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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.

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is there anyway that i can loose some of the fat off my fingers?

Yes there is. There is a gripper that guitar players use to strengthen their fingers. If you put on gloves to make your fingers sweat and use the gripper at the same time, you will lose the fat. This does take time and not something you can do in a week but it is effective.

25/f
I would like to start by stating that I have been in the work force for 10 years and have always been promoted, never fired, and only called in sick once in those ten years. (mentioning this so no one thinks I am lazy.) I am 4 months pregnant with my second child. I work a heavy labor job (3rd shift) and lately I feel like I cannot go another day. I want so badly to spend the next few months with my two year old and be at home getting the house ready for the new baby. My co-workers stress me out, I am burnt out on the work, and I am always tired because I only get 5 hours of sleep a night, sometimes less. with my son, I went on pregnancy disability at 7 months. I will probably have to stick with it until then this time too... but i really want to quit. I know it is stupid because the economy is horrid right now, and my boyfriend is just getting his new business going and I am the main breadwinner of the family. My question is:should I stick with is because of the money, or is my happiness worth being fairly broke?

This question is easier to answer than you may think. Your family should come first and work should come second. If you stay at your job then you will waste away the years you could have spent with your kids. By the time you realize what has happened they are already grown up. Yes the economy is bad but a job shouldn't be about the money but the passion behind it. You can always get a job and go back but you can't go back with your kids. They will continue to grow and there really isn't anything anyone can do to stop it. IF you have to, do a job that requires you to stay home with the kids such as telemarketing, online working stores, etc. Revolve your life around your family not your job or even money. At long as your family is happy, you will be too.

I am filling out job applications online...for my first job..and i was wondering if i should call the places after about a week or so to know if they received my application.
also HOW DO I FILL ONE OUT IN THE FIRST PLACE..
do i email it to them or what?
Im very new at this and am not receiving much help from my parents about this so here are some questions

1. what should i do to have myself noticed
2.should a fill out applications to more then 1 place
3.SHOULD I CALL AFTER WARDS
4.Any tips you have for me
5. How do i fill out an online application
6.do i need to fill out a resume..if i want to apply at jobs like target...and chuck e cheese..even if this is my first job..

1. extracurricular activities to show that you are a people person, helping out with food drives or join clubs to get you ahead of the game.

2. Definitely fill out more than one application because sometimes they don't call you until they have opening even if they say they are hiring. This way you have multiple options to choose from

3. actually call between 3-5 days after filling one out because it shows that you care, your responsible, and has ambition.

4. Be calm in the interviews, pretend like you are just talking to a regular person, and answer all questions honestly but with common sense. Obviously if you have stolen in your life, you wouldn't admit that in an interview.

5. Number one tip- when they ask do you have questions, make sure you have some. This is the number one reason why people don't get hired. This shows that if you truly don't understand something then you will ask questions.

6. Online applications are very simple but paper ones are more likely to be read. Computers have a tendency to fail, corrupt, the file can be sent elsewhere, they may have a virus, and you can't attach resumes to them.

7. Resumes definitely help in putting you ahead of everyone else. It's not required but it definitely will help you in the long run.

thats just a regular hamster ball. i needed a human hamster ball. like them huge balls ppl walk around in and they can walk with them in water. thx any ways

ok at amazon.com type in human hamster balls and it should be the first one that pulls up.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=human+hamster+balls

when i went to that site it said "product not found" then i searched for it in the search thing and it didnt come up in any thing. I think its just me. :) i repell this stuff now ;)

ok, i went to walmart.com. Then to the left of the search box I put it in category of pets. Next I typed in hamster balls or the thing you called it exactly. There was one item on the list that I could see :)

i like this guy and everyone says im better than him but i like him alot .. i want to tell him i like him but how should i do it? either phone or person and how do i tell him? n what do i say?

thanks . i really need help :)
loveboys

Never tell a guy you like them on the phone, always in person. Don't come right out and say that you like him but simply ask how he thinks of you. Ask if he thinks of you as like a sister, best friend, or someone who could possibly be his girlfriend.Make the scenary casual at school or something, you want to act natural.

i already tried those. Can you give me the acuall wesite plz? that would be GREAT THANK YOU!!!

ok, the ones i was looking at were for humans lol but i found on walmart that vary in price depending on the area or store. It is http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=10315203.

Does anyone know where i can watch footage of drew barrymore hosting saturday night live when she was 7 years old?

Thanks!

I would check utube, they have all kinds of crazy footage even old ones.

14/f

I just got back from florida. I'm naturally tan, so I tan easily and I get a really nice one when I go on vacation. I've never peeled before. I came back and literally right down in between my breasts I am peeling. And now it's kind of on my chest too, but the cleavage is what's annoying me. A part of it is whiter than the rest of my skin. When the peeling eventually stops, will it stay a different color than my skin or will it adjust? Please help. Any peeling prevention and treatment tips would be great.

No, it will adjust in about a week or two. I would suggest buying cocoa butter cream to put on your chest. It will help with the burning, peeling, and it will you skin tone better.

I want one of those human hamster balls right.. but they are all reeeeally expesive for just some plastic the cheapest i found was 500!!! geeeeezz... Can any one help me on where to find cheaper ones??
that would really help THANKS!!!

Amazon is selling them for 50 and ebay is selling some a little less than that. These are also the plastic ones.

I am very tall for a girl, almost 6 foot and I always have trouble finding pants. Right now I am looking for a good pair of skinny jeans but i can never find ones that are long enough that fit right.
I don't want to pay a ridiculous amount either.
i normally wear jeans size 30x35-36
any good stores? preferably not online..but anything helps.

I would suggest making your jeans or expanding the ones that are not long enough. You can buy cheap fabric and still pay less than the regular price. Usually JC Penny's, Macy's, Walmart, Gabriels, etc. If the stores don't have the jeans displayed in the stores, you can go to customer service and they should be able to order a different size.

my bf is nice, i wont deny that. he may be crude sometimes but hes a nice boy. problem is hes not that sweet. he doesn't do things that you wanna go awww. not that hes boring or anything, hes just not cute either. hes funny and stuff but i guess im such a girl that i fall for the stupid little things like being called princess and sent cute messages etc. i feel like this is keeping me from falling in love with him. its a bit shallow i guess but those things are what make me fall in love. but of course i dont want to tell him this, I dont want him to be sweet if its forced and he feels like he has to. so my question is how can i indirectly influence him be sweeter, or more romantic?
i know some of you will want to say that maybe that's just not him, and i shouldn't change him because i cant, but you know what, this same thing happened to my friend and her bf. he wasnt the type to be sweet, but then i have no clue what she did and now hes like the cutest guy ever and romantic and all, even tho its not in his personality at all. So i see that it IS possible...how do i do it?
thanks in advance! =)

The easiest way to do it is ask him to do things for you. Let's say for example you are both sitting at your house, ask him to get you something, and say 'oh your so sweet'. Then once you complement him, give him a kiss or something. This is what I call positive reinforcement. If you do it enough he will believe that he is really sweet and because he is getting rewarded for it, he will want to do it more.

I came across this book about acceptance, and how its at the center of everything. Basically it said that true happiness can be reached if one accepts his/her own reality as it is. Then I came across this quote that said "Grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference" which also preaches acceptance I guess. So I just wanted to know opinions here. Is acceptance the true secret to happiness or what other theories of reaching happiness have you come up with? I'm feeling a bit philosophical I guess...
thanks =)

I believe that a person makes his/her own happiness. If your unhappy with yourself, change it, and sometimes you can't so you should accept it. I guess I believe the philosophy that you stated above.

I need credit and i have none nor any credit cards no one will give me a credit card because i have no credit where the hell am i sopposed to get a credit card? Ughh this is so annoying some one help please

First you need a checking account, when you use a debit card, it builds up credit. Once you have had a debit card for a minimum of six months, try getting a cell phone in your name. Pay the cell phone for at least three successful months and apply for a capital one credit card or a tribute credit card.

So ive been taking birthcontrol since thursaday..
saturday i didnt take it..

this morning me and my husband had sex. and the condom broke.. we're not sure if his sperm went inside..

can i still get pregnant even though ive been on birth control for a couple of days? :[

Yes, unfortunately there is a possibility you could still get pregnant.

My teacher rubbed her hand up my leg and I was wondering If that classified as rape or sexual harrasmwnt.We were alone cause I had detention and she sat beside me and did it.She is damn ugly and I told her to get her stinkin paws of a me.I tell my principle and see what'll happen next.

It is a form of sexual harrassment.

me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3 years, this will be the second birthday of his that we will be together for. Last year i bought him a pre-made shirt with our names, a chain, a picture frame, and a few things for his x-box 360. he is turning 17. he is not into sports or anything major like concerts. i want to get him something amazing and he really isnt into the whole romantic type deal. i have til june.

17 years old are heavy into the video games so a game he likes would be perfect. If he listens to music maybe some of his favorite bands.

Okay well my dad's pretty old and so gardening is like a big part of his life. Well this morning, he bought like a ton of soil for the garden/flowers and stuff and the huge pile was in front of our house and, well, I thought it was okay in my opinion for him to leave it there because he came around every often or so to scoops some in the wheel barrow and go back to the back yard and that people would be respectful these days but I was wrong.

What's WITH the kids these days? They're rude, gangly, disrespectful kids that cuss almost bad as a sailor and you'd think that they learn to respects other people’s stuff, but they DON'T!

My dad came inside and told me to get a band aid and there's this cut he got on his hand from a tool and he was ranting on about "those frocking kids" of how they took some and he chased them down the street and they threw it at other people’s house! They're like 12 and I'm 16 and I'm just so mad because it isn't that hard (unless they have a fetish with soil or something) because I respected other people's property when I was a kid and didn't even bother walking on their grass.

Like, I don't even know what to do. I get depressed easily and this just put me in a bad mood. What are parents even doing for kids these days?

I was just wondering on if you have any ideas that will make me feel better and any better ways to protect the yard the next time my dad works on it or to prevent any damage on our property from meddling kids? Oh because we have flowers in the front of the house and my dad fixed all the soil with it too so now the front has just empty rectangle pieces of fresh soil for flowers to grow and I don’t want the kids to jump on it, hork on it, etc (what am i saying? even kids are good! I mean BOYS).

thank you for reading this.

I know that it is hard to live in a world where everywhere you turn is stress. I am a person who deals with so much stress that I even wonder sometimes how I manage to stay alive. If you occupy yourself with activities or always keep yourself busy, you don't really notice the stress.

As for the kids, I would suggest getting some kind of survellance camera. To change kids like that you need to show them that they can't get away with everything. This world has definitely decreased in respect over the years and it is going to get worse. If you offer to help your dad they may back down. The age range 10-15 is the worst because they can't control their emotions or desires. They are willing to push the limit and you have to show them that there is a limit. Even if you have to turn them in for destruction of property.

Unless you take a stand for yourself and your father, nothing will ever change.

ok i'm a figure skater and i have skates about like 3 years old and im supposed to be getting new ones but i cant them yet. my feet are KILLING me in these skates! i cant stand the pain anymore. does anyone have any suggestions of what i can do or buy to keep my feet from being hurt. also my feet get really cold and that just makes the pain worse so any ideas at keeping them warm would help alot too. thanks,
love livvvyyyyyyyyyy

Soak your feet in hot water before you put on your skates. It is going to take a couple of months before you fully break into your new skates. Don't skate as much because that just makes it work. If you skate to much, your feet will continue to be soar. If you make it a slow and long process your feet will become acustom to the feeling so they wont hurt when you do into competitions. Also soak your feet in warm water after skating too. Heat soaks the muscles and helps make them stronger as well.

okayy so i really like this guy and i havet really talked to him because i was scaared and my friend that was in my class in grade 8 and not now in grade 9 went out with him for a lil so i descided to tell her so when she found out shes like ooh ill set you upand that didnt go very well so now a month later i hear from on of her bffs that she likes the guy i like and im not suppose to know about this so i cant confront her .. but the problem is, the only reason they broke up before was because she didnt like him as more than a friend and now that she likes him again and shes good friends so she talks to him alot so what do i do??
thanks
loveboys

If she can't get passed the friends stage, then it will happen again. After this happens, this will be your cue that you really like him. If she is truly your friend then she will help you.

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