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Urgh! I have a friend who truly is an on and off friend. over the course of 2 years, whe have fought, fought fought. Sometimes she is super nice and fun. Other times she is an absolute jerk and hurts my feeling exstensively. For example: She attented a ballet class with me, and I emailed and thanked her. I got a snide, " I didn't come for you, I came for the teacher ( she goes to the studio)Another time, I was having a sleepover, and when we went shopping, she begged me to buy her something.When I tried to explain that had nothing to do with me, she said, you're not a real friend, and I would do that for you ( which she wouldn't...) Also, instead of giving friendly advice, she tells me what to do and not do. or, if for example I say, I like this brand, she says." oh, that's an awful brand" like a fact. I want to continue to be friends, but not to be hurt, and how do I tell her I don't want her so called advice? -Annoyed on and off friend. (link)
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In my opinion, you are better off either telling her about the things that she says/does that bugs you and that it needs to change if you two wish to continue being friends. If it does not change, then you will have to know by then that you are better off not being friends with her. A friend should be understanding and caring, but also tough when need be for your sake. Not someone who uses, and hurts. If you do not want her opinions/advice because they either hurt or upset you, tell her. Be strong and let her know how she has made you and is making you feel. Don't bottle it up, because that will only cause problems in the future, and by then they could have highly escalated by then. Just tell her how you feel. That's all you can really do, if it doesn't work, then it's high time you dropped that friend, and considered making new ones.
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17/f. I need to get rid of thc in my urine by february 13. Please, i dont need negative criticism. I know its bad. Please helpp!! I weigh 136 & am 5'4 if that helps! (link)
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Other than spending an outrageous amount of money on detox items, you could always do plenty of cardiovascular exercise, drink PLENTY of fluids such as water, orange juice, cranberry juice, and apple juice. (the juices for their high acidity rate, and detoxification qualities). As for cardiovascular exercises, I would suggest jogging at least 30 minutes to 1 hour a day. But you also have to take into consideration on how often and how much you have smoked. If you were a daily to bi-daily smoker, then it'll take at least 3-5 weeks for it to leave your system. If you smoked it just once, then it may take only 1 week - 2 weeks. THC is NOT stored in your urine, but stored in your body fat, and EVERYONE, regardless of what they wish to think or say, has body fat, as it is essential to our body's make-up. But remember, if you can get your heart pumping for 30 minutes to 1 hour a day or at the least, every other day, as well as drinking PLENTY of fluids such as water and juices containing antioxidants, that will help speed up the cleansing process. But like I stated previously, this depends on how much and how often you smoke. The chemical THC from marijuana can stay stored in your body from 1-5 weeks.
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i dont wont sex am 32 years old women with 2 kids is the normal
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Lack of libido in women is very common. Near 35-40% of woman have a low sex drive or even no sex drive. It is typically related to some factors such as anemia, alcoholism, drug abuse, medications, hormone abnormalities, and mental state. But mostly it is a mental state. If you don't think about it, you really don't feel the need for it. If it is a bother for you or your partner, then I could suggest speaking with your doctor. I hope this was helpful.
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I used to take birth control pills, I recently got off them a few months ago now my periods are very irregular. I've only have had one since I've been off of them and that was on Jan.6-10th. So how am I suppose to know when I am ovulating? My fiance & I don't use condoms and today we had unprotected sex again and he ejaculated inside of me, so can I be pregnant although I don't kno when I'm ovulating or if I've already ovulated this month? I read online some women can get pregnant a day after there ovulation has stopped, is this true? Please help me. :( (link)
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Sperm lives up to 5 days in the womb, as well as after your egg has been released, it lives for 5 days before it is no longer available for fertilization. The best thing to do to figure out your ovulation is getting ovulation kits, they detect ovulation. You can buy them at any pharmacy. CVS, Walgreens, Even wal-mart carries them, if you're short on cash, then try checking your local dollar store. Some dollar stores carry ovulation kits as well as pregnancy tests. Also, remember that after an egg is fertilized, it can take up to 2 weeks for any symptoms to occur, and with pregnancy tests, you RARELY ever get a false positive. (only a 2% chance of getting a false positive reading) Typically when a woman is ovulating, she will spot, but this is not always the case. If I were you, I would look up all the information needed to help with the matter. There are multiple sites that have a lot of information, also you should try speaking with your doctor. Speaking with your doctor is a much better idea, this way, should you have any questions, you can address him/her with them and get better information, as well as better ideas.
Here are some sites to start you on your information gathering.
Understanding Ovulation - http://www.americanpregnancy.org/gettingpregnant/understandingovulation.html
Ovulation Calculator (Not always 100% accurate, but it'll give you a slightly better idea) - http://www.webmd.com/baby/healthtool-ovulation-calculator
Good luck! :)
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i am 16 years old and my cousin is 15 almost 16. we were at my other cousins birthday party, who had turned 16. and we were drinking and things, and my cousin was talking to his guy justin. justin is 18 years old and has a gf who is away at college. my cousin really likes him, my family and i do not!! but she was completely ossified to the point where she was starting to black out, and they were kissing and things and i kept my eye on them. i went into the garage for about 10 mins without checking on them, so i finally decided to check on them, and they walked out the gate, i grabbed my friend john and chased after them because they were heading towards his truck. and my cousin was telling my younger cousin that she wanted to have sex with him. so obviously they went to go have sex. but we chased after them and i freaked out on justin. i promised my cousin if he came back id take her to talk to him. i also promised my brother that if he came back i would call him. justin came back i called my bro, i took my cuz to talk him. my brother and i freaked out on him and kicked him out of the party. my cousin was hysterically crying and was so mad at me. but shes almost over it now. but i was wrong to make him leave when noone wanted him there except for her? he has a girlfriend..and he always uses girls for sex. he tried talking to me in september and i was like no. not happening, i dont/didnt like him at all. plus, shes only had sex once in her life. just tell me...was i wrong? everyone i ask tells me i had every right too to do what i did because i dont want her getting hurt, or pregnant, or being a slut, or getting a profile. (link)
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No. In my opinion, you did the right thing. She was intoxicated and in no proper state of mind to make the right decisions. I believe if someone is going to sleep with another, they need to be sober and level headed to ensure they are making the proper decision. Imagine if you had not caught up with them in time, and they had already finished the deed. Also putting into consideration, had they done it, and started dating, who is to say he wouldn't have done it to her too (cheating that is) You were not wrong, you were doing what any caring relative would have done. Don't feel bad, but feel good that you protected your cousin from a possible difficulty.
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ok so my mom said i might be able to get a ipod touch on my birthday but i feel like everyone expect me has one,my dad wont buy me one cause he knows i follow trends a lot so he thinks i really just want it cause my friends have one.
an i also tride working for the money
what should i do. (link)
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You have very few options, aside from committing crime, and I doubt you'd want that on your permanent record.
You could always be patient and wait for your mother to hopefully get it for your birthday, or you can continue doing things for money (ie; Mowing lawns, baby sitting, shoveling drive-ways, you know. The typical kid things to do to make money;]) I believe what you should do is continue working for money and saving up, as working builds character and earning money as well as saving, builds responsibility. But really the choice is yours. Good luck.
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Obviously I've been told all about it, but I was told it can mess with periods, what's the worst and best case synarios? Also, is there different levels of the hormones? (link)
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Some women may have undesirable side effects while using implant. But many women adjust to it with few or no problems. Irregular bleeding is the most common side effect, especially in the first 6–12 months of use. For most women, periods become fewer and lighter. After one year, 1 out of 3 women who use implant birth control will stop having periods completely. Some women have longer, heavier periods. Some women have increased spotting and light bleeding between periods.
These side effects are completely normal. Some woman may worry that they are pregnant if they do not have a regular period. But when implant birth control is used correctly, it is very effective. If you are concerned about a possible pregnancy, you can always take a pregnancy test.
Less common side effects of implant birth control include
change in sex drive
discoloring or scarring of the skin over the implant
headache
nausea
pain at the insertion site
sore breasts
Should you have any other questions concerning your birth control implant, address them to your doctor for a more thorough and clearer explanation.
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my wife is shedding blood clots every time she urinates can it affect sexual life or fertility? (link)
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Many women experience menstrual blood clots. It is the shedding of the uterine wall (when an egg is left unfertilized, the lining that held the egg in place then detaches from the uterus, creating "clots" Majority of the time, these "clots" are actually that shed lining) There is no cause for alarm in this situation, unless these clots are larger than the size of a golf ball.
Changes in color and thickness of menstrual blood are often normal. But there are a number of problems that might cause abnormal clots to form in your menstrual blood or lead to the changes in color or thickness during your period. Remember, it's important to discuss any concerns you have with your doctor. Problems that can cause changes include:
Miscarriage. Women who have miscarried may pass blood clots or gray clumps of tissue from the vagina. If there is a chance you are pregnant, be sure to check with your doctor immediately if you notice excessive bleeding or clotting.
Fibroids. Uterine fibroids are also called leiomyomas. These are non-cancerous tumors that form in the womb (uterus). Fibroids do not always cause symptoms. In fact, increasing research information suggests that most women with small "fibroid" tumors have no symptoms at all. But women with fibroids may notice greater than usual amounts of menstrual blood. If you have fibroids, you may have more clots in your period than you had in the past.
Hormonal changes. Your body relies on a delicate balance of the hormones progesterone and estrogen. These hormones regulate the production and shedding of the uterine lining. When this balance is disturbed, it can lead to the development of an excessively thick uterine lining. This thickness can contribute to more bleeding than usual. It can also cause clots in the menstrual blood when the lining is shed.
The menstrual blood clots do not typically affect ones sexual life or fertility, though it never hurts to be sure, by going to the doctor and addressing him/her with this discomfort/worry. But as I have stated previously, blood clots during the menstrual cycle is very common, and typically nothing to worry about.
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I was dating my now ex for almost a year but he ended up breaking up with me and breaking my heart. He was
the very first person i have ever really loved. He broke up with me and I ended up moving away cause things
just didnt work out to well for me. We talked and deciced that no matter what happened we would still be
best friends and always be there for each other. So my problem is we have been apart for a few months now but
i still really love him and would do anything to get him back and for a while he still really cared about me
but it seems like he is starting to care less and less about me and the last couple of weeks (i hate to say it)
he has been being a really big dick and huge jerk to me. he has made me cry every night for the last 2 3 weeks
and cause of it i have been getting very depressed so i dont know what to do any more. Should i stop talking
to him and try to move on with my life with out him, should i just give it some time and see how things go?
what should i do? i really love him and dont want to lose him and he is still my best friend and the only
person i can really talk to and trust but im afraid that im going to lose him. please help me. (link)
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I would suggest to move on. If you continue talking to him, it may only progress into a worse relationship. In the end making you insecure and self conscious. I understand, considering he is what you are use to, but do realize that there are many other men out there who will treat you way better than he did/does. Perhaps once you start dating again, he'll realize his error, but I would take precaution as it may turn out to the be same way as it was previously.
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So i have been dating this guy for about seven months (im 16 he's 17). I have decided that this is the guy I want to lose my virginity too. But im waiting till its been at least a year before i do. He's amazingly sweet and tells me he loves me for me and not how i look. But he's never seen me without closes on and my clothes usually cover up my "chub". Im not hugely big...but i would say that i am over weight. And last week we got into a heavy make out session and things got pretty heated. Now im just affraid when we finally do "do it" im gonna look stupid. I dont know how to handle this, help anyone?
PS: I dont need any talks about how i should be waiting anyways, so thanks but ill decided when im ready (link)
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It is your body and you will do what you wish with it. I won't tell you to wait longer, but I will tell you to use protection, as being a teen mother is difficult (I know from experience)
But I digress, considering you've both had "heated" make out sessions, I'm going to assume that he's touched and held you, therefore he has felt the size of your body, and already knows to that extent your body type. And I say if this didn't push him away, it means he likes your body already. Not all guys are shallow and self centered, skeleton chasers. Besides, many guys do prefer women with more meat than bone. I'm not a skeletal woman, I have me some meat, and my man loves it. I'm sure yours will too. Love yourself as you are! And if you are REALLY still insecure about it, there is always the "lights off" method. Much harder to see in the dark. Hope I helped. Good luck, and love yourself!
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Does the Herpes virus always show up on an STD screening?
i had a full screening on the 28-09-2011 where they took both blood and pee. And got the all clear.
I then started and new relationship in October, and last weekend my girlfriend had most symptoms for herpes and when to the doctors and she has the virus, does this mean i gave it to her, she swears she hasn't cheated on me. how ever i have no symptoms or visible signs of the virus.
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There are several tests that are used to diagnose herpes. Some are more accurate than others and lots of people need to be tested more than once. There is a possibility that the virus will not show up in a blood test, and a positive result is not always indicative that a person has genital herpes. Firstly, after the first exposure to herpes, a person may take several weeks to develop the antibodies that the test looks for. Usually, it takes two weeks to three months after exposure to herpes for antibodies to appear in the blood. Some blood tests detect antibodies sooner than others. However, once antibodies are found they remain in the body for life. Secondly, blood tests cannot tell the difference between the two types of herpes, HSV-1 and HSV-2. For this reason, anyone seeking an accurate diagnosis of genital herpes must be sure to get a "type-specific" serologic test, which can accurately distinguish HSV-2 from HSV-1 antibodies. Most commercially available kit assays currently cannot make this distinction despite their claims.
So to properly answer your question, No, it does not ALWAYS show up on the tests.
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i have been waking up in the night going to the bathroom having diareah and sometimes not makeing it to the bathroom, i have lost wheight and i have been feeling weak lately I am not that old and i am scared plz help me! (link)
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Not eating enough will cause fatigue as well as diarrhea. Losing weight the "eat less" way is not good for your body/health. As diarrhea causes dehydration, and could possibly end up leading to more dangerous health problems. When losing weight (THE RIGHT WAY) you must eat healthy meals, regularly as well as exercise (cardio helps burn fat, and other exercises ensure your body is tone, thus making sure you don't have baggy skin/stretch marks). Not one meal a day, as this will cause your body to hold onto the fat in the food for the "starvation" periods. Causing you to gain more weight than you're losing, as well as for your body's future health. Improper eating WILL cause major weight gain when you are older. So I suggest, start eating healthy, AND exercise to properly lose weight, as well as keeping you energized and hydrated.
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Hi.I am a straight male.I have some gay friends,it's no big deal.My question is;a gay woman I know is attracted to me,(not sure why,but I can see it),and I am attracted to her,(not sure why,but I can se it),and it seems strong.She told me she 'adores' me.How do I take this to the next level? Or,should I do anything at all? (link)
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First of all, are you positive this woman is truly lesbian and not bisexual? If you are positive she is attracted to you, then perhaps she isn't homosexual, but bisexual. If you know that the feeling is mutual, I would suggest letting her know how you feel. If it turns out you were wrong (as it is 50/50) then tell her you would like to still be friends regardless.
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this is gonna be fairly long... well, 2 years ago I went to a friends birthday party, there were a few people there, i didn't really care for much of his friends most of them annoyed me, so I was sitting alone on his porch when he was with some of his friends, and this girl there came up to me and tried starting a conversation with me... She told me her name, I was really shy so I didn't say much she kind of stopped talking to me after that. Later that night we were all sitting around a fire, she was sitting beside me, she would put her elbow on my knee and look into my eyes and i was acting extremely shy, one of the guys there asked her if she liked me and she said something along the lines of "No, i just like his reaction when i look at him" She also kissed me that night, one of the guys there dared her too, it wasn't really a kiss just a peck. I couldn't stop thinking about her throughout my freshmen and sophomore year, and i've always hated myself for how stupid i acted that night. I didn't really see her much then, though when i did she never really seemed to notice me. Now I'm a junior and she's a senior this is probably the last time i'll actually get to talk to her, i see her alot more in school, i pass her a few times in the hallway, and i have lunch with her, I used to notice her looking at me at lunch from her table, our tables are practically beside each other, she would look at me for a while, then turn away. I really wanted to talk to her, but couldn't really find the time, shes with her friends at lunch, and i don't have time in between classes (my classes are back and forth to both ends of the school takes a long time to get there). i noticed she hasn't looked at me as often lately, she still kind of acknowledges me, but not much, and i don't want to **** this up with her again, i already feel so stupid for keeping this bottled up for 2 years which is partly why I'm even more scared to talk to her. I really want to talk to her, i just don't know what exactly to say, how to start a conversation. I'm still extremely shy and i hate that, now i feel im just rambling... So anyway, how do i talk to her? what could i say? I really need advice i cant stop thinking about her, thanks :D (link)
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I find that the best approach when confessing your feelings to someone is to "Jump into the pool" instead of "slowly walking in". You typically want to run away when you go in slowly, but if you jump right in, it is over and done with and you typically feel much more relieved than you would other wise. You must also remember that even if she doesn't feel the same as you, it doesn't mean to give up. If it doesn't work with her, there are plenty of others. Good luck, and be strong ^_^
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So I'm 17/F
I used to always straighten my hair, because my hair is naturally curly. But i stopped about a year and a half ago. My hair still has split ends, And pulling the split ends off when i get bored is a habit taht i have, that i hate and i wish i could get rid of. I want my hair to be healthy again because i wear it natural everyday now so it would look much better i just don't know what to do do get it back the way it used to be. Parts of my hair are all different lengths because of how dead it is ): so if i cut it, it will have to be way too short if im starting over that way, and it would look horrible. I do NOT look good with short hair and its only medium length right now (about 2in. past my shoulders) So what should i do to get it healthy, and quit my bad habit? (link)
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To slow down split ends from forming, you need to find a shampoo and conditioner that works for you. Every one is different in this matter, so I cannot suggest any that would be of any use, because it may or may not help. But I would suggest to try out several different shampoos/conditioners until you find some that works for your hair. As for stopping split ends, it's impossible, it's going to happen regardless of whether you care for your hair excessively or barely. You are suppose to at least get a hair trim once every 3 months, as this helps your hair grow better and stronger. If you don't your hair will only get worse and worse in the long run. Trust me, I found out the hard way. I went years without cutting my hair (I had it to my knees!) and when I went to a stylist, they told me because of the lack of trimming, my hair was so damaged, I had no choice but to lose most of it. It is a very sad thing (especially if you love your hair) but in the end, my hair was never more healthier and stronger. I go in regularly for trimmings, and I found shampoos/conditioners that aid in its strength and health. Typically though, you do NOT want to use the cheaper brands (IE; V05, Suave, etc.) Because they do what they are suppose to do, but do not help in prevention of damage that well. If you want better hair, it's going to cost, but if you love your hair, it's worth it.
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i've had a really bad coff for a week or two and a blocked nose. it's driveing me mad. does anyone no of any natrel remmeadies? i don't like to take meddicated stuff if i can avoied it. (link)
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The typical solution would be to see your doctor and take the prescribed medicines, but I do understand your discontent towards medications, as they tend to do more harm than good. I good home remedy for a cough and stuffy/runny nose is Cinnamon ginger honey tea. Sounds gross, yeah but surprisingly it tastes good. Spicy, but good. What you do is take 5 1/4 in thick cut slices of ginger, and bring it to a boil, allowing the juices from the ginger to dissolve into the water. Add 1/2 a stick of cinnamon and allow it to boil in there for about 5-7 minutes, once that time is up, remove from heat, and remove the cinnamon stick, leave the ginger in the liquid mixture, pour the liquid into a cup, add honey to taste and drink. But do be careful not to burn yourself, as it will be hot, but you'll want to drink it while it's very warm. You'll have to drink a few cups a day until you begin to feel better, but I have always found this remedy to help with the common cold and even fevers.
Powdered ginger yes, powdered cinnamon, I've never tried it that way. You could give it a shot, but I believe the stick will be best as it easily dissolves in water.. I can't say that about powdered cinnamon though.
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My byfriend and I are in our early 20's, we have been living together for a 1 1/2 yr already. Our sex life has been great but for the past couple days he has not veen able to reach orgasm and we dont know why! Can the flu have anything to do with this?? (link)
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It is NOT his fault. It is Not your fault. No one is to blame for your current sexual situation. Once you take off the pressure and reframe this as part of your relationship (a challenge to be worked on), the stress and frustration associated with "having a problem" will dissipate. There are a lot of reasons why a man may not orgasm and ejaculate in a prescribed way. It may be physical, or it may be drug-related, prescription or non-prescription. It may be because of strong religious injunctions and guilt; the idea of not wanting to surrender to a woman; or, even fear of pregnancy. Or, it may be that you are different for him than other women he's been with, and that the closeness he feels to you makes him more anxious during sex than in the past. The will to orgasm for a male is also 70% mental state as well.
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I hear that body fat % is the main indicator of having defined abs. I think that below 15% body fat will show 6 pack abs. Im 5'10" and 145 pounds right now and my stomach is just flat and not really all that defined.
Bodybuilders say that it doesnt matter how much you lift weights or work out your stomach and do crunches because everyone has a 6 pack underneath the layer of fat around their stomach. So having abs is all about burning fat through cardio. I just dont get how I can be so skinny and keep losing weight but not have a 6 pack.
Whats wrong with me? Is my bodyfat% still too high because I only eat like 1000 calories a day and run about 3 miles every morning (which burns around 500 calories). I dont get it. (link)
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To be able to get these "6 packs" it's is NOT ONLY cardio, you actually have to exercise the area. You have to damage the muscle so that it can rebuild itself. Whomever said "You only need cardio to get a 6 pack" is, I'm sorry to say, full of it. It's like ANY muscle, you have to break it down (via exercising) so that it can rebuild itself. You don't get abs by just cardio. You don't have a "6 pack" under your layer of fat, you have to create it. Here is a site explaining it much better than I feel I can.
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Six-Pack-Abs
You HAVE to build your own muscle. It doesn't just appear. I'm sure whoever told you that they got their six pack from just cardio was lying, and did much more than cardio.
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My friend wants me to give him a kinky hug. How am i suppose to make a hug kinky? (link)
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He could referring to the urban slang "Kinky Hug" meaning to hug someone as well as touch them sexually. IE Grabbing of the butt, breast, or genitalia.
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my screen resolution was bad so so I increased the resolution but now the screen is not showing up.
what con i do the resolve this problem?
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To be able to answer this question, it would help to know the computer model, the operating system you use, (IE; XP, Windows 7, etc) as well the type of video card you have in your system.
But I digress, Restart your computer, and press F8 (at the very first "loading" screen you would see) that should bring up the windows startup menu items. From this menu there should be an option for VGA mode. Select VGA mode and windows will happily boot with a lower screen resolution (can't remember which one). Once windows boots up you can change your screen resolution to something you are happy with and reboot the machine. SVGA (800x600) if we're talking Windows 7.When you're in Windows, change the resolution setting back to 1024x768 or something within your monitor's known range, save the settings, reboot and allow Windows to boot up as normal and it should be as right as rain.
Hoped this helps your screen resolution problem.
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