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Q: What are some tihng you cn do for a girl bday party, shes turning 14 and i wanna do a surpise bday party for her?? What are some things wew can do!?

when my friend turned 13 we threw her a surprise sleepover. We went swimming and ordered pizza. she was sooo happy and surprised. We watched movies until we went to sleep.

Q: Hey!I'm going out with this girl,but she never wants to giv me a hug!What should I do?

You should talk to her about it. Maybe she feels weird about it. If you are her first boyfriend, she might feel uncomfortable about it. I hope it helps.

Q: what shows on broadway in new york city do you recommend besides the lion king? (already saw it)

I reccommend 42nd street. The play is filled with life and never gets boring.

Q: what is ska music?? is it like punk music, and give me examples of bands that are 'ska'! THnks!

Gwen Stefani is ska music or used to be

Q: Tonight I'm going to the movies with a bunch of my friends and the guy I like happens to be coming. I want to flirt a little, get a seat near him & maybe even ask him out after. How should I do this? I'm 15 and a female.

-mae

Well mae, you could ask your friends if they can casually help to arrange that you sit next to your crush. To flirt you could offer him some of your popcorn or snacks. I hope I helped. Maegan

Q: i have to go babysit at like 5... but what is there to do with a ten year old boy?? like what sort of games should we play, etc?? please help

I have a 10 year old brother. He loves to play monopoly and cards. Card games we play are battle, go fish, crazy eights, speed, and BS.

Q: hey! im doing a project for school and i need to collect some data about things some teens do that they realy dont want to just to fit in. if u could tell me all the things that u did just to fit in, it would help. thanx

ps: annyone who ansers will get a 5 rateing unless they r joking or being rood or whatever

i started to listen different music and i learned some of the dances they do at skool dances. my changes worked for the best though.

Q: my friend was talking to my boyfriend on the phone the other dya and she asked him if he would ever go out with my other friend and he said yes. i was like ok no big deal. then he was talkin to me on aim today and he asked if my friend (the one he was asked about) was going out with anyone. i was like yeah i think so...then he said because his friend liked her. he said his friends name was billy bob smith (changed the name) then i looked him up in the year book and in the school phone directory...as far as i know there is no billy bob smith. what should i think about this?

I have a feeling from what you said, I think he is his friend. You should ask him and tell him to trust you with his secret. If he won't tell you, that is a huge sign that he is his friend.

Q: I was over at my friends house and this dude started calling this girl. She didn't want to talk to him cause he was a crazy stalker. He called 16 times before my friend picked it up and said stop calling. This kid drives from the next county to my friends house to talk to this girl. The girl goes and hides while we try to cool the guy down. This kid goes all around my friends house looking for the girl and finds her in the bushes. He cusses her out and yells. All i did was make the girl leave and hold him off long enough to give them a head start. I then call the girl and her friend to tell them to call the cops if he follows them. Should I have done more.

you did all you could. you helped your friend and told them what to do if it continued. i would have done the same thing.

Q: I am 13 and a male.I REALLY like this girl and she REALLY likes me, but why cant i hug her? I mean, I always say i will and always want to, but when Im about to I freeze up! Can you help?

i think you should try to start by holding her hand if you're afraid to hug her. you shoul just get over it and hug her. Yall are goin out so it wouldnt matter. If she looks uncomfortable about it ur not the only 1.

Q: Hi im 13 and i love horses. I cant stand not seeing them. I realy want one of my own. me and my family live in the city (there are no Horses aloud) and i ride at a lesson place 15 mins away. i only get to ride once every other week. I want to see them more often. Please help.

Note: please dont say make some more money I am only 13.

From: Horsegirl

Maybe you could work out a deal wth the owners of the riding place. you could ask them if you help aroud the stables if you can ride the horses more often.

Q: My name is Jack and I'm 22. Sorry if this is long but I really need the help. I recently found out that I have a 15 year old half sister named sarah. I've been searching for her for a long time and I finally found her. Well when I first saw her I noticed that she had scars on her arms that I think were from cutting herself. The more I talked to her the more I noticed something was wrong. At first she wasn't saying much I figured that was normal I mean she had never met me before and she had just found out that I was her half brother. I've been seeing her everyday for about 2 weeks now and she still seems really nervous like she's almost afriad to get to know me. I've also been trying to meet my father but evertime I go to see him she comes to the door and says he's not home even though his car is there. I asked to meet her mom and she said that she wasn't home either. This goes everynight. Well this afternoon I stopped by without calling first so sarah didn't know I was coming I wanted to surprise her. I heard yelling so I tried to see what was going on but the door was locked. I stood there for 5 minutes before my sarah came to the door. She looked like she was limping and seemed to be in pain. She said that she was going to a friends house so she couldn't go with me today. I asked about her parents again and again they weren't home. Well after she left I went in the house I saw that my father was drunk and her mother was too. I think they could be abusing but I just don't understand why she would hide it. I'm really worried about her. She's a really nice kid and I don't know what to do. I'm beginning to form a relationship with my sister and I don't want to ruin that. Getting to know my father isn't that important to me right now because I've found something better. What should I do to make sure that suspicions are correct? and don't say talk to her because she won't tell me. Also if she is being abused would it be a good idea to turn her parents in even if she doesn't want me to? I'm thinking about asking her to come live with me but I don't know much about 15 year old girls. Would having her move in with me be a good idear or are there other options that will be better for her?
Thank you in advance

Jack

I think having her come live with you is an excellent idea. If she lives with you, you can be sure that she wont get abused any longer. As for her parents, i think you should report them. it would be the best thing because they wouldnt be able to hurt her anymore. if you donty want her to find out you told ask the people you give the report to to keep your identity confidential. I hope i've helped you. Write back when you've decided what to do if you can or if you still cant decide.

Q: i need some help getting a new screenname i absolutly hate the one that i have now.
can someone give me some ideas on new s/ns

if this helps any
-im 15
-i like punk rock and metal music
-my fave colors are black and pink
-my afave things are my chucks

ill rate 5s

chucksluver or punkrockluver

Q: My boyfriend can be so immature sometimes & it really bothers me. He's always fooling around & playing pranks of people. I know he's a guy so he's entitled to have fun with his friends but sometimes, it gets out of hand. What do I do?

x`laur

You should suggest that he is being immature to him when his behavior gets out of hand. If he doesnt pick up on your hint, just tell him calmly that he is being very childish and he is getting out of hand.

Q: i went out with this guy before, but then we broke up after one day because we didn't really feel comfortable around each other. but now i like him, and everyone's telling me he likes me too and that he might ask me out, but that's been going around for days and he's barely said a word to me. we don't really talk that much because we barely have any classes together and we just never get the chance. he likes someone else, but he sais that he likes me better than the other . how should i let him know i like him? i can't tell him online because he doesn't have a screen name, but i just can't tell him in person. Please help!

You could call him. If you call him you can still tell him in person , but you wouldnt have to see his facewhen you asked him. That might make it less awkward. Good luck!

Q: Hey! Im only 13 yr's old..my mom messed up in the past and its taking college classes to get a good job, and my dad has a disease and so he cant work that often. My parents are also divorced...so My family doesnt have to much money. It sux having to much money..so I was wondering, are there ne jobs out there for 13 yr olds ( I am mature ) besides babysitting?

I do rate very high and send feedback..but i rly need help!!!

Thanx!!!

Maybe if you explaied your situation to some employers at grocery stores, hair salns, and pet shops you could get the to let you work for a small salary. even if its small, anything helps right? Well at grocery stores you could bow stuff and sweep the store. At hair salons you could sweep hair and refill bottles and sterilzed supplies. At a pet shop you couls sweep the store, clean animal cages, and help carry things to customers' cars. I hope that helps.

Q: Hey everyone.. i need names for my older sister she's pregnant again and she wanted some different names that are forgein or just something unique.. well we liked the name Nevaeh which spells Heaven backwards but she dont know anymore names and we also would like middle names and we need both boys and girls names.. so please help ill rate high thanks in advance...

Some uncommon names for girls are Maegan, Marrissa, Bethany, Lilly, Amelia, Lane,Angelle, and Lila. Some uncommon boy names are Killian, Connor, Karl, Sidney, Jordan, Darryl, Angelo, and Brad. I hope those are some good ones. Let me know what name you pick if you can. My e-mail address is angelgirl_32112hotmail.com.

Q: I'm going to a movie with my best friend, her boyfriend, and his friend who I like tomorrow. The boy I like and I are good friends but I want to know if there are any hints I can give him tomorrow at the movies, maybe to lead him on. People say he likes me and he's been giving hints but how should I act tomorrow. Any tips?

To show him that you like him ask to sit next to him during the movie. You can also offer to share some of your popcorn or snack with him. If he still seems to be clueless to what you're insinuating, then get your best friend's boyfriend to tell him that you like him after the movie. If he tells him during the movie things will get awkward and one or both of you will be nervous around each other.

Q: theres this girl in my class whos awesome! I like her alot but she has a boyfriend (who shes losing interest in). sometimes she stares at me and after class she talks to me for no reason. next year we have a major dance coming up (8th grade) and im wondering if i should ask her. please help, it would mean the world to me.

If she is losing interest in her current boyfriend, that means she may like you from the signs that you said. If she breaks up with him and is sad comfort her. It will let her know that you care and that might make her more easy around you. If she starts to show more interst.... go for it! Ask her to the dance. I hope that helps.

Q: okay theres a girl in my class whos really anoying i hate her and i know this is imature but wishs she would die. she likes me and im afraid that shes going to ask me to dance with her. (we have this stupid rule that sais you are not alowed to reject someone to slowdance) give me some good ideas of how to avoid her. thanks

When a slow dance comes on, conveniently go to the bathroom or go get something from the concession stand if you have to. You can't dance with a drink or food in your hands, right? If you have a friend thats a girl you can ask her to dance, so the other person cant ask you because you're already dancing with someone. Since there is that rule, your friend cant reject you. I hope I helped.