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hey,i'm Nicole. I'm 23 years young. I'm from New York...i do the best i can on giving advice on this site.drop one in my inbox n i'll get to it as soon as i can.i like spending time with friends, shopping,and playing soccer. my interests are music, singing and dancing.

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I have been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now and we havent done anything more than hold hands and hug. THe reason why i am affraid to go any further is because i am affraid that he is going to judge me because i have never made out with any body or anything, and he has. I am just scared i am not going to be able to do it right. What should i do?

if he judges you just because of that, then he isn't good enough for you. if you want to, practice with a mirror or on your hand or something...i know,i know sounds nasty but it works! hope i helped! and confidence is the key!

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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my ex-boyfriend called me some mean names last week and i don't know what to do about it. i can't talk to him about it because i moved away this summer. i know thats why hes mad, but i dont know how to talk ro him anymore. please help.

if he's going to be an asshole, call him names back. don't let anyone treat you like crap and say shit to you...say something back to him or get a boyfriend and have him take care of it!lol

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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please help me. my ex-boyfriend, who i just broke up with yesterday, is now all of a sudden going out with my best friend!! i have no idea what to do, any advice?

yeah...that happened to me too. i got so pissed though. whatever you do,do not get in a physical confrontation with her...unless of course all she talks about is him and she's shoving it in your face. then you can kick her ass. and there's no way possible your "best friend" could be that good of friends with you if she had the nerve to do that. unless she's completely desperate.you have my sympathy and dont break down and cry and all (we all want to)...don't show her unless you're gonna tell her straight out, no stalling. good luck!

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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what school do you go to?because i live in rochester to

i go to irondequoit(dake)jr.high...write back!

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Okay, so I have this boyfriend and just the other night I told him that I feel as if I love him, so he said he thought he loved me too. Last night at this concert had had me call his ex-girlfriend that is having his kid and had me bitch her out but not to say he was with me. Well, she told me that he had called her earlier that day and told her that he still loved her and missed her. He said he was at work from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. went home took a shower and came and picked me up. Is she lieing or is he? I'm confused. I just want to know if he is sounds like a cheater because I don't want to get heartbroken because I'm really into this boy, he's the nicest boy I've ever met. Can someone that knows about these kind of boys let me know what they think because I'm scared!

if he called form his cell phone, check his call history!!! then you'll find out if he lied or not....lemme know how it goes!

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I have a friend. I think theres something wrong that she won't tell me. She is always mad at me. she always takes it out on me when it is somebody elses fault. How can i stop her from yelling at me when it is not my fault? Should i not be friends or should i and should i stop her from taking it out on me?

if she's a really good friend and you've been friends with her for a long time, talk to her about it. if you guys haven't been friends for a long time, and she doesnt stop after you've tried to talk to her, she's not worth it if she's making you feel like crap. if you need any mental/emotional support, i'm here!hope i helped!

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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Okay, tomorrow we are having a Valentine's dance. There is this guy I really like, and he is going. Both of us are single, and he talks to me regularly. But tomorrow at the dance, I want to look good. I have no clue what to wear, or how to do my makeup. Im not real big on skirts, and I want to be comfortable.

Also, I have kind of pale skin, and REALLY light brown hair w/ highlights. Any ideas? Thank you!


And do any of you have any tips on dancing?

if you cant do makeup, have a friend help you. try eyeliner with a light shade of whatever color top you are wearing and most definitely clear or light pink lip gloss. try to straighten your hair and as for clothes...a skirt would be great because guys like to look at a girls legs. if you really don't want to wear a skirt,go for really tight but cute jeans with a red or pink shirt. good luck & hope i helped! and remember, confidence is the key!!!!

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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I know I have a sleeping disorder, I have too. I don't get enough sleep and I always feel run down. I have a busy schedule and I barely get 4 hours a sleep a night. Mostly I have time to sleep but I can't go to sleep. Its like I fight my sleep or anything. I could be in a room so dark and not be able to fall asleep. I would just stare at nothing. And I take stuff to go to sleep but it really messes me up in the day. What can I do?

whatever you do, do not go to medicines that make you drowsy. that is unsage and you will most likely become addicted to that medicine. you should talk to a doctor and get a prescribed medicine which would be much safer. good luck & hope i helped! xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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theres this guy that i almost went out with like a year ago but it never happened. a few months ago we started hooking up. were not really friends but i really like him and i dont know how to tell him because i dont want to ruin hanging out with him if he doesnt like me .. how should i tell him? or see if he likes me?

you should have a friend ask him or one of his friends if he likes you. when i like a guy, i just come straight out and tell him that i like him.you should take a chance and see how he reacts. if you don't want to risk your friendship, then don't take that chance. but if you're shy like that, have a friend talk to him. good luck & hope i helped!

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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Noone at school likes me. I dont know why, im never mean to anyone but guys say im hot.. are people jealous? Naw i dont think they are because a lot of girls in my school are pretty. What should I do ? And how can i find out why people dont liek to be my firend

did you ever try to make any friends? maybe there's some people that want to be your friend but their intimidated by you or maybe they're shy. some people may find you annoying but i wouldn't know because i don't know you or anything like that. i would actually try to make some friends if i was you. good luck & hope i helped! xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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Ok i asked this before and didn't get a good answer. How do you Bar-Lace shoes. Please explain in as much detail as possible! Thanks a Bunch!!!

you should go to a shoe store and ask them to bar lace your shoes whether you are wearing them or not. they do it the best. otherwise, im me or just drop one in my inbox and i'll esplain it ok? xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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okay what whole do you put the tampon in? the first or second one i know its the one you dont pee out of or whatever, but im new at this so i have no clue. oh also when you use a tampon is there any way of breaking you cherry? and is it safe not being on your period and TRYING to put a tampon in to practice? im about to start for this month and i really need to start using tampons please help!

the tampon is inserted in the largest hole and no, it is not safe to put a tampon in when you do not have your period it will burn...i tried when i first got my period. if you need anything else, drop 1 k? good luck & hope i helped!

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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I'm 13 years old, and I've been feeling really alone lately (I'm in 8th grade and it seems all my friends have great relationships). I was wondering; I know I'm young and all, but are there any like online dating services that I could try for people my age (I live in Tampa, FL)
thanks!
-lost for love-

an online dating service is a horrible idea. some guy could stalk you or try to rape you. i'm not trying to be cocky or a know-it-all or anything but i'm 13 and in 8th grade too and there are a lot of girls who get raped by going into a chatroom or givinig out their address. i'm sorry i didn't answer your question. i just want to warn you and all. and you will find a guy. the time just hasn't come yet. good luck!

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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I've had a really, really sore throat for the past 3 weeks, which was the last time I made out with someone. This kid was saying it sounded like when his friend had mono and that I should check it out, because I have some of the other symptoms of it as well [fatigue,headache,body aches,abdominal pain],but I wasn't sure if that's true because it has been three weeks.
Does anyone know if mono is a possibility?

mono is a possibility,but i'm not absolutely positively sure.i've heard you get mono by kissing someone but i'm not sure if it's true or not. you should tell your parents or your doctor and have an appointment made to check it out. i hope you feel better!

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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im so confused... ok sorry if this is long... i like this kid in my class and hes so cute and it seems like he likes me cuz hes always bothering me and i know thats like soo first grade but i still think he likes me and hes all i think about and dream about and i always stare at him in class hes soo cute and i want him soo bad, hes like the class clown and hes kinda popular i guess you can say cuz hes soo funny. and he hangs out with popular people. i want soo badly to be with him i dont know what to do, i feel like im setting my self up for a big fall and i dont know if he likes me but sometimes it seems like he does! and i really want him to. how can i find out if he likes me? what are some signs? i really need help this is driving me crazy!

i rate 5s to anyone who responds!

you should have one of your friends talk to him or one of his friends. if you see him look at you with a soft smile (or even glance) that may be a sign. if not, that doesn't mean he doesn't like you. i suggest having a friend talk to him or one of his friends. good luck & hope i helped!
(let me know what happens!)

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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i like this guy but i am not sure if he likes me, how can i find out if he likes me without telling him that i like him? I need advice please!!!

you have a few choices for this one;
a)ask him yourself...but you probably don't want to do that
b)ask one of your friends to ask him
c)ask one of his friends
d)ask one of your friends to ask one of his friends
good luck & hope i helped!

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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OK, i have a big problem. well, its big to me at least. I fell in love with my friend of 6 years, and he loved me 2. but someone said that i was cheating on him (which i wasnt) and he believed it and me and him broke up. hes now going out with a girl (i know her) that he never sees or talks to. hes talked to her once since they started going out and thats it. and throughout the year before they got together me and him did the whole off and on thing cuz he kept leaving me then coming back and i stupidly took him back every time. then he hears something that isnt even true one time and he doesnt wanna be w/ me ever again. well, thinking about that i started to get over him. and now im falling back for him, i dont want to but i cant help it. i miss him constantly and i keep looking at my picture of him, and it wont work to stop looking at it, ive tried. plz help! and sorry this is long

if a guy leaves you just because of something he heard and doesn't even bother to ask you about it, then he's hot good enough for you. you're better than that and this girl that he's going out with and doesn't talk to is probably going to break up with him if he doesn't start talking to her or something unless she's completely desperate and too stupid to break it off. anyways, if he's your friend of 6 years, then you guys are probably better off friends so you don't ruin that. looking at his picture is good for you...i did that after my bf broke up w/ me. you're better than him and you don't need him. open your eyes wide and look around @ other guys at school. good luck & hope i helped!

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

~if you need anything or some help w/ this guy, drop 1 in my inbox or im me(sxybellydancer91).

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ok well i dont eat anything really... i would say im becoming anerexiox. i know its not good for you but does it mmake you lose weight?

anorexia is where you think you're too fat so you stop eating some food, then you still think you're too fat and you stop eating meals, and then you don't eat at all. and that is seriously bad for you. try a diet and some exercises. hope i helped!

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

~if you need some exercising tips or good exercises, drop 1 in my inbox, k? or if you just need to talk, i'm here for ya!

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hey i am going to formal soon and i got a dress and its really long down to the floor and stuff but soo pretty. and so then i find out everyone is wearing like shorter drsses like to their shins but mien is past the floor so wat do i do? i dont wanna be over dressed but i love this dress... wat wud u do

if you really love the dress, wear it, and when you walk into the room where the formal is being held, act like you own the room! or at least that's what i would do. if you act like you own the place, people will see you as you're like totally cool and not afraid to be different and take risks. good luck & hope i helped!

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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ok so i'm fighting w/ my bestfriend..and like now the "popular" girls are all sorta taking her side. and they decided to put mean things in their infos about me, and it doesnt say me but i can tell..and their so stuck up and snobby and they think their so much better than everyone else, when their just b*tches that spend their time talking about other people. and they think their so "popular" when more people hate them then actually like them. and i have a group of friends that love me for me and i'm happy with my life. so after hearing all this your probably thinking what's the problem? well even though i know i shouldnt let what they say get to me..it Really Really does..and it just hurts even though i know their not worth my time. :-( any advice? i rate high for effort..thanks..

the "popular" girls are so stuck up. i agree w/ you. try to talk to your friend and work it out. maybe if you work it out, things will get better and maybe you will become friends with the popular girls. stick with the friends that love you for you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. and they talk about other people because they're bored with their own lame lives. at least you're happy with the way you are...because they are not. hope i helped and you can im me if you want on sxybellydancer91.

xoxo *MiZZ niCoLe LYnn*

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