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I'm a med student, so health related questions I can usually answer pretty well. I also like to think I'm somewhat decent at giving advice. I can also give you an honest opinion."I love waking up in the morning not knowing what's gonna happen or, who I'm gonna meet, or where I'm gonna wind up. I figure life's a gift and I don't intend on wasting it. You don't know what hand you're gonna get dealt next."
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i'm 18 years old, female. i've known this guy for about.. 5 years now. we don't get to see each other that often because we're both so busy but for sure at least once a month. he's currently single;) we've always been attracted to each other and text each other things saying like "i want you" or that sort of thing. funny thing, we've never actually done ANYTHING. its basically obvious we both want to get together, hook up. i don't want a relationship right now, just fun! and he's the same way. every time he texts me, i smile. this might sound out there but it's how we are together. last saturday he texted me saying "wanna fuck" aha and i was like haha hell ya, too bad i'm at my friends! where are you? and he's like i'm at home, i saw your car (my car was at my friends, i left it there and we took her car and this guy is her next door neighbor) and then we talked a little after and then i was like how are you going to have sex with someone with a broken wrist? (he broke it while playing football) and he's like ha it may be hard, but i can do it. then i was just like i miss you. and he was like i know its been awhile! and i was like we need some best friend time dont you think? and he was like yea i think so too. the thing is, i never text him asking to hangout, i'm too scared. he's always so busy. and i acutally want something to happen! even if its just a kiss, but when we see each other we're always with a group of people. and he's getting surgery on his wrist next week and i was like i'll bring you some ice cream, thatll make you feel better:) and he was like haha alright. i just don't know what to do:\ and i don't like going to his house because it's kind of awkward with his parents, long story. so we don't really have anything to do! or anything we could do alone, without it seeming like a romantic date or something.
i say when he gets when he gets surgery on his wrist you actually go and visit him with ice cream. you can let him know you're stopping by or you can surprise him, because you already know that he won't really be busy that day since he's having surgery. then you guys can talk and stuff and try to make plans to hang out, it sounds like he'd be down and if you never ask you'll never know.
16 f I realy like this guy and when i see him i want to have the best makeout session. ive madeout with guys before but its never been really hot and passionate, sometimes theyll be good kissers but I will want to stop. Now this guy is reallyI special to me, we have a love hate relationship, but we love it. so what can i do to make this realy good? it can lead to anything jus not normal sex. I know guys kinda aroused kissing and touching, but how can i get that to the extreme?
i agree, back of the neck gets my guy all the time. you can also touch his face which gives off the sweet gentle vibe. and if you really want to get into it just touch everywhere especially the chest/stomach area and of course lower if you're comfortable lol.
there is a boy that i want to get his attention but i dont no how. we danced together at our halloween dance and we were both really into it, he tried to kiss me but i didnt want to kiss hiim in the middle of a school dance b/c im just not like that. but the thing is i actually do want to hook up with him..just not there. so i messaged him on facebook last weekend and said hey and then he answered and said he had a fun time dancing with me .i said you should text me sometime and gave him my number. then he gave me his too even though i didnt ask for it but he never texted me and its been like a week. i usually am not the one to initiate things like i did in this situation, because i think its the boy's job but i was sick of waiting around so i was the first to say seomthing. another thing is hes a grade younger then me so he maybe nervous? what should i do to get him to talk to me
he probably is nervous. i'd say just text him a friendly hey :), its simple and will let him know you're interested so that he can make the first move. from then on, since he knows your interested, he will probably be the first to text you next time and set things up.
Okay, do guys want you to get rid of all of it? I am only 13, but I don't want to stand out when i do get close with a guy. What are they expecting? Do I need to shave down there everyday so i don't get stubble, or do guys not care?
Help!
most guys like it shaved. some don't really care as long as its not a bush. the best thing would be to just ask your guy what he prefers, or do what you want. and no you shouldn't shave it everyday...maybe like once or twice a week, but again, do what you want lol. you're only 13 so hopefully you'll have some time to decide before you get into that kind of stuff.
17/f
My boyfriend broke up with me and I am having trouble figuring out why. I met Jake when I was lifeguarding a little over a month ago and he hit on me and was like "hey beautiful" and was completely smitten (like really...haha the other guards were teasing him about it) and told the other guards he felt this connection with me, etc. He even asked me to marry him that day. He asked me out and just two weeks later we became boyfriend and girlfriend. He always told me that he could see me being his girlfriend for awhile, would text me everyday, and just was an overall really great boyfriend.
He has had A LOT of girlfriends/hook ups while I have never had a boyfriend before and only kissed two guys before him. We are really different in the sense that I'm really conscious about my grades (i have a 4.0) he barely has a 3.0, he is a "hardcore" kid or whatever and goes to hardcore shows while i'm really "preppy" or whatever. we also go to different schools and live about 20 minutes away from each other.
i brought this up the day he went out, i told him i'm not into drugs and he told me he isn't either anymore, that he used to be a bad kid but he has changed. he told me he still does smoke but only two cigarettes a day, and that i would be his incentive for him to stop. i also brought up the distance and he kept insisting it's not that far away.
everything seemed to be going pretty okay, but we only got to see each other once a week since he is a senior and his parents wanted him to get his gpa up so i could only see him on weekends. what we would basically do is watch a movie/talk/makeout. before we did anything he told me that he liked me a lot and wanted to take things slow. he also told me whenever he was kissing me that i could say "get the fuck off of me jake" and that i didnt even have to kiss him if i didnt want to and that he just liked spending time with me. he would say so many romantic things when we were kissing like "i could do this all day" one day he started to finger me and he asked if it made me uncomfortable and if it did that i could just tell him to stop.
last week i met his sister and best friend. when i asked him what they thought of me he said his sister loved me and that was the very first time his sister had like any of his girlfriends, and he said his best friend said i was "tight". for some weird reason after that day he seemed less interested in me. he didnt text me the day after and when he did text me he was really short with his answers. when i asked if something was wrong he said "no why???" i said "okay nvm" and then he seemed suddenly worried and asked "no. what's up babe?" saturday was our one month and i hung out with him on friday night, he asked me if i wanted to go out to eat and that he wanted to take me out/pay for me but when i got there it didnt seem like he wanted to so i just told him i wasnt that hungry and we just went in his basement and watched a movie/made out. he then asked me since it was like our one month if i wanted to try anything, and i said sure...he could do what he wanted but if it made me uncomfortable i would tell him to stop. he started to go under my shirt/feel my chest and i told him "i'm not ready!" and he seemed disappointed but he stopped. then he unbuttoned my pants and started to finger me on top of my underwear and asked me if i was sure i didn't want him to go under (hes always done it on top of my underwear) and i said i'm sure. then later we were making out and he put my hand on his crotch and i started rubbing it. i asked him if it felt good and he said yeah but just do it a little harder next time. then later he asked me if i wanted him to pull down his pants so i could give him a better handjob but just on top of his boxers so i said okay and i think i did a better job and i told him "i don't know what i'm doing...i havnt done this before" and i asked him if it felt good and he said yeah and i'm pretty sure he was hard too so i could tell.
when we were just cuddling and watching the movie i kept asking him about his sexual experiences and for some reason it seems to have bothered him. i asked him if he remembered his first blowjob...if he has hooked up with a lot of girls...if they were from his school...if they were spontaneous hookups...if it was true that he hooked up with this girl in the guard office closet. before i left he kissed me and i was about to leave and i asked him "you liked everything? like it felt good?" and he was like "yeah! we'll talk about this later though you'll freeze." (it was raining/cold outside)
the next day he broke up with me in a text saying that i didnt seem comfortable with his lifestyle at all...but that i was an amazing girl and that i was gonna make a guy really happy and all of this bs. i was really angry and called him and he kept saying "you didn't seem comfortable about my past...plus we are too far away and only get to see each other once a week (something i reminded him the day he asked me out and he said he didnt care) and said i don't seem comfortable with his drinking (something said i didnt mind unless he drove) and said its hard for him to have a girlfriend because he needs to get his grades up and focus on college. i said i could come over more if he wants and could help him study, etc. but he wasnt even trying to make it work and just seemed set on breaking up with me. i asked if the questions i asked last night had anything to do with him breaking up with me and he said sort of.
so i'm basically asking...why did he break up with me? do guys hate it when girls ask about their past? he was COMPLETELY head over heels for me before...i cannot stress this enough. (his friend/the other gaurds would tell me this and would tell me how cool it was that people could see that we were in a relationship together on facebook) was it possible that his friend didn't like me anymore and was just lying when he said that he thought i was cool? i asked him if there was another girl and he said no...i asked him if he didnt think i was pretty anymore and he kind of scoffed and said that wasn't it at all and that he told me from the start that he thought i was beautiful. was i being too nosy asking all of those questions? or did he break up with me because he thought i gave a bad hand job/thought i was a bad kisser/thought i was too inexperienced? i also asked him if he wanted to be friends with benefits and he said he doesnt do that and kept mentioning "pressure" or something when he was with me...he also says that he felt that we went out so quickly and that he wishes we got to know each other better before we became boyfriend and girlfriend. the breakup seemed random when he seemed into me the night before/we went farther than we have ever gone before. he seemed so set on having a long serious relationship with me. what is the deal?
by the way, saturday he went to a hardcore show or whatever and a girl gave him a blow job im pretty sure. they are talking and im pretty sure going to be hooking up. i feel so hurt that he went from me to this slut.
from the looks of what you mentioned it sounds like he respects you alot, to the fact where he feels bad and like he's pressuring you to do stuff that he does and is used to doing on a regular basis. guys don't necesarily mind talking to their girlfriend about their past, in fact its good that you can both have good communication with each other. i think the fact that scared him off was that you guys are complete opposites when it comes to the sexual things, you being inexperienced and him being..well, experienced. he probably did like you alot, but at least give it to him that he has enough brains to call off the relationshup before he started pushing sex on you. i say you just let him be for awhile. if he's cool with staying friends, that would be the best thing to do right now. he's a senior so he will grow up soon and realize that being in a relationship with someone you actually care about is way better then just hooking up with a different slut every weekend.
15/f
soo i live in texas and i'm going to be a pediatric nurse practioner when i grow up. (just a pediatric nurse and the practioner part means i can write prescriptions too) well i have 7 classes a day and im making 5 a's and 2 b's
well to make up for my b's i plan on getting A LOT of volunteer work. well what im trying to get to is do i first go to UT college (for how many years?) AND THEN go to like UTMB?? (for how many years?) because my dad said i just go straight to medical school but that doesn't sound right? so yea im getting pretty confused
and also could you give me as much information as possible about being a Pediatric Nurse Practioner.
(how much i would make in a year etc.)
THANKS.
hey i'm a senior and i'm majoring in nursing too. i'm not sure if i can answer all of your questions cause i don't want to mislead you but i actually want to be a practitioner as well. you don't need med school like a doctor but you need to get your bachelors in nursing (you become an RN first) then you go 2 more years to become a practitioner. so its not as much schooling as you're thinking i'm assuming. $60,000-90,000 is the salary i think...you might want to check that though. and for the language thing, i would suggest taking the same language for multiple years. colleges really like to see that you've took "so and so" language for 4 years or whatever.
oh and i don't really know the colleges that you're talking about because i live pretty far from texas lol sorry.
okay, so today in school there was this thing called a pep rally. it starts at the end of the day and it starts during my lunch. so i need lunch, i starve. so i decide that i will cut my orchestra class. i walk in the cafe with my friend and i see a teacher who i have and we get along really well. i tell him my situation and he says i can stay in the cafe. but later on in the day i see my orchestra teacher and he askes me "why werent you in class?"...i tell him that i was at the nurse. i come back home from school and i see a new message left on my answer machine and he left a message saying that he thinks i cut class. i erased it. but i still feel bad that he found out. good thing today is friday but what will i tell him when i come back to school on monday?. he is probably going to ask me why i cut. and i dont want to bring the teacher that let me cut into this because i dont want him to get into trouble. help please. i never cut before so that is why i am kinda acting like a baby. by the way, i am female and 15 years old
just explain to him the situation that you were in without mentioning the teacher. or you can just say that you asked a teacher and they said it was okay without giving the same of the teacher. you don't have to tell your orchestra teacher the teacher that let you stay in the cafe.
I'm 17/m
All of a sudden, I realized that I had feelings for my really good friend (17/f). I'm pretty sure she likes me too, there's a lot of touching and ass grabbing and stuff like that. However, I don't know if
a) I SHOULD make a move and
b) if I should, then how
She goes to my school and normally I make it a policy not to date or hook up with girls from my school but I can't seem to get her out of my head.
is it just a friendly ass grab or like a full out "i want you" kinda ass grab haha. i think you should just make the move, but talk to her a little first, flirt alott (which it kinda looks like you're already doing but do it more like the talking kinda flirting) if she goes along with it then you know you're set ;)
is there any legit lip plumping products out there? i have a lip gloss from nyc, but it doesnt seem to do ANYTHING at all. i know that nothing will completlely make your lips look fuller, but is there any lipglosses or anything that will help?
i used to have lip plumper from victorias secret and it made my lips huugge. i forget what the name of it was but i'm pretty sure they only have one or two kinds.
im a teenage male.
i want sex, how do i get it.
how about getting in a relationship with someone you like? and honestly, you're probably going to have to wait awhile, you don't just go have sex, it takes time and trust. its alot better doing it with someone you care about then some random slut that is most likely infected with 27 stds.
Do you usually use pads or tampons? Do you know any brands that work good?
well i wear tampons. and i agree that tampax pearl is probably the best out there.
I am in seventh grade I am going out with this girl that really likes me and I like her but alot of stuff has been going on and her friends make fun of me behind my back Say stuff to her about me and I have heard other stuff but. How do I break up with her!? Through a note or something? HELP!
are you breaking up with her just because her friends say things behind your back? i wouldn't do that. but never ever ever ever ever break up with a girl through a note, text message, computer and even phone is iffy. you just don't do that, its not right. get her in person and if you absolutely can't, then call her.
Please, i just started my 4th round of my period. And i need to wear a tampon, but i don't want to. But i go swimming and stuff like that a lot, so please, what should I do!!??
i think you should wear the tampons. they're 100x more comfortable than pads and made for swimmers and athletes. theres directions on the box on how to use them and if you have it in right, you won't feel it. in fact, you might forget its even there haha. just remember to change it every 5-8 hours and use the one that fits your flow for the day.
im 16/male
school just started and i expected for new girls to show up at school. there is this really cute and beautiful girl who sits in front of me. i wont say i like her, because i've only seen her for like a week now. She has a guy friend who sits next to her, and they always talk. so i barely get a chance to talk to her. She would turn back and ask me like questions about the homework or something pointless like that. the thing is, im not ugly, i can tell that she thinks im good looking, or cute, or i dunno.
i find her staring at me with a smile once we walk out. like i have NO CLUE what she is thinking! and i wanna have something with this girl. homecoming is pretty soon and all. the main problem is, how should i work my way up to her, and what is she thinking about????? UGH. i need a girl's help.
help me plz.
i say you just go talk to her, it sounds like thats what she's waiting for you to do. just start talking to her in class more, get into deeper conversations than just asking what the homework is. do that for awhile then when you guys are talking alot invite her hangout with some friends. just talk and flirt a little and see her reaction and i'm sure you'll be able to tell from there.
I like to pole vault so i want somtin cute with polevault in it but with any thing else
pvault
polevltr
polesnvaults
pvaultin
haha i dont know :)
can you use nair "down there?" (for girls use) Has anybody tried?
yup you can...before you use it though make test a little bit on like your leg or something and make sure it doesn't cause an allergic reaction cause you wouldn't want that area to break out :/...i never tried it before but i think im going to soon cause im tired of shaving haha.
Alright, so I'm in this "summer fling" i guess you could say. I started talking to this guy weeks ago, and Wednesday he asked me out and I said yes. So we've been dating for like three days. Now, before this happened his bestfriend (who also liked me) said he's such a player. Anyways, so I've hungout with my boyfriend now a few times since Wednesday, and we've made out and got real into it if you know what i mean haha. Last night, on my way home from his house, he told me he wanted to have sex with me. I can't help but really think all he wants is sex, and he's compleeeetely using me. But he says no, that he likes and cares about me a lot.
Should I just let this go before i get hurt? Move on into school without this guy, or should I stay with it a while and see if it works out? I like him a lot, but I'm just tired of being used,cause it's already happened this summer a few times.
advice would be appreciated :D thanks guys.
from what you said he sounds like a player. no guy that really cares and respects a girl would want sex 3 days into the relationship. most of the time when a girl feels like shes being used, she is. any guy will say he cares about you but does he show you that he cares about you? actions speak louder than words. if he doesn't show it, let him go.
ughhh, i get canker sores everytime i drink out of a can or get stressed out and i hateeeee it. for all that dont know canker sores are on the inside of ur mouth unlike cold sores that are on the outside.. and suggestions on how to make them go away quckly ?
i've heard an old remedy is mixing warm water with salt then gargling it for about a minute...i've never tried it myself but it won't hurt to give it a try.
so i'm very interested in the whole, giving a BJ thing, at least just once!
i know many girl don't like it but i just want to experience it once. and i know people are always like "OMG I DONT EVEN KNOW HOW, WHAT SHOULD I DO!!?" and honestly reading about how to do it is definately not going to help..
i've told guys before, i dont know how! and they're just always like, it's easy just do what youuu want.
and i'm like no awkward, like i wouldn't even know what to do, how to do it but i was just wondering, does it come natural?
by the way i'm 19. female.
just curious :)
well it kind of does come natural, but you also need to know what he likes and what gets him off. experiment a little with your mouth, like try different things and tell him to tell you what he likes..its really a team effort you guys need to talk if you want the best of it.
oh shoot =|
So my bf and I have been happily dating fir 5 months now. He is 19 and I am 18. The thing is, is that I feel that I forced him to say he loves me.
...the reason I feel this??
Well he told me like a month into our relationship that he has never told a girl that he loved them. He says that he takes those words very seriously and he only wants to say "I love you" to one girl the rest of his life. I respected that and thought it was sweet. So then we kept dating and a couple more months go by and I seriously started falling in love with him. I felt that he felt the same way. We would, instead of saying "I love you", say "I like you". It was used as if the word like was taking the place if the word love. Eventually this became frustrating for me and I would tell him "I don't like you baby...I more than like you" but I wouldn't actually say I love him because he had told me before not to say it because he wouldn't say it back. And I obviously didn't want to get hurt.
...fast forward to like month 3 or so. So there we are...lying in one of our friends houses hanging out upstairs while our friends are downstairs hanging out. So it's just me and him and we are all cuddly and kissing and stuff and I told him that I was sick of saying I "like" him blah blah blah cuz I didn't feel I "like" him, but a stronger feeling. He totally agreed with me and said he felt the same way. This just bothered me. So I told him that if we both feel this way then why aren't we saying it. So we ended up talking and finally he told me he loved me. It was awesome the way he said it too...he was all detailed and sweet. It was perfect how he said it.
But I totally nagged him about saying it for the longest time and he finally did, but I forced him.
So we have been saying "I love you" ever since. I really do love him. I am in love with him. But I'm scared...
Tonight I sent him a text saying "do u feel that I forced you to say you love me?" and his respons...
"sorry but ya kinda."
WHAT!?!
Then before I could find out any information more he ended up falling asleep before texting me back! Ahh!
So tell me...how am I supposed to know he actually does love me if he said I forced him??? Totally sucks. =\
But anyway...thanks for your help in advance. It is MUCH appreciated. :)
some people just take a long time to say, but if you think about it, it means a whole lot more the longer it takes. there's not much you can do in this situation but to apologize for "forcing" him to say it, tell him that you understand if he doesn't say it again until he's ready and comfortable. if you guys are really as happy together as you say you are, he'll eventually say it and it will be very special to the both of you :)