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My name is Sami.♥ Wherever life takes me, you'll find me with a smile. Feel free to ask me anything, I will give you the best advice that I can :)
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Hey,
I am 16f and I have natural curly hair. I would like to know how I can comb out my hair, blow it with a diffuser or such, and make it sort of like an afro.
Or a hairdo such as this:
http://www.ida.com/images/cms/Image/curls_12.gif
Is what I am going for,
Please Help Me find a way :)
I would try bolow dring underneath (like by your roots) and hairspraying it then lightly brushing through it that should make it pretty ratted and fro like. I hope this works for you =]
Hey everyone. So I have been reallyyy depressed. It's senior yr of high school for me and I have no friends. I moved to a new town, and I feel 100% invisible. I am not kidding when I say that no one knows me. Instead of eating in the cafeterias I go to the bathroom in a stall until lunch is over. The school is so big. Sometimes I go to the library. Everyone at my school thinks I got kicked out (not true), n to make a long story short, I left with 0 friends from there. And I'm not antsocial or weird or anything, I'm normal but idk I feel boring and like I am just "passing time" when I talk to most people. College is starting in august, but I don't know what to do until then. I feel so alone. And to make things worse, my parents are totally work obsessed and have no friends of their own either. I'm pretty sure they are depressed too. I feel like i prob picked up many of my social habits from my parents unfortunately. Also, my sister just left home for a job so I feel lonelier than ever. Spending most of it time with yr parents just gets reallyy old sometimes. I just really wish I had friends, but I know there's no hope right now for making friends because there is only a few weeks left of high school. What am I going to do in the summer before college? I feel really sad, deperessed and alone.
I also feel really jealous of the people who can make friends so easily and are so likeable. Do u all have any advice for me on that?
I wish my parents would understand, but they can't and even if they did it would be impossible for them to help.
I tried to be more outgoing at my previous school, but after I got many many "friends" I realized they weren't people who really liked me for me. I wasn't being true I myself, just to be in the popular crowd. It worked but I wasn't enjoying myself with those people. I canname only about 3-4 true friends I have had, and they were mainly from middle school and people I have lost touch with. I have been completely friendless for about 2 years now and it's really taking it's toll on me mentally.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much.
Well High School is really hard, and most of us when we get there loose a lot of our friends, but people change and move on. Just be yourself, i know you tried to change yourself to get friends and you found out that it doesnt work, i promise that if you just be yourself and talk to some people you will make friends, dont sit in the bathroom or the library at lunch GET OUT THERE! i know it can be scary but you dont want a bad summer and if you make some new friends no you will have a lot to do over the summer =] and your senior year is supposed to be the funnest so dont ruin it for yourself. When you in class just start talking to someone about their weekend or school and then after you've talked for a while be like we should hang out sometime and give them your number and get theirs. it can be hard to make friends and dont be discourage if you guys dont become very close just keep trying with different people, high school is hard enough let a lone being the new kid so get out there and show everyone who you really are =] i wish you the best and i hope i helped =] if you have anymore questions feel free to go to my column and personally ask me.
This is my second time getting my period and the first time i wore a pad to gymnastics and it was uncomfortable, and this time im going to wear a tampon should i wear my underwear underneath the leotard just in case or do u think i'll be safe
There are things called panitliners and they protect you from any leakage, you can attach them to your leotard or to your underwear it will work both ways. Hope i helped =]
My name is Todd. I am 18. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for awhile now. Recently we have been having some problems. It has been seeming that she might not have the same feelings for me. It also seems to me that she might not want to date me anymore. Is there anything i can do ?
Hi =]
ok well sometimes when you date eachother for a while you start to feel so comfotrable around each other that you forget the important things like flirting, everyone likes to be liked, so flirt with her like you did when you first met her. Show her that you really care, and talk to her about it, tell her how you feel a relationship needs trust and communication without those things its hard to be with someone. Ask her if she really cares about you, and see what her answer is, you will be able to tell by her face if she really still cares about you. Well good luck! and if you need anymore advice feel free to message me again! Hope i helped =]
Hey everyone, im 15/f. and i have a boyfriend that lives across the country, and it kills me that i never see him. But we talk everyday, and msn and text, call, email. Everything. I trust him with all my heart, and i belive that he would NEVER cheat on me. Its just that i never see him, and it kills me. So i dont know what to do. Also, i LOVE my boyfriend with all my heart. But i have had a crush on someone at my school, and they like me. Should i stay with the one i love, and never see? Or be with someone i only like, and see everyday.?
Thank sin advance.
Ok well from experience even if he acts like he really cares about you and he says he loves you and you never think that he would cheat on you it will happen sooner or later. Im sorry to say but it will. Plus if you are already liking someone else he is probably feeling the same thing and obviously you guys never get to see each other so in my opinion its not worth it. So i would go with the guy you like and get to see everyday i know its hard but its whats best. Hope i helped =]
is it dangerous to use nair around your vagina? like your bikini line and stuff?
it can be depending on how sensitive your skin is. If it is sensitive then it will eat or irritate your skin a lot. so just try it on a small spot and if it irritates it dont use it. Hope i helped =]
My boyfrend thnks I'm cheating on him.
I'm not! I shall say I'm attractive and a lot of guys like me, but i only have eyes for him. I'm also friends with mostly guys and I told him that when we first started talking and he semed to understand...
but I've told him everything imaginable how I felt and how I wasn't lying. I've even asked him if he's the on cheating and he says he's not. Today, he told me he's going to find out that I am some kind of way and I said I did not care because I'm not cheating.
& I always let him go through my phone & I go through his.
soooo... Wat can I do to prove to him I'm not? I'm sick of him saying it!
Well for one it sounds like you dont trust each other at all if he thinks your cheating and your not and if you go through each others phones all the time you really dont trust each other and its not a healthy relationship. And honestly if he really thought that you were cheating he wouldnt be with you. Guys say those type of things so you will tell them "oh no your the only one for me" and all of that stuff. So next time he asks be like well if you dont believe e then thats your fault but im really not and just drop it at that. Hope i helped and good luck!! =]
Well theres this boy at school that i really really like. He doesn't know i like him . Im too afraid to tell him my feelings, eventhough he said he would give anyone a chance, because I dont really know him that well and I dont think he likes me.I think hes becoming a slight obsession aswell, i cant stop thinking about him. Im really afraid of rejection, should i tell him anyway? or just keep quiet and hope that one day he notices me ? HELP :(.
Most guys try to keep their feeling hidden and dont like yo show them.. so i would tell him how you feel it really cant go that bad especially if he said he would give anyone a chance if he told you that he may be giving you a hint that you could be taht anyone. So tell him and i hope iy goes well =]
I went to a party and said something and my friend started crying and everyone is on her side and now my social life is ruined and i dont know what to do to get it back i didnt even know i offended her but i guess i "went too far" and really hurt her but i need to know how to get my social life back
First off try to talk to her, if it doesnt work its ok your "social life" really isnt ruined. You will move on and find other friends and its not as bad as it sounds. But if its really that important to you talk to her and tell her that you are really sorry and you really didnt mean the things that you said, if shes a true friend she will understand. Hope i helped =]
I broke final ties (even just friendship) with my ex of 2 years on January 9th. This was both of our doing, but it was hard not to get attached again. Since then I haven't seen or heard from him. Yesterday I called him just as a tendency because I knew I couldn't get the guts to talk to him again, but hung up after 3 rings. Later that evening he called me back but it went straight to my voicemail and I was afraid to pick up.
I've always been that shy girl around him (I'll be 17 next month and he's 19 and a half) and now after a 3-month absence should I try and be more bold and actually call and talk to him?
Help is appreciated:)
Yes i think that you should talk to him if you had a relationship of 2 years obviously he menat something to you and there is no reason to push him completly out of your life. it might be hard but it will get easier to see him and not feel for him anymore. Hope i helped =]
For the past 4-5 years of my life, I have been struggling with the realization that I am most likely a lesbian, and at the very least bisexual. I don't consider myself homophobic in the least, but admitting to myself that getting married to a nice boy won't make me happy has been difficult.
I have had a limited number of same-sex encounters with other girls, but nothing too serious. I am now in college, and ready to face my future bravely and with certainty.
I am not sure how to explain this to my close friends. I feel uncomfortable. I'm not sure how to begin living out this "new chapter" in my life. Any advice?
Well if you dont think that a guy will make you happy then you have already decided. And your friends will understand, i promise. Some of them may be a little shocked at first but if they are true friends they will help you through whatever you are going through. And there are plenty of other lesbians out there you are going to find someone but just date around and see which type of girls you like. And when you tell your friends dont just come out and say "im lesbian" explain to them what you put on here and everything should go okay. Hope i helped and good luck! =]
okay i need advice to give to my best guy friend.
He likes this girl A and loves this girl B. well A likes him back and B loves him to. Me and Him are so confused because he doesnt know what to do. Weather to be with A or B. B told him that shes loved him and would b there when he was done with A. I told him if B really meant what she said then go with A. But then he said that he really loved B and then i said it sounded like hed rather b with B. then he said he didnt know because he really like A too. so i dont know what to do im stuck, hes stuck. Hes is also wanting to lose his virginity to one of these girls. please help and im sorry if its long. thanks
Well love is a lot different than like and if he is looking into loosing his virginity to one of these girls go with the one that he loves and the one that loves him becase in the end Girl A will move on but if its true love girl B will stick around a lot longer and most likely wont break his heart. So if i were him i would go with love before like anyday but thats just my opinion i hope i helped and tell him good luck =]
the other day my boyfriend was going through my phone and saw his cousins number in my phone (he's a boy) but the thing is he's my second cousin too (me and my boyfriend arent relataed so dont worry) and he went off.. he pushed me and was calling me all kinds of names. now he wont call me back, answer my calls, or even answer my texts. its been 2 days and i still aint heard from him. i love him. and i know he didn't mean to push me. what should i do? im female and 16.
I am just going to be completly honest here if he pushed you over something stupid like that then he is not worth it. Yeah guys get mad but pushing you is taking it way too far! And after he pushed you now he isnt even talking to you??? im sorry but that's beyond messed up. But i know what it is like to love someone so if i were you i would try to talk to him and dont make him think that the pushing you thing is ok because he will do it again! but talk to him and tell him that he needs to talk about things instead of just truning to abuse. Hope i helped and good luck! =]
i need to open up and i need confidence
Well if you ever need to open up thats why we're all here there are hundreds of us and we are all willing to help you! and most people that dont have confidence always put themselves down you need to tell yourself that your the best you can be and just always put your self up i know it sounds conceited but it works i promise! Hope i helped =]
K so I really love this guy and he loves me too (did i mention were datin?) Anyways weve never frenched yet but I want to.What should I do?!
Well you can make the first move or when your kissing keep kissing him and run your tongue along his lips and hopefully he will get the hint and if not tell him that you want to. Hope i helped =]
Okay so me and this kid have been off and on for almost four years now. & I realized how much i miss him and how im still in love with him. I wanted to know how do you know if people still love you.. cause i really want to talk to him again but im goning to feel really dumb if he is over me. My friends tell me that he will always love me but idk.. I want to get back with him but i want to know how he feels and how do i bring up
"us" again.
Just when your hanging out or talking one day be like so how do you feel about us exactly, and if he says he is still in love with you then great =] but if not and he asks why try not to look sad and be like oh i was just wondering what you thought and smile. This way it wont look bad =] also if he admits that he still loves you dont be afraid to tell him your feelings. Hope i helped and good luck! =]
i want to get a new foundation, im tanning for prom so i want one that will match my skin tone. i saw something from almay that you put on white and it matches with your skin tone, is it any good? or do you have anything to recommend to me? thankss
I thought it looked cool too then i bought it and it doesnt work becuase the second you put it on in turns "your skin color" but it just made my face look orange. So personally i didnt like it. But you might be different. Hope i helped =]
What are some companies that hire at age 15?
Your local recreation center usually hires 14 and 15 year olds for summer jobs. Call or go in and ask. And some restaruants hire you for cleaning tables so look around you will find something. hope i helped =]
Lets say my BFs name is Blake.Well blake ....i dont think hes into me no more.He always talks about other girls,he always treats my like crap when his friends are around and, he just doesnt seem to care about me when im sad. I DONT want to break up with him ..I love him half to death but what should I tell him.
Well talk to him about it first and be like " i really like you but i dont want to get hurt so if you dont have feelings for me anymore please tell me. And he may not even realize that he is doing this and that it bugs you. A lot of guys treat their girlfriends different around their friends and i dont know how long you guys have been dating but it takes a while before he will act normal around his friends. And when your sad a lot of guys dont know how to react to that because they dont get girls and they dont know how to make us feel better. So just talk to him about it if he cares he will try to fix it. If he doesnt care you will know. I hope it all works out. Good luck and hope i helped =]
my boyfriend and i(7th grade) have been going out for only a month or so and everytime we hang out we are usually in a group with friends. my friend and her boyfriend are so cute together and he always makes the first move. well, my boyfriend always seems to look at him for a guide. for example, if we are walking and my friends boyfriend holds her hand then my boyfriend might grab my hand. and so i was wondering why he did that and how i could make a move first.
He is just nervous... its actually really cute. Well maybe hang out alone and just watch a movie and crawl up into his arms and just sit there or hold his hand. He most likely hasnt had much experience so he looks to his friend for what to do. Hope i helped =]