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sweet boy
my bf is nice, i wont deny that. he may be crude sometimes but hes a nice boy. problem is hes not that sweet. he doesn't do things that you wanna go awww. not that hes boring or anything, hes just not cute either. hes funny and stuff but i guess im such a girl that i fall for the stupid little things like being called princess and sent cute messages etc. i feel like this is keeping me from falling in love with him. its a bit shallow i guess but those things are what make me fall in love. but of course i dont want to tell him this, I dont want him to be sweet if its forced and he feels like he has to. so my question is how can i indirectly influence him be sweeter, or more romantic?
i know some of you will want to say that maybe that's just not him, and i shouldn't change him because i cant, but you know what, this same thing happened to my friend and her bf. he wasnt the type to be sweet, but then i have no clue what she did and now hes like the cutest guy ever and romantic and all, even tho its not in his personality at all. So i see that it IS possible...how do i do it?
thanks in advance! =)
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The easiest way to do it is ask him to do things for you. Let's say for example you are both sitting at your house, ask him to get you something, and say 'oh your so sweet'. Then once you complement him, give him a kiss or something. This is what I call positive reinforcement. If you do it enough he will believe that he is really sweet and because he is getting rewarded for it, he will want to do it more.
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The best answer I can give you is, just sit him down and tell him what you expect out of him. Make sure that he undertands that you want romance. If he gets mad then he will either get over it and just do what you ask for you guys will break up. Which doesn't sound bad mayeb its time for of you to find someone else. Someone that meets both of your needs.
Good Luck!!
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You could always do little sweet things to him. He will like it (hopefully) and return the favor. How long have you been dating? he may just not be warmed up to you all the way yet. And when your boyfriend does do things you really like, make sure he knows you like it. if he doesnt he may just feel stupid and stop doing it.
ok i hope i helpedd!
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If I was you I wouldn't be looking for what you want out of him and be happy with him the way he is...I know that's not the best answer to give you, but if you looking for him to change then it'll never happen because nothing ever happens when you look for it to happen just go with the flow and he'll come around or at least that's how most guys are.
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You'll need to wait. If you happen to watch a movie and something romantic comes up, you can go aww how sweet. He might take a hint. Do things like that to hit it off or otherwise wait. If it's a new relationship (under a year) it may take some time for him to open up like that. If you don't show him that you're interested in romance, then he won't know. Guys don't take indirect hints well. I don't think you should break up with him or anything over that either. It's just he doesn't know and he probably doesn't know if you'll want to receive a treatment like that. You can tell him a fake story about how somebody's boyfriend dropped on by and did this and that.. and how sweet/wonderful/cute it was.
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