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I'm Steph. I love helping people and I have a great interest in music, I play the piano well and I hope to be a vet nurse one day. I am easy to trust and whatever you say to me personally will be strictly confidential. Thanks for reading! :) x

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OK so like i have this guy whos like my best friend. Online when it talk to him, hes so sweet and nice and funny. Then when i'm out with our friends, he either ignores me or like makes fun of me. I really dont understand it. Does anyone know what this means? And just explain it, please

Wow, I had the EXACT same thing. Turned out the guy was a complete idiot. But, he said he liked me more than a friend...only for one reason though, he wanted a little toy and I can't be bought at Toys 'R' us! But, perhaps this guy is different. But, in my opinion, it sounds like he's ashamed of being his friend and I don't see how this relationship can get onto the next level with him acting how he is. Maybe if you say "Come see me in break" or something like that online when he is this nice guy.
x Steph x

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Everyone in my school thinks im a slut. I have made bad decisions in the past, and now im a totally diffrent person. No one will give me the chance though to be my friend. EVERYONE HATES ME!!!! How can i loose this reputaion fast and gain friends back?

Talk to people nicely. If you've insulted/hurt them in the past, apologise and say that you have changed. Then if you become friendly with people, ask if you can go to the canteen/hang out with them at break time.
Good luck!!
x Steph x

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ok so my friend. we were eating dinner with her parents. they asked me a question about something for school. we had something for our parents to meet our new teachers. then she got GROUNDED because i said we had em (since she didn't tell em). well now i feel like crap since i got her grounded. WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE IT UP TO HER? DID I EVEN DO ANYTHING WRONG!?!?!?!!

It wasn't your fault, don't worry!
Here's what to do:
- Write a note (coloured with little pretty drawings!) to your friend saying how sorry you are and how you didn't mean to get her in trouble
- If you want to, you can buy her some chocolates or something like a teddy but I doubt you need to go that far.

Good luck!
x Steph x

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I am not sure this is the right category for this but I figured its all pretty much the same thing. Ok here is the deal. I feel so large. I have a big butt and my stomache seems to be getting bigger. I don't have like fat fat but i just feel so big compared to all my friends who have extremely small waists. I'm about 5"3 and range 110-113 pounds i believe but who knows? I might even weigh 120. Anyways I feel really big and I need some major diet help. I need exercise tips that will help me. My goal is to lose like 10 pounds. I am not anorexic but tis time to find something to do. I will rate high for good answers.

No worries about the catagory or the rating - I'm doing it because I want to! :)
- Sit ups are good for the stomach, very good in fact!
- At home exercise, i.e. buying a fitness tape/dvd?

Whatever you do, hope you're happy with yourself!
x Steph x

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If you had to pick one over the other, would you pick diamond earrings or a pearl necklace?

earrings--http://www.tiffany.com/shopping/item.aspx?c_id=WEB1&c_it=52U4&start_id=66&CategoryId=501&category=Diamonds&

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necklace--
http://www.tiffany.com/shopping/item.aspx?c_id=WEB1&c_it=57I5&start_id=91&CategoryId=66&category=Jewelry&

Pearl necklace, I haven't got my ears pierced! :)

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ok i have this friend and hes my ex but we are still good friends and for a week iv had the same dream when im snuggling up to him really close and we are kissing and some other think (holding hands...) but i dont know what this means! is it something thats wrong with me? should i ask him out again? if its any help i still have a cup he drank out of from my best (girl) friend's b-day party and her party was in June! please help im desparete im afraid ill do something stupid!
**sleepiesheep**

Dear Sheep,
I do that too, keep little things from boys that I like/d! Anyway, more importantly, why not talk to him privately and say that you think you made a mistake when you broke up and that you'd like to start again? Easier said than done but listen to yourself, you obviously like this guy...go for it, girl.
x Steph x

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16/m. I find that I have much dificulty in telling stories to my friends, like to a group. Even with jokes sometimes. I have no trouble whatsoever with talking and joking around, but when it comes to tell a story, I just can't do it, not even about me. It sounds terrible, I lose their interest too quickly, and they completely miss what I was trying to say. I feel confident about it, but whenever I try nothing comes to mind on what I can do to improve myself. I listen to other people tell stories and jokes all the time, and try to learn from them, but when I apply it to myself, it just doesn't turn out right. I think its leanining more toward a lack of practice. What do you think? Any suggestions on what to do or how to approach this problem? Thanks in advance.

Ah, don't worry yourself. Practice makes perfect as they say and I think if you do practice, it'll improve if not cure this 'problem' you have. Instead of getting details of the story, get the main parts. Another good thing to do is to watch a comedian live on stage (on dvd of course!) and see how they tell stories/jokes.
Good luck
x Steph x

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My sister is really depressed lately, and I'm really scared for her. She is pretty okay around me, but everyone else, (even our own mother and best friend) she won't crack a smile!!! I think it might be a 12 year old thing, but I'm a happy person who never really gets like that. I usually understand things, but I don't understand her! Tell me what to do.
Aunt M.

To M,
It's puberty, I'm sometimes like that and I just want to suffer in a room of darkness. Perhaps something is happening at school or something really upsetting has/is happening but she just hasn't told you. There's always a reason and a pathway leading to the way she's feeling.
Hope she is alright, best of luck
x Steph x

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Well ive been cruching on this guy for like EVER! well tonight i finally told him. and we didn't get to talk anymore about it b/c someone walkied around the corner. but i just want to know if it was stupid of me to tell him or not? he is like always staring at me and what not, or he was idk if he still is but i need help!

You go girl! You did the brave thing! Just smile and if he doesn't talk to you, just talk to him about non-relationship based questions and I really hope he gives you the right answers. Nevertheless, you did the right thing!
x Steph x

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Well this young man, is all that I am looking for right now, I am so afraid to give him a chance because I had just jumped in a relationship last time and got hurt. So should I follow my heart or should I weight things out first? Please Help

Always follow your heart. The heart can be a total dumbass sometimes but it's the thing that keeps love alive. In this life, we go throught heart ache and heart breaks but you gotta stick it with glue until someone can make it whole again. What's wrong with giving this person a chance? If you don't feel it's working, then learn a lesson and you'll know next time. Easier said than done I know, hang in there!
x Steph x

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Ok I am in High school and I have 3 freakin rumors going around the school about me and my best friend. This girl is telling me that me and my best friend are lesbian lovers, which is so not true, because I am straight, and now I have people talking about me, and also I have another rumor which isn't as bad, but that one is that I am going with this boy, and that I am a slut. Its going around the whole school, and it upsets me, and makes me want to cry. I don't know what I should do. I haven't had these problems, til I met this one girl.

With all due respect, hun, who cares? Of course I do because I don't like to see anyone upset unless they are themselves a bully or evil! But, you shouldn't care what these idiots think about you. You know it's not true and I HAVE been in your circumstance, and you know what you do? You agree. For example:
"Ewww, you and your friend are lesbian lovers!"
"Oh yes, but that's just between me and you"

See? These people WANT to get a reaction from you, they want you to cry and be upset. Be a strong person and don't let them see it! It can hurt and it does hurt inside but the main thing is not to let it show!
x Steph x

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I was invited over to my friends place one night to play a card game with her and another friend that is married.
We started playing the game and joking around, and then I mentioned that my ex boyfriend was trying to get back together with me.
I was laughing about it because my ex is such a loser. Everyone else was laughing too except for the married guy. When I looked at his face he got this really angry, jealous expression and didnt laugh at all.
Does this mean that he might like me as more than a friend? He's married so I was a little suprised by his reaction.
I rate high, if you answer my question I promise I'll give a 5.
Thankyou

I'm not bothered about the rating, I'm just here to help. But you MUST be becareful with reading the wrong signals. Even though he's married, it might not be a happy marriage and he could like you. I'd advise for you not to get involved with him but then again, it's your choice!
Good luck!
x Steph x

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I need help

I don't know everything that is wrong with me, but I know i need help. I'm a total mess and I don't sleep at night. Every night. A fourteen year old girl should not have to sleep with her sister and mother every night so she doesn't wake up everynight breathing badly and shaking. that isn't how things are supposed to be. I hold my breath then let it out, take a drink. type some more, talking to people keep me awake because i know as soon as i try to sleep hell will come.

Right, you've dignosed yourself by noticing the symptoms you have which is good. It's obviously not a happy experience but why don't you see a counciler? They have to deal with very serious cases i.e. suicide thoughts. Your mother is involved so why not talk to her about seeing someone who could help before this develops even more. Just a suggestion, good luck.
x Steph x

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okay so theres this guy that is in like all of my classes, and ive liked him since the beginning of the school year. and he has a girlfriend, but he always flirts with me and asks me who i like and asks me to be his science partner and he told me my school picture was amazing and all this stuff. but like im so confused because he has a girlfriend so i dont know what this means. does anyone know (1) what this means or (2) how i can get him to like me

1 - He could either be messing you about or being truly genuine with his comments. Perhaps his relationship with his girlfriend isn't going too well at the minute. However, imagine if you were his girlfriend and he was acting like that with another girl, it'd be difficult to tell wouldn't it? It's a tuffy!
2 - Flirt back, accept his invitation of being his lab partner, compliment him, get him something for christmas and work from there :)
G'luck!
x Steph x

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do guys really care about how big a girl's chest is?
guys please answerrrr !! .. and girls if you know the answer too..

Some do, some don't. In my opinion, guys who drool at girl's breasts or The Sun's page 3 models are pathetic. They need to look inside, at the real person rather if they're 40FFF!! But, seriously, when we're all old and crinkly, our boobs will sag and he has to cope with that!
x Steph x

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I'm a female that weighs 133 pounds. I want to lose weight, how do I go about doing this??!

Ways to lose weight:
- Join a gym
- Join a fitness club (Don't be shy, people get on with what they're doing, I highly doubt they're there to look at just you!) :)
- Run/walk to work/school instead of driving
- By a fitness video and work out in your own time at home
- Do press-ups, they're good for the stomach

G'luck
x Steph x

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thanx so much, but i dont kno how to say i. like how do i bring that up? i dont think i could jus say i have to tell you something. i donno help!
hearts
Kiki

Ok, telling a guy you like him is NOT easy! You have to accept that. And all the time you have to be thinking "No is the worst possible outcome". But you have to be sure he likes you as a friend first. So, compliment him, see how he reacts, if it's good, work on the next step. The next step being what his hobbies are, if he brings up that he likes music or going to town, just say "can I come with you sometime? I have stuff to get too" or just the "Do you mind if I come with you to town sometime?". Work it from there.
Best of luck!!!
x Steph x

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i sweat alot and i use good deodarant but i find that i stink by the end of the school day and i wont take off my hoodie. whats hould i do?

Anti-persperant, followed by deodarant. Don't worry, it won't stay with you all your life, it's just one of many joys of puberty! Also, make sure to take a can/bottle of deodarant with you too.
G'luck!
x Steph x

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Since starting college for my third year, a new timetable has been set up, which has meant that I basically no longer see my friends who are still at the college due to a lack of a 'proper' lunch-break or anything like that.

I now feel we're losing touch, especially as all they do when they go out is go clubbing, which I really don't like. Is there any way I can try and get us back together as a group again like the good old days?

Why not organise a day out say to a park or a restraunt in an evening as a friend reunion? I'm sure your friends are thinking the same thing too. However, don't be disappointed if not EVERYONE shows up due to the new timetables. Furthermore, even if you had to book 'x' weeks in advance for this reunion, it'd still be worth it right?
Best of luck
x Steph x

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I like this guy but the thing is, he doesn't like me. and whenever he gets jealous he likes me. and when i dropped this guy that he was jeaslous of he didn't like me anymore. so...the same situation is with this guy that likes me. should i go out with the guy who likes me to get him jealous??

thanks in advance!!!

Never toil with emotions and don't go out with someone just to make someone else jealous. This guy is messing you about, either confront him about why he is getting involved in your life or just ignore him.
x Steph x

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