i know this girl who goes to another school who is my absolute bff and she had a girl sleepover this night and that girl absolutly hates me! and she told me how much people talk behind my back and how fat and ugly i was and it really is hurtng my feelings b/c i never really did anything to her until tonight when i called her a bitch and now i just feel so emotional and i just feel like telling my best friend that if she wants to be friends with her she could be but she won't find me talking to her anymore. so i'm really confused and don't know what to do anymore
anonymous -
What you're thinking of doing isn't the best thing if your friendship means a lot to you. In a way, you're literally blackmailing her for being friends with someone you don't get along with. It's not right to make her choose between her friends, but here's a suggestion that might help you.
Talk to your friend about the conflicts you are having with the other girl, but remember not to pressure her into choosing sides. Tell her that you don't want to tell her who and who not to be friends with, and that your friendship still means a lot to you. Come to some sort of an agreement, like if your best friend wants to hang out with the other girl, tell her not to invite you along for the sake of possible conflicts. The same goes for if she wants to hang out with you, to not bring the other girl along.
I wish you the best of luck, and don't let that hurtful girl get to you. She's probably just insecure or competing for your best friend's friendship. Hope this helps!
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Okay I was hanging out with this one guy tonight.. We went driving around and then we went over to his co-workers house to play some games.. Well things "happened" i should say.. But.. there is one problem.. He has a GF!!!!!!!! I dont know what to do. I like him a lot and he says he likes me more than ne thing.. and then he was telling me what he feels when he is with me. then I asked him if he felt the same way with his gf and he said no.. I dont know what to do.. PLEASE help!!!
anonymous -
To be brutally honest, you need to re-evaluate this guy. If he is currently cheating on his girlfriend with you, think of if he would cheat if you were to go out with him? I'm not saying that the "once a cheater, always a cheater" phrase applies, but see if he'll break up with his girlfriend after tonight; I'd say give him a week at the least. If he doesn't break up with her, I don't think he's being true and I'd advise dropping him. Cuz if all he said to you was honest, he'd take into consideration for your feelings and pursue a relationship with you instead.
Good luck!
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im 5'2 and 115 lbs. everyone tells me im not fat or chubby. they say that my stoamch is flat but its not. no matter what i think that im heavy and that its noticable. are there any ways to make my stomach flat? and situps never worked for me. i want to lose it because im always afraid that im going to lose my boyfriend to someone whos skiny and pretty. any ideas? please and thank you.
anonymous -
Sit-ups do work, but you have to do cardio before (this includes running, jump roping, anything to get your heart rate up). Because when you get your heart rate up, that's what burns the calories, and if you do sit-ups and ab exercises directly afterward, your heart rate will still be up while you're working the abs. I'm doing it, and it's working for me!
Hope this helps!
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my boobs are really small and my stomach is really big. its like showing off my fat waaaaaaay too much! is there anything that can make my tiny boobs bigger
anonymous -
Try doing butterfly curls with dumbells. You lay on your back with a dumbell in each hand, spread your arms out horizontally, and lift both dumbells together so that palms are facing each other. Hope this helps!
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I am a 14 year old male.
i have asked this girl (anne, 14)on a date.
I have decided to take her to the local fair this Friday?
but i have never been on a date before.
I don't know where to begin!
I need a good ice breaker that will keep us talking the whole time.
I appreciate all advice.
All help is good.
also: should I end the date with a kiss?
I don't relly know how. i have never been kissed.
anonymous -
Joke around with her, that's always a good icebreaker. It shows that you're easygoing and fun-loving. Keep the conversation going by asking her a questions to get to know her better (favorite food, show, hobbies, etc).
As for the kiss, I really can't say because some girls want to be kissed and some not. When you say goodbye, lean for a hug and maybe a kiss on the cheek. If you feel a vibe the whole date, just a gentle peck on the lips will do too. Remember, the key to a good kiss is to be gentle.
Good luck and have fun!
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im 13 and i dont have my peroid yet and lately i have been having red blood spots about the size of a penny...is it my peroid coming soon or is it an infection??
please help
anonymous -
From the looks of it, it looks like you're period is coming. But be sure that there isn't anything unusual in your vaginal area (like burning sensations, swelling, pain, or burning when urinating). If you do have these symptoms, see a doctor. If not, it most likely is your period. :)
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Ok, i know this is a sexual thing but i didn't know where else to find answers so here i go:
1) After you get your cherry popped, is it natuural for the next couple of times while engaging in seual activities like getting fingered or intercoarse for you to still bleed? and how long should go on for?
2) Can you get pregnant from swallowing cum?
3) Is it possible that if neither you or or partner has an STD and you have unprotected sex (but still using birth control) that you can get an STD?
Thanks in advance to everyone who answers this question. I will rate high.
please dont delete this question, its important to me for it to be answered, and i just want to be safe and know. (im not sure if this is a question you guys usual delete)
anonymous -
1) Usually you do not continue to bleed, but sometimes it is common in some women.
2) No you cannot get pregnant from swallowing cum.
3)The only possible STD you can get (if none of you have any known STD) when having unprotected sex is herpes. Meaning say you have a cold sore on your lip, and you give him a blowjob, he can get herpes. But if you two don't have herpes "down there", then you're fine.
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i'm very very pissed and have a habit of doing things that are very very bad. How can i stop my self. I know getting pissed its and answer but its not mine other advice.
anonymous -
Channel your anger into something productive, like exercise, martial arts, crafts, going for a walk around the neighborhood, playing video games, etc. Be creative.
Or you can do what my boyfriend taught me. He likes to practice martial arts you see, and we had this empty refrigerator cardboard box (it's some pretty thick cardboard) and he taught me how to punch a hole right through to the other side. It doesn't damage your knuckles, and it helps when you just want to hit something!
Hope this helps!
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wat does pop a cherry mean?
anonymous -
Basically losing one's virginity.
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What are some really good exercises that get your heart pumping that you can do when it's kinda cold?? It's in the 20's or 30's. I want to stay in shape for fitness testing. thanx, i rate all 5's.
anonymous -
If it's really cold, I suggest you workout indoors in a gym or your personal home. For exercises, there's jogging, jumping jacks, jump roping, dancing, workout videos, etc. just use your imagination! :)
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the guy i like with all my heart is mad at me and i dont noe why. i tryed talking to him but all i got was him cussing me out. then i tryed calling and trying to find out what i did wrong and all i got was him telling me not to be stupid and that i noe what i did when i have no idea what i did. i dont noe what to do?? i am sad bc i really like this guy and this is what i get. i have known him for a year now. plz help ??????
anonymous -
Guys express themselves so vaguely don't you agree?
When me and my boyfriend got into fights, he did the same thing with me. I'm guessing that your boyfriend is too upset to restate what he thinks you already know so he ends up cussing you out. My best advice would be to give him some time alone to cool off and calm down.
If you two talk via internet also, maybe you can try writing him an email, it helps sometimes to see your feelings in writing.
If not, after giving him some time to himself, write him a hand-written letter clarifying the situation. Explain that you honestly have no idea what he blew up at you about. Although you don't know what you did, apologize saying something like,
"i don't know what it was that i did for you to blow up at me, but hunni, i never have any intention to purposely hurt you. i also apologize if you may have taken anything the wrong way, but baby, i love you, and it hurt me to hear those hurtful words from someone i love so much. please tell me what it was that i did so i can fix it, cuz it means the world to me to see you happy."
Make it really heartfelt and leave it on his windshield, or leave it at his door. :) I wouldn't suggest you give it to him in person, because if he is still pissed, there's no telling what he will do.
Good luck!
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I love my bf sooo much, but I have a big problem. My mum hates him and she used to argue with him big time but now she argues with him. I talked to her, now shes trying to be nice, for my sake but I can still she's annoyed and angry. But i really apreciate it
Anyway, I always got upset when he wouldn't come to my house. I always had to be at his house and it always took a lot out of me because that meant I wasn't home much, especially when we have been together for over a yr.
Now I think Im having problems with his family. They have always sed little things here and there which have made me feel unwelcome but I have never taken it to heart. But then a few days ago I think something just clicked inside me. I changed my hair style and they were like yea it looks 'different' and then they started to talk in another language and I understood what they were saying because my dad comes from that country. They weren't saying the nicest of things. They think I dont understand. Then I was playing with his sisters kid and she started criticising me to my bf in front of me about how I was playing with her. I wasnt even doing anything wrong. I was just drawing with her. My bf stuck up for me. Im not the loudest of ppl and they are quite loud. I just felt soo upset and so uncomfortable. I pretended I didnt hear but I felt myself go red.
Do you think I should talk to my bf about it? Now i feel how he feels when he comes to my house. He hates coming to my house. Now I feel the exact same way in his house.
anonymous -
Hey there, I went through the same problem so perhaps I can be of assistance.
With the problems with your mom, maybe she just needs to get used to him and get to know him a little better in order to accept him. Just have patience. :)
Through the first year of being together, I was too always at my boyfriend's house constantly (mainly because my parents didn't accept him yet). The best advice I can give you here is once your family begins to accept him, he will feel more welcomed to start coming over. The reason why he doesn't want to come over a lot now is probably due to the criticism and arguments between him and your mom.
As for the situation with his family, I went through the same also. It's hard to get adjusted to his family because there's always added pressure to give a good impression. I'd suggest that as hard as it is, you may have to step out of your comfort zone and strike up conversations with his family members. The reason why they criticize is because they don't know you very well, so they tend to assume, judge, and jump to conclusions.
Just hang in there, things will hopefully get better as time elapses. Just put in the extra effort to get to know his family regardless of what they say; prove them wrong.
And yes, I think you should talk to him about it because these conflicts involve the both of you.
Good luck! :)
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im pretty skinny.. but i have big hips.. like an hour glass figure.. but its weird because i have like no boobs or butt and i barely fit into jeans because a size 1 will fit my waist perfectly but it sags soo much in the butt.. does anyone have any good excercises that will get rid of the fat on my sides?
anonymous -
For the hip area, there are exercises you can do to tone your outer thighs. If you go to the gym, there's this machine (I'm sure you know which) where your legs start off together, and you attach weights and open your legs and close them again for 1 rep. There's also another exercise where you lay on your side on the floor with knees bent and get a moderate dumbell and hold it while it rests on your outer thighs. Lift legs with knees still bent, and return to starting position. Repeat and do the same for the other leg.
I hope this helps!
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i have this girl who thinks i am here friend but i really cant stand her she is soooooo immature i think she is a lesbien too. i not saying i am against gay/lesbiens but some one who i thought who was my friend (not really) is now looking at me like i am her toy grosses me out. her sisters are really well behaved and are mature. i just wish she she would leave me alone. im not nice to her as a leave me alone sign but she dosnt get it. the reason y i think she is a lesbien is because in chorus class she turned around 31 times to me. its sisk. i mean i think she is obssesed with me . any ideas to tell her i dont want to be her friend?
anonymous -
I'd suggest that you calmly come up to her and confront her. Don't go accusing her though, just keep things nice and civil. Confront her about what she does that bothers you and tell her that you tried to be patient and tolerate it, but her behavior is unacceptable. Just straight out say, "I'm sorry, but I can't deal with this anymore. What you do makes me uncomfortable, and I can't tolerate this anymore so please, just leave me alone."
It may sound a little blunt, but there really isn't a nice way to say "beat it, i don't like you." It's the closest thing I got :) Hope this helps.
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Hey, i have nothing against black people at all, im jewish and i think i have a crush on a guy thats black. I'm not aloud to date until im 16 but like my parents i dont think would want me marrying someone that is black not because there black its just that they think i should marry a jew. So, my question is, is should i not like him i mean im prob not going to marry him or date him unless he likes me. WHta should i do?
anonymous -
It's still too early to be thinking about marriage, so I wouldn't worry about it too much. The current status is that you really like this guy, and if you two ever hook up and things get serious, that's when you start to discuss it with your parents. But there isn't a reason why you should not like him, it's just an innocent crush. There's no harm in that.
Hope this helps!
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their is this guy i have liekd for a really long time. hes alsome. the other day i ended up going to his house an we ended up making out and it got around to everybody at school an he didnt dis agree with it. then liek a week later he called me and was liek do you want to come over an help me with my project and when i got their he wgoes im not in them odd to do this. so when ended up making out. an he goes i tohught you didnt like me. and i was liek i dont know mabey i do. then i was liek i tohught you didnt liek me either. and he goes i take wut i can get? and i was liek what does that mean an then in a really cute voice he goes .. baby ur so blonde. wut does i take what i can get mean?
anonymous -
In my personal opinion, I think "I can take what I can get" means that he's lucky to get any action at all. Translation: I'm desperate for anything.
Sorry if this wasn't the answer you were searching for, but in any way, shape, or form, that phrase never has a good meaning.
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She has no idea that hes avoiding her calls, she thinks hes just busy or not around the phone, since he has a big house. So why is she acten like this???? Thnxs
anonymous -
Oh, I see. Well in that case, there are many possibilities on why she could be acting like this. She could be playing mind games by flirting, she might have a growing attraction for you and getting bored of your friend, or maybe she's just feeling some sexual tension and since your friend is avoiding her, you're the next best thing for her to cling on.
Every girl behaves differently for a variety of reasons, but from a girl's perspective, these reasons fit the top of my list for probable motives. I can't guarantee that this is exactly why she's acting the way she is, but it's a start. :)
As for solving or handling the situation is a whole new story. Note me back if you'd like further assistance. I'm glad to help!
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wats masturbation
anonymous -
Masterbation is the act of sexually pleasuring oneself. For a guy it involves gripping his penis and rubbing it up and down, and for a girl it can range from stimulating her clitoris using her finger to rubbing up against a pillow.
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Ok Well I am a preety popular person i get invited 2 all the partys and everthing like that and most of all the guys like me i mean they all wait 4 me at my locker and they alwy caring my books!and there really cute but when they ask me out i always say no and ever1 says why dont u go out with them and crap!....well im a prep i wear abercrombie and hollister every day and ive been this way 4 as long as i can remember.well i meant this kid and hes sooo hot!! bur the only problem is hes a skater and im a prep i sit with him almost everday but he is always going out with older girls how!(and i just meant him) and the other day we made out!
but im kidda nervus beacuse all the girls in the school are totally crushed over him and all my prepy freinds! and the only 1 that knows is my freind Nicole what am i supossed 2 do tell him i like him and get it over with soo all those guys and girl are pested off at thinking i didnt want a bF and whatever i really need help with this 1
anonymous -
You like him, he likes you. That's all that matters.
Forget what others think. As for your friends, they should be happy for you. Although you're a prep and he's a skater, it doesn't mean that you two can't get along, it's just like Romeo and Juliet.
A prep dating a skater isn't such a bad thing; maybe you just needed a taste of someone different from the regular prep people you usually hang out with. If they give you crap, shrug it off. You'll be happy, and don't let anything get in the way of that.
Good luck and go for it!
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Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a while and have decided to have sex. But I was wondering how to start it the right way?
anonymous -
There is no "right" way, but if you want to make it special and enjoyable for her, I'd suggest you two talk about it. Tell each other what you want, how you want the other to touch you and do this or that. This way, there won't be any unpleasant surprises :) Also, protection is a must, and use a lot of lube to avoid rubbing her raw.
Have fun!
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