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hiya I'm shelly, I'm 20 and from England. I have the best boyfriend in the world and he means so much to me. I love to help people and I've just started using Advicenators again. I hope i can help you all with your problems feel free to email me x


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people always say i am outta style and im worried because i really want to fit in what should i do!

Dont listen to yourself. you dont want to be like everyone else. BE YOURSELF!!! dont try and fit in people should like you for the way you are
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OK,
So I really like this guy hes Funny,cute,nice but he says he likes me but really he likes me and another girl. I have gone out with him befor and everytime he has broken my heart I promised myself I would never fall for him again but I did...!I dont know what to do. The other girl he likes likes him bak and everytime they go out they go out 4 soooo long!!! I dont know what to do cause I love him so much and he likes another girl more then me and if he asks her out I will be heart broken I dont know what to do to get him attention and to get him to like me more...What should I DO!!??!!

Yours truley,

**confused**

Confront him ask him who he likes more and if he says her then dont go out with him! dont cahnge for him the way to get a guys attention is to be YOURSELF dont act false or fake around him.
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my legs are muscular, and fattish. how can i make them smaller, or more presentable in a swimsuit? they are big. not fat, but like...ugh this is difficult. when i stand there my butt/thigh part looks like it has little indents around there and i feel like that is fatty stuff. ive been doing leg raises and i feel tahts tightening it up, will that make it look better? how do i get my legs smaller? or more presentable? please help, ill rate!

love, erin

try and exercise video and carry on doing the leg exercises, try going cylcling
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Is it normal to think your boyfriend is going to break up with you? I don't like being online because most of my relationships ended that way and I'm afraid of getting notes... My other two relationships were pretty bad and I dunno...Am I too paranoid?

Your probably just worried becuase your other relationships ended that way but this one might be different.
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is there anything that helps minimize strech marks?

there is some cream. Ask at your pharmacy they will tell you which is best
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Hi! Ok, This may seem weird, but I discovered that my bf doesn't like the smell/taste of mint. So I was wondering what type of non-mint things can I use to freshen my breath? Like candy or something... Please help. Thanx!

There are different kinds of toothpaste flavours you can get. milk and strawberry are 2 and there are loads more just have a look at the supermarket there should be all different kinds
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It drives me insane that he doesn't like me. I love him so much, no matter what I say. Even when we argue and I say I hate him. Deep down, I still love him. I wish these feelings would go away, I really do. I feel like I'm too young, and I don't really know what love truly is. But all I think about is him. I can never get him off my mind. Every song I hear reminds me of him. I just can't take the fact that he doesn't like me, and knowing that I can't have him makes me want him more. And just whenever he talks to other girls, it makes me jealous that it isn't me he's talking to. I try to make it stop, but I can't. I don't even want to like him because I know it will never happen. Which kills me. People say it's just a crush. But a crush isn't like this, I have had many crushes before and this is NOTHING like those. I care about him more than I do myself. Which is pretty bad. But, it's the truth. I love him so much. I know that's what it is. Just whenever he gets online I get so happy, whether I am talking to him or not. I wish I could let go of all of it. I can't say that I wish I never met him, because then I wouldn't be experiencing what love really is. But I am so fucking scared to get hurt by him. Just by him saying he didn't like me pretty much killed me. I just want to cry every night at the fact he isn't mine. I would give almost anything to have him. It's so hard. I don't know what to do. I don't even know why I try so hard to make him like me, it's not like it works. And it makes me so mad. I wish I could just do something that would make him at least just like me, maybe that could lead to more things. I want, so bad, just to tell him how I really feel. But it's not any other guy. It's him. He is better then anyone else, and it's harder with him. I could tell anyone else that I like them, but not him. I have before. But things have changed since then. I am so confused. Is this what I think it is?

I have been through the same thing and i know how much it hursts because you love them soooo much that you dont want any other girl to have him!! but if he doesnt like you for the way you are then you have to move on. It will be so hard and you'll have your friends by you. Dont ever change for him. i was willing to do that and i am glad that i dint now!! the only person i'll ever change for now is myself! email me if you ever want to talk and i will try and help you
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This morning, I woke up and I noticed there was a tiny white dot/ball on my upper eyelid. It kind of hurts when I move my eye. Does anyone know what it is and how it got there? How do I get rid of it?

Its probably a sty. go to a doctor he will give you some eye drops or cream to use it will go if you use that.
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ok, i was just looking at my fingernails and i noticed on a few i have white spots.I seem to always have them.What are they?Is there any way to prevent them?

You may have calcium dificiancy. drink more milk and eat dairy products.
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I have acne on my face that I hate.

I have an apointment for the dermatologist  in May. But does anyone know some good over the counter stuff that I can use till then?

Blemish sticks work well. ask the pharmasist if there is anythig that will work.
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Yesterday my friend pierced my ears. I was wondering how long I have to leave them in before I can change them? Thanks!

6 weeks usually.
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Ok so i have sort of a tiny pot belly. I've done so many sit-ups to try to get rid of it. The only thing that happens is a get really muscular, but on top of all my muscle i still have my pot belly. It's weird. So its like a muscular pot belly.

Second, i have a crease right where my underwear line is. My underwear is not small on me so i dont know where the crease came from

Do you know what both of these are and how i can get rid of them???

Dont just do sit ups. go swimmming, or running or jogging even walking or go out on your bike.
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okay so im not like fat but i dont hae a flat stomache and i liek take my moms diet pills and take them every morning, i dont really think they do anything but who knows.. i just wanna like get a flat stomache i think i need to do sit up to this tape i have but idk i dont ever have time and i dont wanna like throw up all the food i eat i think thats gross but does it work faster than sit ups??

NO dont throw up your food!!! just eat sensible and exercise for about 30 mins everyday. Sit ups are really good for toning your stomach
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so me and my sister were messing aroudn with out hair one day and we decided to trim mine because we were bored but she ended up cutting a few inches off.. and i want it to grow back but idk how to make it grow faster or like if theres a shampoo i can use or something

i dont think there is anything to make it grow faster. Maybe have extensions put in until it grows back the length you want. just an idea
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Lately i have been sad all the time im never happy anymore im always mad and sreaming or sad aand crying.. why im i like this all of a sudden..

You may have depression. go to the doctor and he will give you some anti-depressents
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lets call the kids jack and jill.

so ive been babysitting jack and jill every other weekend. jill is really good and sweet but jack is not. now there mom wants me to watch them everyday in the summer. and i dont want to! im only 14 i have a life! but their mom is really pushy and in your face.

what should i do?

Just tell her than you hve planned to do some things in the holidays. it isnt very fair of her to ask you to look after them everyday.
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why did you sleep with sean? eh god i hate you so much!!! i thought we were mates i was obviousally wrong. dont bother talking to me again

Who on earth are you? i have no idea who Sean is!!! so get it right next time!!!

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Ok i was thinking of having casino night be the theme of my sweet 16 party but my dad doesnt like the idea because we cant gamble until we are 21..so it isnt "appropriate." What do you guys think? there wouldnt be gambling or anything at the party..just some really cool party decorations. (if your interested in looking at them check out party411.com) Maybe some card playing and a pool table would be at the party..but no gambling or anything..i just thought it would be a cool idea. What do you think?

I think that would be really cool sounds fun!! have a good birthday
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my friend has been 2 months late on her period.. she took a pregnancy test and claims shes not pregnant. she said that if there are 2 lines, it means shes pregnant..well i saw 2 lines, one was darker than the other and when i said i saw 2 lines she threw the pregnancy test back in the box. shes been awfully moody lately and has been telling her parents she has gotten her period for the past 2 months. she hasnt been acting the same..im really worried. what do you think?

Ask her to take another just to make sure or ask her to see a doctor. if she is pregnant stick by her
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On May 17th im going to a plastic surgeon to get a mole removed from my cheek. Can anybody tell me what to expect? LIke whats the procedure that will take place adn what can i expect later? Scarring? and what i should do for the scarring?? thanks-- i rate!!

There probably will be a scar after having it removed. get some cream, it makes the scar look less noticable. Ask the surgeon what to expect so you will know what will happen
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