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How do I deal with those disrespectful kids?!
Okay well my dad's pretty old and so gardening is like a big part of his life. Well this morning, he bought like a ton of soil for the garden/flowers and stuff and the huge pile was in front of our house and, well, I thought it was okay in my opinion for him to leave it there because he came around every often or so to scoops some in the wheel barrow and go back to the back yard and that people would be respectful these days but I was wrong.
What's WITH the kids these days? They're rude, gangly, disrespectful kids that cuss almost bad as a sailor and you'd think that they learn to respects other people’s stuff, but they DON'T!
My dad came inside and told me to get a band aid and there's this cut he got on his hand from a tool and he was ranting on about "those frocking kids" of how they took some and he chased them down the street and they threw it at other people’s house! They're like 12 and I'm 16 and I'm just so mad because it isn't that hard (unless they have a fetish with soil or something) because I respected other people's property when I was a kid and didn't even bother walking on their grass.
Like, I don't even know what to do. I get depressed easily and this just put me in a bad mood. What are parents even doing for kids these days?
I was just wondering on if you have any ideas that will make me feel better and any better ways to protect the yard the next time my dad works on it or to prevent any damage on our property from meddling kids? Oh because we have flowers in the front of the house and my dad fixed all the soil with it too so now the front has just empty rectangle pieces of fresh soil for flowers to grow and I don’t want the kids to jump on it, hork on it, etc (what am i saying? even kids are good! I mean BOYS).
thank you for reading this.
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Hi, Im 16 to and I live in this small town, there are alot of little gangsters here well wannabe gangsters anyway and they like going around stealing stuff and spray painting there little "gang signs" everywhere and i hate it frankly it irratates the hell out of me and makes me wanna kill them literaly, but theres nothing i can do, so we got a big pitbull and let me tell you the pitbull keeps them away..lol..your dad pry doesnt think owning a pitbull will cure the problem because of all the horrable stories people say about the pitbull but our pitbull we got when it was just a little puppy, and hes the most cutest thing ever he wouldnt hurt a fly but when people come around during the night like how those little thugs run around at night getting in to things well they dont go around our house anymore, but other than that and servalence cameras theres not much you can do because because if you caught them on tape then you could report them to the police, enless you put bear traps on the ground to catch them but i think thats a little to the extreme..lol.. but yea like i said try getting a dog if not pitbull any dog will work as long as it knows how to bark
well good luck i hope everything works out ok. Karma is a beach and those little kids will get whats coming to them.
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I know that it is hard to live in a world where everywhere you turn is stress. I am a person who deals with so much stress that I even wonder sometimes how I manage to stay alive. If you occupy yourself with activities or always keep yourself busy, you don't really notice the stress.
As for the kids, I would suggest getting some kind of survellance camera. To change kids like that you need to show them that they can't get away with everything. This world has definitely decreased in respect over the years and it is going to get worse. If you offer to help your dad they may back down. The age range 10-15 is the worst because they can't control their emotions or desires. They are willing to push the limit and you have to show them that there is a limit. Even if you have to turn them in for destruction of property.
Unless you take a stand for yourself and your father, nothing will ever change.
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First off: Don't work yourself into a fit about things that haven't even happened yet.
That isn't helpful to anyone, and sitting around and imagining all the terrible things they MIGHT do is a very good way to depress yourself and cause your family needless concern. Deal with what HAS actually happened, and address what you and your father can do about it calmly.
You can't change who these kids are.
You can't stop them from being disrespectful.
All you can do is make it harder for them and make it less fun for them.
Make it harder for them by offering to help your Dad. It is very different for a twelve year old to pick on YOU, a sixteen year old, then it is for them to pick on an adult man. If they are really brazen little brats your presence won’t stop them, but it is likely to be a deterrent. Most kids have an idea that adults can't really do anything to them, where other teenagers are wild cards who may kick their asses.
Even if you have no intention of ever laying a hand on them, with a twelve-year-old boys or younger, playing the cool older teen will still get you some mileage.
That, and it would nice and pleasant of you to help you Dad out in the yard!
Make it less fun for them (NOT by chasing them and yelling at them! Lord, that is HUGE fun for them!) but by writing their parents about what you witnessed.
NEVER write a child’s parent about what you ‘suspect’ a child did. ALWAYS write about what you saw. If you or your father saw these children take the dirt and throw it at other people’s homes, then this is a good opportunity to let the parents know what you witnessed.
AND JUST WHAT YOU WITNESSED. Don’t editorialize or say ‘It was really disrespectful!’ Adults can figure that part out on their own. Simply let the parents know what you saw, without additional comments. Even if they don’t do much to their kids, it will probably take some of the ‘fun’ out of it.
Other than that, seriously, you and your Dad could both use a bit of chill-out moment.
It’s a big pile of dirt! Like a big pile of leaves, or a large puddle, it’s going to attract the attention of children and a twelve-year-old or younger is still a CHILD. They made a bad decision, but if you chase them and curse at them, you are only playing their game with them. Don’t play the game. Throw a tarp over the dirt when you aren’t in your yard and respectfully tell the parents of any completely out of line behaviour you actually witness (like dirt-throwing at people’s homes or vandalizing your garden).
If the behaviour escalates, warn the parents and children that you’ll need to call the police, BUT DON’T sit at home and fantasize about the behaviour escalating! You’ll only upset yourself and be prone to over-reacting to the things they actually do. (And seriously, what harm is spitting in the garden? Pointless acting out like that you just need to learn to ignore. Sure, it's gross and childish, but it's not actually worth your concern.)
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