends? thats really messed up. You should tell the police or something..get them involved. find a way to PROVE you know she is stealing..like set up a secret camera in your room when she is over..and leave really awesome stuff out that she would want to steal. then purposely leave her alone in the room for a little while..like go to the bathroom and take 5 mins,take a shower,get a snack for you two, etc. thats what i would do..then nail her by showing her the tape. demand everything back or threaten to take the tape(s) to the police. i think this will be very effective.

I really want to go to some cool resort over spring break but I don't really know of any places that are good for teens (not school-age kids).

I know Atlantis isn't that good...

soooo any suggestions would be appreciated.

If you go to universal they have great rides and awesome night life. the resorts are literally righht there too! you can see the hard rock hotel from the park.
disney is always good because they provide busses to disney. and downtown disney is good to have fun and go dancing with friends.

ok
14/m
i'm going to a party on saturday after i get back from vacation, and my ex girlfriend is going to be there. we were together for 4 months, and i absolutely loved her. we broke up about a week and a half ago. she's going with this guy that is apparantly the reason we broke up, and its REALLY pissing me off. i thought about bringing this really pretty friend i have to make my ex jealous, but she's already busy on saturday. so what should i do? i definitely want to go to the party, but i don't know what to do about the fact that she's going to be there with that guy...

thanks guys
Sam

Pretend she isnt even there. She will get pleasure seeing that you arent having a good time because she is there. This is a great opportunity to flirt it up bigg time and maybe meet someone new. If you dont meet anyone just have a good time with friends. Pay no attention to her even though it will bother you and it would definately bother me too.
Good luck with everythingg

how far away is jacksonville from florida

Jacksonville is right in florida..very soon after crossing the border into florida you go through jacksonville.

she knows i wanted to ask him to prom she knew i want to go out with him.. she is the one who told me to ask him now she i am confused because she said one thing but now shes all over him

I would be confused also. I think you should still talk to her and ask her whats going on. Be like " i thought you knew i liked him.." would you be mad if we went out? Maybe she does like him but wouldnt mind if you go after him. If she does mind, maybe going after this guy would only tear up your friendship.

Well my bestfriend Hannah and I have been friends for a while and i tell her everything even about how i am like in love with one of my other bestfriends. Everyone says he likes me to and that i should ask him out so i was planning to ask him to prom but when our church went to mexico and hannah and the boy went.. it was like she was flirting with him. She was always around him stealing his sunglasses laughing playing games with him and when i asked her about she was like i would never do that because you like him.. I never got a chance to ask him to prom becuase she was always with him.. what should i do

before i ask the guy to prom or ask him out..i would have a talk with my friend..i would eplain to her that the friendship between you and her really means a lot to you and you dont want it to be ruined over a guy. tell her your plans to ask him to prom and possibly go out with him. see what she says. if she admits that she really likes him to..ask her if she is SURE its ok if you go for him. if she is uncomfortable about it i would just stay friends with him and ask him to prom as friends.
hope i helped
-melissa-

I started playing volleyball and im on the team now. My friend (P) made it too and she's with 1 of her best friends. All the other girls on there I really dont even know them...and the problem is they are not friendly. They are nice and friendly to my friend (P) but not me. Im nice to them but alls they do is completely "ignore" me. Its very ah-nnoying. And everytime I go to practice I feel like a loser because not only are they not even talking to me my friend (P), she is getting all the attention because shes so sweet and shes totally leaving me out of it. So I feel like a pathetic loser now everyime I go to practice. Its Like everyone hates me. I love volley ball but I hate everyone on the team. What Should I do about this? Should I quit?

hey definately dont quit! maybe talk to your friend about how you are feeling and maybe your friend can help you fit in..like maybe she can host a sleepover with all the girls and will put in an effort to include youu more. even if it doesnt work out with the other girls..stick with volleyball..dont quit just because the girls arentt that great. if you dont make any friends,..your friend should at least make more of an effort to talk to you.

I have two younger brothers (10 and 14) and me (16) and today me and my mother were talking about how old we're all getting and how fast we're growing up and she said "well not fast enough" and i asked what she meant and she said, "as long as you guys are this young i cant leave your father" and she completely broke down and started crying and said "I cant take it any longer" and i said "just leave him now" but she refuses to do anything until we're all married and on our own, but i hate this because i havnt noticed until now how miserable she is, my dad keeps telling her she's worthless and treating her like crap and telling her we're bad children and its all her fault - she's a bad mother (when she's really not!!) And the thing is he's been treating her like this for about 6 years, (we call it "the daily burst out" everyday my dad has to use her as a verbal punchbag for atleast 1 hour before he can go out and pretend to be happy, its like his way of getting all the anger out so he can live a normal life... he had a pretty messed up childhood) I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. i cant mak myself grow up any quicker!! or my brothers.. and i feel bad telling my mom to leave him like this. and she wont anyways. WHAT DO I DO???

I know its sad..but there reaally isnt much you can do . You can do things like support her, show her you are there for her if she wants to talk..and let heer know that you and your brother and her can make it on their own and if she wants to leave your father she should! It sounds like your mom is holding a lotttt in..so maybe it will help if you let her cry and talk to you about stuff. Little things to cheer her up like making a card,buying her floowers,etc would really make her day.

do 16 year old guys allready have sex????????

oh gosh yes. A lot seem to. My little brother is 13 and in 8th grade..and says some of the guys already have...maybe the guys are lying but woww young right??

I need your help melissa, desperatly.
I've been dating this guy who is just a tad bit older than I, for about a month. We were on and off before hand, but he had a girlfriend, and I knew who she was from work. We were friends until the first time that they broke up and he and I had gotten together. Then he felt that things werent right and he needed her back ((he had also gotten her pregnant when she was 18, shes now 19, she had 2 misscarrages.)) but a month ago they split up, and she knew that we were together, and she and I are friends again, but now he wants her back, and he still hasnt gotten over her, and I just feel completely alone. I fell into what I think is "love" with him. and I've been crying for the passed 2 night. He wants to sit and talk to her, and they might get back together, or they might not, but I'm feeling like a rag doll being thrown around. what do I feel? what do I do?

-hopeless romantic.

You certainly are caught up in a big mess..you really dont desserve anyyy of this. This guy cant go back and forth from you to her...its not right. He isnt over her..and you know this..so the best thing for you to do is get over him. If you keep holding on you will only continue to get thrown around and it isnt fair to you. I know it is going to be exxtremely hard..everyone experiences something like this where they have to let it go even though they really dont want to..but with time you will get stronger. You will grow and learn with your past experiences..and trust me, the right guy will come along someday and he wont play these games with you. Be strong...let him go and you will be so proud of yourself later. I know it seems like it will be impossible right now..but it will get easier. For now keep busy with friends,shopping,meeting new people..etc.
And remember..be strong!

So yeah I'm 15 and a boy,

I know this might be strange, but I just suddenly started liking this girl recently. I can't ever stop thinking about her. I don't think about her in a sexual way, but more of a loving way.
There are problems though. This girl goes to a different school than me and I'm hesitant about going out with someone that doesn't go to my school.
The second thing is, all my friends told me that dating is a complete waste of time until you're older.
This seems like the first time I've REALLY liked someone. Unlike some of my friends, I don't really look at the size of girl's boobs or anything, I tend to look at the inside. Does that make me more mature or something, or am I being rash? Tell me what you think.

Wow you sound like a really great guy! You arent shallow..and you really like this girl..definately go for it! Dont listen to your friends who say dating is a waste of time at this age..thats not true. As for the out of school thing..it can definately work..my bf used to go to a school about 25 minutes away from mine but we were able to see each other a lottt because my parents really helped out with driving back and forth. things are so much easier because i got my license and he even lives by me now..so it workedo ut..and its been like 13 months :)
So dont let some distance scare you..it can be worked out..between your parents driving a couple days of the week..and her parents driving a couple days..it can work. You guys can meet up at the movies or the mall..carpool with friends..etc. but it sounds like you really like her..go for it! :)

me and my friend Vanessa are really close(yes same friend from last question)but....things are slipping.Im becoming popular, hanging out with new,mature people, and she well isnt.I want her to fit in with my new friends but,whenever she does she makes a fool out of her self what do i do?Im not gunna ditch her, but i am gunna stay friends with the populars, cause theyre really nice to me!

the people i look up to and like the most are the ones who talk to and chill with all kinds of people..not the same people and not the ppl who isolate themselves to oone group. the diverse people who are friendly to all kinds of people are the people who seem to be least hated. so continue to be this girls friend..and also persue new relationships. a good balance is the best idea
:) -melissa

what does that mean?

Ah..yes..being shady. i can give you a few examples:
- telling your friends you arent doing anything or dont know what you are doing for the day when really you have plans to go somewhere with another friend
-purposely leaving a friend out of plans or ignoring them
-being a fake friend is pretty shady
-acting '2 faced'..acting/saying one thing to someoen..but going behind their back saying/acting the total opposite way

im confuse i like this boy alot and i mean alot and every time i see him in the hallways my whole body just heat up and i feel so wierd at times. And i think about him everyday and he has a myspace and i go on it and look at his profile everyday. and when i see him with another girl i get jealous real easy even though we dont go out. i dont know if its a crush or is it realy love because i dream about him and daydream about him everyday and i even made wedding plans huh call me crazy. so plz what is this that im feeling.

Att this point its just that you reeally like him..you are really interested and infatuated with him..if you get to know him and become close with him it could develop into love.

My sister and her friend (they're 14 years old in middle school) asked me if they could go to a friend's house at 11:00 tonight. I asked them about it, and they said that they would go to a guy's house who's also 14. He lives about a 10 minute walk away from our house. They don't want me to tell our mom.

Basically, I said no. My sister and her friend told me that the guy's parents don't know about it and that they would WALK there. I explained that 2 girls outside at 11pm is very dangerous. So they asked if I could drive them (I'm 16). I said no to that because no parents know about it, and I just don't have a good feeling about it (I don't think they'd have sex, I just think something bad will happen, like get caught).

My sister doesn't understand because earlier this year, I came home from a party because of my 11pm curfew, but I went back to the party til 12am when I found out that my mom was asleep. I think that these are completely different situations: there were parents at the party who knew about the party, my mom was drunk that night so she wouldn't get mad, and I wouldn't be walking.

Did I do the right thing by telling my sister and her friend that they couldn't go tonight?

You definately did the right thing..immagine if someeething happeend..you would never forgive yourself! It was very responsible of you to stay strong and say no..i know i wouldnt be happy if i were the younger sister..but you definately made the right choice :)

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months-- half of which have been long distance. There's no way we can see each other in the near future but so far we're doing fine. Lately, we haven't had anything to talk about! We know EVERYTHING about each other and even at 10 hours away - we're practically married. I know it sounds like "the end" for most, but we did talk about how we don't want to break up. We're both 16 & in love. Anyone have things we could talk about? Anything at all - random, weird, abstract, deep,shallow - we really don't care, we just want to be able to talk. Any ideas are greatly appreciated! Thanks for your time & thoughts!

Hmm..take things that are happening in the media and news..like brittany spears shaving her head and being a wild thing (lol) and ask him what would you do if you were her family? can you beeleive her? and then you share your opinions. Pick a controversial topic like abortion,racism,politics even (?),and ask his opinion on stuff.
Tell each other how school was and if anything really funny happened..
Go online to look up jokes and tell him some..
Talk about the future and how you think things will be like with technology,etc.

(Before I start I'm 18 and a freshman in college.) I was in a exclusive relationship about 8 months ago. It ended badly and I ended up getting hurt. My boyfriend of 1 year cheated on me, more than once. Anyways ever since then, I'v only had casual relationships, not sex I just wouldn't exclusively date one guy at a time. I met this one guy in class, after we were assigned in pairs for a project. And I started to like him. A lot. And I knew he liked me too, because he was flirting with me and walking me to classes ect. I was taking a walk outside when it was raining (Don't ask me why I just like the rain)and he came up to me when I was sitting on the bench. He said he saw me and wanted to know what I was doing sitting on a campus bench in a rainstorm. By that time it was raining really hard.(Before I go any farther he asked me out twice by then, but he was a boyfriend kind of guy and didn't do casual anymore, so I turned him down) I said I was just going for a walk, and he sat down beside me. We talked for a while in the pouring rain, and then he leaned over and kissed me. It turned into a pretty heavy make out session and I started thinking 'what the hell am I doing, I can't be his girlfriend I'm not gonna put myself in the position to be hurt again'. Anyways I pushed him away away and when he was about to say something I spoke before him. I said "I'm sorry, but this was a mistake, I can't do exclusive realationships, you know that" (Those were my exact words) Even though I really liked him I didn't want to get hurt again. I stood up ready to walk away when he caught my wrist, he said "You can't or you won't, why can't you give a relationship a fighting chance. I really like you, a lot more than you know and I know you feel the same. You and I both know It wasn't a mistake" and then I said "Thats where your wrong" and I walked off. He called my name but didn't try to stop me again. I'v been avoiding him for the last few days, and he's called my cell phone a million times. I don't know what to do, I really really like him. He's sweet, funny, gorgeous, caring, honest (I could go on but I'll spare you)I know he's not my ex but I'm just scared. Scared of what I feel for him and scared I'll get hurt again. When we were kissing everything felt so right. I felt safe and loved and not lost anymore. He's offering me a real relationship, a healthy realtionship. But should I take the chance? What should I do? Is the ball in my court?

I know you are scared and hurt from your past relationship...but this guy sounds absolutely fantastic! Give him a chance definately..take things slow..he wil understand..but dont shut a wonderful guy like him out. The ball is definately in your court..you go girrrl! he sounds wonderful. You will regret it if you dont give him a chance..dont let a scum like your ex ruin every opportunity for you.Take things slow..and let this new relationship blossom and grow :)
-melissa-

ok hey thanks in advance for your help. i have a problem.. my boyfriend and i have been going great and last night and then a couple days ago he told me he was going to this one dance(i had other plans). he kept asking me if i cared if he went (and this is a total whore dance by the way) i told him i didnt until he pretty much forced it out of me that i did care that he was going and he said he would care too. but i just let it go. but i talked to him after and it seems like he's hiding something and weve been going out for awhile. do i have a right to be mad or should i not be? how should i ask him? (im totally freaking out!)

Hm..maybe you are just overreacting. I think you should have a serious talk and tell him things seem a little weird..ask him straigh out if anything happened at the dance..tell him if he cheated on you to just tell the truth and you could work it out. (obviously telling him that is meant for him to feel comfortable to spill the truth) dontt freak out on him and yell..stay calm and tell him you want to hear the truth..no lies..and that if something happened you guys can work it out.
try that ..see how it works and what he says..then update me on what happened (just remind me of your situation when you write back)
i hope this helpss!
-melissa-

Alright where should I start. I am not the type of girl that everyone goes after, but I have had some boyfriends that have lasted x amount of months. I have a lot of guy friends who care about me a lot and "don't think of me that way" (which is great, because I don't think of them that way either.) Right now I have a boyfriend who is a year and a half older than me. We have a great time together, and although I like him a lot I also like that I don't LOVE him, in the best teen-love kind of way. My last boyfriend of 7 months I did LOVE like that and I endedup getting hurt because we were too young. I decided that we were too young to LOVE anyone since nothing works out at this age. (I'm 16/17) So this boyfriend thing is going along fine. One day, my best friend and I were talking about our group of friends and the future. She told me she always kind of thought I'd end up with this guy "Kevin" in the end. This scared me deeply. I care for Kevin a lot, and I'm very protective of him. I sort of do like him, but I feel bad saying that since I do have a boyfriend. I am not letting myself explore these feelings for Kevin, although I have liked him multiple times in the past, and we are very good friends. So here's the actual problem: tonight I went to our friend's house and he randomly got drunk which he never does. Somehow he ended up spouting how he's been really attracted to me lately and how there's always been an underlying attraction that he never noticed and how we could really make it. He even went on to say how people get married that went out in high school. I wasn't drunk and just kept telling him that he was too drunk to make sense and he kept insisting that we be "good together." I really like my boyfriend although I know I will never LOVE him. At this age, no relationships work out. I'd rather not go out and keep the friendship and then when we are older maybe try something if the feelings are still there. The problem is, how he feels is totally out in the open, although how I feel isn't. He told me to ask him on Monday, when he's sober, about this whole thing and "see if he goes red in the face with sweaty palms." I don't know what to do but I can't talk to my friends because I'm not supposed to tell them that we were drinking. Do you have anything to say? thanks so much. -Donna

I think your idea of keeping it friends with this guy so the friendship doesnt get ruined is a really good idea..at the same time..i must say that waiting and blocking out opportunities that you want to take may be a mistake that you might regret one day. You are young..you even said you dont really love your bf..andd you have feelings for this other guy..maybe its time for a new chapter? its something only you can figure out..my advice is to keep an open mind..dont close off doors...its ok to leave your current bf for this other guy because you dont really loveee your bf. (although its ok to not love him...you said you like him a lot and you guys have tons of fun which is awesome too! ) orrr..Maybe being single is a good option for you..this way you can explore a bit.If you dump your bf..make sure you wont regret it!
Basically..you have to weigh your options,keep an open mind, and go with your heart :)
-melissa

I know i shouldnt hook up with him. If this was the first time he has brought this up i would be scared, but it isnt. When he was single he wanted to hook up with me still, but i was just getting over him so i said no. Then he kept writing me and i started to fall for him again. I liked him for three years, after i pointed out how hott he was the other girls jumped for him. He knows i like him but he has been showing feelings for me in the past 4 weeks. I want to go for it, but i dont want to hook up in school. What do i say to him to convince him to do it outside of school????

---Troubled Heart

Alright..i reeeeally dont think its a good idea..but if you are going to go through with this ..you definately should outside of school. Tell him straight out that it is a really bad idea to do this in school because someone might catch you..plan to meet up sometime..and oh god..i cant beleive im giving advice to you about ideas on how to sneak around because i think its soo wrong! i would be heartbroken if i were the girl that was being cheated on. seriously..wait til they breeak up. but i mean if you arent going to..you definately have to draw the line and do it outside of school..simply tell him straight out you wont do it unless its somewhere private..outtttside of school

-melissa

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