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to work or not to work?
25/f
I would like to start by stating that I have been in the work force for 10 years and have always been promoted, never fired, and only called in sick once in those ten years. (mentioning this so no one thinks I am lazy.) I am 4 months pregnant with my second child. I work a heavy labor job (3rd shift) and lately I feel like I cannot go another day. I want so badly to spend the next few months with my two year old and be at home getting the house ready for the new baby. My co-workers stress me out, I am burnt out on the work, and I am always tired because I only get 5 hours of sleep a night, sometimes less. with my son, I went on pregnancy disability at 7 months. I will probably have to stick with it until then this time too... but i really want to quit. I know it is stupid because the economy is horrid right now, and my boyfriend is just getting his new business going and I am the main breadwinner of the family. My question is:should I stick with is because of the money, or is my happiness worth being fairly broke?
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This question is easier to answer than you may think. Your family should come first and work should come second. If you stay at your job then you will waste away the years you could have spent with your kids. By the time you realize what has happened they are already grown up. Yes the economy is bad but a job shouldn't be about the money but the passion behind it. You can always get a job and go back but you can't go back with your kids. They will continue to grow and there really isn't anything anyone can do to stop it. IF you have to, do a job that requires you to stay home with the kids such as telemarketing, online working stores, etc. Revolve your life around your family not your job or even money. At long as your family is happy, you will be too.
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Be careful not to set up a false choice between money and happiness. That oversimplifies your problem, and really, you would be best off looking for a compromise between broke and miserable first. Quitting outright is a simple and quick solution, but after calm and serious thought you might discover that the best solution for your fledgling family is more complex.
Happiness is certainly worth being 'fairly broke', but before you do anything you really need to sit down and look at the numbers very, very carefully with your boyfriend so you both come to the decision and understanding of what 'fairly broke' means (and to make sure that 'fairly broke' doesn't turn into 'too-broke-to-afford-diapers'.)
Since you are such a strong employee, you might also talk to your employer about any concessions they might make to make your life easier. It doesn't hurt to let them know that you are struggling, and ask if there are any schedule changes or things they can think of (or things you can recommend) that would make this time more manageable for you. Even if there is nothing they can do, I’m sure with your history with them they would be willing to talk with you about possible strategies.
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