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Q: i think i have anger problems... yesterday, i got mad at my parents and i dug my nails into the palm of my left hand until it bled. now there is a huge chunk of skin out of my left hand. I am a cutter. I cut when i get depressed. any idea of what to do when i get mad other than drawing blood? i dont want to go see a doctor... because my parents dont think i have problems.
when you start to get mad, take deep breaths and you can talk to someone you trust and that may calm you down. if you dont want to talk to anyone, then try somethnig that would make you happy or calm you down. you could watch your favorite movie or tv show, listen to music, or even go for a walk. good luck!

Q: how long does someones period usually last? i got mine like 2 days ago and i was just wondering how long it lasts for people. and how long it is between them. thank you
you usually get your period for 4-7 days, its different for everyone though. and your period comes every month around the time you have it now

Q: My skin is really oily and i get a lot of zits on my forehead an nose. i can't get it to go away. i use shine free makeup but it's just not cutting it. it still get's oily. i was my face everyday. is there anything i can use so my face isn't as oily and my zits will go away? Please don't say proactive or clearisal ultra or w/e i really don't have to money to buy that stuff.
same here, my face is pretty oily and what i do is use this neutrogena face wash, i forget what its called but its orange and after you wash your face with that, you can use biore blotting sheets, they are usually around $6 and you just use them on your forehead and nose and then all the oil is gone, they work good too! good luck!

Q: Is there an age that women reach and they'll stop getting their period?
yah usually when they are around their late 40's/early 50's they dont get it anymore

Q: What are some good programs I can download tv shows for free?
like the others said, limewire is pretty good, ive tried it but sometimes they can cause viruses so be careful!

Q: I'm really skinny, except I have a big stomach. When I wear tight shirts like Abercrombie shirts, it hangs out. & Also my hips are really huge and I think I'm a little too wide.

What could I do to get a flat stomache besides a good diet, crunches, and situps. And what can I do to make my hips/waist smaller?
whenever i usually do crunches, they dont work as well for me so what i do is cut out the sugary foods and the junk foods. i also walk around alot like sometimes i would walk home from school with a friend. you could also eat healthier foods like a lot more fruits and vegetables ..good luck!

Q: Only answer if you have one.
I just bought an iPod nano and when I imported my music a few songs I didn't want on there got on there. How do I remove them from my iPod?
Please explain step by step; for I am quite confused.
okay i have an ipod nano to and this is what i would do, open up itunes and go to your library. and then just click on the songs that you dont want and then just delete them! good luck!

Q: How do you prevent razor burn from your vagina?
use shaving cream and i heard that shaving side to side works better like it wont hurt as much, and when your dont shaving you would want to put lotion on it

Q: i was wondering did it just happen like that 1 person just called the other
i dont really understand your question but ill try my best.. okay so we used to go out and hang out with alot of people, that you know. so one day she called me and asked me if i wanted go and meet up with this person because she didnt want to go and so we just started talking and such

but i dont know if you actually got what i just said but if you dont, just try calling her and ask her if she is still mad at you, and tell her you are very sorry for whatever you did and hope she wont stay mad at you because you liked it better when you two were friends because you two had alot of fun times together

Q: hey when i was little i used to have a pool and i did this thing were i went up to the jet and pushed my vaginia against it and the woosh of water hit my pelvic area i guess thats what its called. well is this bad for you? i do it in the hottub too. it feels really good. am i having an orgasum?
it shouldnt be bad for you ..and since it feels good, you probably could have an orgasm from this

Q: My face is oily, and I drink a lot of water everyday, and it doesn't help. What should I do to make it better. Please don't say use proactiv or wash my face.
my face is pretty oily too and what i do is use this neutogena face wash, i forget what its called but it says something with oil-free and its in a orange bottle. if you dont want a face wash there are also these oil blotting papers ..its called biore shine control oil blotting sheets and you just use it on your face and all the oil comes off, its great!

http://www.drugstore.com/qxp143238_333181_sespider/biore/shine_control_oil_blotting_sheets.htm
^thats what it looks like

good luck!

Q: i have known my this girl ashley since like 1st grade we were like best friends up until the summer going into eigth grade we had so much fun together we never stopped laughing and with my other friends we grew apart but nothing wood ruin are friendship or atleast thats what i thought during the summer going into 8th grade we had a HUGE fight like it was crazy but the weird thing is i dont remember what its about or who started it but it was big so big that its almost then end of 8th grade and even when i walk by her in the hall there is anger in are eyes we havent even talked since the fight and were going to high school next year and i really wanna just be friends again but i dont no what to do i refuse to talk 2 her because then it would be to acword so i need to no what to to 2 be friends with her again other then some cheesey answer like talk it out should i even try to be her friend anymore idk please help!!!
i had the same exact problem.. and my friend's name was ashley too! well we went out a lot.. and one day she called me up and asked me a question and then we started talking online and we would bring up all the good times we had and say how much we'd miss those times.. and we would say how much of an idiot we were to fight over something stupid.. so what you could do is talk to her online, tell her that you dont even remember what the fight was about and you are sorry and want to be friends again like you used too.. im not sure if that helped alot but if you have any other questions feel free to ask! good luck!

Q: HELP! i just got my period for the like the third time! is there any way that i can calculate when i'll get it next?

ILL RATE 5s!

♥ linds
you usually get every month ..and usually around the same time but sometimes your period could be irregular and so then you wont know when you'll get it

Q: What should i do.... b/c i know some 1 that wants to go out with me best friend and she dosnt like him and like they already went out... should i try to talk to her??/

from, some one!
since your best friend doesnt like him, you should just let them be friends. and there has to be a reason why they broke up since they already went out.. even though you probabaly want them to go out, let her do what she wants to do

Q: hey i was wondering how do you masturbate? i dont want any sites i just want to know from your point of view. should i lay down or what? also, when i do masturbate, do i get something called an orgasum? what is that? and does it mean i am sexually active and could get pregnant??
well you could just touch yourself down there and if you want to lay down you could, but you dont have to. when people masterbate some people get orgasms and some people dont and an orgasm is like when you feel really good down there ..i dont know how to explain it but this is what i got from a website


1. The peak of sexual excitement, characterized by strong feelings of pleasure and by a series of involuntary contractions of the muscles of the genitals, usually accompanied by the ejaculation of semen by the male. Also called climax. 2. A similar point of intensity of emotional excitement.

if you do it alot i guess you could be sexually active but you cant get pregnant from masterbating unless your with a guy and you two have sex

Q: Ok please dont anyone make fun of me! I am 16 yrs old and weig 200 lbs. i really need to loose as much weight as possible bfore school ends which in like 5 wks! please i will do ANYTHING! i rate 5's!!!!!!
~*Nikki*~
i would suggest you walk a mile or two each day and cut off the greasy and junk foods, also dont eat candy, eat a lot of salad and just eat healthy! good luck!

Q: VERY LONG BUT I RATE HIGH!

my dad. i dont know how to explain him.. he divorced my mom when i was 3 and i guess my mom walked out on me. she came back so now i see her every other weekend. my dad and her still fight sometimes and he gets frustrated with her easily. everyone at my dads house always says bad stuff about my mom, including my brother, so i defend her as best i can and my dad gets really angry. i live with him & my grandparents & my brother. i cry at least one time a day but i dont cut or anything like that. i just cry alot. hes very agressive, smokes, drinks, and takes pills. i dont know what to do though because im not sure why hes like this and he always takes it out on ME. i cant go to a psychiatrist because he wont let me or anything and i dont wanna tell the police or anything because he doesnt physically hurt me, only emotionally. oh and please dont tell me to talk it out with him because he will not do that :(

well if you have ANY advice then please help. & i am a 15/f if it changes anything :/
well you can go talk it out with someone close to you that you trust or talk to someone in your school like the guidance councelor. if you get sick of him you could always go live with your mom or go out whenever he makes you stressed out and such.. try to do something that will calm you down whenever he hurts you or talk to a friend when you need a talk wiht someone.. good luck though!

Q: There is a condom lodged in my vagina how do I get it out??????
well try to pull it out and if you cant get it then you'll have to go to the doctors and they'll have to get it out for you

Q: My best friend just told a huge secret of mine. Do I have the right to be angry?

The secret wasn't that big of a deal but it kinda meant a lot to me.

Thanks in advanced!
yah you do have the right to be mad especially if you said dont tell anyone.. even if it wasnt that big of a deal, it meant alot to you and she shouldnt have told anyone..

Q: ok,i got razer burn(on my armpits....yaa...kinda weird sorry..!!) but i would like to no
how long does it last? and what can i use to get rid of it?(and if i can use something to get rid of it...how long does that take?) i have a dance next friday and i really dont want it to be there!!
thankyou for the help!!
it will probably be gone by next friday but for now just put on some lotion so it wont hurt as much and do this everyday till its gone ..good luck!

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