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Recently we were going to adopt a dog from a kennel when the "kennel people" called us saying that the dog had gotten pneumonia. They kennel vets didn't say how severe the pneumonia was, just that the dog was coughing up bile, yet it was still eating. I wanted to know if after having pneumonia, a dog is more likely to get other illnesses. I really want to adopt this dog, but don't want to risk having it die because of other illnesses. What should I do?

Sometimes pneumonia can lead to complications such as respiratory and circulatory failure, pleural effusion (when fluid builds up in the space surrounding the lungs), sometimes even lung abscesses.

It really depends what caused the pneumonia: it could be a virus, or a bacteria. I would ask the vet what caused the illness.

When a dog has pneumonia, or any disease, really, it can be more prone to other illnesses just because its immune system is down.

But besides that, after the dog overcomes his pneumonia, he won't be more prone to catching another disease.

~Maria, 16

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who is my soulmate

Rumpelstiltskin.

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I've been invited to a Christmas family gathering by my boyfriends family. It's a family affair, i.e. his whole extended family is attending. It's not a gift-giving thing, but I'm wondering whether I should buy some presents for his family, i.e. he has some really young brothers and sisters (6, 11, and 17). Would it be the done thing to buy them a present each? We've only been together 2 months. I don't want it to be weird or anything.

Thanks.

I would bring a beverage (soda, juice, wine, but only if you're over 25), maybe a desert food, but only if its an actual dinner. I wouldn't bring gifts though.

~Maria, 16

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for about 3yrs now i've wanted to be an architect. now i'm considering fashion design or modeling.with architecture, i've been drawing floorplans since i was about 10yrs old but recently i've been drawing clothes and stuff and i absolutely love getting my vogue magazines just to see the new styles.

which is the better decision? right now im 50/50 as far as preference of one towards the other.

Unless you are sure you are very talented in designing clothes, I would go with being an architect. Its an industry thats a bit easier to get into, and it will be a bit easier to find a job because theres lots of buildings being built these days.

~Maria, 16

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okay can you get pregnant if you have sex and he cums and than next day you start your period?

No, you are not pregnant at the moment. However!! The sperm could just be sitting in the vagina, and although its really likely your period will flush it out, there is still a small chance that you could become pregnant. I would take a pregnancy test a few days after your period.

~Maria, 16

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My boyfriend fingered me in the butt hole. It kind of freaked me out. . . is this normal for a guy to do?

Well unless hes a complete screw up with female anatomy, thats normal. Next time he tries to do it, just guide his hand where you want it to be. You dont have to really say anything, unless he persists. Then just flat out tell him that you dont like it.

~Maria, 16

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I am a cheerleader, and tomorrow we have a BIG basketball game. And we have to wear our hair up.
im really upset because
the guy i like is on the basketball team and I LOOK LIKE A MAN WITH MY HAIR UP! i swear, its terrible. i NEVER wear it up..
so i dont know what do to..

I have bangs on the side of my face. and my coach said we can leave them down if we want.

so my main question is.. does anyone know any like cute ways i could put my hair up so it wont look bad on me? im allowed to have bangs out just i dont wanna look bad. so if anyone has any like cute hairstyles for updo's please let me know.

P.s it can be pony tail, pigtails, Braides, One braid, bun Doesnt matter.

thanks =)

How about a really loose pony tail? Those messy ones can look pretty sexy and very feminine.

Here are just some ideas:

http://thumbs2.modthesims2.com/images3/MTS2_389926_Nouk_AdorableGossip2.jpg

http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y123/pinksuki2k/mts2/af_hair_001_pic01.jpg

http://i.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/style/org/articles/hair_you/0905bun.jpg

http://www.beauty-and-the-bath.com/image-files/ch-3.jpg

http://img.timeinc.net/people/i/2006/stylechannel/blog/061106/sarah_gellar_300x400.jpg



I hope these gave you a few ideas. Just keep in mind it IS a basketball game and the whole point of your coach telling you to put your hair up is to keep it out of your face. Usually short strands dont get in the way much, so stick to those.

Also you can try just doing a plain old pony tail with a really cute headband but still have your side bangs out.

~Maria, 16

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I'm doing a research paper on gay marriage, and i need to know what people who aren't particaually religous or who don't care about being gay is a sin, why don't you like gay people?

I'm fine with homosexual people, but I think they do go against the laws of mother nature. I also think that a child brought up in a homosexual household will have a pretty rough life: not because the parents are bad caregivers, but because classmates will make fun of them and consider them "wierd" if they have two moms or two dads. There will also be no father figure if its a lesbian couple, and no mother figure if its a gay couple, no matter how feminine or masculine the person may be.

~Maria, 16

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Ok so i have a few Q's

1. is masturbation and cum the same thing????

2. please tell me ALLL the details of how a penis works. Like EVERYTHING. Please and thanks.

:/ sorry these q's arent very specific!

Masturbation and cum are not the same thing. Masturbation is the act of satisfying oneself sexually, i.e. touching yourself to acheive orgasm. Cum is the fluid that somes out of a penis when orgasm is acheived (although someone can ejaculate, or cum, without orgasm). Ejaculate contains sperm, that fertilize the egg located in the women's body.

The penis is used for two functions: urination (peeing), and reproduction. Both the semen (cum, ejaculate fluid) and the urine come out of the same hole, called the urethra. However, the two cannot come out together at the same time. The sperm is produced in the testicles, and then travels through tubes into the body and into the penis. For the semen to travel to the penis, the penis must be erect. It fills with blood like a balloon, and is no longer in its soft state. This helps the penis enter the vagina during sex.


There's a lot more to how a penis works, and Im not exactly sure what you mean. You can always look up more information on the internet, like wikipedia, or even a biology text book.

~Maria, 16

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I know you girls love guys and...

I know their has been this myth going around that asian guys can't get white girls..which is not true,since I'm asian and have a white gf,but I want to know what you girls think

Question1: Would you date an asian guy? considering he has good looks and personality

Question2:Have you ever liked an asian guy?

Question3:Would you marry an asian guy?

Question4:Where does the asian guy stand among the whites,latinos and blacks?Your preference?
Example:Black>White>etc.etc

thank you

1. Yes, I would definetly date an Asian guy.

2. Yes, I have liked an Asian guy, although we never went out.

3. If I thought he was the one, then yes.

4. Honestly, I would say whites and Asians are my number one preference, then African Americans, than Latinos. I am not racist, but I just found that Latino guys treat you quite differently (probably because of their culture), they tend to want to spend much more time with you, which I kind of find annoying. African American guys tend to move a little too fast for me.


PS. I am white

~Maria, 16

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i like this guy...and im pretty sure he likes me (keyword: PRETTY sure..so not 100%) i dont know how to ask him if he likes me because its just really akward, i cant ask his friends because 1)i hardly know them, 2)they are like 99% always with him, 3) his friends would be like WTF!! and i cant get my friends to talk to him because i am sooo sure he would say no..even it it is a yes. i cant ask him myself..because that would be really akward since we get along good as friends right now, so how do i figure out?? like ,is there any signs? or something? ANY advice would be so much appreciated!
Thanks:)

Give him your best smile. If he smiles back, turns red and looks away looking pleased(if hes shy), he likes you. If he gives you a questioning look, chances are he doesnt like you or just doesnt even know you yet, and if just ignores it and\or looks away, he definitly doesnt like you.

~Maria, 16

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When i was 9 until i was 11 i was molested by my brother, who was in high school at the time. I come from an upper class family with overly protective parents so it is one of those things nobody ever thought could have happened to me.

the molestation went so far some would call it rape, i'm not sure. He would make me do things to him, and him to me, and if i said no he would make me feel ashamed for "not liking it" he made me feel discusting for it also, and would threaten me if i told. i sometimes would cry when he did this, and he made me have "sex talks" with him. finally one day i told him i didnt want to do this again, i was so scared i was bawling and shaking. he stopped because he thought i was going to tell, but he had ways of keeping me quiet.

now i'm 16, almost 17, and this experience haunts me. I have issues with my boyfriend, have horrible horrible nightmares, i've acted out been suicidal... that's just the surface of the problem really.

Everybody says, "tell somebody" but nobody understands. Because of this i've spent alot of my life acting out and looking for attention, my brother is a nice funny guy who everybody loves. Not alot of people have seen his darker side. Nobody would believe me, and i say that with 100% certainty. My family would turn on me and it would make life even more miserable.
he's so good at pretending it never happened, sometimes i wonder if he has any remorse at all.

My brother is now almost graduated from college and is not home very often, which is good for me. I am not really afraid of him anymore, I am, but I talk to him sometimes and do normal brother-sister stuff. i do not think he has done this to anybody else, and i've kept a close eye on it.

He's moved on with his life, but I am deteriorating. I can't explain everythign that has happened through this, but i've tried everything to help me through this and nothing works. I need somebody to talk to about this, someody who I can e-mail (rather IM) and help me. I cannot seek professional help because I am underage and don't have much money. I need somebody to talk to because I am tired of being sick like this. So please respond if you would be willing to help me

and please, no twelve year old girls or people who only want to talk once or twice. I really appreciate that you care, but you really can't help me. nd I understand if you do not have the time or experience to understand what I am talking about and decide not to respond. I just need to heal from this

Razhie has offered you great advice. But, if you still feel like you need to talk to someone, feel free to e-mail me: hippotwo@comcast.net

I have some experience in what you are talking about, so I might be able to help. But as Razhie said, all of us on this website are only volunteers and won't be able to provide professional help.

~Maria, 16

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My face..I don't know in my eyebrow area it's kinda like dandruff but on my face which I guess is skin falling off because it's dry.

You might tell me to moisturize my skin or put lotion on it but the thing is, my face is really oily AND really dry! =/

I do wash my face a lot but i reduced it to 3 times a day and it still isn't helping. I'm scared if I put lotion on my face it'll get even more oily.

It's really gross and distracting, some of it getting stuck on my hair and bangs, just gross.

Help please!

I just wanted to add something to everyone else's answers: the oil your skin produces is to moisturize your face, so the more you wash your face, the more oil your skin will produce (if you tend to have dry skin). So don't be afraid to moisturize, it will help with the oiliness!

~Maria, 16

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14/f
There is something wrong with my breast.
But I dont know what it is.

My right breast started hurting really bad on Thanksgiving day,but I didnt really think anything of it.
Well Friday and until today it was hurting really really bad.like barely poke it and i wanted to cry.
I was looking at it today and on the inner side (the side furtherest from my right arm pit of my breast.) is pinkish. and really hardish. it doesnt feel like it my left breast which feels perfectly fine.

What could it be?
Should I tell my and get her to make me a doctors appointment?

Thanks in advance.

Ummm... to the person below, this is absolutely NOT normal. Yes, tell you mom for sure and get a doctor's appointment scheduled ASAP. For now, where a sports bra, or a bra that doesn't have any underwire so as not to irritate the spot any more.

~Maria, 16

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i go to beauty school and i was getting a pedicure one night and another student was sitting next to me chatting to meand the girl doing it and he looked at me and said it looked like i had fallen arches. What does it mean to have fallen arches? how can it be corrected? and is it a big problem?

Fallen arches is when you have flat feet. Normally, the part running from the big toe to the heel should be slightly raised off the ground. It can be a big problem, as it causes knee problems, and sometimes even back pain, but it depends on how severe the condition is.

To fix it: try picking up stuff with your toes. For example small balls. Or, just curl your toes in (without pointing or flexing your feet) about 20 times a day.

Try wearing those pads you put in your shoes that raise your arch. That will help prevent any other problems.

~Maria, 16

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Okay hey i am a bi-sexual. I have a girlfriend named haley and i love her to death. and since christmas is coming up i do not know what to get her. im so scared cuz she already got me something. and said i will love it so any idea's?? please help love yall please help me

If you're a girl, too, get her something you would like to recieve as a gift. If you like it, chances are she will, too.

Just some ideas:
Perfume
Clothing from her favorite store
Jewelry
A cd of songs that remind you of her
Food; cookies, cake, etc
A stuffed animal
Two tickets to a concert (one for you, one for her)
If she does some extra-curricular activity, maybe something that has to do with that.
If she has her own car, get her some car accesory.


~Maria, 16

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well okay im a 16/f and i live in katy,texas my name is nikita. well in my computer applications class there's this girl named nelma karina. & she black but doesn't act black at all and she acts really white. and she's really popular at my school i guess you could say. and she's really loud and gets a lot of attention. well anyways, well she told me that her and this other girl jessica rodriguez are both in cosmetology class and are doing this project where they pick someone to give a makeover. well she asked me if i wanted to do it becuase she says alot of people talk about me and say im messy and start drama. and i'll agree i've done some bad things and have said stuff about people becuase when people talk about me i get mad. and she said she wants to help me change that as well as my look. well i asked my friend jackie if nelma and her other friend jessica are in her cosmetology and she said no so nelma lied to me about that. and she wants me to take pics of myself to see what i need to imrove and pt on weight because im so skinny. and im not sure if she's really doing this as a cruel joke since she lied to me. and i really want to know should i do all this?? please help me!! asap!!!

Don't do it. You will get hurt and be the laughing stock of the school. Just tell her you're not doing it and be short and to the point. Don't mention how you found out that she wasn't taking the class, it will just start drama. Tell her you're happy with who you are.

~Maria, 16

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Where can i get a pair of cute red jeans? I have been trying to find some for years. Thanks.

http://clothing.search.ebay.com/red-jeans_Clothing-Shoes-Accessories_W0QQ_trksidZm37QQfromZR40QQsacatZ11450

Or.. Thrift stores, and maybe those types of stores that have wacky fashions? Hot Topic possibly?

~Maria, 16

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Hi, I am a male in high school. I have like 60 songs on iTunes, while I know some people that have thousands. I really like listening to music, but I just don't have any idea how to be "aware" of it.

Some people know every new song that comes out from various artists that I have never heard of. They know every new artist and words to every song they have ( I may be overexagerating a little). How do I keep in touch with music and find new artists so I can talk to other people about artists and their songs?

I appreciate and am grateful for every answer given. Thanks!

I listen to the radio. I have various stations I love, and if I hear a song that I like, I look up the lyrics on google, or I go to the radio station's website, and they usually have a playlist of all the songs they play. Sometimes I'll look up artists or cds on amazon.ccom and they offer short clips of the songs. I usually look up the NOW cds (NOW 25, etc).They are a mix of hit songs every six months (I think).

~Maria, 16

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ok im 5'6 nd i weigh about 145 probaly 150 kind of muscular now but people say i look tall and slinky and i look like i weigh about 120 I'm extremely active and im always moving but the thing is that im always hungry say after i eat something ill be really full then 5 minutes later ill be hungry again every time i turn around im always hungry and im always eating, and im afraid that im going to gain more weight i have a feeling that im gaining weight but i don't look like i have.. is this normal?.. i also dont think that i have a fast metabolism

I am very active too, and I end up eating 24/7 basicly. My coach tells me that if you're hungry, then eat!!

Are you eating all the right food? Like, when you get hungry, you're not stuffing yourself with junk, right? Because your body could be telling you that you lack a certain vitamin or mineral.

Eat fruit, veggies, dairy, meat, and bread everyday. Avoid fatty foods and sweets.

So, in short, if you're hungry, then eat, but something filling (like a grilled cheese sandwich) but healthy.


~Maria, 16

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