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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!

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Me and this guy have been getting really close and we were hanging out the other day and he said he wanted to talk to me so i followed him and he started kissing me and i was so nervous i couldnt talk and he sat with me and i could even say anything i was speechless i have liked this guy for a while and now hes calling me and calling me and im too scared hes gonna say that he doesnt like me like that and so i havnt been calling him what should i do?

well its obvious that he likes you and wants to try having a relationship... dont shut him out call him flirt with him and let him know you like him... also dont forget men like compliments just as much as women so compliment him a lot good luck

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So im 13 and ive been depressed over the year but i've gottena lot better, and to cope my therapist said i should do things/activites that make me happy, so i love to do art/paint, im doing that, and i love music so i figured i would try acoustic guitar for the first time, because music is such a big big inspiration and help to my life and way of living, so ive been looking on ebay and there is one that is really nice with a stand, pick, guitar case and other free accessories and its like totally new, its $30+s&h=$40, which is really good, i already have $10, and i already do chores but my mom wont pay me, and i need to get this guitar within 13 days? any advice/help????!! neeeeed this guitar, im going to babysit and make alootttt of money but that wont be for a while and noone else really needs a babysitter right now, sooo...how can i get $30? thankyouuuuu so muchhhh! oh and no one in my fam plays instruments or anything so they cant lend one to me

well 1st i want to make sure that you know when buying something off the internet you are going to need a credit card... maybe you can trade the cash with your mom and she can use hers to buy it for you ...

now to make money go to neighbors and ask if they need yard work, help cleaning something, or have any work for you to do to make money... tell them what you are trying to earn money for and remind them that you are choosing a wise way to spend your summer staying out of trouble and learning responsibillity...

also ask your mom if there is any extra chores she needs done...

you can go to family members like granparents and tell them what you want and ask if you can do work for them... good luck and I hope you get it :)

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me/18 bf/20

my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and we've had alot of "trust issues' eventually i found out that he was cheating on me with another girl so of course i confronted him about it, but he denied the whole thing and said he just firted with her he then confessed everything he ever did during the course of our relationship, he says that he just flirted with girls but i don't believe that this is true, he said that the only reason he did this was because he found out i was flirting with other guys behind his back, but he also cheated before he found out about this, i know it was wrong of me to flirt with other guys but i thought we looked past that but it seems we didn't because he told me that he "got close" with one of his friends too, i guess the reason i'm still with him is because he confessed everything and we could start again, but i'm still uncertain, what if he does it again? i love him so much but i don't trust him at all please help me

I know you love him and care about him but a relationship without trust is not going to last... he can always earn your trust back but he is going to have to put a lot of effort into it... I cant tell you if he is telling the truth or not because I am not him and I didnt witness anything... But you also have to work on earning his trust, because you flirted too... In my relationship harmless flirting means nothing I know that my man only wans me and he knows that all I want is him...We trust eachother...

Talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel and that you are afraid it may happen again... see if he wants to try to earn your trust and let you earn his in return, or if its best to just let go and moce on....

If you do decide to work it out some good advice for you... In detail tell him how bad it hurt when he did the things he did... tell him exactly how you feel and get it all out right then and there, then forgive him... and let it go, dont ever bring it up again... a lot of people hold their feelings in and dont tell people how they felt about what someone did to them and it build up until a while down the road you explode and your yelling at your boyfriend for something you forgave him for a long time ago... dont do that, get it all out now, forgive him, and never mention it again... if you keep bringing up the past it will hurt the present and ruin the future... good luck and best wishes

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im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m

My boyfriend took my virginity roughly 2 weeks ago, and since then we have been sharing whilst cuddling one night things we would like to try/different places we could go/ what turns us on. he mentioned that it would be a huge turn on for him for us to have sex with the lights on. Because it would be really romantic to be able to stare into each others eyes, and he would be able to see everything.

however im very very insecure with my body, and thats why i like having sex in the dark, because i dont have to worry about what i look like. Although he told me he's already seen my 'problem areas' he says i have nothing to worry about and that he loves my body. but im very well aware that im overweight. especially compared to his previous girlfriends. id love to be intimate with him with the lights on purely for the romance of it all... but im to caught up and worried about my body.
is there any tips or anything to help me 'hide' the flaws of my body in the light?
id really love to do this for him, even though im insecure

your boyfriend loves your body and wants to be with you because he loves you... If he didnt like you he would be with you.... Its okay to be afraid, new things can be scary, honestly at first I was afraid to do the same thing with my hubby but I could get in a shower with him and have the lights on how odd is that haha...

We girls set such high standards about our looks and often forget how beautiful we really are, we may not look like super models but hell even super models dont look as perfect as they do in magazines...

You are a beautiful girl inside and out and your boyfriend can see that and he loves that about you...

If it frightens you try closing your eyes at first.. think about how you are everything he wants and how happy you make him, and trust me if your boyfriend is as sexy as my hubby, you are not going to be able to keep your eyes closed ;)

you can do this its not as scary as it seems good luck and best wishes oh and have fun ;)

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Okay well I am extremely, deathly afraid of turkeys and it gets annoying because my neighbors just got some and I'm afraid to go outside. I got attacked by one when I was little and I never really got over it. I need some tips on how to get over this fear. This is serious I am not joking!

I had a similar problem once my fear was of chickens, when I was little my grandpas rooster was crazy and he would chase people never bite but chase... then my in laws decided they were going to get some chickens, see my husband doesnt get along well with his family so we dont communicate often, well we decided to drop by and visit one day and I got out of the car and there they were freakin chickens in a fenced in area that I had to walk by, they freaked me out.... I was so afraid of them I wanted to leave, because see they hadnt finished building their chicken coop thing yet and we had to walk through the fenced in area to get in the house... well my husband did talk me into going inside, when I walked through I tried to avoid them and they avoided me guess they are just as afraid of us as we are of them.... it took a little while that day to not be afraid of them but little by little we got use to eachother, and now I think they are so cute and fun to feed... talk to your neighbors and tell them how you feel about the turkeys, and ask if they can hold one while you check it out and maybe even pet it... maybe even go where they are and have them walk around you for a bit and slowly get use to them... its okay I am sure your neighbors wont let the turkeys hurt you

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how can one be free from the spirit of lesbianism? please i really need help, am from Nigeria

http://www.giveshare.org/family/lesbian.html
the link above talks about "freeing yourself from lesbianism"

I am not sure what religion you are from but it sounds to me like you are a religious person and you feel you need help with this.

I am sorry I cant be more helpful

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i dont know if my question went through but i said that the same boy that you gave me advice for called me not to long ago today rather and he asked me to sing on a song wit him he raps and i know how to sing im very good but i dont now why all of a sudden he want to make a song with me he never asked before so why now he makes things complicated i really dont know what to do about it i love him to death but ithink he is just using me to get his popularity

it did :) and I answered it :) hope I helped you out and please come back if you have any more questions

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so i just talked to the same boy but this time it wasnt no chaos or anything but he called me and we talked about him and about me by the way i am a singer a really good one at that and he is a rapper so he called me and asked me if i wanted to make a song with him so i told him yea and i laughed and asked him why he all of a sudden want to do that but he didnt answer ma question i relly dot know what to say about him its like one minute he is playing with my emotions the next we the best of friends wow what should i do ???????

I think that its sweet that he is trying to spend time with you but not so sweet that he toys with you... Sit down with him face to face and explian to him, just exactly how you feel about his behavior, let him know that what he does hurts you and you dont like it... Let him know that you love it when he is kind but it hurts when he is not... if he really cares he will change and if he doesnt then it is time to walk away... I kow it will be hard but you deserve to be treated like a princess all the time not just when it is convenient for him, he needs to realize this or he needs to leave and let a better man take over good luck and if you have any more questions please feel free to come back

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Do you still wear thongs(G-Strings)?

Well I dont normally answer questions like that because it is a little personal, but you seem to be really wanting to know about thongs... Yes I wear them but not all the time, I mostly wear boy shorts more comfortable and my husband loves them... I use to wear thongs all the time back when I was a teen but mainly because my sisters were and I thought that I had to wear them to be cool and If I wanted guys to like me.... They can be uncomfortable and I dont have to wear them to look cool or feel sexy because I know what my man likes and he is all for the boy shorts :) hope I helped

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Hi YoungMommy,
I actually started wearing thongs when I was 10, is that to young?

Well in my opinon wearing them at 1 is a bit young, but every one is different, I am sure you are older now and its fine wearing them at a young age wont hurt you, but some (like me) may think that thongs are worn to be sexy and 10 years old is a little too young for sexy

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how wind speed affect the rate of transpiration

Ok I had no idea what you were talking about so I did a little search for you... still after reading the answer to your question I dont understand... this was not my best subject in school (in fact it was my worst haha) but here you go the link to your answer is right here

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_does_wind_affect_the_rate_of_transpiration


hope I helped although technically I didnt answer your question I just found the answer :)

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if a friend had cheated me then what to do

There is not much I can give to answer this question because you didnt give any details... but if your friend cheated you in some kind of way maybe you should talk to this friend and tell him/her how you feel about what he/she did to you... You shouldnt feel hurt or betrayed by a friend and I am sorry that you do.. go to your friend and talk to him/her and if he/she doesnt care I think it may be best to move on and let the friend go... I know it is not easy losing a friend but you dont want this friend to do it again good luck and best wishes and I really hope your friendship works out

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So, I got my hair cut a lot shorter than it has been in a long time, and now I want it to grow back out. I am a 19/M, not sure if that really changes anything. I have biotin pills, but is there anything else that I can do to help my hair to grow more quickly? I am also going to start brushing/combing my hair more to see if that helps any. I am desperate for it to grow back out! I miss my long hair so much. Thanks in advance!

First let me start off by telling you what happened as I was doing a little research for you (haha)

So I was looking up information on hair growth and how to make your hair grow faster when I clicked on a link that had a video. I am hard of hearing so I have the speakers turned up quite loud on my computer most things I can barely hear on this thing, so anyway the speakers are up loud and this video comes on and very loudly (and almost like the girl is trying to be seductive about it) "Do you want it longer, stronger, and thincker than ever?! Try these easy steps and you will be very satisfied with your results!" Everyone in my house quickly turns and gives me this look like "oh my gosh you pervert!" haha...ok just thought I would share that with you I found it to be quite funny after I got over the explaining it was just an ad for hair growth :)

anyway to the point now :) As I said I did a little research for you and I found some information that may help :)

first this website has a few helpful hints for you
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Your-Hair-Grow-Faster

I also found out that vitamins A,B,C AND E are great for hair growth so take you vitamins :)

Dead ends not good slows down your hair growth

keep your hair clean and be gentle with it... dont pull on it or pull it back too tight... and when you condition make sure you massage it into your scalp apparently this helps with hair growth as well good luck

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Hi there,

I really like your advice, and think you are a wonderful addition to the site. This is why I was surprised to read your answer to this:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=596024

You seem like a well reasoned person, so I wondered if the length of the question had gotten the best of you and you, perhaps, didn't read the whole thing?

She actually indicated to her ex, that she didn't have a boyfriend at all.

That, and any mature person knows there is exactly one reason to stay in touch (daily calls) with someone you had sex with before: You want to get with them again as well as the fact this was kept hidden from the current boyfriend until now makes for something that is just awful. Then she flipped out on HIM because SHE did something wrong... and left him stranded without a ride.

I noticed she hasn't logged in and read your answer yet, so if there is anything you wanted to add, now would be the time.

If you did read the whole thing, and that is really how you feel about it, that is fine... I just didn't want you to end up looking like one of those people here that either didn't read the whole question or have very poor comprehension. I am sure you have seen the ones I am talking about in your time here so far, and understand why I don't want you to be grouped in with them.

You have a bright future here.

Take care.

you know what you are absolutly right I read the whole thing I just didnt notice the "?" behind boyfriend... I also posted at 2:30 in the morning so I must not have been paying much attention thank you very much for noticing this and I definatly will be editing... I dont want to give the wrong advice and have her doing the wrong thing... also thank you very much for the compliment :) youre awesome thanks for the tip

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My life long dream is to be a director.I'm only 13 though. I'm on youtube so if you want to look me up ask, BUT anyway I reserched that you have to go to film school. And all the websites for the schools say kinda that you have to be a guy.

So here are my questions

1) How long do you have to go to film school?
2) Do you have to be a male to be a director.


BTW: I'm a female!

I am not sure how long you have to go to film school but you can be a female director here is a list of female directors :)http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_female_directors
good luck on beccoming a director sounds very exciting and fun I wish all your dreams come true :)

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My baby..well hes my nephew ( I proabably spelled that wronge) Is 18 months he should be talking full sentences right? He says a couple words: Cat, Ma ma, Da da, Ball, Rawr, Tickle, Boom, and Hello. There not so clear, but you know what hes saying. I try to teach him words and he just won't listen. So when do you think he should start speaking? He also ALL THE TIME SAYS ckkkdnfyw edbwh Like hes speaking spanish or smonething. Idk. HELP!

He is only 18 months... give him time and he will pick it up... if you would like to help him you can point out things around him and say the words clearly so he will pick it up also I got my son the your baby can read program when he was 12 months and he started picking up words very quickly he is now 3 years 5 months old and he is speaking very well full sentances non stop and he can read def suggest getting this to help him learn... also he can watch eduational shows like barney and elmo my kids love that stuff and they learn so much my son learned his abcs and how to could to 15 so far by watching barney good luck with the little guy my daughter will be 2 in november and she doesnt talk in full sentances yet but she knows a lot of words you just have to work a lot with him and also he is a little young

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Heres the story

I was in the kitchen and my sis was frosting a cake. (My mom was there 2) And the cake was for my Dad. So I took my finger and licked the frosting off it. And my sis shouted to my Dad ''SHE FINGERED THE CAKE!'' Then my mom and sis said ''That sounded wrong'' And started laughing. I know what it kinda means. I guess. It has to do something with gross stuff with boy and girl... but what is fingering? or fingered?

Well I am going to tell you but please do not go and do anything like this with anyone until you are old enough mature enough and ready... fingering or "being fingered" is when someone (or you) puts their finger inside your vagina is is usually something that couples do before having sex as foreplay (foreplay is sexually touching eachother getting you in the mood for sex) but also people do it on their own when they are alone to masterbait (sexually satisfy themselves) hope i helped you understand.

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I love a guy, but it is an impossible relationship. He lives in a different state, our families are friends, as are we, but they don't want us to be more, he is too old for me (he will be at college soon, and I will be starting high school), and I only see him in the summer, and only for a few days. (I do talk to him and text, etc.)
I don't think he loves me, but I know he likes me, and I have had the time of my life with him, and I can't stop thinking about him. We are great friends, but we both feel like we are something else, too. Is there any way this can work? Do you have any optimistic thoughts? Should I hope, or should I resolve to be friends and leave it alone?

Right now you are young and most likely your parents dont want you to date him because he is older and he can get in trouble for that... I advise you try to be just friends and not try for anymore wait until you finish high school to see if there could be anything and if you even still want anything by then good luck and I wish you the best

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What can i take to delay my period?

Ive heard that vinegar helps.. I have never tried it but apparently water and vinegar douche works good luck

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okay i was at a horse show and i met this guy who instantly caught my eye. he's so sweet and i instantly liked him. there's two problems though..one he lives 2 hours away and 2 i have a bf already that i have been dating a year now. what do i do?

My advice is follow your heart... you have to think who makes you happier who do you want to be with.. but if it is the other guy you need to let your bf go dont wait too long the longer you wait the harder it is on you and the boy you leave behind good luck

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