Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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There is this kid and he really likes me. He says im beautiful and pretty and all this other stuff. Now.. he asked me out and i kinda said yes cuz i didnt want to be mean. but i dont really like him, like he has nice abs and he's a nice person, but i dont really like him,... if you know what i mean. What do i do? i already said yes... and i've never been on a date before. im a little nervous. :( ugh! i have no clue what to do...fake sick maybe? lol (link)
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I would just go on a date with him. I mean, it IS just one date ; it's not like he's going to fall in love with you and ask you to marry him, haha.
That way also, just have a nice time and enjoy yourself. But then after the dates over ( this is whenever you feel comfortabel telling him over IM, note, phone, face-to-face, whichever ) just let him know that you had a great time the other night, but you sort of just got friendly vibes between the two of you, and were hoping maybe you guys could just be friends.
I wouldn't lie and make up excuses like fake illness. If he were to ever found out, it'd just make him feel hurt and feel like nobody likes him and feels the need to LIE to him to get out of hanging out with him.
I hope I helped.
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I'm 14/f and there's this guy that I really like. I think he MIGHT like me too, but I'm not sure. What are some clues that boys make to show they like a girl? Like what are things they do around that girl to show he likes her? (link)
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They:
- make alot of eye contact
- smiling alot at you
- showing you more attention than others
- sit close to you
- find ways to touch you ( like, hold your hand or something )
- compliment you
- tease you in a cute way ( like grab something and make you chase them for it or make you jump up to reach it )
- hug you alot
- tries to go out of his way to make you laugh, or impress you
- may even try talking to a lot of girls and looking over ( to see if he's making you jealous )
- then it's just obvious flirtng
I hope I helped.
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i called the boy i liked when i was drunk and i told him to pick me up because i was so drunk and that i loved him. i told him it was my friend, because i thought it was, but then i found out it was me. should i tell him it was me or no? (link)
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If you really want him to know you like him and of your feelings for him, then sure, tell him it was you that called him.
But if you don't want him finding out anything or knowing you like him, then just keep it to yourself.
:x
It's really your decision wether you want him to know you love him or not.
I hope I helped.
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I'm thirteen years old and have been dating a really nice guy for about two months. I met him at the fair. He lives about thirty minutes away from me, and I see him almost every weekend. He never avoids me or says He doesnt have time for me, he isnt scared to show me PDA, and he doesnt talk about his girl friends much. But, I was talking to one of his friends, and he told me about this girl, who was my boyfriends best friend...and they live right beside each other. Her myspace is...weird. Where it says were she lives, she said a four letter word that starts with F, and then my city. I dont know...She isnt on his tops or anything, and I dont want to jump to a conclusion. If anyone could help, that'd be great!! (link)
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That's good you're not jumping to any conclusions. Most girlfriend's would just follow their suspicions, going nuts over it, and then it turns out they might not be cheating on them after all, adn they're left feeling like a huge moron.
It sounds to me like they're best friends, and nothing more. If they're not even on eachother top thing, maybe they're not even as good of friends as the person mentioned.
If you really feel the need to, ask him about her so you get more of a feel for her and who she is. Maybe even add her on myspace and get to know her better. Once you realize she's really nice and everything, you might feel more comfortable with the fact they're friends and that he's not cheating on you. I wouldn't ask him straight out though, if he is, because that'll show him that you're having trust issues. Just slowly ease into mentioning it during a serious conversation.
I hope I helped.
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What does Bite Me mean? (link)
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It basically means "fuck off" or "kiss my ass".
I hope I helped.
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How can you tell if your boyfriend is cheating on you? Are these signs for sure to prove he's cheating? Thanks in advance. (link)
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The most you can really do is see how he acts around you. See if he's always tending to be "busy" lately and can't hang out with you anymore or if he's strangely distant whenever the two of you are around together.
Also, see how "sweet" he's being. Now, I don't know if he's naturally really sweet or not, but if he normally isn't and he's sitting there being like,"You're the greatest girlfriend in the whole entire world. I love you so much. You're beautiful, you're gorgeous. You're my world." You know, really buttering it up, he may be feeling guilty towards everything if he did cheat and he's trying to make you feel good, and make himself feel less lousy at the same time.
Also, just watch out for any myspace comments from girls, away messages, texts, anything that seems very out of the ordinary. Now if a girl comments him and is just like,"Luv ya, you're the best." Or something, don't blow things out or proportion. It may just be a friend whose a girl, you know? But if she's sitting there like,"I had a blast last night! You're the best, I love hanging out with you.
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okay how often do u have periods a day? like 2 three? (link)
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You don't have periods a day, I think you might be asking how long they last?
Well if that's it, a period can last from around 5-7 days. But sometimes whenever a girl first recieves her period ( or even if it's not when she first ) it can tend to be irregular and even be less. But 5-7 is the average lasting day.
I hope I helped.
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ok i got my period when i turned 13 and im 14 now and im in high school..i still havent' used tampons yet =/ im scared can you tell me how to use them? and tips maybe? (link)
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I'm sorry, I'd really like to help, but I don't use tampons, I just use pads.
But I can research some sites for you that might help you.
Here's a site that helps you with your first time using one:
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html
I'm sorry I couldn't help you that much, so if that site doesn't help you, maybe try going to another advicenator.
I really do hope I helped, though.
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i'm 14 year old girl and i go to a school with onl 80 kids
i'm really shy so i dont have a lot of friends. the few i have are also friends with the more popular people at school so if they had to choose who to hang out with, they'd probably go with the them. Also i don't have any guy friends and i have no idea how to talk to them so that limits my friend possibilities by half.
i'm wondering how i can meet a whole new set of people outside of school but who are just as good friends. (link)
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Have hang outs with your friends and their friends. Just choose to all hang out somewhere where everyone'll be comfortable and wanting to talk to eachother ; the mall's a good place. Sets a good mood and a talkative mood, at that.
And just introduce yourself and engage in conversation. Since you guys go to the same school, you obviously can talk of teachers, students, gossip, etc., whatever you want to talk about. Then just ease of into other subjects. Music, hobbies, interests.
And just keep meeting with them and hanging with them until you become friends with them and can talk to them alot. Get their screename and maybe even give them a hug the first time you meet them. It'll show you're open adn friendly and ready to make friends with people.
Maybe even ask for their number, or just be like,"Hey, this was alot of fun, we should do this again soon." And then maybe talk about inside jokes that were shared or just walk up to them in school again the next day and ask them whats up, or IM them whenever you get home.
You just need to nudge yourself out of your comfort zone, which I know it uncomfortable and everything, but it'll show, like I siad, you're open and ready to make new friends, talk to people, and socialize and that you're alot of fun to be around.
Believe me, I've been starting to do this lately, and now my weekends are getting busier adn I'm getting to know alot more people that I didn't ever know existed.
I hpoe I helped.
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Dear melLeDisko,
There is a boy in my school that i realy like.
when ever i see him i just go nuts . all my friends say to tell him. every girl in school likes him. Im afraid that he wont like me.What shoud i do?
from ,
boy truble (link)
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First of all, I would get to know him better if you don't know him that well, if at all. Just start initating conversation with him more and more and try and get to know more about him, and flirt while you do it. Compliment him, and sit close with him and make lots of eye contact and smile.
Then as you two become closer, I would just IM him or write him a note, or even tell him in person, whichever you feel most comfortable doing, and just go,"Wanna know a secret?" and he'll go,"sure", and then just go,"I sort of have a crush on youuuuu." And see what he says.
If he doesn't return the feelings, it's all good. Just let him know you hope you two can still be friends and everything and that nothing'll be awkward, and it'll be fine.
But if he does, great!
You never know ; just because all the girls in school like him, he could like you. Just show him how great of a girlfriend you'd be, and just how great of a person you are and show him what he's missing.
Your friends are right, tell him. We only live one life, so might as well take the chance and see the results. You never know, he could be the best boyfriend ever, or, you at least you get relief in knowing his feelings towards you.
I hope I helped.
I hope I helped.
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Ok...so i'm a 15/f and I'm talking to my friend. She has liked me forever and she just told me she loved me. I just wasn't expecting it at all. Is it too soon for her to love me? Is it ok since we have been friends for about 2 years? I didn't say it back either, because I don't love her yet, but I eventually could. (link)
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"Love knows no boundaries".
People can fall in love with someone in two weeks, four weeks, four years. It all depends with each and every person.
It is perfectly okay. You guys have been friends for a very long amount of time.
And it's also perfectly okay not to say it back to her yet. You should say it whenever you're ready to say it to her. I'm sure she might've felt a little sad that you didn't say it back, who wouldn't, but I'm sure she'd rather you say it whenever do, then just lie and say you do to make her feel happy.
I hope I helped.
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i dont wear glasses or contacts my vision is perfect but can you still wear contacts if you have perfect vision will they mess up yer vision like glasses do cuz i wanna change my eye color (link)
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Yes you can. There are contacts out there for people who don't need glasses and they're just no perscription contacts for people who, like you, might want to consider changing their eye color.
The only way these contacts'll mess up your eye is there may be some irritation, but that happens with everyone whose putting contacts in their eye. Your eyes just not used to it, and it'll get better over time.
I hope I helped.
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I guess I'll just say it, though I don't want to be full of myself, but I'm extremely good at lacrosse. Multiple people tell me this, and people always tell my parents how good I am etc. However, lately my skills haven't really been that good. Also, school lacrosse is starting up soon, and I want to be the best. I'm a freshman, but I have high probabilities of making varsity. I know the coaches, and have some people that can put in good words for me. I guess my question is, is how can I be the best? What can I do to make myself noticed. Also, on my lacrosse team, and in school, I'm not the most popular person, and there are alot of, lets say b!+che$ on my team. They all treat me like crap, though I do nothing. It might be because I am better than them, but I just don't know. What can I do to get more respect, and stand out, and I guess be the "popular" one on my team?
THanks.. (link)
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Well, this will for one help you get to know people better and make yourself more "popular" around the team, and also give you the respect you deserve, make you noticed, and help you out with your skills.
Talk to them. Ask them if they'd like to run a few laps with you or practice a few drills. Send them a compliment or two they're way on their skills so you don't come off as cocky, and you can invite them in as a friend.
Ask them if they could give you any advice so you'd make the varsity team and if maybe they can all help you sometime whenever you're all doing your drills or practices or whatever.
Like I said, this sends them a message that you're friendly, and you want to be friends with them and that you really are a nice person and got the wrong impression of you. Hopefully, if they're mature and nice, they'll take you up on your offer and who knows? Budding friendships may form.
Rememmmmmber, there's no "I" in team!
It may all just be because like you said, you're extremely good at lacrosse and they may feel intimidated by you and jealous, but like I said, show them they got skills to, and they're a great asset to the team and that's the reason they're on this team.
Your teamwork and deciation and social skills with the girls will earn you your respect, and your coach and other future coaches may notice how kind you are towards your teammates and how willing you are to help, teach, recieve help, and befriend people. That's all the good qualities in a team member.
I hope I helped.
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Its slang what does "chop" mean.This boy went to ask my mate out and he said, when can i chop her? (link)
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My friend had a screename like this once.
It had the word chop in it and something else, I forget, but whenever I asked him what it meant, he said it basically means to screw.
I hope I helped.
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so i'm a freshman girl..and i have a crush on this senior guy who's in my class (i'm in french III and i'm french myself lol)
he's not like gorgeous or anything, i like him for his personality. i don't know, there's something so big-brotherly and nice about him..ugh weird! it's like i have a crush on my big brohter, its so hard to explain. but yeah, i'm kind of obsessing about him right now and it's kind of worrying me.
well we talk pretty much everyday, but only a sentence because i mean..he is a senior after all. but he does say "hey whats up" to me and stuff.. i don't know waht is going to come out of this. but i also heard that senior guys sometimes were fake nice to freshman girls to get lucky because freshman girls are ignorant... help? (link)
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Well, first of all, you only heard. Which basically means it's just gossip, and is just some rumor being spread around. You got a 50/50 chance of it being true or not.
Also, if he were trying to get lucky with you, don't you think he'd make a much greater attempt to talk to you and get you to like him more than just one sentence per day?
I would just continue talking to him, and even if he doesn't initiate the conversation, doesn't mean he doesn't want it. Just keep talking to him about music, school, maybe old teachers he had, etc., and get to know him better.
If you start to notice he's hinting at wanting to do something with you and get lucky, you can always back out. You don't have to do anything he says, and you shouldn't just to get him to like you or anything. If he does this, he's just a huge jerk and he doesn't deserve to be talking to you anyways.
But just initiate more conversation, flirt a little, and see where it goes.
I hope I helped.
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Hey, I have a column on advicenators and I frequently ask questions on this site so I'm wondering a few things. The first thing is, is it possible for question askers/other columnists to know who asks a question, like if I asked a question would anyone know it was me? Also, can I ask as many questions as I want, or will I eventually be cut off from asking anymore questions because I've asked too many? Haha I know that's a weird question but I do ask a lot of questions as well as answer a lot of questions so yeah. Thanks! (link)
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No, nobody will be able to find out who you are, unless you give away your name or something to show people who you are. These questions are meant to remain confidential, so they will be.
Also, I don't think you're going to be cut off from asking questions. This is what advicenators was made for, so they are and we are all here to answers ALL of your questions, no matter how many. But whenever you have to go view "your questions" to see the answers, there may be a limit to how many questions they can list at once, so once you get all the help with one problem that you need, don't forget to delete it to save room.
I hope I helped.
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there's going to be a GLOW party at a teen night
club. what do I wear? i want something not TOO covered up, like i want my legs and arms showing. there's not going to be any glow paint but there will be neon necklaces and bracelets
so what should i wear? (link)
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Just wear a cute mini-skirt and a cute white tank top/beater and some cute acessories to go with it. And maybe wear some white sandals, if you have them. Whatever color you want, but I'm just saying definately wear white caues whenever you wear glowing stuff, it'll stand out alot more with what you're wearing.
I hope I helped.
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Ok im trying to find i wanna fuck you ( or i wanna love you) by Akon on itunes and when i type it in it said your search has no matches and i know my friend has it on her ipod and i dont know what to type in! can you guys help me?
thanks!! (link)
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I would just try and search up the artist's name, because like the person said below, it may be censored and they might've put a different title to take out the word "fuck".
Also, whenever people have CD's and they don't want to pay all that money just to load the songs they already got on CD onto their ipod, they can just plug their ipod into the computer, insert their CD into their computer and take all the songs from their CD into their iTUNES for free and upload it onto their ipod.
So maybe your friends has his CD and decided to do that instead. Ask her if she has it and how she got in onto her ipod, and if it IS because she uploaded it from her CD, just ask her if you can borrow it off of her sometime.
I hope I helped.
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what does this mean:
http://photos-331.ak.facebook.com/ip005/v17/71/23/1223790145/n1223790145_30155331_968.jpg (link)
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You mean, what they're doing in the picture?
They're basically flipping you off. Not you personally, of course, haha, but anybody whose looking at the picture, it makes it look like it's directed towards you. Both gestures mean "eff you".
I hope I helped.
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16/f Okay so here's my problem. I have never had a real boyfriend. I have had flings and mini boyfriends, but not a REAL one. I don't know what the problem is. Not being cocky at all, but I'm not bad looking, I have tons of friends, I'm outgoing and talk to everyone. People (guys and girls) always tell me they don't understand why I don't have a boyfriend. It just never happens. I know It will happen when Its meant to, but I just get really lonely, and tired of waiting. What should I do? I do have one guy in mind. We've been flirting back and forth for 2 years, and my friends swear we should like get married, but nothing ever happens. I just don't know what's wrong with me or what to do??? (link)
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There's nothing wrong with YOU, at all. There's nothing wrong with any girl that finds she's not getting a boyfriend. It's just all the matter of time and place and what the guys into, or what type of guy you're into.
You and certain guys personailities just might not mesh well together boyfriend and girlfriend wise, but they do friend-wise. Some guys just might find you more hang out buddy then an actual relationship which isn't a necessiarly bad thing, that's a good thing that you can be near so many guys. Also, this'd give you a good chance TO find that boyfriend. Try meeting your guy friends friends and start talking to them and get to know them better and find common interests. And don't forget to flirt and everything so they don't get the vibes that you just want to be friends. :D
It also just may be intimidation. I know every girls mother says this to them, but it could be true, in your case. You even said you're very outgoing and you're not bad looking at all and you love talking to people and getting to know everyone and everything. That may come off intimidating to guys, because they may feel you're already taken, or that you're too good for them, and that you might not want to go out with them, let alone talk to them. So try and start more conversations with guys to show them you don't mind talking to them, ( and like I said, flirt! ) and that you're interested.
Whenever you talk to them, maybe even bring up relationships at some point during the conversation. Share past experiences and share laughs if anythings happened to you guys on dates that were funny to get a chuckle or two, and then just talk to them and let them know that you want a serious relationship. I mean, of course don't make it sound like "I WANT A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU", but just be like,"Yeah, I've had alot of flings and stuff you know, which are fine with me, but I've never had a real boyfriend before, so it'd be nice to have one for once sometime. I just gotta find someone." And keep one talking about whatever. This'll show him that you're avaiable and willing to meet someone, which might give him more courage to make himself known to you.
So just get yourself out there more and talk to lots of guys. Meet your guy friends friends, your girl friends guy friends and just show them what a great girlfriend you'd be if they were to go out with you. I know it's tiring to sit there and wait all the time, but he will come, trust me. I've been waiting for a year for a boyfriend, but I know he'll come sometime. Meanwhile, I'm just enjoying all my friends and life right now without one. :]
I hope I helped.
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