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Guy friends versus Boyfriends
Alright where should I start. I am not the type of girl that everyone goes after, but I have had some boyfriends that have lasted x amount of months. I have a lot of guy friends who care about me a lot and "don't think of me that way" (which is great, because I don't think of them that way either.) Right now I have a boyfriend who is a year and a half older than me. We have a great time together, and although I like him a lot I also like that I don't LOVE him, in the best teen-love kind of way. My last boyfriend of 7 months I did LOVE like that and I endedup getting hurt because we were too young. I decided that we were too young to LOVE anyone since nothing works out at this age. (I'm 16/17) So this boyfriend thing is going along fine. One day, my best friend and I were talking about our group of friends and the future. She told me she always kind of thought I'd end up with this guy "Kevin" in the end. This scared me deeply. I care for Kevin a lot, and I'm very protective of him. I sort of do like him, but I feel bad saying that since I do have a boyfriend. I am not letting myself explore these feelings for Kevin, although I have liked him multiple times in the past, and we are very good friends. So here's the actual problem: tonight I went to our friend's house and he randomly got drunk which he never does. Somehow he ended up spouting how he's been really attracted to me lately and how there's always been an underlying attraction that he never noticed and how we could really make it. He even went on to say how people get married that went out in high school. I wasn't drunk and just kept telling him that he was too drunk to make sense and he kept insisting that we be "good together." I really like my boyfriend although I know I will never LOVE him. At this age, no relationships work out. I'd rather not go out and keep the friendship and then when we are older maybe try something if the feelings are still there. The problem is, how he feels is totally out in the open, although how I feel isn't. He told me to ask him on Monday, when he's sober, about this whole thing and "see if he goes red in the face with sweaty palms." I don't know what to do but I can't talk to my friends because I'm not supposed to tell them that we were drinking. Do you have anything to say? thanks so much. -Donna
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I think your idea of keeping it friends with this guy so the friendship doesnt get ruined is a really good idea..at the same time..i must say that waiting and blocking out opportunities that you want to take may be a mistake that you might regret one day. You are young..you even said you dont really love your bf..andd you have feelings for this other guy..maybe its time for a new chapter? its something only you can figure out..my advice is to keep an open mind..dont close off doors...its ok to leave your current bf for this other guy because you dont really loveee your bf. (although its ok to not love him...you said you like him a lot and you guys have tons of fun which is awesome too! ) orrr..Maybe being single is a good option for you..this way you can explore a bit.If you dump your bf..make sure you wont regret it!
Basically..you have to weigh your options,keep an open mind, and go with your heart :)
-melissa
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