about

I'm a qualified colour therapist and I'm doing a course in psychotherapy and councelling. i have the letters SNHS after my name which means i have a diploma from The School of Natual Health Sciences.
I have life experience in mental health, agoraphobia,bullying,parents divorce.


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Yes, well i'm rather young and I get around a lot and I dont ever use a condom. (the boy) because I dont even have my period yet but does this mean that I can still get std's?? If yes, do they make a condom made of paper or something cuz im allergic to the plasticy rubber stuff.
thanks,
I rate fairly high!!
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You need to get the the doctors A.S.A.P! you cfould have all sorts of nasty diseases; HIV, Aids, Chlamydia, Chancroid, Syphilis, the list goes on, horrible and discusting diseases.
And you'll pass them on to guys you sleep with and they'll pass them on to girls they sleep witch etc.
Not forgetting you could be pregnant, theres a very high chance of that wether you've started your periods or not.
As for condoms, you can get ones especially for people who are allergic to them.
ask your doctor about those.
Sorry to sound harsh but your really putting your self in danger so seriously make a doctors appointment today!

Addition... i dont mean the people who get std's are horrible and discusting, i just mean the actual diseases are nasty to have and make you feel horrible and do awful things to your body (the more serious ones do anyway, like Aids.)

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my friend Alyssa is a BIG liar, she always makes up stupid stories. and when i tell her shes lying, she gets mad at me and i have to apoligize. but anyway, heres the point: today in lunch, i was sitting with Alyssa, my other friend Cassi, and my other friend Jenna. Alyssa said she has a friend named Jake who likes me and she said i've hung out with him and i've never known anyone by the name of Jake. so when she left the table, my friend Cassi said "so...do you believe her about Jake?" and instantly i said "nope." so...should i believe her? im hoping shes right. she said he looks just like the boy who i like and hes HOTT! so, should i believe her or not?




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I think she's lying because if jake likes you then you must have met him pretty recently, in which case you'd remember. it could possibly be true.
Tell Alyssa that you'd like to meet jake again, if he's real and he likes you you'll get to meet him. if she says he doesnt want to meet then ask her "why did you say he likes me then?".
basicly, if she's lying you wont meet jake.

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hey all here is the 411 lol i want a boyfriend i haven't had a boyfriend ever in my life how do i get one.

Make sure you find someone that you like and that isnt only after one thing. If you have a crush on someone and you think he's the right guy for you, not one that uses girls and hurts them because you should have someone who is special and who will respect you.

i asked some of my guy friends what they find attractive about girls. The main things they said was that someone who makes them laugh is important, genuine, honest, who they can chat with for hours about everything and anything.

Here are some tips for you;

Be your self. It is important that you don't act differently around your guy because he will see right through it and think you are fake.

Be happy. If you smile you will look more approachable and friendly. He wont want to be with someone who looks unhappy all the time. Also when your with your mates and he's with his, flash him a nice flirty smile.

Give him compliments. Guys get insecure about themselves just as much as us girls so he'll love it when you boost his confidence now and then.

Find out what kinda stuff he is into. Then do some secret research on it. he'll think its cool that you like the same cool band as him or his fave movie. Don't go overboard though, if you have Everything in common with him it'll soon get boring.

Laugh at his jokes, even the bad ones. not hysterically though or he might twig what you're up to.

When you are chatting to him, gently touch him on the arm in a sweet flirty way.


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i have been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months and hes great. i love him very much. but when we fight its horrible. we both feel really bad but i feel like i always feel really bad and that everythings my fault and i feel like the worst girlfriend. i feel really selfish becuz he always puts me before him and i feel like i dont do that maybe.... i feel like i never cheer him up. plus he tells me that i dont but later he says he didnt mean it.i want to not be selfish and make him happy and i dont wanna fight. i wanna at least fight better, not be mean but like talk it out. what should i do?

ok, first of all dont put all the blame on yourself. it takes 2 people to have an argument, putting blame on one or another isnt going to make the situation any easier or any less stressful.
what does he like doing? where do you like to go for dates? Take him out on some nice dates, things you know he really likes and things you can enjoy together.
This will relax you both and make you happier so you wont argue so much.
Everytime you feel yourself getting stressed iut and feel thae tention between you two, just breathe deeply, think of the good times you have and happy thoughts, or sing a good song in your head just to calm down.
And when you feel like shouting, just think of how much you love him and how you dont want to lose him, because if you argue alot its going to take its tole on the relationship untill one of you has had enough. so just think of that and that should make you want to resolve the situation calmly and rationaly, just talk everything through. shouting doesnt help, if anything it makes it worse.

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hi ,i m really confused wat to do .theres a guy in my class whom i really like but i haden't told anyone bout it.then few days back i got to now that my best frnd also likes him.that was too heart broking but then i thought i shud sacrifice my luv for her becoz i didn't wanted to hurt her.but just after few days when i was having headache i was sitting in the class alone,that guy came to me n said that he loves me very much .i was really shocked actually very happy.he said he wants my answer in few days.i m really confused now.i dont want to say no to him but then i also think bout my frnd.wat will she think of me when she will get to know that i m involved wid that guy.plz give me some answer soon!!!!

I think you should go for it. you both really like eachother and want to be with eachother. she likes him but he doesnt feel the same. just tell her that you are sorry but you liked him for ages and wasnt going to say anythin especially after you found out she likes him too but he told you he likes you just out of the blue and that you didnt encourage it. tell her its really hard because you dont want to hurt her feelings but if you dont do this then you and him are both left hurt.

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Ok, there is this boy who I like and he dumped me for this other girl who he says is annoying. He has liked me for forever and now i really, really, like him. The other girl hated me because iwas going out with him and she said stuff behind my back. he thought we broke up and he went with the other girl. I don't know if it is because he thought he didn't have a girlfriend and he needed one quick or what. What should i do since I really like him?
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why did he think you had broken up? it sounds like a lame excuse, sorry but it does. did you give him reason to think you had broken up?
Also, he kinda cheated on you, he got another girlfriend while he was with you, he didnt even ask you what was happening with your relationship. and he's with a girl that was nasty to you (even though he's meant to really like you) and a girl he supposedly thinks is annoying, and so soon after you two had "split up".
When you look at it like that, do you really think he's worth it?

You can either ask him whats going on, why he thought you'd split up and why he's with this other girl now.

or just move on, he doesnt seem like a very nice guy does he if he's a cheat.

its up to you sweetie but stay strong and dont let him use you.

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I am going to the beach in 3 weeks and i was wondering, what are some ways to tone up your stomich area? I am not realy confident but i love my bathing suit and i want to feel nice in it. I am 5'3 female that weighs 120pounds, Im 13 in 7th grade. i do cheerleadin in the summer but that doesnt start till the 22nd of next month!!!

I just want some simple stuff to do like before bed.. like quick exercises maybe a website or two! Thanks!!!



--Thank-You--

this website has some exersices to tone your stomach.
http://www.weightlossforall.com/exercises-tone-stomach.htm

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What should I do if I get bullied a lot by kids at school? I go to a catholic school, too and its still happening. Junior High can definitly be tough. I get picked on by 7th graders and kids my age. What should I do? My parents and I have tried and tried but nothing has worked! I've gotten nasty emails and instant messengers, and rude and harassing phone calls. can you help me?
Deceivingxheart

ok sweetie, you deffinatly dont need to put up with this.
you are being harrassed, not just at school but at home too in your own personal space. Take a look at this website and tell your parents to aswel. about half way down it tells you what action you need to take if you are being harrassed at school.
http://www.jaredstory.com/been_harassed.html

also this website tells you how to deal with bullying and harassment.
http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=240&np=300&id=2069

and this website has lots of information about how to deal with bullies.
http://www.healthinsite.gov.au/topics/Bullying

also,
try not to spend anytime alone.
Tell a really nice teacher, someone who is easy to talk to and tell the head of year or head teacher. It's their job to help you so explain to them that you are being badly bullied and something needs to be done because it is affecting your life and school work and making you scared to come to school.
Also, keep a diary of everything that is being said and done to you with dates and times, it could just be a rough time of day, morning break or period 3 for example. then if they bullying hasnt died down, take the diary to the teachers again.
have a look at these websites, you might find them helpful, The first one is the best one, it tells you how to deal with bullies in certain places.
http://www.bullystoppers.com/
http://www.bullying.newham.net/
http://www.bullying.co.uk/children/pupil_advice.htm


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ok.. i have this best friend.. he means like the world to me.. i love him soo much.. but as a friend.. not as a stocker obsessed way.. and i always talk to him.. and my friend.. like LOVES him.. like she wants to go out with him.. and whenever im with him.. she always gets mad.. so what do i do.. shes my best friend.. do i leave him alone.. or do i stay friends with him.. just never talk to him?? do i stay friends with him.. and risk loosing my best friend?

signed congused GIRL

your friend is being unfair, you are best friends with this guy, dont give that up just to please someone that wants him. tell your girl friend that he is your best friend and that she has to accept that because you dont want to end up falling out over this.

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What are fun things to do in a hotel with all of your friends? We plan to have a toga party, but I want more ideas. The hotel has an indoor pool too if that helps. I rate 5's if you have a good idea!

you could have a murder myster party, this websites tells you how http://www.murderandmysterygames.com/faq.php

you could have a pool party, maybe dress up in a Hawaiian theme and decorate it. play pool volley ball, (if you don't have a volleyball net you can make one using an old sheet or tablecloth. Tie the ends of the table cloth to high up objects).

swimming races, relay races.

give eachother make overs
watch dvds
play truth or dare

"Smartie sucker game" - fill a big bowl or some small ones with smarites and give each person a straw. the person who sucks the most sweeties up wins.

hide and seek in the dark.

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I don't have a lot of money and I have a cat that does not have a liscence or vet or anything. Everytime my cat sneezes it shoots diarhea all over the wall and it drips everwhere and she's even splurged on me before. help me. what do i do?

find a charity vet. when my dog has to go to the vets we take him to one where you dont have to pay, just give a donation of how much you can afford.

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I like to shave everything if you know what i mean. well this is the first time but i noticed red little bumps by wear my pubic bone(the triangle area) well im not sure if its razor bumps. the day i shaved it hurt and then little bumps appeared. I think they are since i do shave against the grain which i heard is bad. they dont hurt it just hurt after i shaved. if any one could tell me if its from shaving plz let me know. there very small and only right by wear i was shaving.

it sounds like a shaving rash, i get it on my legs. you should use hair removing cream for the bikini area, it will leave the area smooth for weeks.

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Okay everyone i realized that he is nervous..John told me thats what he told him. But your comments did help except for the one about seeing a WOMANS ACTIVIST! Well,anyways i guess im gonna ask another question..

Where should we go for our next date??

we have already been to the movies twice and the mall and the park ... lol you can only do so much in this small town of mine!

bowling
ice skating
go-karting
going to the seaside for the day
crazy golf
fun fair/themepark
going to the zoo

have a look round on the internet or go to your local tourist information and have a look what you can do.

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I have a guy friend that I'm starting to like. He told me what he looks for in girls. He said their face has to "catch his eye". Any guys out there know what he's talking about? What kind of face "catches your eye"?

i think its just a personal thing, it depend what kind of person your attracted to. it will just be an instant attraction, like when you see someone and just think, "WOW".

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I got over somebody perhaps two weeks ago and decided to move on with my life. Moving on materialized in a new matter with a friend of a friend, and we started going out. At the same time everything else in my life has been going awry, and I don't feel attracted to this person anymore. I'm extremely confused right now, but if I break up with him I'll hurt his feelings and since he's part of the circle, my friends will make me feel bad about it forever. I'm beginning to think I have no sexuality at all, and he wants to do so much stuff. I just feel like getting away from him, not that I don't like him as a person. His attempts at romance only succeed in making me sick to my stomach with self disrespect.
I just want things to be the way they were. I don't want the status of having a bf, or being in a relationship. I cannot act all happy when everything else in my life is falling down around me.

I am so malcontent.

i know it will be hard but you have to end your relationship. just tell him gently when your both alone that although you like him, your feeling for him have changed and that you just want to go back to the way you were.
you cant keep going out with him just to please your friends and just so you wont hurt him because the longer you leave it the more its going to hurt.

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Basically, here's the deal. Long and complicated, unfortunately -- and if it matters, I'm 18 and F.

* My two best friends, who I'll call A and B, have been fighting for years. After some stuff went on with B's mom, who A's always hated, B decided she had enough and broke off the friendship.

* I've told them both that, even if they stopped being friends, I was going to stay friends with both of them. A, however, will not have any of it. Every time we talk, she has to tell me that B will end up stabbing me in the back and isn't my real friend (not to mention she hates all of our mutual friends). B, for the record, doesn't understand why I'm still friends with A, but is okay with it.

* This has made my friendships with both of them pretty crappy. I've stopped hanging out with B so much just to shut A up, even though B and I are really close. This isn't enough for A, she wants me to hate B as much as she does, and it's about to drive me nuts.

* They can't make up, because A still wants to be friends with B (god knows why if she hates her so much) -- either that or she wants B to admit she's ruined A's life (which isn't true, IMHO). B doesn't want to be friends, and she doesn't want to apologize for everything A's accusing her of (some of it's true, most of it isn't).

* A takes all of this out on me and doesn't seem to care how I feel about it. This really pisses me off, and I've told her and tried to explain myself a zillion times, but it never seems to work.

So, I'm at my wit's end, and I have no idea what to do about any of this anymore. Anyone got an idea?

i think A is being very unfair, you should tell her that you and B are very close but you've stopped seeing B as much just to make her happy and that if she doesnt stop being unfair to you and taking everything out on you then you'll have to stop hanging out with her asmuch.
start seeing B more often and be as close as you used to be. if A cant except it then just forget about her because she isnt being a very good friend to you at all.

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i am getting major bullied at school. everyon says to stick up for myself but it's so hard. my teacher knows but they don't do anything which is screwed up. i talked to the counselor and she said to confront them in person but i don't want to do that becuause that pus me in danger

Ok, try not to spend anytime alone.
Tell a really nice teacher, someone who is easy to talk to and tell the head of year or head teacher. It's their job to help you so explain to them that you are being badly bullied and something needs to be done because it is affecting your life and school work and making you scared to come to school.
Also, keep a diary of everything that is being said and done to you with dates and times, it could just be a rough time of day, morning break or period 3 for example. then if they bullying hasnt died down, take the diary to the teachers again.
have a look at these websites, you might find them helpful, The first one is the best one, it tells you how to deal with bullies in certain places.
http://www.bullystoppers.com/
http://www.bullying.newham.net/
http://www.bullying.co.uk/children/pupil_advice.htm
http://www.bullystoppers.com/ (this is the best one, it tells you how to deal with bullies in certain places)

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I've been hooking up with this guy for about 3 monthes now. His birthday is in a few weeks (he'll be 17) and I have NO idea what to get him. We're not going out... just hooking up. His style is preppy and he's into sports too. Any ideas for gifts? I was thinking maybe a good cologne... any of you know anything that smells amazing? (I'm willing to spend up to around $35-$40)Thanks!!!

www.iwantoneofthose.com is a great site. it has loads of gadgets and stuff, perfect for guys.

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Okay so... I'm trying to watch a movie. I insert the tape into the VCR, make sure power is ON.. and press PLAY. According to the VCR.. the tape is playing. HOWEVER, I don't see the movie on ANY channel. Not Ch. 1, not Ch. 2, not Ch. 3, not Ch. Video, not Ch. "FRNT", and there isn't a Ch. 4. AHH!! WHY!? What is wrong? Any ideas? When the VCR is powered ON.. ALLLLLL of the channels have a black screen and say "Unusable Signal". Then once I turn the VCR OFF.. that message and goes away and it is back to normal. I don't have Satellite, so I don't understand the "Unusuable Signal" part. Can anyone help me, or at least point me in the right direction?

it sounds like your video channnel is not tuned in. play the video, then click on a channel that u dont use like 8 or 0 for example and tune it in. on mine i have to tune it in the the video remote. then when you find the film playing save the channel so u can watch videos on it.

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I have to give an oral presentation in fron otthe whole class, but I suck at public speaking. I start getting really red and then i start to shake and I stumble over words. Right now I am absolutly terrified at the thought of giving a speech. What can I do to overcome this fear?

Please dont give me an answer that says "you will fail everytime"

i have this trouble too, i had panic attacks if theres even any chance that i had to read something out loud in class.
have a quiet word with your teacher thery're alone. explain to them that you have panic attacks and have been having them and getting really really nervous for weeks just thinking about reading in front of everyone. then try and arrange so you just have to read in front of her/him. thats what i started doing at school and college when i had presentations. its still scary but alot easier.

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