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15/f. ok i'll just get straight to the point. i have a crush on a guy who has a girlfriend. the guy is in 8th grade and i'm in 9th, but his girlfriend is also in 9th grade but she goes to a different school than we do so i have never actually met her.
my problem is just that is really bothers me because when we hang out he is always flirting with me and its seems like he likes me, but then i remember that he has a girlfriend. then in the halls he is always smiling at me and saying hi, he gives me nicknames and whenever we are together he just like suddenlys starts twirling me. its just little things like this that just make me like him so much more. and then i get sad because i remember that he has a girlfriend.
what can i do? and if he does break up with is girlfriend soon, how long should i wait before going after him and flirting more?
thanks! and you give great advice :]
Hey, well thank you for the compliment. :) Right now, you can't do anything. He's probably just a natural flirt, so don't get your hopes up yet. All you can do at this point is be respectful that he has a girlfriend & that you both remain friends. If he happens to break up with her, give him a couple weeks to let things settle. (Maybe less or more depending on the seriousness of their relationship.)
Hey.
My fiance and I are having "living issues".
When we get married he wants to live in the upstairs of his house. Which his dad turned into an apartment with a kitchen, bathroom, living room, ect. Its just like a real house.
I see nothing wronge with this other than the fact that his parents treat him like a dog, take all his money, prevent him from doing half the stuff he wants to, and force him to wait on them hand and foot. Yes, he stands up for himself but it still doesn't make it right.
I've tryed talking to him about getting a modular. I think they are very nice.
He kinda agrees.
Well, with his job, he makes $10 an hour, and makes around 700 every 2 weeks. He got the job in October. Thats the problem.
Since he isn't istablished well in his job, I'm worried that he will lose it and we wpn't be able to pay the bills.
So, I want your opinion.
Even though I don't like his parents and neither does he.
Do you think that it would be best to just stay at his house until we have money saved up to get a home, or just jump into it right to start with?
Thanks.
The ideal thing to do would be to stay as long as you can to save up. But it all depends on the severity of the problems @ his house. Yes, there are going to be issues living with his parents. I don't think any newlywed couple can say it's the best living situation. But sometimes you have to take what you can get. In this case, it might not take very long before you are able to get on your feet. If the problems are so intolerable that it causes fighting between you & him, then settling with an apartment less than perfect might be a better solution - even if it's just temporary until you can find something much better. If you think you can handle your living situation for a little longer, then try to make the best of things till then. Yes, it might be tough. But like I said, sometimes you aren't left with many options. In the meantime, save as much money as possible & look into a few decent priced apartments in your area. :)
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14/m
i'm going to a party on saturday after i get back from vacation, and my ex girlfriend is going to be there. we were together for 4 months, and i absolutely loved her. we broke up about a week and a half ago. she's going with this guy that is apparantly the reason we broke up, and its REALLY pissing me off. i thought about bringing this really pretty friend i have to make my ex jealous, but she's already busy on saturday. so what should i do? i definitely want to go to the party, but i don't know what to do about the fact that she's going to be there with that guy...
thanks guys
Sam
Bringing a pretty friend is not going to solve anything. Infact, it'd be an immature way to deal with the situation. Your ex girlfriend clearly does not want to be with you if she is with this other guy. There's no use in trying to make her jealous or "get back" at her. Go to the party, enjoy it & don't pay any attention to her or the guy. As much as it's bothering you, it shouldn't. Be the better person & handle everything like an adult instead of a typical 14 year old. :)
Hey. For my sweet sixteen party I'd like to have a slideshow showing pictures of my family and friends. The thing is, I really want some good songs that would go with a slideshow and are meaningful. Maybe about family or friends or growing up. Good songs too. So my question is, does anyone have any good ideas? Thanks so much in advance =).
Unwritten by Natasha Beddingfield would be cute. :)
I'm not planning on having sex the first time for a couple years or so atleast but I'm afraid I will end up regretting it later on. I'm just curious about the average age girls lose their virginity.
So basically I have three questions..
1. What age did you lose your virginity?
2. Do you regret it or are you happy with your choice?
3. What age do you suggest? (Please don't say when you're ready because obviously I'm going to wait until I'm ready but I'm talking like what's too young, etc.)
Thanks
Ok..soo i went out with my good guy friend the other day. We went to get some subway and we were just talking about relationships n stuff. He asked me if i had been kissed and my response was no. I have been kissed..but not a full on makeout session. Im 17/F. I dont really trust him that he wont tell neone. Im pretty sure he will go to his guys friends and tell them. Im so embarassed. I feel like im the only girl in world that hasnt been. Is something wrong with me?
If it makes you feel better, I didn't kiss anyone till I was 17 - a few months away from 18. There's absolutely nothing wrong with getting it "later" in life. I used to think there was something wrong with me, but I've learned that we all just have a different time for things. Not everyone is going to get their first kiss at 13. Whether he tells his friends or not, you should never feel embarassed. You still have plenty of time for those things. No one has any right to judge your life, just remember that. Your time will come. :)
I'm doing an essay on Paul Revere and I'm pretty much done but there are three questions I can't answer:
How did Paul Revere change life in America?
How was he important to American culture?
How has he had a lasting influence on american life?
If anyone can answer any of these questions that would be great.
I'd suggest wikipedia.org. That site has so much on whoever & whatever you're looking for. :)
Okay so this is really ackward but i'm going to have sex with my bf of 1 year and we are both ready but like i've seen playboy magazines with girls with no hair below and that is totally not the case for me because i'm latin!...so like what do i do should I get a wax, or go natural? or i have no idea about waxes and how much hair is considered normal! Please help.
I suggest asking for his input; ask him what he prefers. But just because he prefers something, doesn't necessarily mean you have to do it. (It's your personal preference & your body, remember that.) If he loves you, it shouldn't matter to him. But MOST guys prefer for girls to be shaved/waxed or atleast trimmed neatly. If you want to save the money, stick to trimming/shaving. But if you'd like it completely off & looking perfect, get it waxed professionally.
I remember hearing somewhere that there are some foods that can help you fall asleep if you eat them before bed.What are they?Besides food,what are some other methods of falling asleep quickly other than sleeping pills?
Also,it seems like no matter how early I go to bed I'm always sleepy throughout the day.How can I fix this?
I know foods like turkey make you sleepy, but I couldn't suggest anything else.
- I've discovered that simply having a more active/busy day helps. The job I'm at now involves a lot of thinking, so by the time I get home, I'm ready to crash.
- I suggest not sitting around all day (if you that's the case.) Include some exercise into your morning. Believe it or not, exercising in the morning is actually recommended as opposed to @ night. You're actually more alert & have more energy afterwords. So stick to a 30 minute work out in the morning to help you feel energized throughout the day.
- After you're done exercising, take a cold shower.
- Change your diet. It's possible you aren't getting the right nutrients & your eating habits can be affecting your sleep.
- Quit all caffeine drinks. I really didn't think my ONE soda a day affected my bedtime to be 4am. But when I quit for awhile & was tired atleast 4 hours earlier.
- Lay in bed & give yourself some time to fall asleep @ a decent time. In the meantime, watching tv, reading a book, or listening to soft music should help.
me(14) and my bf(16) have been going out for a while and a few days ago we walked past this shelf in a store with condoms on it and we started making jokes about buying them. then later that night we were in his room watching a movie, making out, he felt me up, and stuff. then today he told me he bought a condom "just in case". i know im not ready for sex right now cause im too paranoid that i'll get pregnant or get some disease. but i was wondering if both me and my bf are virgins, can we still get an std? and how well do those morning after pills work and where could i get one w/o my parents knowing? thanks in advance!
There are other STDs transmitted orally, so even if you are both virgins, it's still very well possible that either of you could have caught something that way. My advice is to not ASSUME you are both clean. Yes, you probably both are considering your history of no sexual partners, but agree to both go tested @ your local clinic or Planned Parenthood if you plan to have sex or particpate in anything orally.
I think it's great that you're worried about these kinds of things unlike some girls your age who just hop right into sex. If you plan on having sex in the future: both get tested, get on birth control, & use a condom every single time.
About the morning after pill - it's not 100% effective (just like anything out there), but you can usually get it @ Planned Parenthood or any clinic within 72 hours after sex. The sooner, the better. If you protect yourself with birth control & a condom, you should never have to worry about that plan. But for further information go to plannedparenthood.org.
Hey i have to write a 8 page essay on someone in history how somehow affected world history. (It can't be an american) I was thinking maybe an Australian or African person, preferable Australian. Any ideas???? Thanks a bunch
They aren't Australian, but here are a few at the top of my head:
Alexander the Great, Julius Caesar, Adolf Hitler, Saddam Hussein, Stalin. You can probably find a complete list of world leaders on google.
I have a boyfriend and hes awesome and everyhting and we KNOW we are SO gonna have sex VERY soon and ya any tips or advice 4 the first time over here :$ lol haha ya I'm 13 yrs old and my bf is 13 and we're both virgins
I don't want you to say you should wait you're making a mistake your too young blah blah blah Please just some advice for a virgain
Are you suggesting we encourage you to go ahead & do it? No. You said you don't want to hear us say you're too young, but it's true. Sure, sex may seem like something you're ready for & something fun you'd like to experience with your boyfriend. But no one is ready at 13 years old! It's really sad seeing girls your age already having sex. Being ready for sex is being ready to deal with any consequences that may follow. Like I have said before in other advice, no 13 year old in today's society is ready to take care of a baby. I'm sure my opinion is "wrong" to you & it's not something you want to hear. But word from the older & wiser - you WILL regret it. Maybe not today, or tomorrow, but you will someday. Have fun while you're still young & don't worry about sex at your age. There are a lot of "awesome" people out there, but that doesn't mean you need to have sex with them. Wait till you're older & in love. It'll mean so much when you're more mature & it's with someone special. I wouldn't lecture if I wasn't looking out for you.
i lost my virginity to my boyfriend last night.
i have been on birth control for 3 months now but i took yesterday's pill a lot later than i ususally do, and it was a little before we had sex so i am not sure if it had time to kick in.
we were having a little difficulty with the condom so we didn't use it and he accidently cummed in me.
do you think i could be pregnant?
I think you should be fine, but birth control isn't 100% effective. Even though your chances are small, I still suggest going to get the morning after pill @ Planned Parenthood. It's effective up to 72 hours after sex - the sooner you get it, the better. It's better to be safe than sorry! In the future, be sure to take your pill everyday @ the same hour & always wear a condom incase one form of protection fails. That way your chances of becoming pregnant are almost impossible & you shouldn't have to worry.
I'm going on a ski trip tomorrow and I have ski pants and a ski jacket...but i've never been on a ski trip so what all should i bring. I need like a list before I leave. Anything that will come in handy will be GREAT! Thank You! and Yea I do rate according to your advice so if you give me everything I need you'll get the rating you deserve!
- Clothing you will need on your trip. Be sure to also include warm clothing you can wear under your ski pants & ski jacket. AND an extra outfit (to leave in your car or wherever) after you're done skiing. Your clothes will probably be wet if you end up falling. & you probably won't want to sit in those for too long.
- Goggles or a ski mask
- Gloves
- A hat/beanie
- Scarves
- A couple pair of shoes you can wear out in the snow when you're not skiing.
- Extra socks, jackets/sweatshirts/hoodies
- Sunscreen
- Sunglasses
- Lots of water
- Any food you may need on your trip.
- Shampoo & conditioner
- Soap
- Toothpaste & toothbrush
- A towel if there aren't any where you're staying.
- Any other feminine hygenie if you're a girl.
- Extra spending money
I think that covers most of it. :)
What does a guy really want in a (14 year old) girl??
It's hard to say because each guy varies. Some are interested in the mysterious, shy girls, while others go for the ones who are more outgoing & hard to get. But one thing that most (if not all) guys can agree that's attractive while looking for a girl is her confidence. When it all comes down to it, it really doesn't matter what guys want. Don't worry about trying to shove yourself into some category to be something guys like. As long as you're confident, you're having fun in life & you're being yourself...there's one guy out there who'll notice you & will love everything about you. :)
Does toothpaste help get rid of pimples?
Not always. It is a quick fix for taking away redness & drying out the pimple. But you shouldn't rely on it to get rid of your pimple(s) completely.
i was at a sleepover and 2 of my friends talked crap about my other friend and i told my friend they did and that friend is gonna tell the friends who did it that she knows...and they're gonna find out its me but they're my good friends and i dont want them to hate me WHAT DO I DO!!!!
You really shouldn't worry because you didn't do anything wrong. These "friends" that talked about your other friend shouldn't have been talking bad about her/him in your presence to begin with. If they're going to hate you because they made that mistake, then they aren't your friends to begin with. Any good friend in your position would tell their friend if someone said something bad about them. But then again, you have to realize some things aren't worth repeating because they only cause fighting. Find friends with less gossip & less drama. It's really not necessary, trust me. There are other things to worry about in life than petty fights & opinions of others.
Where can I find a job for a 13 year old. (besides babysitting) thankss xx
In most cities - nowhere. If you live in a small town - try little shops. But you're really lucky to get one @ a grocery store or fast food place @ 14 or 15 - considering the hiring age is usually 16. 13 is just still wayy too young.
How do i exactly play hard to get? But i still dont want him to think that i dont like him anymore. cause then he might think i lost total interest. :] Thanks
If you don't want to be too forward with a guy, then step back a bit. Quit being overly flirty & don't hang around him 24/7. But still give him the attention to let him know you're still interested. I don't suggest doing anything more than that. If you go out of your way to play mind games with someone, not only is it immature..but it probably won't get you anywhere.
do they ask you if you masturbate at the gynocologist?
No, they do not. They'll ask questions regarding your overall health, your period & if you're sexually active. But nothing along the lines of masturbating. Whether you masturbate or not has nothing to do with anything & isn't necessary for a gynecologist to know.