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I like this guy alot, but he is a really big sweettalker, and he has kissed my younger step sister and everyone sayz he likes my other step sister. But people also say that he likes me. I hate him but every time i see him i get butterflies in my stomach and i start to like him again. What should i do???? (link)
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Run for the hills! I'm being serious in saying that. The guy is bad news and he's looking to play all three of you for fools. He doesn't genuinely like or love anyone and is probably got his mind on one thing only--sex. Trust that instinct that says you hate and or distrust him.
He's a chameleon so don't fall for his charm. There's a reason why your gut tells you he's bad news. Trust your gut as it is never wrong. You and your sisters need to tell him you don't want him around before you or they get sucked into his web once more.
What should you do? Stay clear of him period. He kissed your little sister, now he wants your other sister etc. If you aren't careful you will become his next victim and wind up heartbroken and shattered by this creep.
Avoid this guy at all costs even though you may feel mushy about him because of his charm. He's not for you and you deserve someone who is. Your sisters ought to make him undatable by telling their girlfriends that he kissed one of them and came on to them both.
He's a serial player and won't ever break from it unless he learns to grow up and treat girls better. If you dated him he would cheat and keep getting with other girls all the time.
You don't need that crap so stay clear of him because your gut as i've repeated over and over on purpose is NEVER wrong. Any time you feel mushy toward him tell yourself wait a second this guy did X with/to my step-sister I'm not falling for his act. That's all it is--an act. He doesn't give a damn about you or anybody else or hurting them.
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okay i really want a puppy but my mom says no because she doesn't believe me when i say i'll take care of it myself. how do i convince her i'm responsible enough for a puppy and that i will take care of it? i'm 13/f if that helps (link)
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Are you responsible in every other fashion? If you get good grades, always pick up after yourself and keep your room clean that counts for something. Start doing your own laundry and making your own meals (save for dinner).
Show her you are independant and dependable and maybe just maybe she'll reconsider. The other thing you must consider here is knowing what breed of dog will go along well with the size of your place and family.
Start researching and narrow things down and e-mail back and forth with a breeder on your own about facts. Present your parents with what you know. I think you also need to get a job (and keep one) be it babysitting or whatever you can be hired for at 13. Save your money for said dog as that will go a long way in helping your cause.
You can never convince anyone of anything. All you can do is state your case and hope for the best. The best idea is to stop talking about it and start showing your maturity in the ways I listed above and they'll come to you first most likely about the dog idea.
Another thing you need to take into consideration is that if you family doesn't own your house and or condo/apt and is renting that their may be a clause in the lease forbidding pets of any kind that cannot be broken or negotiated with the landlord. If that's the case no matter what you do you won't have a dog until you move or if you move.
Good luck here!
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okay well first of all i'm 13 and a girl and i have a friend and the other day her boyfriend tried to lift up my skirt so do i tell her?
i mean i know he was only messing around but still should i?
plz help! && thanks so much! (link)
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What he did was inappropriate regardless of his intentions be they playful or not. You didn't invite him to do that to you and he needs to learn a strong lesson here. You MUST tell your friend what he did but in a gentle manner. She deserves to know this and to take care of the issue with him.
If they broke up it's not your fault at all. It's his fault for lifting up your skirt. Who knows what else he might be doing with other girls? You just doin't know where his inappropriate behavior starts and ends with other people.
Tell her the truth and stay clear of him as much as you can. He needs to learn to keep his hands to himself. You should have slapped him and walked away. He needs a wakeup call here not to do this again as some day if he ever repeated it with another girl he could land in serious trouble.
Tell your friend exactly what happened and how embarassed and upset it made you. She will respect you for being honest with her. After that be weary of him and do not be alone together. It's up to your friend after that to resolve the issue and keep him in line and out of trouble.
You have every right to tell her or for that matter anyone else (girlfriends) etc. what he did if you feel it was incredibly wrong (which it is) whether he was playing around or not. However, my advice is you talk to your friend first in a gentle manner and give her the same info you gave us.
Your friendship is too tight to be ruined over a guy anyways. This kid might also need some help to learn to keep his hands to himself too. If after telling your friend about it you notice she's done nothing tell your classmates.
Your friend may be angry at first but will ultimately stand by you in the end as wrong is wrong and everyone you tell will know that. If you have to make this jerk undatable to protect yourself and other girls he may go after do so.
My hunch is all he needs is a scolding from your friend and a reminder to grow up, keep his hands to himself and respect girls. Feel free to slap or strike back at anyone who tries to lift your skirt etc. as it is a form of assault and at your age you could file a report on it and get him charged.
If you friend does nothing tell your parents, your teacher, guidance counsellor or principal to deal with the issue and set the boy straight. There is nothing funny or playful about him doing this. You need to understand that as it's inappropriate at all times unless you invited him to do so.
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i'm going to the movies with my
boyfriend and my friend on sunday.
i'm soo scared because this is my
first date. i don't want to be too
shy or too outgoing and this is the
first time seeing him in person !
what should i talk about to him to
avoid random silences?
and also, i really want to kiss him
and he said hes going to kiss me and
this will be my second time kissing and
im sooo scared. i forgot how to, and how
do i know if he wants to just kiss or makeout?
oh yeah, and do you think i should
wear my hair down and straight, down
and scrunched, or scrunched and in
a side or regular ponytail ? (link)
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You need to calm down first of all. Everything is going to fine. I can guarentee you that he feels as scared as you do about this date maybe even more so. All you have to do is be who you really are, relax and go with the flow.
What should you talk to him about to avoid silence? You're going to the movies with him so I would start by asking him about his favorite movies, actors, actresses, directors etc. Then ask him about his interests and hobbies, siblings etc. Talk to him about books and CDs and bands he is into.
That should take care of things there. Ask him about his goals too and what he plans for after high school. That shows deep interest. People LOVE to talk about themselves and that will lead you into all kinds of areas to discuss. Trust me on that!
The most important tip of all is do not under any circumstances talk about yourself and or your accomplishments and what you do, goals etc. unless he asks you a direct question. This shows you are more interested in him than your own self.
As far as hair goes I would say to pick what you usually do with your hair as that's what he is used to seeing in pictures you probably sent him while online. It also helps him instantly recognize you and have that automatic connection.
Then again, if you choose not to go that route he'll love the styles you mentioned except for two. I would avoid anthing off to the side or in a ponytail. If it were me (being a guy) on said date I'd want you to stick to straight hair going down as anything else could be distracting as he's probably going to starring at your hairdo and not always at your face.
Best word of advice: do your hair the way you like people to see it the most. As for kissing what you need to do is start with a little peck. That teases the other person and if you want open mouth remember to copy the other person's movements and gently flick inside the mouth, the cheeks etc and do not stick your tongue to far in.
Flick his lips wtith you tongue first and follow his lead. Trust me, you'll remember it from last time as it all comes back. If you're really nervous just tell him you have only ever been kissed once and to guide you. Most guys enjoy teaching girls this kind of thing and the practice.
You have nothing to worry about as the kiss is in the bag and you know he's really into you. Just be the girl he knows from online or however he knows you and don't be fake or phony or anything you aren't.
Your biggest problem is choosing a movie now that you both will enjoy. I recommend Zodiac by the way or Breach. You may also enjoy Astronaut Farmer if they won't let you in to see the others.
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Okay, I'm 16 years old. Not sexually active or anything like that. So I have always been freaked out by even thinking about having to go to the gyno, but i don't know if my mom is making me go to the gynocolegist, but I was just wondering if you HAVE to. I know you would have to if you had like something that ran in your family that you had to, but I heard that your parents can't make you because your under 18. & that it's your choice if you want to go or not. So I was wondering if anybody knew if you "HAD" to go. Thanks. (link)
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There's absolutely nothing legal or otherwise stipulating and or forcing you to go see a gynaecologist. Your mother cannot make you but it's really to your benefit if you do. Sooner or later you will need to go to ensure your reproductive system continues to be healthy etc. etc.
You have to understand (as I'm sure you do) that every girl dreds this experience first time or not. The doctor knows exactly how teenagers feel about this and will NEVER ever do a single thing without walking you through it or making you feel comfortable about it. Also, they've seen millions of vaginas so would not be phased by yours. :)
Here's a great article on what to expect on your first visit from a Web site about sex and sexuality (staffed by certified experts) that is written specifically for teens. http://www.scarleteen.com/pink/gyne.html
You might want to read that with your mom and tell her stright up how you feel about it all and talk to her about her own expieriences (that may sound a little weird but mom and daughter should be able to talk about anything by now.)
After doing that you can make a decision together about it. The doctors are professionals and will make sure it's all quick, through and painless.
You can even make sure if it's an issue for you to have a female doctor or if the doctor is male a female nurse is always there to assist and make sure everything is proper between patient and doctor etc. You owe it to yourself and your health to go.
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I have a crush on this boy, lets call him 'TOM'.
Hes cute, nice, popular, jock; the usual. I'm pretty popular but not the most popular, im pretty but not the prettiest ( there r for sure prettyier ppl then me). I am a nice girl, everyone knows but, a couple years ago i did something bad (but by accadent). This 'bad thing'ruined my rep. I really like this boy, and i feel as if he could like me in return but, he is pretty popular and i dont no if hed wannt to go out with a girl who did such a gross thing. I am not really friends with all his friends, but i am pretty close with some of them, and i feel as if he wouldn't want them to know that hes going out with me.
Help?!
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Although you cannot change what happened in the past you shouldn't let your mistake no matter how gross you feel it was to impact on your life now. You are older and wiser and have learned from the experience and moved on.
When it comes to your peers and the event you allude to they have likely forgotten it completely as it was several years ago. It's no longer an issue I'm sure and will not likely crop up on you. The only reason your classmates might ever have to think of it is if you are still apologizing for it and or bringing it up. As hard as it may be--let it go. They certainly have.
It's not at all a factor with dating this guy or trying to. You have a HUGE advantage as you are close to some of his friends. What you ought to do is arrange to hang out with them this weekend and invite him too and get to know eachother. Try to become his friend and see where that takes you first.
If that works out then you can mention you wouldn't mind starting a relationship and ask what he thinks about that. If he genuinely likes you he won't care about a mistake you made ages ago and will only care about who you are now and all the qualities that make up you.
Don't let something in the past keep you from exploring a reationship or friendship for that matter with anyone. People will like you for who you are and nothing else if they are your real friends or potential boyfriend. Go for it!
All he can say to you is "no, i'm not interested." If he brought up your past which he won't just say "It's a shame you feel that way. I'm older and much wiser now." Don't say anything else and let that sit with him as sure enough he'll want to know more about you after that remark.
If anyone brings the past up again just tell them what I said in the paragraph above. Say nothing else about it to anyone and people will stop caring and brand him and or the rumor mongers as jerks.
You have nothing to fear but fear itself here. It's a brand new day, new book, new page in the morning. You get to decide what gets written in that book so go for it. There's not much to lose. I know from helping kids with this in the past.
If you need more help hit my e-mail box up. It would have been helpful to have known what exactly you did that worries you so much now but no matter what it was people forget, move on, forgive and it doesn't influence the present unless you decide to make it do so.
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i dont know why,but i cant make a conversation,i cant be funny,i dont know why no one wants to be my friend. im really self concious(sp?) how do i become wild,fun and outgoing? and funny? like i cant hold a convo. i have like no friends here for some reason. whats going on?i find myself boring,and blah,i dont like it! thanks for any help! (link)
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The problem here is your perception and attitude towards and of yourself. You are so much better than you believe yourself to be. If you continue seeing yourself as someone who is boring, uninteresting and too self-concious guess what people will see.
That's right they can only see you the way you view yourself as that is the very image that is projected forward to them. If you believe you don't have any friends, cannot hold a conversation or be wild, fun, funny etc you never will be.
These fears and the "I can't" statement is your problem. The minute you tell yourself you cannot do something or won't be able to is when you start to lack all of those things which are truly in you. you can surprise yourself at what you can do.
When it comes to conversations you have to go with the flow, introduce yourself and above all listen to others. If something funny is going to happen it will happen on your own. Stop trying to make things happen as that'll never work.
Just be yourself and talk to kids at school like you would your parents, siblings. It's no different. You really just have to start talking and see where things go on their own. You cannot script it or force it.
As far as being wild, funnym crazy etc just be you. People can tell when you are trying to hard or being phony. If you aren't naturally wild and crazy don't fake it. Be who you are!
Why do you lack friends at school? Well, mostly for the reasons above as people can see there's something wrong with your body language and the way you percieve yourself.
They won't be attracted to that or someone who is afraid to talk or be herself. The other reasons could be cliques, bullying for no apparent reason or jealousy of you.
I think strongly if you got rid of this false view of yourself and stopped claiming it as yours and who you are you'll do phenomenally well.
Chuck out the picture you have of who you are and accept the facts which are rightfully yours that you have the same abilities as your classmates to have friends and how conversations and be interesting. The moment you believe anything less is when you will have issues.
Be who you really are and forget about anything else. conversations will occur naturally and when something funny is supposed to occur it will happen naturally.
Just relax and approach people like you would anyone you know as that's how friendships develop. You should also try having a party and inviting people you know of that you want as friends as that could help you grately or invite kids to hang out at the movies or bowling alley etc with you one day and above all RELAX!
Nobody is judging you here except for your ownself. You've already tried and convicted yourself and sentenced yourself to suffering because you accepted the wrong view of yourself.
It's like a painting that needs to be restored and have all the years of tranish removed.
See the experience like this with you having a new page and chapter to start and go in there with the tips above and you'll have more pals than you need to hang out with at once. It's all in your attitude about yourself and nothing at all to do with their's that holds the key to your problem. They're only responding to this view that you project to others. CHANGE IT! :)
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okay soo tomorrow im trying out for romeo and juliet.we have to say the whole first scene with the "2 households both alike in dignity " part..and well, i've never really tried out for anything before...but i really want to do this play. im a bit nervous.doo you know any ways to "break" out of it. i want to be calm when i try out.
thanks (link)
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The first thing you need to do is block out your own feelings and world and focus on who your character (be it romeo or Juliet etc etc. ) and start thinking about what they would have been doing off stage, who they are etc and think only about that as you enter or exit the scenes they give you to do.
Next focus on just one person in the room and perform just for them. While doing this also think that this one person is there solely because of you and needs to see, hear, witness what you are doing. Block out anyone else in that room. If you have to imagine they're naked. All that matters here is what your character was doing.
Try to build their world in your mind and craft that character. What you have to do is take those words on the page and find the right emotion to put behind them. Focus only on the things mentioned above and on interpriting the character's life and world. Nothing else should matter in your head but that.
That should keep you focused and calm. you never want to appear cocky but in your head if you really, really, really want this part think to yourself "It's mine and nobody here will take it from me."
Then watch everyone else and pick up on what they aren't doing correctly and just focus on the things above to get through this with confidence.
At the audition tell the director that you are new to acting but love the play and feel you are the right person for the role because of that love and understanding for it. Ask them what their spin is on the characters and tell them what you were thinking of right before you begin. Tell them you're a little nervous--they'll understand.
You should definitely mention your take on the 2 households scene and Juliet before you start. Just tell the director you wanted to mention this before starting it will greatly help you.
Even if you do not get the part this will be a confidence booster for you so next time you'll do even better. The only other advice for you i can give is to know the part, the scene, the words like nobody else.
Most people who fail at auditions have never read the script, never asked the director what he thinks about the scene and the play itself and above all people fail if they just read the words off the page and do not actually do any acting or put emotion or feeling behind it.
Remember your delivery and actual performing while you are auditing are key as it's the only way the director can guage if you hit his or her vision. Make this really come to life and leap off the page for them and you'll get it. Let me know how things turn out for you.
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I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess. (link)
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It seems to me that what you are describing is chronic depression. It's a mental illness and 100% treatable. No matter what your problem seems to be there's NEVER a reason to kill yourself as there is always a solution.
What you must do is tell your brother how you are feeling and that you are sure you have depression or another mental disturbance. Proceed to the emergency room and tell the psychiatrist that will come talk to you the complete truth about how are feeling.
This person will assess you and likely because they know you feel suicidal will make you stay there for a period of time to ensure you cannot hurt yourself at all and put you on medication that will make your depression dormant.
This may take a few weeks in hospital but at least you will be safe. Also, as far as a job goes they can help you find a new one with a social worker assiting you or they can help with government assistance as mental illness qualifies as a disability and reason why you cannot work.
If your job is causing so much stress and part of the reason you feel this way move on to something else. The bottom line get to an emergency room and be honest about everything while there as they can and will make you whole again. How do I know? Let's just say I've been there myself-- slightly different illness but same situation.
You do have choices, make sure you exercise the right one. All of what you describe can be treated and fixed. You might even enjoy a happier and better life than you ever thought you could.
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This might seem gross but ever since i was a little girl I've had discharge and now its gotten really bad and I have a bad gross odor to it
I've had the odor since 6 maybe or even before that and I'm 14 now.
I'm afraid to douche just because I'm really uncomfortable with it and I think I should go to the gynecoligist now that I'm over 13 but I guess I've been a little self conscious about it but it something it really wrong with me I should go
Could this be an infection or a serious problem? (link)
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I have enclosed a link below for you on healthy vaginal discharge versus what is signs of a problem to further help you better than I can. This link is http://www.pamf.org/teen/health/femalehealth/discharge.html
The one thing I must stress is not to douche as that adversely affects your vagina's ability to cleanse itself. If you are smelling a strong or disgusting odor as you have mentioned than you definitely have a problem and likely an infection.
Unless you have been sexually active there's not really concern for an STD. You likely have a yeast infection which can be treated easily. What you need to do is tell your mother what's been going on here and see a gynaecologist and have them diagnose the issue and get it taken care of. You really should go.
I know the whole idea of a gynaecologist can feel very strange for most teens going into the exam but you must remember that these doctor's are professionals and will walk you through everything they do. You have to know that your genitals aren't the first they've seen and that they are always professional and will stop if you ask.
Here is another link about what to expect at the gynaecologist's office written for teen girls on a Web site called Scarleteen that deals with adolescent's fears and breaks it all down for you http://scarleteen.com/pink/gyne.html
To reiterate, discharge that is lumpy, green, or an awful color and stinks pretty foul is signs of a problem and you'll need to see a gynaecologist to know what to do to treat it. In all likelihood it's an infection. Talk to your mom about it and go from there.
Also, so you aren't confused be sure to read the first link I gave you as there's normal discharge that you should be aware of and expect to have throughout your life versus discharge that isn't. Those two articles will really make sense of discharge, infections and visits to the gynaecologist.
There's nothing really to fear but I can understand feeling self concious. The way to make seeing a doctor easier is to think of this as a normal medical problem that has to be dealt with as it's no different from any other exam or fixing any other problem except they're looking at your genitals for a few moments and they see tons of them and will make sure you feel secure before doing a thing.
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During the oscars, they showed a bunch of clips from foreign films in a sort of montage-y thing. Does anyone know where i can find a list of all the films? (link)
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If you log onto the following Web site www.oscars.org you will be able to access a list of all the nominated films (foreign included) and the winners in each category on the main page.
All of the nominated foreign films appeared in the montage you speak of. If you are planning to see those films the easiest one to find is Pan's Labrynth (which should have won) or Water. For the others you will need to visit an art-house theatre in a major city where they show foreign and artistic films.
It's a damn shame major theatre chains do not make it easier for people to see these films. Also check your videostore soon as foreign and independent films like these wind up on DVD with no fanfare rather than in theatres more often than not and especially so if they are Oscar nominated.
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so i know someone and he still has trouble with his basi math like addition subbtraction multiplication and division facts. he isnt a younger kid. ive been asked to help him, and i use flash cards but i dont know how to get him to remebering them. does anyone have any suggestions to help him learn these??? thanks (link)
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He probably needs to see rather than visualize in his mind the answer. He most likely learns certain concepts that way and has trouble recalling them without visual aid--flashcards won't necessarily cut it here.
What he needs is for you to give him actual objects that can be arranged so that he can add, multiply, subtract and divide using them. For example put 5 dollars on a table and ask him to take away 2 etc. Same thing with division and multiplication.
Your best bet is to talk to a special education teacher at school and explain what you just did for us and ask them what would they recommend you try as their students have the same problems and they were trained on how to deal with this.
You also need to talk to his parents and ask them what their child usually does to try and remember and then recall certain concepts.
Sure enough, he will have come up with a pattern for remembering things as one of the first things learning disabled kids do (I was one of them with the exact same problem you outlined) is come up with a way to get around their disability and still excel in a subject.
You should ask him outright how can I help make this easier for you to remember? Do you have a special way you use to remember and recall facts in your other classes? Tell him I bet you that it would work with math too.
The key thing to emphasize to this kid is not that he can't do math at all (which is bullshit other teachers think)and he may believe and show him that he can.
A trick that worked with me when I was having trouble recalling math was that the instructor told me to stop and go outside for 15 minutes and or buy a caffenated drink or chocolate from the school vending machine and relax and come back and try it again.
Sure enough, this worked as all I needed to do was eliminate the immediate pressure I felt was on me. Know when to take a break and not to push it whether the kid is young or highschool aged.
I hope this helps. Feel free to hit my mailbox later if you have any questions about this. I'm around to be of service.
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in my school every student has to do swimming in gym class for 5 days. i'm really scared to do this because i'm a HORRIBLE swimmer. i can only tread water for like 1 minute, no lie. so what can i do in order to be able to tread water longer? because in gym class you have to tread for like 10 minutes straight! so its going to be really embarrassing if i can't tread for that long.
so basically i'm really stressing out about this. if anyone can help me at all i'd really appreciate it.
also i don't have a pool so how can i practice?
also how are some good ways to get out of swimming? i know that girls can only get out of swimming one day using the "i have my period" excuse, and if you really do have it for that week and can't use a tampon you have to go to the doctor with a written note.
thanks so much! (link)
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Maybe you should tell the instructor and your principal or guidance people with your parents present that you do not know how to swim and cannot be expected to swim at the rate of progress they want just yet.
Your parents could tell them that they appreciate the fact it's a required subject and you will do it but just not their way exactly.
They should ask the school to allow you to get up to speed on your own by going to an indoor public pool at certain hours when it's open to everyone to learn to swim better.
Your parents would monitor your progress and you could perhaps get school credit for it and when ready in a few weeks or so join the others in the pool at school with confidence.
As far as them wanting a note if you're menstruating where the hell do they get off? They have no right to ask about what sanitary products you do or don't use and why you can't.
I would bring that up to the powers that be over ther with your parents present that it's nobody's business but you or the other students this also applies to.
Definitely go to your local pool or call parks and rec in your area to find out where one is and use the public swim time to learn. You can also get lessons there with an instructor and that may be the only way the school can allow you to proceed on your own for a while and get credit. If you produce badges at the end of the lesson program than they cannot dispute it.
Tell your parents what is going on and get them to help you figure out a solution and whether you'll get lessons and or practice in a public pool. Regardless, I know you will do fine so don't stress.
Every problem no matter how monumental has a solution and I think this is easily solved. You have to talk to your folks about it and get things rolling.
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I'm really sick (i've been bed ridden for the past 3 days) with some kind of bacterial infection and I already threw up like orange juice today- and now i feel like i want to eat food (like real food- not just drinks) but i'm not exactly "hungry" i just feel the need for food. Almost like PMS cravings.
I didn't throw up after i ate a popsicle today.
What should I do? try to eat? i'll probably puke it up.
also- im having difficulty breathing because of this congestion in my chest. (link)
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You need to talk to your parents right away and proceed to the emergency room at your local hospital. Vomitting the much and being bed ridden for three days means we have a BIG problem here that is not going to go away on its own.
How do I know? I had the same issue and became severely dehydrated a year ago as I could not stop vomitting anything I ate or drank. What they will likely need to do is give you an IV to top you up with fluids and give you gravol to keep your food down. With me, they gave me an ultra-sound and found the culprit--an ulcer brought on by stress. I had to adapt to a whole new way of eating foods after that.
Your stomach may be trying to tell you it can no longer digest certain foods, fats, or oils or something different. This doesn't sound like the normal flu to me as you would be able to actually move from your bed.
I'd check it out for peace of mind but if you are bed ridden and cannot hold anything down at all for 3 days that warrents seeing an emergency room doctor and trying to figure out why. If it turns out to be the flu, that's great but even still go to the emergency room as it cannot help to get fluids in your system and some gravol in you to hold your food down.
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okay so i am new at a school and i have been hanging out and eatting kunch with the populare ppl but i have no idea if they really like me or not..i mean there no going to tell me if they dont so is their anyway i can tell?? (link)
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I think they do in fact like you. The fact is you are eating with them at lunch every day and hanging out with you there. If they didn't like you they would find some way to squeeze you out and prevent you from eating there.
I would go with the flow and see where things lead here. You might try asking them to the mall or to a movie and see what happens there. Let them know you're looking to be friends by making an effort to include them in your social life.
You'll know where you stand by their response but it looks like you're "in' with them. Just relax and let thing unfold rather than trying to make it all happen at once. When you strive to make things happen rather than let them naturally that's when things get mucked up and you'll turn them off.
Just use my suggestion above about asking them to join you. Also the important thing to know about the "popular girls" or "in crowd" most of them are insecure, followers rather than leaders, not too nice to their friends let alone enimes and more apt to get into trouble because of peer pressure.
Be sure you want "in" with them as being "popular" isn't always great. I encourage you to see what happens and look to make friends with people outside of their circle too and forget all the labels and cliques. I know you'll make friends and lasting ones if you just be yourself and relax and let it unfold.
From everything you've told us it looks as though they consider you one of the gang or you would have found yourself having to search for another lunch table by now.
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well, there's this boy in my gym class (well, hes not in my gym class, he just helps in it) that is really cute and really nice. He's pretty popular, and i sorta am. but he's a sophmore, and i'm a freshman. I don't really know him, and just randomly talking to him would be weird. Today I smiled at him once and asked him about time or something stupid. But i'd like to get to know him and see if maybe i like him. Any suggestions? It needs to be very gradual, but still progress, you know? (link)
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What would be so weird about talking to him? He's just an ordinary teenager like yourself. He's not going to hurt, bite or humiliate you for walking up to him and introducing yourself. In fact, most guys welcome that and are flattered a girl would have the guts to do it.
All you have to do is be yourself and just tell him your name. Then comes the real easy part ask him if he would like to chat online some time and then press a piece of paper into his hand with your info.
After that leave things up to him If he doesn't contact you at least you'll know where you stand with him. You also don't exactly ask him out by doing this either so no worry with rumours etc. I would however, do this when not a lot of people are around.
As far as him being a sophmore and you being a freshman it's only a year difference and will not make an impact on anything or his decision to date you if you get to that point.
The thing here is you have to be gutsy to get anywhere. If you want to get to know someone be it for friendship or a relationship you have to be willing to approach them instead of waiting and hoping they approach you.
If want something bad enough as scared as you may be to approach him do it. Just be yourself and talk to him like you would anyone else you want to be friends with.
It's really no different except for the fact you might get a boyfriend out of it. Another way to get him to know you is throw a party and invite him to it or if you know your pals are all going to a movie or to hang out somewhere on the weekend ask him if he would like to join you.
I know you wanted gradual but I believe in a one step program here and not 12 :) You can do it. If you gave him your online info it would prehaps be easier for you because typing what you are thinking is easier than saying it live.
At any rate the only choice you have is flat out introducing yourself or not as you're holding yourself back for no reason other than fear of what if he did this or reacted like that? etc. I'm sure if you just introduced yourself that all would be easy and fine. Don't make things harder than they need to be.
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do girls get wet dreams like guys do where they have an orgasm and get wet? because i've had sex dreams where i wake up extremely horny, but never wet. so is it actually possible for a girl to get wet during a dream? is it called a wet dream when girls have them or is it called something different? (link)
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This is a great question actually as most people may wonder the same thing as you do. In males a wt dream happens while asleep and dreaming of something sexual. As you know they release semen by ejaculation.
In a female you can indeed and do get wet while dreaming of things of a sexual nature. You'll find your pubic hair and area around your vagina and vulva wet with lubrication. It's perfectly alright if you wake up horny from a dream and have not become wet.
It's more like moist than wet anyway for females and unlike how males ejaculate. If really turned on your underwear may get a bit damp in the crotch area but nothing really embarassing happens like it can wih males with the amount of semen that is released there and of course, girls don't ejaculate. I hope this answers your question.
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i always have this white discharge on my underwear. its realy weird. what is it? is it normal? (link)
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Unless the discharge smells very strong and is not clear (lumpy like cottage cheese sometimes) you should be fine especially if you your vagina or vulva isn't also burning or itching.
I found a link that can explain all of this to you better than I can http://www.pamf.org/teen/health/femalehealth/discharge.html
Certain vaginal discharge is normal as that is how the vagina cleans itself. From what I known (health class years ago) the whiteish discharge you describe usually comes to signify ovulation.
The best thing you can do if you are having this discharge often is to follow the advice on the link i gave you, have pads and talk to your mom about it.
She'll know whether or not it's nothing or if you need to see a doctor. I'm sure it's nothing based on the info I've linked you to.
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I don't often go to concerts or shows, but a few of my friends and I for the past month have been talking about going to show on April 7th. We finally agreed to go, and I had been placed in charge of getting the tickets. A week ago, they were on sale but when I checked ticketmaster, the show did not exist and the official tour website says "Presale Closed".
I'm so new to this so I'm just wondering if there will be another chance to buy the tix. (link)
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If the show is taking place on April 7th and Ticketmaster is selling all the tickets it will be on their Web site. It may be listed under a different title (if another act opens for them or is considered the headliner).
What you need to do is go back to the Web site and then click the option that says search by venue. This will bring up the schedule of every show that will be performed at the venue including on April 7th.
A pre-sale means that tickets to the show were available for purchase on a certain date only for American Express card holders or fan club members. Once that pre-sale ends a date for the general public to begin purchasing tickets will be set up.
Another reason why you may not be seeing the concert listing on Ticketmaster was that it was cancelled outright or it is completely sold out. Personally, I think it's still on sale but the date for the public to purchase tickets hasn't been set yet.
If this doesn't help call the ticketmaster hotline number and tell them the name and date for the show as well as the venue and they'll tell you exactly what is happening as far as tickets go or if it's cancelled.
As far as the last poster goes the person meant well with their advice but you need to ignore it as this does not in any way mean you must hurry or buy tickets at the door.
If you went to the venue and tried that day of you likely wouldn't get any as all ticket purchases unless you break te law and buy from a scalper all go through ticketmaster.
When you buy from a scalper you never know if the ticket is real or not and even if it is the concert hall can decide not to let you in as the tickets were bought in bulk by a suspected scalper.
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So my History teacher gave me a 0/200 becuase my neightbor copied off of my paper. She is one of my best friends, and I completely understand why the teacher gave us both 0s. What I don't get is that I let her copy because she was absent. We had to take notes on a video and she missed the video so I let her copy my notes. When we turned them in we both got complete 0s. I'm well aware that copying is wrong, and me being the one she copied from understands because if I did all the work while all she did was copy, I wouldn't ever let her copy. But the fact of the matter is that she was absent and I wanted to let her have the notes. (She's the teacher that doesn't allow make up ANYTHING.) I am going to talk to this teacher about maybe changing the grade, or asking for some extra credit to make up the score, but do you have advice on how to talk to her about this? (link)
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Tell your parents immediately what happened here. Let them know you provided your notes to a friend to copy down so she could study them for an assignment after she was absent.
You never expected her to copy the notes and then use the same exact wording as yours in the assignment you both handed in. Make sure they know you didn't cheat and are very angry over what happened and getting a zero out of 200.
Let them know the teacher won't budge on this despite it isn't your fault. Have them arrange a meeting with the teacher and the principal and yourself present with your parents in the room to plead your case.
If they still won't budge drop the class for now so you don't recieve penalty on your academic record that will haunt you when you apply to college or university. It sounds like this teacher is a hard ass and pretty old school in the way she deals with people.
I cannot judge if she's a good one or not but I would lean toward not as most teachers will listen to both sides of an issue and then judge.
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