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Hello I'm Clara.

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i hate math...me and math will never understand each other...i always get c's on my report card...i was in tutoring but that did'nt help much....my parents give me a hard time on it all the time..and all my friends are really good at it...my parents are always saying look at my friends there doing perfect in it...wat do i do??? (link)
Hey hi! I used to be really bad at math too. so much that I feel like crying everytime I can't solve a math question.

But don't worry. I dare tell you that math is one of the easiest subject to score. See, wat you can do, is that you can buy math assessment books from book stores. Better if they provide step by step solutions.

Lock yourself in the room with a glass of water and perhaps a box of cookies to munch on. Start with a topic that you're best at for some encouragement. Next, try out a rather tough topic and keep practising. Keep going at it. Nevermind if you keep getting it wrong just keep practising, look thru your notes or step by step solutions to guide you through. The key to solving math problems is to be able to see the "patterns" or rather, to be able to see wat steps you always have to apply in order to solve that particular type of math problem. Soon, you'll get the hang of it. If you're bad at algebra, it'll be excellent if you have like 100 algebra questions to practise on. The more the better. Ask for help if you need it and it'll do you good. Trust me, math is fun once you manage to crack the "patterns".

AND yes, Practise makes perfect. =)


I am 13 and i am latino i have friends but i keep get a fealling that my friends don't really want to hang out with me. Thank you (link)
Do you have that feeling because they try to avoid you at all costs and tend to have gatherings without you?

Or you could be reading too much into their actions and wat they say?

Try talking to them bout it. Not directly though. Like maybe you can say "hey you guys free tmr? wanna hang out?" See wat they have to say and if they keep rejecting you whenever you try to organise any outings with them, ditch them. Seriously, they're not worth your time. Go look for someone else. No matter where you are, you'll definitely find at least 1 person whom you can go with =)


I am interested in getting a tattoo for my 20th birthday. My best friend is getting it for me as a gift. I am planning on getting the air jordan symbol with a 23 right below it. However, I am not sure where to put it. I am a tall, kind of skinny guy so I don't think it would look good on my arm. I also think it would really hurt if I put it on my shoulder blade which is where I originally thought of putting it. Your suggestions are appreciated!!! Thanks (link)
You can have the tatoo on the lower part of your back. Or you can have it behind your neck.

Since you are skinny, you should tattoo on places where your bones can be seen. Bones make people look as much sexy as muscles do. I'm not sure bout whether it'll be more painful to tattoo on the bones but it'll be real cool to get tattoos on those places I've suggested.

Hope I did help =)


okkay well i have this smell...you know down there..and i need help on how to make it not stink or anything..i dont have an std or anything it just smells..lol

yeahh sooo help me pwease

thanks! (link)
Scrub your underwear/panties real hard.

Make sure you are really dry down there before you wear your undies.

Change your undies regularly, twice a day if possible .

Clean every nook and cranny of your area.

Dun over clean it with soap cos there's a certain ph to be maintained down there(this applies if you are a girl)

Hope I did help to make it less smelly =)


As weird as it sounds I just hate dealing with people.
Sure I do have friends, and I can make friends with people after a while. But I'm so anti social sometimes. I want to start working, but the only reason why I havent gone out to get a job it's because I'm shy and because I mostly dont want to talk to people.
I mean, even with my neighborhood friends [who i met trough my cousin] I dont even want to talk to them because i'm embarrased that I'll bore them or something.
I hate going out when it's not with childhood friends.
I cant even have someone look at me on the streets because I start feeling self concious.
I know it's not Antisocial Personality Disorder because people that have that are suposely aggresive and dont care about anyone's feelings.
What's wrong with me? I just want to know if there's a name for this phobia of meeting new people that I have. (link)
You know wat? I use to have exactly the same problem as you. Even now, all these fearful thoughts do come into my mind. and trust me, everyone has these fearful thoughts too.But I always tell myself why bother bout things that I have no answers to? I dun think you are suffering from any phobia or disorders my dear. You are simply insecure, that's it.

Are you a perfectionist? Cos i feel that you are one. You are so afraid of things going wrong cos you just wan everything to be perfect. Why worry bout things that havent even happen? SHUT OUT the worries of tomorrow and concentrate on doing your best for today and today only. I'm not saying that you shouldnt plan for the future. Hell yea you should always plan wat to bring and wat to wear when you are meeting new people but PLEASE PLEASE dont plan wat is going to be they're reaction when they see your new outfit or wat will be your conversation like. Cos you are not a fortune teller or GOD. You are only wasting your time and worrying your life away.

Just be yourself and keep smiling when you meet new people. Conversations will come naturally. Dun worry so much about it dear.WHen someone looks at you on the streets, look back at them . or you can smile at them or just dun care bout them. Let them look. Why should you let your life and how you act on the streets be controlled by passerbys and people whom you will only meet for that one second when they walk past you?

Just dun think too much.ANd do your best for today and live well for today so that you will have a happy future. You CAN make new friends . IF you cant, how can you possibly have your own group of friends and childhood frens??The fact that you can still maintain your friendship with your childhood frens tells me that you are a loyal friend and someone who treasures friendship a lot. SO wat's not to like about you?
You love your frens for who they are and likewise, your new frens will love you for who you are. Dun worry bout starting converstaions cos they'll come to you most naturally. just relax, live happily =)


I'm 19 years old and I started dating a 25 year old man. When we had sex for the first time, he suddenly said he had to go to pee. When he came back he didn't feel like having sex anymore.
Is it really possible that a man can feel an urge to urinate while making love? I'm afraid it was just an exuse because something was not ok. Please help me.
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What i learnt in Biology, is that a man cannot pee and ejaculate at the same time. He will normally hold back his pee and ejaculate first.

Get to the bottom of the issue before you make jugements. Talk to him and ask him why did he react that way. Give him a chance to explain himself.


i was in a car crash and ive lost mst of my penis and im paranoid girls wont like me! help! (link)
seriously dude, if girls are gonna go for you only for your penis, they're not worth it. Dun let that penis issue control your confidence. Ultimately, its personality that counts and not your penis that counts.


Okay. If I eat one meal a day for 2 weeks, Will I lose that stupid "pouch" of fat under my belly button and on my hips? I need to know soon!

Please don't lecture me about that not being healthy. (link)
Hello! Eating one or two meals less isnt exactly the best way to lose that pouch.

Eat just enough to make you feel full and satiated. After eating, walk around for at least 15 minutes . If you wanna sit down after your meal, make sure you sit up straight. Do NOT bend your stomach when you sit down cos that will contribute to your pouch.

To speed things up and reduce that pouch, I suggest doing crunches instead of sit ups. Cos i've noticed that people who do sit ups have abdomens that are a little bigger than the region above the belly button, hence giving the appearance of a tummy or pouch. And there's normally an invisible line separating these two regions and definitely doenst give you a nice, flat and trim tummy. I think its cos when they do sit ups, pressure is applied to that portion of the stomach and hence explains the reason for the line.

So in short,
1)eat just enough
2)walk about after your meals for at least 15 minutes(the best is at least half an hour or until you dun feel that full)
3)sit up straight if you choose to sit down after your meal. You can hunch or bend your stomach only after you dun feel that full.
4)Do crunches to trim up your tummy.
in addition****
5)sleep on the side of your body and not on your back. Cos sleeping on the side helps in digestion and can possibly help in reducing the pouch. Btw, havent you ever realise that you feel more comfortable lying on your side?Especially a short while after you've had your meal? But pls, try not to lie down to sleep after you've eaten.cos its fattening.

I sincerely hope I've helped =)


Hello, my name is Racquel and i am 14 years old. Ever since i was little i was always bugged by girls in every single grade of school. And now, since im in grade 9 now, it has been really affecting my emotions.. can anyone help me find a way to help me with this or give any advice as to dealing with this. I dont want to cry anymore, and get angry all the time.

Thanks,
Racquel (link)
Hi Racquel. It seems like you really have an issue and i would really like to help you out there. Maybe you could elaborate more on your problem? Like for eg, what did the girls do when they bugged you? You can send your problems to my inbox and I'll try my very best to help you out. take it easy =)


ok, so right now, i only have 1 piercing in each ear. im thinking about getting more, but the thing is i either get a lot, or stay with only a few, because thats the way i like it.

so i was thinking:
3 on each ear -- 1 ear would have 3 in a row, and the other would only have 2 in a row, with a cartilage.

i really need your guys' opinions/advice,
& if possible, any other piercing combinations you have/want/like
THANKS!! (link)
Hi! I have 1 piercing in each ear too and I AM going to get somemore. Anyways, I do think that it'll be real cool to get 3 on each ear.

I also do think that getting piercings on either side of your nose and on your belly button would be real cool too. Getting a piercing on your nose gives you a nicer profile from the side, while piercing your belly button shows off a more interesting tummy, [and shows off a nice a trimmed tummy if you do have one =)]so yeap. That's my opinion.


My girlfriend and I had sex for about 30 seconds, i had not been masturbating previously, and i did not ejaculate inside her. we were both virgins and we did not use protection, but she is worried that she may be pregnant, her discharge is a darker shade than usual.
Is she pregnant? (link)
Rule No 1: No ejaculation= No sperm= No baby

When a girl is about to have her period, her discharge can become darker. she could probably be about to have her period.

There are lots of other symptoms pointing to pregnancy, not just the colour of her discharge. THere could be the darkening of the areolas (the area around the nipple) , having pinkish discharge, etc.

She could go get a pregnancy test kit if she's still worried bout it. But from wat you said, its impossible that she's pregnant. so relax =)


my boyfriend is 3 years older than me!! our parents are okay with it
but is it really okay or baaaad having a boyfriend three years older than you??
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My dear girl, its only 3 years. Its perfectly alright. The impt thing is trust and commitment. Not the age.Cos that's the last thing you should ever worry bout.


okay, to start off, when i see a hot guy on the street, i automatically think "they're hot" and when i see a pretty girl on the street, that NEVER crosses my mind, i just say to myself, "i wish i looked like them, i wish i had their body" etc. but there was this myspace with "i'm horny, fuck me" as the name, and when i looked at her pictures i got horny. they were of a woman's body, lubed up and she was covering her breasts and her vagina. an di watched a video on youtube of a woman dancing and stripping, and it showed her butt. i'm fifteen and female, and i admit to masturbating, and when i masturbate to men i get turned on, but i tested myself and thought about women, and i just got grossed out. could dirty pictures of women just turn me on because i wish i LOOKED like that, or should i question my sexuality, taking everything else i've said in this question into consideration. help please, i rate high. (link)
No you are definitely not bi.Straight girls do get turned on by such pics. Some girls do get turned on by sexy girl pics cos the latter's sexy bodies brings up thoughts of guys having sex with the girls in the pic. Besides, a girl's body has more stuff to look at than a guy's. its written in a commentary i read in a mag ..or is it a newspaper? I cant remember but anyway It didnt mention anything bout a straight guy getting turned on by guy's pics but i personally feel that if a guy is turned on by guy's pics, he is definitely not straight man .

So dun worry. You are perfectly straight =)




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