HEY EVERYONE, I'M KAT!
and i'm here to help :)
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I finished school early today and I went to meet my mum outside the school. As I was getting into the car, I noticed the most popular guy in school walk past and he goes "Thanks for last night! See you tomorrow"
I don't get it. What exactly did he mean by this? My mum said he was trying to make me laugh. I'm..err.. not so popular so I have no clue why he would talk to me. He blew me a kiss once when I was in the car with my mum too. He is a major flirt and does get a lot of girls so I'm not sure if it means anything.
What's going on here? Was this just a joke or did he have some hidden agenda?
thanks. (link)
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Hah. He was most likely trying to embarass you or joke around with you.
Thanks for last night reffers to a one night stand, or something like that.
He most likely saw that your mom was there and was trying to embarass you. That, or he's joking around with you.
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Im 13 in the 7th grade. Yes, middle school so we have alot of drama.
I really want to be popular. Really popular. Like, the most popular girl at my school.
What is a way to be a better friend? Im kind of popular now. I hang out with the popular people, but I am not the most popular person.
If anybody can help me Thank You! (link)
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Well, first off, I'd like to say that being popular isn't everything, believe me.
But, try being nice to EVERYONE. NOt just people you would normally hang out with. Smile at everyone, talk with people you normally wouldn't.
Your nice reputation will get around and people will definately notice you.
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Around a month or two ag, I called up a frend that i haven't talked to in 5 year. I'm not sure whether to keep talking to her or just to cut the tie. Can you help? (link)
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Personally, I wouldn't 'cut the tie'.
Friendship is a great thing, and more friends usually means more happiness. =D
Try to hang out if that's possible, and you'll be good friends in no time.
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Alright, well the school year is coming up soon, and I really want to be extra social this year. I don't mean like popular, I don't care about that, but last year I hung out with friends, but most of my weekends were spent at home, and this year I want to hang out with more people and be at home less. I especially want more guy friends. I have like, two. And I see all these girls with all these guys friends and I always wonder how they became friends with them. Help? (link)
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Talk to them =D
Thats the number one thing, just think of them as friends who are girls.. just maybe not as willing to talk about things like makeup, ect.
I think the thing you can do to get them to be friends with you is to joke around ALOT. Guys seem to like that. lol.
Well, good luck, and it's not that hard to be friends with guys!!
Email me if you need any thing!
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I'm 14 and haven't had a boyfriend yet, but almost all my friends have. How can I tell if they like me or how do I tell i like them? (link)
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Don't worry too much about that at your age, really, you're still pretty young ((on the dating scene at least)) .
You can tell if YOU like them, well..you'll just know..really. You'll want to spend more time around them, you'll get butterflies, ect.
Knowing if they like you is the complicated part.. but they'll want to hang out more, start making jokes, maybe even seem nervous around you.
Good luck!
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What exactly is a tease ? Like if someone calls you a tease. What does it exactly mean ? (I know kind of stupid question). But thanks for people who answer this nicely (link)
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It's something like defining someone as a person who other people want, but they know they can't have them.
Sorry..does that sound unclear? lol
Hm.. it's like.. a dog is in a cage, and sees a bone right outside of the cage, but just out of reach. The bone would be the tease, as it wuld be with humans and other people ((a guy sees a girl who's really pretty but he can't have her, the girl is the tease))
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All my best friends have gotten into weed. I'm not like that, so I've shifted to a new group of friends. Now one of my other good friends, who doesn't do weed, all of her "group" is into it too.
She so scared, and she pretty much has no friends now cause she's not into that stuff and they hate her now cause she isn't doing it too.
I'm her friend, but theyre in her classes and I'm not. How do I help her get thru this. She's starting to show symptoms of depression from this too. (link)
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Make sure YOU stay as close to her as possible and make sure she knows what a great thing it was to not give in. Try to be there for her, and try to tie some of the loose ends with your friends who do do that. make sure they know WHY she didnt' do that.
Also, keep trying to get your friends to stop with drugs. if they show no signs of stopping, tell an adult, because this is really important.
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Ok well I dunno if this is the right place but oh well. Well I recently bought some jeans like two days ago and have just started my period. All 3 pairs are the normal size I wear but NONE of them fit they are all realllyy close to fitting but just tight and I mushroom and its gross. Is this because of bloating and my period? I haven't gained any weight. Thanks.
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Yea, this is because of bloating.
This should go away towards the end of your period. =D
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15/f
okies hey
i've met this guy in the year below me
well we hit it off right away and i really like him and it clear he likes me too , which im really thrilled about :) but the trouble is he is only 13 right now, he does look older though and is mature for his ages. he is just 1 year 3 months younger.
is this too young for me?
please help. xxx (link)
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One year and three months younger?!
Honey, don't worry!! That's a really good age seperation, it might be better if you guys were the same age, but it's fine!! No worries =D
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i took drivers ed in june and i have my permit completed all my drive times and everything
and im not a bad driver
but i hate driving
i was terrified of it for like 12 years
and i still dont like it
my parents are always trying to get me to drive
b/c they want me to get practice
and i understand that
but im not like mentally or even emotionally okay with driving yet. im just not comfortable driving
ive told my parents this over and over
and they still bug me to drive all the time
i keep telling them that it has to be my idea
but they wont listen
someone please helppppp!!!!!!! (link)
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try getting practice in very small areas. like parking lots, hopefully ones with little to no cars.
also tell your parents the pros of not driving.
like it saves the ozone, ect.
there's nothing wrong with riding the bus. =D
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This is something I've wondered for a while so I'd like to see what some parents on here say.
Well I'm 16 and my parents act like they were perfect little teenagers. They say that they didn't party, drink, spend random nights out, etc. But I know it's not true because I've heard many many things from their parents and siblings about all kinds of things like that.
So my question is, why don't parents let their kids make their own mistakes? I mean I know they just want to keep us safe and such but they did all those things and they turned out fine.
And on some level, I know that most parents know that their kids lie to them. Like when they say they're going somewhere but go somewhere else. So why can't they just skip the lying part?
When people are kids they always say things like *I'm never going to treat my children this way* or *When I have kids I'm going to let them do that* so why does that change when you actually DO have kids?
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I think parents do that, because, they want you to aviod the bad times that came along with the lying//drinking//ect.
Also, it's much more dangerous these days, there's so many things that could happen to you that were pretty much out of the question back then.
They're just trying to make you a much better person.
Think about this scenario::
Your parents don't care if you drink, so you drink as much as you want. What if you grow up to be an alchoholic?
This could be the same thing with smoking//ect.
Really, they may not have the best reasons, but everything they do is usually for your best intrest!
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There is a girl at school i like but she only thinks of me as a friend. what should i do? (link)
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Don't push yourself on her.
Be her friend, and be a good friend at that. Don't take things too quickly, that makes it obvious, and sometimes awkward.
Make sure she knows you cherish what you have now, and eventually, you two will become closer, and she'll think of you as somehting else.
Email me at xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com if you need an ything else!
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http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=49284147
can someone PLEASE tell me what song that is. I already tried searching the lyrics, but it didn't work. Thanks so much. (link)
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I'm not sure...try messaging the guy and asking him. You dont' need to be on someone's friends list to message them, by the way.
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ok so i moved a year ago and i kept in touch with 2 of my friends but i would only talk to them like every once in awhile one day i started to really miss them so i called 'ann' up and started talking like ussaul but then she started talking about how she thought i was on drugs and i asked her why she said thatand she said because i didnt tell her what i did every day like once i got home and stuff and so i was like well i hang out with friends or do laundry or just like do normal stuff and so i said ann look you know drugs destroyed my family i would never do them you know that please believe me you mean alot to me and then she was like well i dont but thats ok so i took this like she trust me and so now we havent been talking for like over 6 months but i hate how it is hurting my other friend because now i have moved back into town and she wantsus both at her birthday party but ann is afraid i will beat her up wich she should know i hate violence and i wouldnt do thats so what do i do should i just forgive her or what? (link)
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I think you should try to forgive her. That's a huge accusation, but explain to her how horrible that is, and that you would never do anything like that.
I know, you've tried this, but REALLY stress it to her, and if she refuses to listen, get a friend to talk to her.
Try to reconnect with her, and build her trust. Don't push her away, hang out as much as possible, and even if you haven't talked for a while, theres' always something there deep down to rekindle a friendship.
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I hat my mom.She wants me to get new friends because she thinks that all of my friends are horrible (ugh i HATE her)so I wanted to go somewhere with A friend and she won't let me go b/c there is gonna be drinking but i see it all the time...even my dad drinks she is so stupid she alwayts thinks that she is making the Best disision.So my question here is how can i get her to let me go places???? (link)
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Well, I actaully think your mom is right in the drinking situation, ect.
At least she knows what's going on with your dad, and shes' there to help ((assuming they live together)). YOu may see it all the time, but if you're at a friends house, she's not there to control it, and she actulaly IS making this desicion for you.
The way to let her let you go places, though, is to earn her trust. YOu can't earn that, though, if you're doing things you shouldn't be doing.
Maybe suggest to your friends to hang out in places without alchohol//drugs//ect.?
Good luck, anyway!!
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Ok, I got Sims 2 from a friend, and I have been playing it. I know that two siblings can't woohoo as the game puts it, but my question is this. Can 2 cousins? What about 2 half siblings? I have a family of six living in my house curently, and I plan on bringing in two people from an outside house for the next generation. I have a family tree planned out for the next three generations, that ends with two people, but its all predicated on the ability of two half siblings and two cousins to produce a child. If they cannot, how far does the restrcition go? Can two people whos grandparents were related produce a child? (link)
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I know you can have a baby with someone else without adding them to the family, but I'm not sure about the cousin//ect, thing.
I'm pretty sure you can. Try it out =D
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ok... so i want a freakin awesome room. my room rite now is pretty boring. im repainting it with polka dots but like i want some awesome decorations. my mom doesnt really wanna spend a bunch of money on like new furniture so im just gonna keep the furniture the same. but i was wandering if anyone new like maybe either a place to get realllly cool room decorations for cheap or how to make some awesome stuff for my room. so can you please help me! (link)
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I suggest putting photos..EVERYWHERE!! Also, maybe draw some stuff??
Hanging lights are also good to line a wall with, you can find them at most K Marts.
Rugs are also pretty good if you find good ones. Plants, and other standing objects add to a room, too. =D
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16/f.
lately it seems like ive been messing up alot..especially with the decisions i have been making. so in like mid-summer there was this kid that broke up with his girlfriend but was still in love with her and everyone knew it-even me. he treats her like a queen and loves her with everything he had and she treated him like shit and took advantage of him and cheated on him and everything! so there parents made them break up because of something that happened. well i talked to this kid here and there not much because i didnt know him well but he was kinda friends with my cousin nick. so all of a sudden he i/m me one night on the computer and started talking to me and hes like can i call you? and im like uhh sure thinking what are we going to talk about it will be awkard. well he calls me and then hes like remember that one time that i saw you in the window at nicks and you were pounding on it and waved at me and i was like haha yeah that was weird but i didnt know if you would remember me. and hes like how could i ever forget you? and hes like when i was over at ross's (my cousins neighbor) and i saw you walk out of your car and you talked to ross i was like damn that girl is so beautiful. he was like so sweet and we were talking about some gang thing and hes like i want to be in one and im like noo! you can die in those. and im like i dont like talking about this im scared of death and im like well would you ever miss me if i died tomorrow and hes like of course because then i wouldnt have a cool beautiful girl to talk to. we ended up talking for 2 hours that night and it was the weirdest thing ever because i didnt talk to him much. bad thing is he is 2 years younger than me =( and then i was like yeah well i dont think i should like start "talking to you" in a relationship kinda way since i know you love your "EX" girlfriend still. so that kinda died and i regret not getting to know him better because he treats girls so nice and ME! but now him and his ex gf are going back out like i knew they would and everytime i see him im like damn that probably could of been mine. is this because now i know i cant have him that i want him or what? its just ive been regretting these kinda things alot lately... and now me and him really dont talk at all anymore..it sucks! what can i do? ive been really upset about all of this lately and i have no idea why. (link)
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WEll, it kinda sounds like you had something for him.. but you can't regret doing something like that.
You need to move on, and if you're single, and the chance comes along, get your guy! But, don't let your world revolve around one mistake!!
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well, i use to be a very not shy, friendly, talkative girl. i really didn't have lack of confidence or anything like that. then, i had this situation which tore my confidence. it was just a situation that someone REALLY REALLY hurt me and it was about two years ago. but, sometimes, when i remember i just go to a corner and start crying. ever since, i've been kind of scared and timid and i even developed a little bit of anxiety. i didn't have fun at all these places i loved to go. i spent about two years like this. this year, i feel like i'm getting out there more. i've been talking to people, making new friends, joining more clubs, starting clubs, basically just being more active and not being so shy. but, then when i go talk to people, it all comes back to me. all the stuff that he said to me. and then i think that i'm annoying. i shouldn't talk so much. i shouldn't try to be so friendly around people. i dunno. then it starts to get to me again. one of the things he said was that i was annoying. but, that's not all he said. he said a whole bunch of bad things that i'm not even going to write here. but that's how it started off, by saying that i was annoying. i feel so confused. i don't know what to be. if i am too quiet, i don't feel happy. if i'm outgoing, like the person that i use to be, i think i'm annoying. but, i want to be that person again, be that way before i thought i was annoying. can someone please give me some advice? (link)
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Put that in your past. Make new friends. Forget about whatever it was that he said to make you feel this way.
It's hard, but it can be done. =D
BELIEVE ME, people really like others who are convivial, and nice. Try to talk to friends more, hang out with them, and act like you want to, even if it seems embarassing =D
Maybe practice things in the mirror, or act REALLY outgoing with a friend.
With the annoying thing, your friends wouldn't hang out with you if you were annoying, and even if you were, which I doubt you are, they still accept you for who you are, unlike the mean person who said all those mean things!!
Good luck!!
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I want to have like a sexy myspace pose but I don't know how to pose. Not revealing though and not sluttyish. Help? (link)
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Do something crazy! Try not to concentrate all that much on being 'sexy', lol. lay down and take a picture from above.
go upside down on your bed or something and take a pic of that.
If you want to see some good poses th ough, check out other people's myspaces, that should give you some good ideas. =D
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