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on and off friendship!!!!!
Urgh! I have a friend who truly is an on and off friend. over the course of 2 years, whe have fought, fought fought. Sometimes she is super nice and fun. Other times she is an absolute jerk and hurts my feeling exstensively. For example: She attented a ballet class with me, and I emailed and thanked her. I got a snide, " I didn't come for you, I came for the teacher ( she goes to the studio)Another time, I was having a sleepover, and when we went shopping, she begged me to buy her something.When I tried to explain that had nothing to do with me, she said, you're not a real friend, and I would do that for you ( which she wouldn't...) Also, instead of giving friendly advice, she tells me what to do and not do. or, if for example I say, I like this brand, she says." oh, that's an awful brand" like a fact. I want to continue to be friends, but not to be hurt, and how do I tell her I don't want her so called advice? -Annoyed on and off friend.
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In my opinion, you are better off either telling her about the things that she says/does that bugs you and that it needs to change if you two wish to continue being friends. If it does not change, then you will have to know by then that you are better off not being friends with her. A friend should be understanding and caring, but also tough when need be for your sake. Not someone who uses, and hurts. If you do not want her opinions/advice because they either hurt or upset you, tell her. Be strong and let her know how she has made you and is making you feel. Don't bottle it up, because that will only cause problems in the future, and by then they could have highly escalated by then. Just tell her how you feel. That's all you can really do, if it doesn't work, then it's high time you dropped that friend, and considered making new ones.
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