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Hello, my name is Sarah and I'm a sophmore in highschool. I've been through many exhausting and depressing trials with friendship and drama and know my fair share of heartbreak. If you have a problem I'll be here to answer so don't be hesitant. :]

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I have this like rash type thing on my lip and I've had it for a while and it won't go away. I've put stuff on it to make it go away, but nothing works. Does anyone have any idea what it is, or how to get rid of it? Answer please, I rate HIGH!

Have you gone to a dermatologist? or did you shave your upper lip? That's really strange, and if there is a doctor somewhere around here they could probably help you more than I could about stuff like that.

in my class ther's this guy who sits behind me who's really hot and he blows on my neck and flirts with me but im not sure what to do. i mean he has this huge reputation for like having sex and i want to keep my virginity at least for freshman year! he's a year older and im pretty sure sex is all he's interested in but i really like him and he's really cute! i don't know how to handle this...

Don't feel obligated to give into him just because of his looks. A lot of guys that are really ugly are the nicest people. And if I were you I would tell someone he is sexually abusing you like that. But anyway, just because you are physically attracted to him doesn't mean you should take a chance like that.. I mean, have you even considered that he would just leave you after that one time.. what if you got pregnant, he probably wouldn't want the responsibility.

I like this guy who likes me too, but the thing is I'm so scared to fall in love because i dont wanna get hurt! My friend thinks i've already fallin for him but i'm hoping that It's not true! It's weird because when i'm not around him I feel so empty! But then when he's with me I fell like my feet won't ever touch the ground again. How can I not fall in Love?!

Why would you not want to fall in love? Consider yourself lucky. But if you really want to lose him.. refer to the movie "how to lose a guy in ten days" that all will probably work like a charm. But mostly I'd like to say that life is too short to pass something you feel so strongly about up. Let what you feel decide, but be careful.. heartbreak just comes with life..

ok well i dont eat anything really... i would say im becoming anerexiox. i know its not good for you but does it mmake you lose weight?

Well yea it makes you lose weight, but it's unhealthy to lose too much. Maybe you should go to a counciler about this. You can probably find more help there than you can on a computer site.

I'm 20 (F) and the type of person that usually panics when somebody wants to know about by feelings. I'm not very much leaned into emotional blabberings.

I have been in a relationship where we don't see each other much but agreed to fix our lives (school, family etc) first before we go head-on a serious relationship.

My problem is - How, as girl can I control my feelings of longing to be with that person because I don't want destroy that future plan and disturb his pleasant present because of by my present needs (wherein in all the years of my life, its the first time I've felt this confusion)?

hmm, maybe your becoming more emotional as you get older? Chocolate is always nice way to let out emotion, I always drown myself in a warm shower and chocolate whenever I'm feeling down or feeling romantically alone. Maybe you two could arrange more times to be together, it's more healthy in my opinion if a relationship includes at least 2hours of confrontation a day. Try and talk to him about how you feel.. maybe he's been feeling the same way? You never know.

Yesterday and today I was with my friend, and when I'm with my friend I'm really hyper n stuff. When she left my boyfriend called and said that he doesn't like when I act the way I do, and he'd rather me act the way I do around my friends n stuff. I do act allot differently. I try not to I'm just really shy when I'm just with my boyfriend. What should I do?

A lot of people act differently towards other people.. its just sort of normal. You can be completely mello around family and be bouncing off the walls with friends. Try and calm down when your boyfriend is there, he obviously doesn't like it if your being abnoxious and hyper, so maybe try and cut down on that.. drink a few less dr.peppers, don't eat so much candy? xD no but seriously.. control yourself. If your friends are really your friends they shouldn't not like you more or less than the did before.

I haven't been myself lately. And I don't know why. Ugh, I just feel like.. I'm not here, or something.. you know? My friends have noticed, my family... even this lady I take karate with asked me today if I was okay. I can't figure this out. Could I be depressed? I mean, I'm happy about a lot of things. But my life just seems so empty. Like it's missing something.. I donno. Maybe I'm just always tired. I DO need more sleep. And more exercise. Maybe that's why I haven't been myself... I donno.. What do u all think?? Help!!

Maybe you should start setting some goals for yourself. I'm going to get to the next belt in Karate, I'm going to make a higher grade in that class I'm doing not so well in. If you do you should feel a bit of achievement and satisfaction with it. It always helps me to set a few goals for myself to make and then I feel a whole lot better about myself and my life. Like, that I'm actually doing something. Initiative is the best healer for an empty life.

Ok, heres my story, im always getting yelled at, my brother and sister are always being obnoxious and screaming, my friends and my boyfriend are makin me choose who to be friends with, my mom wont get off my damn case about everything, especially school work, and im really stressed. Idk what 2 do.. im really sick of life. Is there anything I can do to be happy and be more independant at my house?? I dread weekends cuz i hate bing home nad im only 13

sounds like the normal teenage drama.. this happens to everyone believe me. Annoying siblings, parents that won't leave you alone, and school work is always a drag. But really, your life could be worse. tell your boyfriend and friends that they shouldn't make you choose, that you like your other friends just as much as them and that it isn't fair to you for them to make you choose between them. Then, for your little siblings, turn up your headphone music, sit down and do school work. Your parents will get off your back, you can listen to some good music, and you won't hear your little brother and sitster's whiny little annoying voices in the background.

I suggest listening to some good old My Chemical Romance.. or Greenday.. Simple Plan has a lot of lyrics that have to do with parents, so you can always get your parent anger out on that.

I have a girlfriend.I also have an ex.I went to the movies with ex.I still have fellings for my ex.Well any ways I went to the movies with my ex
and two of her friends.I thuogh we was not going to any thing because i have a girlfriend.So i did not do any thing with her for the first 30 mins of the movie.For some reason we started holding hands then 45 mins into the movie we stated to make out and now i have mixed emotions
I want to be with my girlfriend.I love my girlfriend.I also love my ex.now i dont no weather to break up with my girlfriend to go out with my ex or stay with my girlfriend.Please help me

hm.. try and make a list of what you like about the both of them. I always do this if I can't choose between two things, people, ideas etc. The person with the more things you like, wins. If that doesn't work, resort to the things you don't like and the person with the most loses. It's a very easy and helpful process. I hope this helps you make the right decision.

also, if your ex realizes you have a girlfriend, she shouldn't tempt you like that anyway.. tell her you can't do anything until you've broken up with your girlfriend if your willing to make that sacrifice. Because if your girlfriend finds out about this.. you can be sure she will be pissed.

Okay,I'm goin out with this guy.And im starting to get sick of him pickin on me insted of loving me.Like the other day at a game he was like hittin my leg,i know hes just kidding.But its getting on my nerves..

Hmm.. if this dude is annoying the hell out of you.. and you just can't take it anymore. Tell him. "could you please stop annoying me." straight out. He may say "I'm not annoying you." but just respond back with a "yes you are.. please stop." and if he doesn't want to try and change, like stope needlessly poking at you, then maybe you should drop him. I mean, you can't see this guy as your husband or your future, what's the point if your wasting your time with some guy that you can't stand.

What is anemic depression? And does anyone have or know wehere to get any info on it? Thanx! xoxo - KrIsSy*

this is strange because I can't find anything about it. They are almost two seperate things. I suspect that maybe depression can come from being anemic.. but anemic means that your red blood cells can't take in as much oxygen as normal peoples. It's actually sort of common. Maybe you should ask your doctor, or maybe one of your parents.

I am 13, and I am going back out with my X Boyfriend, I'll call him Alex. Now, In our past Alex and I have went out two times. The first time we went out, everything was perfect. I thought I ment my true love. And he was in love with me, and I was in love with him. Then one night Alex and I went out to a hockey game. Amazing nigh, i had the best time ever. I thought nothing else could go wrong. After we both went home, I got on the computer and he said something mean to my best friend, Leah. And I asked him why he said that, and he started flipping out on me, saying that everything he does is wrong, he never does anything write. And he started cursing at me. Calling me things, then he said why don't you find somebody else thats better than me. And I told him, there is NOBODY that is better than you, I love you Alex. Then he said that again, took me out of his profile and put an away message up. He came back about 10 minutes later, and said he was so sorry he didn't mean anything he said. I was so mad, I didn't know what to do. I wanted to say I was sorry too, but i couldn't, I told him I don't want to take his crap anymore. And his only excuse was, ''I only had one girlfriend before, give me a break.'' And then I was so mad that he broke up with me, I went out with my other X-boyfriend Josh. (that same day). And Josh and I went to a football game the day after everything happened. And I really didn't like Josh, I just wanted to go out with somebody to make me happy, and try to get over Alex. And when I was going out with Josh, I was still loving Alex the whole time. Then at the football game, I couldn't take it anymore, I needed Alex, after seeing him there and everything, I couldn't help it but to remember everything that we had. So at the football game i broke up with Josh and went back out with Alex. We lasted about 2 weeks (at the most) and he broke up with me, because he said that he couldn't stop thinking about me going out with Josh. And then about two months after that happened, he went out with somebody else named Ali. And when they were going out, i was so mad. I couldn't help thinking about what we used to have the first time we went out. And while they were going out Alex and I started talking again, being close friends again. And I started loving him more and more every day. And one day he was so mad, and he wouldn't tell me why. He said ''I only need one thing to make me smile in this world''. And i was thinking about it all night, he wouldn't tell me what that one thing he needed to smile was. And I thought that it was me, the way he said it. Because then he said, ''Why do you want to know, you wont be able to give it to me anyways'' And then I told him that i still love him, and I need him so bad. A couple days after that, he told me that that one thing he needs was me. He said he never stopped liking me. I couldn't beleave it. And now were going back out again. For the third time. I acutally think this time is going to work, and he tells me he loves me soo much, and everything else like that. And I beleave him. And that's what he told me the first time we went out. And I wanna beleave him, but I keep thinking about what he told me the first time. And im scared he's going to get me to love him again more and more, then break up with me again. What do you think I should do? Beleave him or not? XoXo **AmberO**

hmm.. that is very complicated. First off.. your hormones are raging, so what you think is love, may be just that reminder that your growing up. two, Alex seems like a pretty good guy. Maybe something happened to him you didn't know about and he just needed something to vent on, and with no one else to do that to, he did it to your friends, and then turned it to you. He probably didn't mean it. 3rd, Ali was probably a fling just like Josh.. but if you guys have held some sort of feeling for a while, maybe your relationship will last. Personally I'm sort of against middle school relationships because they ruin friendships and almost never work out. If anything keep up the friendship with him, it seems like you guys are really close.

Ok there is this New Guy that has been at my school for like 3 days. And he Sits at my table for lunch, and he also is in my Gym class and my S.S class. And i think he is cute but i don't know if i should tell him or not. Can you guys please tell me if i should your not.

First, get to know the dude. If you don't know him, or he doesn't know you, then whats the meaning. Really you should try and build a friendship before going anywhere else.

i'm so confused!!! see i like this guy, and he's sending me mixed signals. but the thing is we have had an extremely rocky past...see, we broke up, and it wasn't pretty. but that was a long time ago, and now every time i talk to him he's all nice and stuff, and we were in a show together and he kept looking over at me and flirting, but at school he acts like i'm not even there. i think if we talked more something could happen, but should i persue it or let it go?

If you have more feelings for him, and he reciprocates them, I don't see anything wrong with wanting to pursue it. The only problem is that if you guys had a bad break up the first time, the second might be a lot worse. So, be careful with what time you choose to ask him.. If you ask him infront of his "friends" and can't be uncool and talk to you.. maybe ask him later.. if the fact that he ignores you doesn't bother you.

i am going to be 14 soon nd i took a cpr class and i like children but i have never babysat before and i really want to but everyone always asks my older sister first and i would put up flyers but thats dangerous, what should i do?

Ok, a good place to find babysitting jobs is church. There are plenty of good people with little kids there. And if you are scared about the whole infant thing and some kid choking then take an older kid. I advise that maybe you don't take a time to babysit them when they have to eat. Or if they must eat something, things that are small and easy to eat are good. Usual an adult won't leave you to make a full meal so giving them little treats will make them 1. like you more and 2. they have a less likely-hood of choking on them.

But really the main thing here is that you shouldn't babysit until you are sure you are absolutely ready and are confident with being able to take care of another person.

Be careful and happy babysitting.. :)

Hey guys! I'll try to make thise short.. okay, so I want to go to this high school in Aurora, IL and I am from Springfield. It's called Illinois Math and Science Academy. My parents don't care or anything but they say that I can't go to Florida with my youth group or Puerto Rico with my friend Erin over the summer if I want to go to this high school. It's a 3-year school and it would mean I skip 9th grade, but I would also get to study many cool subjects like astronomy. Which should I pick and why should I pick it? i rate high. Thanks in advance! ~Brit

I think you should take the school. It sounds like all of these things really interest you, and those trips will only last for a short time when this will set you up for your future.

i hurt my wrist playing volleyball about a month ago. my dad told me it was sprained and it would stop hurting in about a week or so. but my wrist has been hurting for a month. i can't do pushups or lift anything without it hurting. what do u think i've done to it? i rate high!

I actually had a situation like that once.

I went to a soccer camp over the summer (I'm a goalkeeper) and in the second day we were working with the field players for shots. Fore a demonstration, one of the older instructors kicked the ball. I was stupid enough to forget not to settle the ball by pulling back a little bit as I caught it. At first it was a light pain, and then it started getting worse and worse. I didn't have full movement of my wrist and before I knew it I was being taken to the doctor on location. He classified it as a sprain and put a light cast on it to help. He said I could still play and I did. It was sort of hard thought.. the cast was sort of big and bulgy. Anyway.. so we're starting to drive back home after everything is over, and when I take the cast off to look at it, my wrist is all different colors.. green.. yellow.. purple.. it was sort of strange, so we went to a doctor. They said it was just a sprain. But it kept hurting and my parents decided that we should get a second opinion.. so.. we went to another doctor whom was more of a specialist with breaks and such. It turned out, it wasn't actually a break, but a bend in my bone. See, if your young sometimes your bones bend rather than break. They still classify it as a break though, and you still need a cast. If you don't, you can end up being limited in your range of motion at an older age with your wrist because it will heal wrong. So, if your parents care about your future health they will get you to a doctor. If they tell you it's not a break.. get a second opinion, maybe even a third, because a large percent of the time doctors don't even find that.

also, since you've taken a lot of time off your wrist could also be unused to the strain your putting on it. Maybe give it some time. Your wrist could be just sore, like your legs are after a bunch of lunges. You do have muscles in your hands to you know, so it wouldn't suprise me that they act in the same way as your quads do after lunges.

i am in love with a guy. but the thing is, is that our families hate each other and ownt let us see each other anymore. but i love him so much and i think that because we cant spend time togther that he is losing feelings for me!!! i cry in my room every night praying that we will be together some day....and it seems like no matter how hard i try to make things work or find some way to see him....it just isnt good enough....so i guess my real thing that i need advice with is that.....im in love....im not sure if he is in love with me.....we cant see each other....do i let him go or keep trying to make it work? please people...i need help!!!

hmm, sounds like the classic, "Romeo and Juliet" story.. Though.. um, don't read that right now, the end is very tragic.. anyway. You won't be with your family forever, and if you love this guy enough, you will find a way to be with him. I'm not telling you to sneak out with him or anything, but maybe you should go to the movies with your friends, and meet him there. Maybe you should try and get your parents to know him better. He can't be just like his parents, because he, in reality isn't them. I know I have a friend with parents I especially hate, but.. that doesn't mean she still isn't my friend.

I hoped this helped. :)

im not sure if this would be considered friendship but my friends friend has this boyfriend Nathaniel who abuses girls. He gets so mad easily and well my friends friend is doing bad things like she is doing bad in school, and she does stuff with nathaniel like lets him feel her and finger her which is disgusting. She hasnt gotten to sex but shes gotten to her clothes like halfway off and she also smokes pot. The only problem is my friends friend isnt my friend but why wont my friend do anything about it???

It sounds like your friend is in a bit of denial. That girl really shouldn't be her friend anyway if she is treating her body like that.. and even considering having an abusive boyfriend.

On aim you can have icons.. i have seen alot of the new ones that talk.. does anybody know where i could get those. I would really appreciate it! thank you!! :)

The ones that talk you get on aol. You have to be an aol user to get them. Sorry if you aren't.. :/ but they get annoying to other people anyway.. haha.. believe me, I'm always asking people with them to change them.. gah.. so annoying..

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