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Hey guys,
Hand gestures have been around forever. I don't really understand some of them, though.
What I want to know is:
Was the peace sign originally a sign of "V" for victory or what?
What is the hang loose sign? It's like the telephone sign turned sideways, but what does it mean?
Is the pinky is a curse in Chinese cultures like the middle finger is taboo-ish in the U.S.?
What is the difference between the devil and peace sign? And which sign are people flashing at rock concerts?
And also, what does it mean when someone puts their finger next to their nose?
What does it really mean when someone makes an "X" with their two pointer fingers? Is that the cross sign trying to ward off evil?
If there are any hand gestures I've missed or don't know about, please comment too! Thanks.
http://www.romwell.com/travel/all/Meanings.htm
It's a really good website, good luck!
Peace: Victory
No in Chinese the pinky finger isn't a swear or a curse.
Hi. I hope I put this question in the right category. :-) Anywho, I am veryyyy shy around guys. Idk why, I'm not shy around girls or guys I'm good friends with. But I'm really shy around guys I don't know well and I don't want to be. My best friends are always flirting with guys and always being asked out and I think I'm just as pretty as them, but guys never ask me out because unlike my friends, I'm really shy and nervous around guys. How can I be more confident and outgoing around guys without being so weirdly nervous and quiet? It's not fun being the only one without a boyfriend, or even lots of guy friends, for that matter. :-/ :-/ :-/
First what you need to do is, think of how you first became friends with those guy friends of yours that you're close to! Did you bump into him in the hall? Meet him through someone else? Think back for a little while. Some guys find it very attractive when a girl makes the first move while others like to figure out a mystery! Maybe sit down next to a guy you like at lunch one day and talk to him a little. But the next, don't if you want to be mysterious, be on & off. It confuses them and makes it fun for them so they won't fall for anyone else. If you'd rather be obvious, go to the movies with a bunch of girl friends and guy friends and tell the guy you're going to the movies on Saturday with a group of friends-It IMMEDIATELY takes the pressure off of one on one & getting tongue tied and embarassed. Believe me, whichever method you choose you should probably get to know what kind of guy he's like to see if he likes the mystery or the obviousness. Good luck!
At one point I had the same problem, but this worked for me, it gets you lots of attention with the guys, believe me! ;)
please!! i need ideas of anythin really romantic hand made, please don't tell m to go through the internet cause i have please ideas!!!
A CD of her/his favorite music, pictures in a scrapbook you made of your times together. You could get one of those napkins and do oragami with it and form it into a rose, with a real one. And of course..the classic box of chocolates with a gift certificate to his/her favorite store!
Hope I helped
~Depressed_Poet
XoxO
14/f
i've liked a guy named .. dan, scine i was in 2nd grade, we went out when i was in 4th through 5th. but then 6th through 8th [until now, im in 8th]] grade, i was over him. and last weekend we hung out, flirted. he lives next store to me, so were on the same bus and today he sat with me and we listened to his ipod. my plams got all sweaty, and my plams never get sweaty. i was nervous about like what to say and stuff. i neverrr get nervous with other guys! but valentines day is soon, and i wanna like .. make a move on him. i dont know like how i should. how should i? how should i even let him know i like him?
When you're listening to his ipod, show a casual interest like, "Oh I love this song!" It will strike up a conversation about the band/singer etc. When you talk to him at school be like, "Hey Dan, what's up?" when you walk by on your way to class. Just to get his attention, and make him want to get him to know you more. Be mysterious if you want him to like you. They like to figure out mysteries! It's no fun if you give it all away. So just, hang out with him a lot one day, and none the next, then a little the next day, then normal the day after--it totally confuses them which is surprisingly good! But when I say none, don't turn him down if he asks you to hang out or starts talking to you or something. For Valentine's Day, get him a cd of a band he likes, even if he doesn't like it, he knows you're not being TOO romantic (which is good) and he'll appreciate the thought.
-With hope that I helped,
XOXOX
I have this BFF who's soo funny and cool, but she hates my other BFF who is also funny and cool!! Whenever i talk to her my other BFF gets mad and won't speak to me for the rest of the day!! She also makes fun of the other BFF in front of me and it irritates me!! I still want to be friends with both of them but how do I please them both at the same time!!??!!
Alright, well I know this is a tough decision for you & I know you really wanna be friends with both, but the BFF who hates the other one and is making fun of him/her, just doesn't sound worth your time. Honestly, you shouldn't put up with it, I think she's just insecure you two won't be as good friends if you hang out with the other person. Did you ever ask her/him why she/he hates the other person? If not, do so. It's important to know why, but don't believe EVERYTHING you hear. It's stupid that she's/he's not letting you be friends with the other person at the same time with the other. Now, I know you wanna be friends with both, and you can. I'm not gonna say..."Pretend like you're not, so you can please both." Because you need to please yourself as well in these friendships. Spend equal amounts of time with them, and I hope everything works out
-Depressed_Poet
well the guy im really close too, and i like is asking my BEST friend out tomrow, and like im suporting him and stuff
and she knows he knows and she like just started liking him and everyones like didnt you like him first and stuff and im like w/e
but its kinda bugging me
cuz she like is all happy but im hapy for her its just she like brags , and acts like shes everything now and is like im not sure
what to do
should i just let it happen, if i do ill never get a chance with him cuz if she already dated him wel until next year.
she dated like 2 people this year, then my other friends dated everyone else
its not fair, i really want a bf
but i dont think im ever going to get one
help?
tips?
ideas?
If she's a real friend, she will listen when you talk to her about this and understand. You need to talk to her! She may be a little unhappy about this, because you didn't mention it earlier, but if you're best friends, can't she tell when you're annoyed? If not, you aren't as close as you should be. It may be possible that she's never had anyone like her that way before like he does, so she's just happy and wants to share it with you. Haven't you been happy about something like that where you told everyone? I sure have! Lol
Anyway, what I'm basically trying to say is, this is a test of how strong your friendship really is, but don't stop being friends with her just because of that. You should either talk to the guy you're close with and wants to ask her out, or talk to her-just someone. It's important that you make an effort to be close to them so they will understand your situation! One day, she'll like a guy that you like and he'll ask you out instead. She can be jealous all she wants (I don't mean to be rude) because she had her bragging rights. But until them, just respect your friendship, and I hope everything works out.
XoxO
-Depressed_Poet
does anyone know where i can get the picture of the image they put at the begining of "read my mind" by the killers
-the part where they show all of tokyo from the sky
google, just click on images :)
I am really bored.People tell me to get a life.How do I do that.Please tell me how I should get a life,get rid of my boredom,meet new people and make new friends. Any answers are appreciated
If you're bored with your life, find a hobby. My favorite hobbies are to write songs, stories and poems that can relate to my life, or a fantasy. Write a story about a new world or something if it keeps you busy. Maybe on the weekends go see a movie with friends or go shopping. Something you love to do! Maybe go to some school dances? They're really fun at my school, and I'm sure they're great at yours too. Maybe go to a hockey game where you can meet up with friends or go to a friend's house? Maybe like a dance club (not a dangerous one) and experiment to find things you like. Once you find that one thing you love to do, you'll be occupied with it, and it won't wear out! Singing? Acting? Dancing? Writing? Those are my favorite activities to do. Maybe audition for a school play or something...or try out for the school's basketball team or whatever. Sign up for art lessons? Swimming? Something you think you wouldn't like to do. I tried something I thought I wouldn't like and realized, I had a burning passion and constant desire to do it. Good luck and I hope things work out!
my friend james is not a conventional kid he is awesome but some people thinks he is crazy, that doesnt bother me .before he liked the most "popular gurl in school" and when she rejected him he got all emotional and detached he wouldnt even acknowledge me but he got over that. but now he likes a new gurl and i no she will reject him because she is my friend but and i no how she feels about him, i tell him not to ask her out because he wil get his heart broken again but he doesnt listen so today he asked her out and she said no and now he is detached again. im not sure wat to do now because it is weird to hang wit her when he is soooo upset. im rele want to help him but now he is taken his anger out on me.
What doesn't kill him will make him stronger, same goes for anyone else, including you. Tell him you're there for him and nothing can change that. Say that any girl in the world that rejects him doesn't know what they're missing out on. He's a great guy (I'm sure) so he doesn't need a girlfriend to prove it to other people! Just be there for him more often, call him, email him...etc. Take him to do things he loves to do, and I'm sure he'll appreciate your time. I really hope this helps and he's in my prayers. And tell him that everyone experiences this and the hurt will go away. After all "When you were a baby how did you learn to walk? You fell right? Well the important thing is that you get back up. You have to fail to succeed." -Lauren Cronin. Good luck!
is masturbating daily a health hazard? i'm 13/male
No it's good for you. They say it's healthy and (sometimes) burns calories and helps you focus.
well im going on vacation in 164 days.
and i weigh like 123 now.
i really wanna weigh like 100, or around there.
i just wanna know if thats possible in like that many days?
and what can i do to get there?
like would running help?
and if so like should i run like sprints because i heard thats better than running like 1 mile just like sprint a few yards then like jog then sprint and so on.
and like would running help me lose like the fat on my arms too?
thanks in advanced.
1)Eating Healthier:
If you are between the age of 11-18 it is said that you should have 1700 calories a day. Of course, that 1700 calorie limit should consist of healthy foods. Replace soda with water. Replace cake or chips etc. with salad or fruit. Drink plenty of water about 6 glasses of water a day to wash out the unhealthy toxins in your body poisoning your health.
2)Running:
Everytime you run a mile you add 21 minutes to your life. Again, if you are between the ages of 11-18 you should walk on a treadmill for 30mins. a day. But before you do those things, do some warm-up exercises so you don't pull a muscle. That might not seem serious...but it is! It could hurt more than breaking a bone. And it will keep you from exercising more.
3)Motivation:
Motivation for your diet is simple if you can develop a streak of will power. When there's cake around avoid it. And remember, one day a week you can cheat your diet. It's only healthy but only have about 300 extra calories if you're going to cheat. If you feel this will make you want more, don't have a cheat day. Hope this helps, good luck!
last week we had a history quiz on the computer (like joepardy but with history) and i wrote down some dates about the civil war on my hand (just in case). so beore the quiz i studied it and i was talking to my firneds about how i wrote it on my hand for studying purposes. then during the quiz i never looked at it. then the next day in history i was the only one left in class and my history teacher cme up to me and asked me to show him my hands. so i showed him and it had all washed off by then and he asked me if i had anything on them the day before and i said no. then the next day in science my science teacher told everyone that we weren't supposed to write on ourselves and we would get a d-hall if we would.
does this mean my history teacher knows i was cheating or was he just following the rule to not write on ourselves? hes always liked me and chose me for student of the month but im not sure, help please!
I think he's suspicious. Because if he was making sure you were following the rules he would've announced in class and ask everyone.
is it possible for a 12 year old to get a cancer tumor or cancer lump or something
because my little sister keeps worrying and teliing me she has these weird bumps,around her privet area near the leg and one on her butt..
weird i know im sorry but im just wondering and she says they arent little dot bumps they like feel weird
any idea what it is
thanks
kendra
It's entirely possible. I would google symptoms or what these bumps mean, could be serious. Does she shave yet? If so, it could be just razor bumps. Hopefully that's just the case because those aren't serious. If they are razor bumps and they really bother her she should stop shaving in her private area. Hope this helps! Your sister is in my prayers and you can tell her that. Good luck
15/f.
i really like this guy. i guess you can call us kinda friends. hes really good friends with all my other friends and alot of times at school when i hang out with them hes there too. hes in 2 of my classes. the thing is i kinda have a feeling he might be interested in me but i want to show signs that i like him without being too obvious. should i flirt with him? if so how? what should i do? thanks.
If you're going to flirt, don't flirt often. Guys like it when there's a mystery of whether the girl likes him or not so they will hang around you more to find out! Don't be too obvious. Don't let him catch you staring at him, but wave or wink and smile when you see him in the hall. Maybe sit with him at lunch and get to know him a little better! But if you're going to sit with him at lunch one day, don't do it again the next day. Like every 2 or 3 days? Or maybe he'll come to you if he dares because he wants to know more about you. Don't ask him out or call him. Be mysterious! Hope I helped Good luck
There is NO ONE in my school worth dating. I keep reading guy's questions on here about "what should I get my girlfriend" and stuff, and it's driving me crazy! I want a nice guy... where can I meet someone at? BESIDES MY SCHOOL!
Thanks.
Maybe go to local events like football games at other games etc.
Go see a movie or a school dance from another school or a concert and strike up a concert with an employee from the movies or talk to a couple guys at a football game or a school dance.
hope this helps
I want to know if I am truly in love. I think I am. So I would like others opinions of what true(I want to be with you forever) love is. No ones will be wrong or right. I just want to know what others think it is.
Thanks
~Eli
No one can tell you whether you are in love or not, only your heart can truly decide. But here's what I felt when I was in love...
me and my boyfriend will be going out for 8 on the secondmonths and i have no idea what to get him for valentines day o yea he is 20
Maybe get him a box of chocolates and a cd of his favorite band/music. It all depends on how well you know each other to figure out each-others' interests. Spend more time with him and ask him a few more questions (not too many that could get annoying!)
Good luck hope this helps
-Lauren
I have a deep fear of germs and getting sick. Even the thought of catching a regular cold drives me crazy. I was my hands for 10 minutes, and at school, I wear a bandanna that covers my nose and mouth to help keep the germs away. I mean, hey it's not my fault that kids at my school go swimming in 10 degree weather over the weekend, and then catch a cold. Basically Everyone is sick at my school ALL the time.
Some of my teachers get mad at me when I wear my bandanna, but if they make me sit next to, talk to, and help out sick people, why shouldn't I be able to wear it? I'm not going to get sick because of one stupid person. Last week, I skipped alot of my classes just because I sat next to sick people in them and I don't want to get sick. Mainly because I just started working out, and if I'm sick, I won't be able to work out. (yes, working out is REALLY important to me.)
Now my question, I guess my question is, is there anything else I can do from getting sick? Any healthy tips that you can inform me on? (Besides obvious stuff like washing your hands.) Do you think the bandanna is a good idea? I've actually considered wearing a surgical mask but then people would think I'm even weirder.
Also, how possible is it that I'm going to get sick if I sit next to someone sick, for about 45 minutes every day? (Keep in mind that I'm wearing my bandanna over my nose and mouth.) ANY advice you have would be helpful because I'm flipping out right now.
Alright well I'm going to start off by explaining that our bodies are made up of germs and some of them keep us healthy! I know it's kind of a creepy thought...
Anyway, we have to get sick eventually or else when we DO get sick (like with a cold or something) it becomes more serious because your body wasn't built strongly from the previous sicknesses. Washing your hands after and before meals is a very good idea and if there isn't one available ALWAYS bring hand sanatizer! It kills 99.9% of bad germs! Or you can even use that after washing your hands. The main way people get colds is when it's cold outside so people huddle together...or some people sneeze and it travels through the cold air so try to keep your distance from those people. As far as the bandanna goes...
I think you can stay pretty healthy without it but if you feel it's necessary go for it! I think it's a good idea if there's nothing else at hand. Sicknesses are most contagious an hour before a person gets sick so be sure to be around people that don't go swimming in 10 degree water for whatever reason they have to do that...
Now this might sound a little weird but wearing chapstick might help. Sounds very strange I know but I think it will give your lips less exposure to the germs in the air. And remember, if you do get sick...it's not the end of the world and it should be over within 3 to 4 days. 5 at the most depending on your illness. I REALLY hope I helped and if there's anything more I can do let me know! Maybe try googling some ways if I didn't help...
Hope I helped.
okay, well my mom and her boyfriend smoke. a lot.
i only visit on saturdays, but it drives me CRAZY because whenever i come home i smell like ciggerettes. and i dispise that smell. i don't like people who smoke that much either, because i have heart issues and i can't really breathe around it.
how can i try and convince my mom and her boyfriend to stop smoking? i already tried, and i told them how bad it is for you and everything, but they didnt' care. i WANT them to care. i hate this.
can someone give me advice on how to avoid this? or something?
here's what you have to do:
explain that they're telling you that they dont care about jeopardizing their own health but you care for them. word it like this "mom, i need to talk to you. its about the smoking. i mean this with full respect but...it's unhealthy and if something were to happen to you i'd be miserable and depressed. would you want that to happen to me? im worried for you and your boyfriend. wouldn't you care if i smoked? please...at least think about what ive said and talk to me. i love you and i would never want anything bad to happen." and if it makes you feel any better my mom smoked for 17 years. it will be ok. best of luck. hope this helped
my boyfriend and i are thinking about having sex for the first time in the near future. i don't really have access to getting birth control because my mom would flip out and i don't have anyone who could take me to a health center type thing to get some.
my question is, is a condom effective enough to use without me being on birth control. will it be safe?? and is it true that there is only a 2% chance of getting pregnant with a condom?
Most of the time condoms break. I always thought you could depend on them by the commercials (from what they say) but you can't. But I was being a little naiive. In my opinion, they shouldn't be permitted to say those things on commercials about condoms because they're responsible for fooling so many people for money. But that's out of the question: so anyway, even if the 2% chance is true, always remember that, that 2% is still there. It can take affect within any time. And if your mom found out she probably wouldn't trust you and you don't want that right? You don't want her to be disppointed right? I'm not trying to make you feel guilty because you didn't have sex with him yet from what you've said I'm just trying to help you think it through. Hope I helped!
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